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Reinventing Dating with Kira Sabin

337 episodes - English - Latest episode: 12 days ago - ★★★★★ - 183 ratings

We all want love, but most of us don't want to date to get it...because dating kinda sucks. That's why I'm Reinventing it.

Welcome to Reinventing Dating! A podcast from Positive Psychology Coach, Kira Sabin that helps singles learn the foundational knowledge & skills to date like you f*cking mean it.

Join Kira weekly, for short, smart & sweary conversations on what's working in dating, what's not, and where we go from here.

Because love isn’t broken, but dating is. Let’s fix it.

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Modern Dating Questions: Where Do I Meet other Singles - Part 1

March 17, 2024 18:32 - 58 minutes - 58.5 MB

Check out my NEW "Date Like You F*cking Mean It" Group Workshop for $99! GO here. We are at the tenth (and final) episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." and I am talking about the immature beliefs and mindsets we can get stuck on and keeps us single. Today I share my personal thoughts, stories, and more! I breakdown: Why where is not the best question to ask & what is Real statistics on how singles are meeting ...

Modern Dating Questions: Am I Immature in Love & Dating?

March 09, 2024 21:07 - 55 minutes - 56.5 MB

Short answer: Probably  We are at the ninth episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." and I am talking about the immature beliefs and mindsets we can get stuck on and keeps us single. Today I share my personal thoughts, stories, and more! I breakdown: The former BS that I believed that kept me single and  The problem with crushes in dating My wake-up call moment that switched my thinking Signs of Immaturity in...

Modern Dating Questions: Can Men & Women Be Friends?

March 03, 2024 22:09 - 47 minutes - 47.3 MB

We are at the eighth episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." Today I share my personal thoughts, stories, and more! I breakdown:  Can Men and Women Be Friends?  Breaking Gender Stereotypes in Relationships Immature Views on Dating and Relationships Unrealistic Relationship Expectations Challenging Traditional Views on Love The Battle to Educate on Love  SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like ...

Let's learn from the Viral TikTok Series "Who TF Did I Marry?"

February 23, 2024 23:55 - 58 minutes - 55.8 MB

You guys...this one's a doozie. This week, I went down the rabbit hole and I watched/listened to ALL 50 Videos from Reesa M Teesa on TikTok called Who TF Did I Marry?  And woah...this one is a wild ride. I will be spoiling it all over the place, but today I talk about: *What this series is about and what happened *What we can learn from this story *How we can watch out for people who are manipulators and aren't really ready for a relationship *Three things we can do that to preve...

Modern Dating Questions: Do I Need to Date & Have a Relationship to be Happy?

February 16, 2024 22:44 - 1 hour - 76.9 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com We are at the seventh episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." Today I'm breaking down: What I see going on with dating and what we can do about it. Articles I referenced: Coming Soon

Modern Dating Questions: The Helpful Eight Dating Questions

February 10, 2024 18:28 - 47 minutes - 49.7 MB

We are at the sixth episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." Today I'm breaking down: One of the most tedious & exhausting part of dating Why I created the Eight Questions Why they are so important  When & how to use them What to be looking for when asking these questions SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like this? Take a workshop, do an intensive, & change your life! Follow Kira & the sh...

Modern Dating Questions: Is Love at First Sight Real?

February 03, 2024 18:36 - 48 minutes - 51.8 MB

We are at the fifth episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." Today I'm breaking down: What I believed about love at first sight Myths about Love at First Sight My thoughts about twin flames & the Twin Flames UniverseDocumentary Truths about Love at First Sight Understanding the science behind attraction What's the most important takeaway Articles I referenced: coming momentarily... SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REV...

Modern Dating Questions: Is Chivalry Dead?

January 27, 2024 22:45 - 1 hour - 66.9 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com We are at the fourth episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective." Today I'm breaking down: What is chivalry & where did the idea come from? What is chivalry that we believe in nowadays & is it working for us? The different origins of man...

Modern Dating Questions: Are you being too picky when dating?

January 20, 2024 20:47 - 1 hour - 68.3 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com We are at the thirdepisode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective. Today I'm breaking down: *Pickiness vs Settling (and how I feel about that word.😂) *What pickiness really is and why we may do it *Ways that we are picky that aren't helping u...

Modern Dating Questions: Is Age Just a Number?

January 12, 2024 21:29 - 37 minutes - 40.2 MB

You know I have thoughts... Join the Anxious Attachment Style Workshop Here. Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com We are at the first episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Modern & Healthy Perspective. SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like this? Take a workshop, do an intensive, & chan...

