Keep Yourself Warm: A Dating, Relationship, and Sex Podcast
121 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 1 year ago -Keep Yourself Warm is a podcast about dating, relationships, sex, mental health, and more. We’re three friends hovering around the age of 30 having conversations about dating, relationships, sex, mental health, and more. Shared through the lens of our own life experiences (and the occasional pop culture reference) — the conversations are open, candid, and honest. We hope these discussions will be a step towards normalizing these topics, and encourage you to bring this authentic way of connecting into your own life. You can listen to Keep Yourself Warm on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube and anywhere else podcasts are found. New episodes drop every Monday.
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SEASON 2 EPISODE 1 TEASER: Getting Back Into Dating Apps
September 09, 2022 10:00 - 1 minute - 1 MBKicking off season 2 with a primer to get back into dating the dating scene, whether that means apps, set ups, or spittin' your own game to a stranger.
E70. The Importance of Confidence In Dating
May 23, 2022 10:00 - 46 minutes - 42.4 MBIn this episode, the gang returns from their spring hiatus but with an episode that we recorded pre-hiatus in March. The episode is all about the importance of having (or faking) confidence when you’re out there in the dating world. Topics include: The importance of confidence but why “the prowl” can be a turn off (11:12) Going out with no ulterior motive will likely work in your favor (17:51) Memory and don’t get caught up in what other people are thinking (22:15) F*ck yes or no? (26:38...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Why Confidence Is Important When Dating
April 01, 2022 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.09 MBWe break down why having confidence, or at least acting like you're confident, is so important when single and dating.
E69. Anthony Got Married!
March 21, 2022 10:00 - 1 hour - 43.5 MBIn this episode, the gang recaps Anthony’s wedding, which after almost two years of a COVID delay, recently took place. He talks about both the wedding planning and some honeymoon mishaps, including: The initial wedding planning (11:44) More wedding planning and why the day of the week matters (15:49) Best man speech vs. a roast (21:02) Where do you draw the line for your guest list? (25:53) F*ck sea urchins (30:46) Food poisoning and road trippin (38:17) Finally, they wrap things up ...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Anthony Got Married!
March 18, 2022 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.16 MBAnthony got married! We talk about his wedding, and some key things he learned throughout one of the biggest days of his life. We also discuss the importance of water shoes.
E68: Help, I Just Found Out My Mom Cheated On My Dad
February 28, 2022 11:00 - 49 minutes - 33.6 MBIn this episode, the gang begins by reading a story about a mom who tells her kids that she cheated on their dad for quite a long time (11:58), with a debate that follows about: Can cheating ever be done for the good of a family? (17:53) What age would make this scenario more acceptable? (24:14) Would you allow your partner to sleep with other people if you suddenly became unable to have sex due to injury? (30:32) What level of relationship do you have to have with a person before you te...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Help, I Just Found Out Mom Cheated on Dad
February 25, 2022 11:00 - 1 minute - 952 KBHow would you react when one parent tells you they've been cheating on your other parent for a decade?
E67. Having the "Define the Relationship" Conversation
February 14, 2022 11:00 - 53 minutes - 36.7 MBIn this episode, the gang breaks down the when/how/why and all the other questions of that come along with having the "define the relationship" conversation with a new partner with the help of our first ever repeat guest, Marlena! (She was originally on Episode 30 talking about her experience in an abusive relationship if you missed it.) Topics include: Introducing her situation (1:56) His reaction to a pregnancy scare (6:01) Do you tell them about someone else asking you on a date? Do yo...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: The Common Dilemma of When to DTR
January 28, 2022 11:00 - 1 minute - 1.25 MBWe have our friend Marlena on to discuss her on-going struggle with defining a new relationship.
