Last Session of the Day with The Psych Guys
50 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 1 year ago - ★★★★★ - 5 ratingsTwo therapists walk into a bar. You get to listen, but with better audio.
The Psych Guys are here to dig into the questions everyone is wondering but no one is willing to ask out loud. Join Lukin Center therapist Timothy Meyer and founder Dr. Konstantin Lukin to glean practical tips and insights that will help you expand your understanding of yourself, therapy, and the world around you.
Listen in on fresh takes on topics in cutting-edge neuroscience to witty exchanges on relationships, gender, modern life, and more. Whether you have questions about what your therapist is thinking during therapy sessions, how to navigate a mid-life crisis, or how to not feel depressed during Daylight Savings Time, the Psych Guys are ready to get real and discuss the down-and-dirty truths about therapy.
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Episodes
Making the Decision to Move Out of the City
January 09, 2023 11:00 - 13 minutes - 12.8 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
What is the Difference Between Teletherapy and In-Person Therapy?
January 02, 2023 11:00 - 9 minutes - 9.03 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
What is the Difference Between Shame and Guilt?
December 26, 2022 11:00 - 18 minutes - 16.7 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
How Can We Talk About Suicide?
December 19, 2022 11:00 - 10 minutes - 10.1 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
Taking Care of Yourself
December 12, 2022 11:00 - 10 minutes - 9.9 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
Grief During The Holidays
December 05, 2022 11:00 - 10 minutes - 9.61 MBThe Psych Guys talk about grief and loss during the holiday seasons- a time that is supposed to be cheer-filled. The Guys talk about how hard it is to feel so out of step with the season.
The Influence of Social Media on Kids
November 28, 2022 11:00 - 11 minutes - 10.7 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
Let's Talk About Moving To College
November 21, 2022 11:00 - 13 minutes - 12.3 MBIf you like the podcast and want more content from the Lukin Center, please visit https://www.lukincenter.com/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast, Last Session of the Day. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xGJLLL... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
How Do We Work with Our Own Internal Parts?
May 03, 2022 12:00 - 26 minutes - 24.4 MBThe psych guys discuss 'parts work'; an interesting way of working with clients that is grounded in Gestalt psychotherapy theory. Tim discusses how he utilizes parts work with clients in order to have different parts of his clients' selves work better together. This type of work is deep and complex, but the psych guys give some practical takeaways on how you can understand your self (or selves) better.
From Guys to Guys: What It Is Like Starting Therapy When You Might Not Want To
April 19, 2022 12:00 - 23 minutes - 21.7 MBIt is common that people enter therapy following a recommendation from someone else. Specifically, it is very common that men are encouraged to seek treatment from their significant others and may have lots of mixed emotions about it. The psych guys discuss this and offer some insight to men out there who are being asked to go to therapy by their wives.
Identity: What Makes You, You!
April 12, 2022 12:00 - 22 minutes - 21.1 MBToday the psych guys dive into a common difficulty they hear about in the therapy room; people dealing with an unforeseen change and a loss of a piece of their identity. Tune in to hear the best ways to prepare for some of these events, and how you can make the most out of these difficult life changes once they happen.
Fixing Problems or Building Your Best Self; How Psychotherapy has Changed
April 05, 2022 12:55 - 20 minutes - 19 MBToday the psych guys discuss two different ways of looking at psychotherapy; treating pathology to become functional, and implementing techniques in order to thrive. As always, they discuss their views and thoughts about these two different ways of looking at psychotherapy in their transparent, open dialogue.
Why Aren't More People Putting in Effort in Therapy?
March 29, 2022 11:56 - 20 minutes - 18.4 MBToday the psych guys 'pull back the curtain' and discuss how oftentimes they notice that they might be putting in more effort than the client. They discuss these dynamics and discuss how a great deal of effort can lead to a great deal of change.
Dr. Lukin's Heartfelt View On the Ukrainian Conflict
March 22, 2022 11:48 - 27 minutes - 25.6 MBToday Dr. Lukin, who is originally from Ukraine, speaks about how he conceptualizes, copes with and understands the conflict in Eastern Europe. Konstantin and Tim speak openly and candidly about the recent troubling events and discuss how this conflict can be viewed from different levels by drawing from Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Stigma Change in Mask Wearing
March 15, 2022 12:00 - 22 minutes - 20.5 MBToday the psych guys talk about a recent change: mask mandates being lifted in the Tri-State area. Although this may seem like a welcome change, the psych guys shed light on the fact that this change can lead to anxiety and uncertainty. They discuss these recent events and share their personal and professional thoughts about how this change influences all of us in different ways.