Modern Dating Questions: Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

January 06, 2024 20:21 - 51 minutes - 56 MB

Sign-up for FREE Letting Go of 2023 & Setting Intentions for 2024 LIVE Workshop on 1/7 HERE! Join the Anxious Attachment Style Workshop Here. Wanna be my co-host in my upcoming new podcast? Apply here! Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com We are at the first episode of a NEW Season on the podcast called "Common Dating Questions through a Mode...

My story: How I got over my sh#t & found love in my 40s

December 15, 2023 17:55 - 14 minutes - 15.4 MB

Listen up as I share my own story of fear, sabotage, family, death, & love.  Ready to get over your shit for love? ReinventingDating.com

Bonus Episode: My afternoon on Hinge Dating App

December 10, 2023 19:15 - 24 minutes - 26.9 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com You guys, I spent yesterday afternoon on Hinge & it was WILD! Listen to my talk about my time. SUSCRIBE, LEAVE A REVIEW & SHARE EVERYWHERE! Like this? Take a workshop, come on a retreat, do an intensive, change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: @kirasabin  Facebook: @reinventingdating Tik...

Swipe Stories: The Realities of Online Dating -Is it safe?

December 09, 2023 19:07 - 40 minutes - 43.8 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com We are at the final episode of Swipe Stories: The Realities of Online Dating.  And we are finishing up with...is online dating actually safe? Today I'm breaking down: *How online dating is different now & why it makes it MORE unsafe than the past. *Ways that online dating ISN'T protecting us *What we ne...

Swipe Stories: The Realities of Online Dating - Ultimate Guide to Romance Scams

December 01, 2023 19:04 - 45 minutes - 49 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com Get ready, today is a doozy! Today I'm going to breakdown everything you need to know about romance scams.  A romance scam is "when a con artist fakes romantic interest in someone, crafting a too-good-to-be-true persona to weasel their way into the victim’s heart and steal their money, they’re conducting a rom...

Swipe Stories TV Breakdown: Five Lessons from Tinder Swindler

November 28, 2023 19:47 - 53 minutes - 55.5 MB

It’s a bit hard to introduce a topic as wild and heavy as sociopathic behaviors and emotional manipulation… but here we are. Let’s dive into it! Listen in to this episode of the RD Podcast as Kira talks about the new Netflix documentary, The Tinder Swindler, and five lessons we can take away from it.  Kira also breaks down the concepts of cognitive biases and emotional reasoning, shedding light on how these biases can show up in your life and impact your relationships. Plus, she highligh...

Swipe Stories: The Realities of Online Dating - Rejection Projection

November 25, 2023 20:10 - 1 hour - 67.5 MB

BLACK FRIDAY SALE IS HAPPENING THROUGH MONDAY! CLICK HERE We are in the second episode of talking about the realities of online dating. Today I breakdown how & why rejection feels so much worse on dating apps.  I talk about: *What types of rejections happen in dating *What we CONFUSE with rejection *Why rejection hurts so much *Why I think rejection is WORSE on dating apps & why it matters *What skill to build to help you move past rejection in dating so you can get real love! ...

Swipe Stories: The Realities of Online Dating - Paradox of Choice

November 16, 2023 17:27 - 28 minutes - 30.1 MB

Today I breakdown the paradox of choice in online dating & apps. I talk about: *What milk options in a grocery store has to do with online dating. *Meet the Paradox of Choice, how it has changed modern dating, & why it matters. *how online dating has changed the way we date from earlier generations in more ways than you think. *the difference between maximizers vs satisfiers in dating & which you want to be for best success Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access...

Foundations: Is Your Attachment Style keeping you Single?

November 10, 2023 21:35 - 44 minutes - 50.1 MB

Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com Books Referenced: Attached My favorite for Anxious Attachment Insecure in Love   Article Referenced: Fictional Character Attachment   Favorite Attachment Quiz Like this? Take a workshop, come on a retreat, do an intensive, change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: @kirasabin  F...

Foundations: The #1 Mindset You Need for Love

November 03, 2023 20:23 - 57 minutes - 107 MB

Join me in the Reinventing Dating Program on November 11, 2023!  Learn more here Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com Books Referenced: Mindset by Dr Carol Dweck Carol Dweck Ted Talk Like this? Take a workshop, come on a retreat, do an intensive, change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: @kirasabin Questions? Email the sh...

Foundations: The History of Love & Dating (& why it still matters)

October 28, 2023 15:27 - 44 minutes - 83.4 MB

Join me in the Reinventing Dating Program on November 11, 2023!  Learn more here Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com Articles Referenced: Mark Manson Article Like this? Take a workshop, come on a retreat, do an intensive, change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: @kirasabin Questions? Email the show at [email protected]...

Foundations: The Five Stages of Relationships

October 20, 2023 22:08 - 26 minutes - 51 MB

Like this episode?  Learn more about love when you check out the FREE What is Love? Workshop. WhatisLoveWorkshop.com Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com Articles Referenced: Harvard article Like this? Take a workshop, come on a retreat, do an intensive, change your life! Follow Kira & the show on Instagram: @kirasabin Questions? Email the...