E66. Manifestations Of and Tools to Combat Generalized Anxiety
January 18, 2022 11:00 - 50 minutes - 34.1 MBIn this episode, the gang returns to a new year with a slightly altered format but the same level of passion for talking about dating, relationships, and sex. After the intro, they get into the main episode topic: a conversation about generalized anxiety. Segments include: 1: Anxiety manifesting as anger and how generalized anxiety about everything going on currently is absolutely normal (7:39) 2: How does anxiety manifest for Jay, Anthony, and Lexi, and what they do about it (12:04) 3: T...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Dealing With Anxiety in 2022
January 14, 2022 11:00 - 1 minute - 986 KBWe're BACK baby! And we're kicking things off the way only 2022 knows how: talking about anxiety.
E65. Farting, Cheating, and Accidental Facebook Friends
November 22, 2021 11:00 - 52 minutes - 48 MBWE’RE BACK! In this episode, the gang breaks down two topics that could potentially end a relationship: farting, and cheating. After catching up in the intro, they debate whether or not farting in front of your partner is ok in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (18:34). Then they break down a story about a woman finding out that she’s the “other woman” and how she struggled with this moving forward, with a crazy plot twist (25:08). They then give some advice about what to do if you find yo...
E64. Happy Halloween! Dating and Sex Horror Stories
October 26, 2021 10:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBIn this episode, the gang is celebrating halloween by sharing dating and sex horror stories from both our past and our friends. After the intro, Jay kicks things off with a story about going through his girlfriend’s phone and finding something he wishes he hadn’t in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (7:31). The story continues, and even features a brief break-in guest appearance by Jay’s girlfriend (14:03, 26:20). Then the horror stories begin, including: accidental tattoo discovery (33:21)...
E63. Crazy Bachelor Party Story, Stranger's Advice for a Successful Relationship
October 19, 2021 10:00 - 58 minutes - 40.1 MBIn this episode, the gang takes some experiences from a bachelor party that Jay recently attended to serve as inspiration. After the intro, we have a brief update about a second date disaster from our friend Nikki (star of episode 57!) (18:45). Then we hear Jay’s story about the importance of the buddy system when in New Orleans in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (21:49). Then we get into the main segment, where we share some solicited advice from strangers in Louisiana about what makes a...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Don't Break the Buddy System on a Bachelor Party, Advice for a Happy Relationship, and More
October 15, 2021 11:00 - 1 minute - 1.26 MBJay shares a crazy story about the importance of maintaining the buddy system from a bachelor party he recently attended, and we share some advice from strangers on how to have a happy marriage (or at least a happy relationship, if you're not there yet).
E62. Anal Sex, Taboos, and More
September 20, 2021 10:00 - 52 minutes - 35.6 MBIn this episode, the gang spans the gamut from anal sex to porn desensitization. After giving an update on their lives over the last couple of weeks, they also break down the new show release schedule. Don’t worry, the show isn’t going anywhere! It likely will just have new episodes every other Monday instead of every Monday for the foreseeable future. The segments begin with our feelings about anal sex, including a call to Lexi’s boyfriend (15:40), times when anal sex is likely to be reques...
E61. Expressing Your Emotions, Internet Stalking Before a First Date, And More
September 07, 2021 10:00 - 33 minutes - 22.5 MBIn this episode, the gang focuses on the “dating” aspect of the show. After the intro, Jay shares a useful tip he recently learned in couples therapy for expressing your emotions when you’re struggling through something with your partner (11:39). In the first segment, the gang tries to determine a timeline for how long you should wait before dropping a sexy or risqué line when texting with someone that you recently matched with (14:53). Then they debate whether or not you should internet sta...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Internet Stalking, Sexting Timeline, and More
September 03, 2021 17:36 - 1 minute - 1.06 MBShould you internet stalk someone before the first date? How long should you wait before introducing a sexy or suggestive text when chatting?
E60. Panic Attack Techniques, Current- and Ex-Partners Meeting, and More
August 30, 2021 10:00 - 56 minutes - 38.3 MBIn this episode, the gang goes through a whirlwind of topics and pent up energy after not recording for a couple weeks. Highs & lows in the intro turned into a conversation about drugs which turned into a conversation about mental health (jump to 16:08 for the discussion on panic attacks and techniques to end them). In “I Did Something Weird Last Night”, the entirely WEIRD choices made by OnlyFans this week (unfortunately, we recorded before they walked back their decision to maintain their ...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Surviving Panic Attacks, Current Partners Meeting Exes, and More
August 27, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.05 MBWe're back from our trips and moves and came out HOT on this episode. Mental health, drugs, partners and exes, and one of the most contentious f*ck/marry/kills we've ever done. Get ready.