Using Math to Get Fit
March 08, 2022 13:00 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MBToday, the psych guys discuss their personal struggles and successes with increasing motivation to exercise. In this episode, the psych guys pull back the curtain and discuss their own personal motivational strategies, diving into their personal mindsets about fitness.
Can You Be Using Time More Mindfully?
March 01, 2022 13:00 - 17 minutes - 16.3 MBToday the psych guys discuss how time is perceived, and illustrate how you can utilize this knowledge and understanding of time to your advantage to get the most out of this precious commodity.
Getting the Most Out of Your Midlife Crisis
February 22, 2022 13:00 - 20 minutes - 18.5 MBMany people struggle with the anxiety and panic that midlife crises bring. During this episode, the psych guys discuss their professional and personal experiences with midlife crises and offer insight on effective ways to re-frame this stage of life in order to get the most out of it.
The Importance of 'Shutting Down' During Your Time Away
February 15, 2022 13:00 - 21 minutes - 20.1 MBToday the psych guys open up a discussion about the difficulties associated with unwinding and truly taking time off during vacation. As always, they offer helpful tips and concepts to incorporate in order to make the most out of your time off.
What Is an Appropriate Work/Life Balance?
January 18, 2022 13:00 - 20 minutes - 18.5 MBToday the psych guys dive into a common conversation they have with clients- quality of life. Our perceptions of quality of life with work/life balance are always changing, and the psych guys dive into this conversation and offer new ways to think about how individuals can take control over their quality of life.
Trying Therapy vs. Trying In Therapy
January 11, 2022 13:00 - 25 minutes - 23.5 MBToday the psych guys discuss a common misconception about therapy. Therapy is not a procedure or treatment that is done to patients, like getting a cavity filled, instead therapy is a process that requires a great deal of work on the client’s end. The psych guys discuss why this misconception is so common and what needs to be done on both the therapist’s end and the client’s end to truly make therapy as beneficial as possible.
Looking at Cognitive Distortions to Understand Peloton's Stock Fall
December 21, 2021 13:00 - 16 minutes - 15.1 MBThe psych guys dive into a recent event; Peloton's decline in stock price following the Sex and the City episode where a character has a heart attack after using the exercise equipment. The psych guys use their knowledge of cognitive behavioral therapy and theory to understand how people make decisions based off of their automatic thought processes.
How to Manage Both of Your Brains
December 14, 2021 12:51 - 23 minutes - 21.8 MBThe psych guys discuss how anxiety exists in our 'old' brain and the difference between 'new' brain and 'old' brain. Following their explanation of how our two brains work differently, the offer a new understanding of anxiety and how it works inside of our heads.
Have You Tried to Not Try?
December 07, 2021 13:00 - 21 minutes - 19.5 MBToday the psych guys opened up a conversation about an unconventional way to overcome issues, problems, dilemmas- not trying! They discuss the powers of deepening awareness to allow answers to come to us from within rather than trying incessantly to find the answer.
Are You Ready to Start Up Your Own Private Practice Group?
November 30, 2021 13:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBThe psych guys open up a conversation about how Dr. Lukin started and founded the Lukin Center for psychotherapy. They discuss the difficulties, challenges and rewarding aspects of starting a private practice from scratch.
Can Your Holidays Be Magical and Difficult at the Same Time?
November 23, 2021 13:00 - 18 minutes - 17.2 MBToday, as the holiday season is approaching, the psych guys discuss common difficulties they hear about during the holidays. They open up a conversation about how toxic positivity is part of the holiday season and how we can see holidays as both enjoyable and stressful at the same time.
How to Cope with Daylight Savings Time
November 11, 2021 15:37 - 14 minutes - 13.5 MBAre you struggling with daylight savings time? Darker months don't have to be depressed months. As daylight savings time ends, the psych guys discuss the change of the amount of sunlight per day and how they think about it and work with clients struggling with the change.
Q&A with The Psych Guys (Part 1)
October 28, 2021 12:00 - 24 minutes - 22.6 MBThis week, the psych guys do a Q&A from listeners posting questions where they explore how a therapist handles their emotions, discuss whether they like their clients and explore how they are different in and out of the therapy room.
Life Lessons That 2 Male Therapists Dish Out Every Session: Part 2
October 21, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes - 19.7 MBIn today's episode the psych guys discuss three topics that Tim implements in all of his treatment: Distress tolerance, Mindfulness, and the 3 pillars of an effective relationship.