Foundations: What is Love? What it really is, what it isn't, & how we keep it.

October 13, 2023 20:37 - 47 minutes - 49 MB

Like this episode?  Learn more about love when you check out the FREE What is Love? Workshop. WhatisLoveWorkshop.com Get bonus episodes, a private podcast community, access to Kira, & submit Q and A questions when you SUBSCRIBE to the RD Podcast Membership.  Sign-up at learn.reinventingdating.com Books Referenced: Love 2.0 by Dr Barbra Frederickson Stroke of Insight by Dr Jill Bolte Taylor Like this? Take a workshop, come on a retreat, do an intensive, change your life! Follow Ki...

Foundations: The Real Truths Why Dating Isn't Working For Us.

October 06, 2023 19:55 - 18 minutes - 35.8 MB

I'm getting back to basics today & breaking down the SIX truths of what I see NOT working in dating right now. Listen up.  

Welcome to Reinventing Dating with Kira Sabin

October 05, 2023 20:38 - 1 minute - 1.98 MB

Is love even worth it anymore? Hell yeah, it is. But dating pretty much sucks. Even on its best day, dating is vulnerable, stressful, exhausting, confusing. Everything's changed! Who pays? Who asks who out? Am I sharing too much, too little?  ARGH! So here's some good news. The great news is that in the past 30, 40, even 50 years, there have been tons of scientists, psychologists, who have dedicated their life to understanding love & relationships and how they work. But the t...

My favorite self-help books!

May 10, 2023 16:40 - 15 minutes - 31.1 MB

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Don't give up on love...it's time to pivot.

May 09, 2023 18:44 - 21 minutes - 41.7 MB

It's my 300th episode!!! 

My #1 First Date Rule

May 05, 2023 20:10 - 13 minutes - 27.3 MB

You're probably not going to like it. 😂 Listen up!

Why You Should Pay for Your Own First Date. Period.

May 04, 2023 20:51 - 23 minutes - 45.1 MB

Let's clear the BS and get real about this.

Article Breakdown: What I did Right (and Wrong) the First Six Months of my Relationship

May 03, 2023 16:15 - 29 minutes - 56.6 MB

I took an old article of mine and walked through it.  I think you will enjoy the result.  Listen up.

The Rise of AI Scams in Online Dating

May 02, 2023 17:53 - 30 minutes - 58.1 MB

This is bleak but good information to have. Article referenced in the podcast. Listen up.  

The #1 Reason you got Ghosted!

April 28, 2023 17:41 - 34 minutes - 65.4 MB

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Starting from the ending in dating...

April 27, 2023 20:47 - 26 minutes - 49.1 MB

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You guys, I think I did it. I think I reinvented dating!

April 26, 2023 14:26 - 35 minutes - 64.5 MB

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Are your expectations keeping you single?

April 21, 2023 16:38 - 33 minutes - 62.3 MB

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Alternatives ways to say I love you.

April 20, 2023 19:10 - 15 minutes - 29.3 MB

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What emotional growth looks like

April 19, 2023 18:47 - 41 minutes - 75.6 MB

A personal story. Listen up.

The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

April 18, 2023 18:04 - 41 minutes - 75.6 MB

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TV Breakdown: Daisy Jones & the Six

April 14, 2023 18:11 - 26 minutes - 49.1 MB

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How to Repel Narcissists

April 13, 2023 16:05 - 14 minutes - 27.4 MB

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Channeling Jan Sabin in your Love Life

April 12, 2023 21:47 - 21 minutes - 39.1 MB

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I promise, however you're feeling...you are not alone.

April 11, 2023 18:20 - 24 minutes - 45.4 MB

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But I love them....

April 09, 2023 16:48 - 18 minutes - 34.7 MB

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Is it chemistry or emotionally unavailability?

April 07, 2023 21:19 - 20 minutes - 37.6 MB

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Three things you can learn to be closer to love -Day 3

April 06, 2023 17:59 - 26 minutes - 48.9 MB

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Three things you can learn to be closer to love -Day 2

April 05, 2023 18:56 - 26 minutes - 49.5 MB

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Three things you can learn to be closer to love -Day 1

April 04, 2023 17:39 - 23 minutes - 43.2 MB

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What we can learn about Reese Witherspoon's Divorce Announcement.

March 31, 2023 17:32 - 27 minutes - 50.9 MB

I have thoughts.

Where does perfectionism come from?

March 30, 2023 17:09 - 27 minutes - 50.9 MB

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5 truths about perfectionism

March 29, 2023 18:20 - 16 minutes - 29.5 MB

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