E59: Bachelor/ette Parties
August 23, 2021 10:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MBIn this episode, the gang talks about bachelor and bachelorette parties. They all recently attended some parties, which is why they sound like they’re in rough shape during the intro segment. Topics covered include how much planning should you do and normalizing turning down attendance at a party due to cost (10:21), co-bachelor/bachelorette parties and navigating bringing multiple friend groups together (16:45), and the importance of being a team player, deferring to the bride/groom, the st...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Bachelor/ette Parties
August 20, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.09 MBTalking about the ins & outs of planning a great bachelor/ette party, how to be a good attendee, and more.
E58: Building Confidence, Asking for What You Want, One Night Stand Etiquette and More
August 09, 2021 16:42 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MBIn this episode, the gang answers emails from listeners. Topics include tips on building sexual confidence, embracing your sexuality, and asking for what you want in the bedroom (5:55), one night stand etiquette for both the host and the guest (16:09), and the importance of deleting profile and not just the dating app after beginning a relationship (25:04). Finally, they wrap things up with a would you rather (30:31). NEW EPISODES DROP EVERY MONDAY! For listener submissions and booking con...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Building Confidence, One Night Stands, and More
August 06, 2021 10:00 - 56 seconds - 857 KBWe answer listener emails about building sexual confidence, one night stands, and more. Be sure to hit up our inbox at [email protected]
E57. Navigating the Pitfalls of Post-Quarantine Dating with Special Guest Nikki
August 02, 2021 10:00 - 55 minutes - 37.6 MBIn this episode, the gang talks to friend of the show and special guest Nikki, who is shares with us her story of what dating has been like in New York City as we gradually come out of quarantine. After learning a bit more about what her approach to dating app swiping is (11:48), we talk about the necessary length of time spent talking on an app before planning a date (15:42), the importance of figuring out what you want and being up front about it (23:30), how soon is too soon to ask the h...
E56. Do Opposites Attract? Polarity, Passion, and the Search for Balance
July 26, 2021 10:00 - 37 minutes - 34.6 MBIn this episode, the gang tries to figure out if there’s any truth to the saying “opposites attract”. After the intro, they bring back the “What I Learned in Couples Therapy” segment for an obvious but useful tip that Jay discussed in his session this week (11:14). Then they get into the main segment about the thing you most love but maybe also hate about your partner (13:31), getting off to a person that you despise ( 18:09), and the importance of finding passion for your partner in a nonto...
E55. Even Good Couples Fight Sometimes, Needs Schedules, and Seeing Things Through to the End
July 19, 2021 10:00 - 58 minutes - 40.1 MBIn this episode, the gang attempts to normalize the fact that even "good" couples fight sometimes. After the intro, Jay recently had a nostalgic thought (shocker!) that got him thinking about our ability to overwrite past experiences in "I Did Something Weird Last Night" (13:26). Then they intro the main topic about the need for fighting (20:57), break down the idea of a "needs schedule" between partners (25:50), discuss whether or not your needs schedule connects to your love language (33:5...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Even Good Couples Fight, and That's Ok
July 16, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.09 MBReminding you that sometimes there's conflict in "good" relationships, and that's totally normal. Find out more on Monday!
E54. PDA Around the Family
July 12, 2021 10:00 - 43 minutes - 29.5 MBIn this episode, the gang breaks down how much PDA they’re comfortable with when around their families and friends. After the intro, what was originally the “I Did Something Weird Last Night” segment turned into the whole episode. They intro the PDA topic (8:15), breakdown the infamous “accidental walk in” by family members (14:15), PDA vs. public sex (20:17), and more family and PDA stories from the hosts (30:46). Finally, they wrap things up with a f*ck/marry/kill about public sex location...