Life Lessons That 2 Male Therapists Dish Out Every Session: Part 1
October 12, 2021 12:00 - 27 minutes - 25.4 MBIn today's episode the psych guys discuss three topics that Dr. Lukin implements in all of his treatment: Distress tolerance, Mindfulness, and the 3 pillars of an effective relationship.
Does Physical Strength Translate to Emotional Strength?
October 05, 2021 15:34 - 27 minutes - 24.9 MBThe psych guys continue to explore the various ways that fitness and mental health interact. They give opinions and insight on their thoughts about group vs. individual exercise, differences on how men and women tend to exercise and open up a conversation about how overcoming physical challenges and emotional challenges can be similar.
Googling Your Mental Health Status: Is It Worth It?
September 28, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBThe psych guys open up a conversation about something they hear often- people diagnosing themselves from what they find on the internet. The psych guys talk about the pros and cons of doing this and offer some clarity on what truly constitutes a mental health diagnosis
How Painful Life Events Can Explain Why You're Feeling What You Feel
September 21, 2021 12:00 - 26 minutes - 24.5 MBTim and Konstantin open up a conversation about how painful life events (traumas) can be the root causes of many issues that you may be dealing with on daily basis.
Why Understanding Your Man’s Intimacy Needs is Crucial to Women’s Sexual Happiness!
September 14, 2021 12:00 - 39 minutes - 36.2 MBThis week the psych guys invite Debbie Marielle Elzea, Intimacy Specialist for Women from More Intimacy and discuss her take on intimacy within relationships and how women can re-think about how they can relate to their male partners to spice up the bedroom and increase connection.
Is Your Substance Use Getting Out of Hand During COVID?
August 24, 2021 12:00 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MBMark Bonanni, the Vice President of business development from BlueCrest recovery center stopped by and we opened up a great conversation about very common difficulties with substance abuse, how to recognize it and potentially what to do for it.
Real Therapy vs. Movie Therapy: Where the Media Gets it Wrong
August 17, 2021 12:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBWe often wondered how people out there perceive therapy in the movies vs. real life therapy. Today Konstantin and Tim discuss where the movies get it wrong.
Life Transitions, Personal Priorities, & Being The 'Perfect' Man
August 10, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes - 19.7 MBA discussion on family, work, self-care, and the struggles men go through. Most people don't say they want to “be perfect.” But everything else they say sort of points to that intention. There are points in life when it’s time to reevaluate our priorities --- depending on the stage of life that we’re in. Example: An older gentleman has diligently saved his money his whole life, and now in retirement, he doesn’t know how he’ll be able to spend it. So how should we fill up each “b...
What You Need to Know About Dating During the Pandemic
August 03, 2021 12:00 - 29 minutes - 26.8 MBBeing alone for the last year has made people re-prioritize. We’re re-thinking things like: “What is essential for happiness?” “What is essential as far as connecting well with a partner?” “Conversation is the new sex,” explains Michelle. When dating, some topics are easier to cover over Zoom. We can relax and ask the deep questions that we might not ask in person. Sometimes we misjudge people on phone calls --- we can't read facial expressions, we don’t always pick up on t...
What’s the Purpose of Anxiety? Gaining Insights from Our Feelings
July 27, 2021 12:00 - 18 minutes - 17.3 MBPop-psych articles often talk of strategies to reduce or outright eliminate our anxieties altogether. They’ll say to be hyper-vigilant and give typical advice, and let’s face it, in 2021, we could all benefit from some anxiety reducing techniques every now and then. But on the other hand, directing our awareness towards our fears can often help us make effective decisions. In this way, anxiety can serve a purpose, it causes us to take steps and do the right thing. Rather than tr...
What is a Therapist Thinking/Feeling During a Session?
July 20, 2021 12:00 - 16 minutes - 15.3 MBHow do therapists deal with issues that come up if those issues “poke strongly” at something they believe in? Therapists are not robots. We have our own thoughts and feelings and beliefs about things --- just like everybody else. And therapy is a very unique relationship --- unlike any other in the world. Sometimes it takes some getting used to. Therapists must be mindful of what’s coming up for them at all times. If we are not mindful, and those feelings color our words, then it...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Pros & Cons Discussed
July 09, 2021 18:48 - 23 minutes - 21.9 MBThe “CBT Triangle” involves thoughts, feelings, and behaviors (and how they all relate to each other). In CBT, we take a close look at our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and how each of them interact. We look at that interaction to try to explain how we are feeling, and to try to change behaviors. CBT can be great for anxiety, depression, and anger issues, but it’s not super exploratory, meaning it often isn’t great for longstanding trauma or addiction issues. It’s more designe...
Coping, Venting, and Learning How to Regulate Emotions
July 06, 2021 17:46 - 23 minutes - 21.1 MBWhen we attempt to over-regulate our internal emotions, we might go for a run, exercise, count to ten, take a deep breath, burn candles, or take a hot shower. But we must recognize that we are individually trying to manage --- and many people over-rely on that strategy. When we verbalize our thoughts and feelings, on the other hand, there is power in that. It helps regulate how we feel. So if you need to vent, do it! But is venting always the answer? No. Some people use therapy ...
Are You Traumatized and Don't Know It?
June 27, 2021 15:00 - 27 minutes - 25.4 MBOftentimes when you dig deeper in people with addictive behavior patterns, you find a lot of trauma. Substance use is what we call a “solution behavior” --- meaning it’s used to manage some kind of uncomfortable feeling. That’s why we try to look a little closer. What feelings are we trying to manage/cope with here? When painful life events get stuck in us, they live there and they create sore spots. When those sore spots get poked, all of those feelings from those events come out...
Mid-Life Crises & Death Anxiety: Writing Your Own Eulogy
June 20, 2021 20:00 - 24 minutes - 22.7 MBPeople are having mid-life and quarter-life crises earlier and earlier. They might be feeling overwhelmed or feeling that their job is unsustainable. You could treat your mid-life (or quarter life) crisis as a problem --- but you could also see it as an opportunity to craft new experiences in your life. Try and treat it as a gift --- is your time being used in ways that align with your values? This is an opportunity to reflect, to game plan, and to open your eyes. We’re not saying...
How to Properly Regulate Your Emotions: A Psychologist’s Guide
June 13, 2021 19:00 - 27 minutes - 24.9 MBSome of our emotion regulation is done in the body automatically, while some is up to you to manage. The amount of regulation is different from person to person. If you have very little ability of emotional regulation, your emotional swings might be more extreme --- like with impulse control disorders. Sometimes we can fall into a cycle of dependence to regulate our emotions. Drinking can be an emotional regulator --- but is it a positive one? How can we look at our problems ra...
Addressing Shame and Guilt in a Healthy Way
June 06, 2021 16:00 - 33 minutes - 31 MBThere’s a lot of inappropriate shame and guilt in our society. A lot of times depression is actually shame. A lot of times anxiety is actually shame. Why do some who should feel ashamed not? Why do others feel shame that’s unwarranted? What level of shame and guilt is excessive? What level is appropriate? How can we follow the guidance of our emotions? Konstantin & Tim take on these topics and more. Two psychologists are chatting in a bar, you get to listen in, but with better au...
Becoming a Psychotherapist: Making the Choice
May 30, 2021 14:22 - 24 minutes - 22.8 MBKonstantin & Tim reflect on why and how they each got into the psychotherapy profession. How did influential professors help pave the way? What factors went into driving their personal interests in the subject? What motivates people to learn more about the inner-workings of the mind? Two psychologists are chatting in a bar, you get to listen in, but with better audio! The Lukin Center: https://lukincenter.com
What it's Like Being a Male Psychotherapist (Behind the Curtain)
May 23, 2021 13:30 - 29 minutes - 27.1 MBEpisode 3 addresses what it's like to be a psychotherapist --- and a male psychotherapist in particular. What's it like to be a therapist? What's it like to be a male in a largely female-dominated profession? Are we constantly psycho-analyzing everyone all the time? Are we always "on the clock"? How do we balance private and and professional? What connotations come up when we tell new people about our profession? Is there a misconception that psychotherapists are able to "keep it ...
Social Workout Experiences: Getting Happier & Healthier
May 16, 2021 14:16 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBDon't like working out the traditional way by yourself at the gym? Interested in how exercise can improve symptoms of depression? Two psychologists are chatting in a bar, you get to listen in, but with better audio! Learn more about Colleen & Rachel's work at https://www.fitnesswithfriends.net/
Addressing Common Stigmas and Myths About Psychotherapy
May 09, 2021 14:15 - 29 minutes - 27.2 MBKonstantin Lukin PhD & Timothy Meyer LCSW of the Lukin Center in New Jersey address some of the reasons why people might be afraid and or hesitant to seek psychological treatment. Two psychologists are chatting in a bar, you get to listen in, but with better audio! Stay tuned for future episodes!