E53. VR Porn and Physical Attractiveness vs. Good Personality
July 06, 2021 10:00 - 59 minutes - 40.8 MBIn this episode, the gang breaks down the age old debate: what’s more important, physical attraction or having a good personality? After the intro, Lexi gives an update on what it was like to have her virtual dick sucked in VR porn in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (13:21). Then they introduce the main segment (23:14), talk about the role a favorite “look” or personal embellishment might play (28:12), whether or not that item cheapens your attraction (32:33), and why the body count discu...
E52. Living With Your Partner with Special Guest Cam
June 28, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 46.5 MBIn this episode, the gang welcomes on “first time friend, long time listener” Cam as they discuss what it’s like to move in and live with your partner. Before that, Anthony recently learning something via Google Image Search in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (17:22). Then they read a listener mail with a warning about work rumors as a follow up to the last episode (22:23). Then they get into the main segment, which includes the following topics: living with a partner (23:59), living with...
E51. Is Dating A Coworker A Good Idea?
June 21, 2021 10:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MBIn this episode, the gang tries to answer that age old question: “Is it a good idea or the worst idea ever to date a coworker?” After the intro, they debate whether or not it’s weird to name your child after yourself in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (8:14). Then they answer a listener email about watching porn with a new partner (13:27). Then they get into the main topic, including how dating a coworker is probably more common than most people think (18:25), sharing some horror stories ...
E50. The One That Got Away & KYW Turns 1!
June 14, 2021 10:00 - 53 minutes - 36.7 MBIn this episode, the gang talks about “the one that got away”. They get into things almost immediately (the intro turned into the main episode topic) with reconnecting with an ex (9:36), what “the one that got away” REALLY means (15:33), being an “expert disappearer” and sending those late night “u up?” texts (21:24), a live reading of Lexi rejecting her exes coffee date suggestion (27:34), and whether or not any amount of communication with an ex is ok (31:35). They also have a brief reflec...
E49. Toxic Positivity and Unhealthy Relationships
June 07, 2021 10:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBIn this episode, the gang talks about the problem with toxic positivity when it comes to dating and relationships. After the intro (sorry for all the Lexi birthday party talk) we get into a problem of a couple not communicating their position preferences in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (11:54). Then they get into the main segment, with topics including what toxic positivity looks like and the problem with social media vs. reality (15:39), identifying the stages of unhealthy relationshi...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: The Problem With Toxic Positivity in Dating
June 04, 2021 10:00 - 51 seconds - 797 KBWhy toxic positivity has no place in dating and relationships (but really nowhere else in general).
E48. Bars are BACK! Tips for Successful Wingmanning
June 01, 2021 10:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MBIn this episode, the gang gives tips for being a successful wingman. After the intros, they answer a listener email on how to get over a person that you have to see on a regular basis (9:32). Then they get into the topic of being a good wingman (13:48), can you call dibs on a person? (21:10), and wingman fails (27:34). Finally, they wrap things up with a hypothetical scenario about finding your soulmate (33:00). NEW EPISODES DROP EVERY MONDAY! This show is available on Apple Podcasts, Spoti...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: WELCOME BACK BARS! Tips for Successful Wingmanning
May 28, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.16 MBCovid is cancelled, bars are back, and we are THRILLED. We celebrate by giving tips for successful wingmanning.
E47. Serendipity, Authenticity, and the Spiritual Cock
May 24, 2021 10:00 - 54 minutes - 37.3 MBIn this episode, the gang shares some fantastic life lessons that they learned from two strangers on a recent serendipitous night out at a dive bar. After the intros, Jay shares his feelings about an ex-girlfriend from years ago still popping up in his life from time to time in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (12:07). Then they share some unsolicited advice from a fan of the show about Lexi potentially relocating with her partner (22:32). Then we get into the lessons from our new friends,...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Intimacy, Authenticity, and More Life Lessons
May 21, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.32 MBOn a recent serendipitous night at the bar, we ran into a middle-aged couple on a date who taught us all sorts of valuable lessons, from the importance of passion and intimacy, accepting a trans child, the importance of finding a "spiritual cock", and more.
E46. Are You Languishing or Flourishing?
May 17, 2021 10:00 - 42 minutes - 29 MBIn this episode, the gang talks about the mental health affects of living during the pandemic for the last year. After the intros, they read a listener email about how and when it’s appropriate to post on social media in a new but unofficial relationship (6:58). Then we get into the topic of languishing (here’s the article referenced) (12:42), how to move from languishing to flourishing (article and quiz referenced) (19:43), and how ambivalence plays into the gang’s own relationships (29:48)...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Are You Languishing or Flourishing?
May 14, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.59 MBWe talk about languishing and flourishing and help you figure each feeling out. Bonus if you can guess which host is NOT flourishing before listening to the episode!
E45. Mushrooms, Repeat Cheaters, and Bad Texters
May 10, 2021 10:00 - 50 minutes - 34.7 MBIn this episode, the gang talks about magic mushrooms, answers an email from a listener, and talks about texting. After the highs & lows, Jay shares about how he wants to try psychedelic mushrooms, and Lexi and Anthony might babysit him while he trips (9:52). Then they answer a listener email about cheating (19:58). After that, they try to decipher what “oh I’m just a bad texter” REALLY means (30:09). Finally, they wrap things up with fuck-marry-kill of sex positions (41:50). NEW EPISODES D...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Drugs, Repeat Cheaters, Texting & More
May 07, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.1 MBTalking about psychedelic drugs, listener mail about repeat cheaters, what "bad texter" really means, and more.
E44. Relationship Social Media Tagging, and Advice vs. Commiserating vs. Talking Shit About Your Partner
May 03, 2021 10:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MBIn this episode, the gang breaks down topics including social media, doing better, and talking about your partner with someone else. After the intros, the topic of whether or not you need to tag your partner in your Instagram bio comes up in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (12:27). Then Jay recently heard some negative things about guys, and the gang gives a PSA that can be summed up as: guys, you need to do better (25:56). Then they shift gears and get into the last segment of the show t...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: Advice vs. Commiserating vs. Talking Shit
April 30, 2021 10:00 - 53 seconds - 821 KBTalking about who you go to and how you ask for advice when things are rocky with your partner.
E43. A Crash Course on OnlyFans with @Sandy.InLace
April 26, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 63.8 MBIn this episode, the gang takes a crash course on OnlyFans from @Sandy.InLace. One of the most important things to take out of this episode is that sex work is real work. For more information on this, visit the Harm Reduction Coalition. Sandy covers a wide range of topics with the gang, including: How she got into OF, finding what you’re comfortable with creating (12:36) Doing live cam shows, dealing with unsolicited dick pics and bad dirty talk (31:54) Celebrities on OF, creating a sup...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: A Crash Course to OnlyFans with @Sandy.InLace
April 23, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.21 MBSandy can be found on Instagram, TikTok, and OnlyFans.
E42. The Cheating Episode
April 19, 2021 10:00 - 56 minutes - 38.9 MBIn this episode, the gang talks all about cheating. After the intro, they go off on a tangent about dirty talk in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (11:32). Then they get into cheating, and attempt to answer the following questions: is cheating ever ok? (18:08), have they cheated? (24:38), do you have to tell your partner after you cheated? (30:27), is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating? (35:04), is it ok to go through your partner’s phone? (38:21) Finally, they wrap things up ...
NEXT EPISODE TEASER: The Cheating Episode
April 16, 2021 10:00 - 1 minute - 1.63 MBTalking about dirty talk, cheating, when (if ever) cheating is ok, and a VERY contentious fuck-marry-kill.
E41. When A Person Shows You Their True Colors Don't Try to Paint a Different Picture
April 12, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 45.8 MBIn this episode, the gang breaks down the difference between real potential and imagined potential in dating and relationships. At the top of the episode, Lexi recently doubled down on her pregnancy scare (please do the opposite of what Lexi is doing). Then Jay talks about his life-long battle with being petty in “I Did Something Weird Last Night” (10:47). Then they break down this idea of real vs. imagined potential (18:08), which includes topics like “good enough for WHO?” (30:12), the imp...