Just What You Needed

DAY 3: We Are All So Lovable and Also? We’re Not.

We’ve made it! The final episode of this podclass series, where we need to dive into a very adult-y, uncomfortable truth in terms of our innate lovability. Because YES, we’re all so super cute and special and wonderful and lovable…and YES, we are also totally wounded, pain-in-the-ass humans who sometimes show up in ways that make us hard to choose, or hard to be around. Accepting this paradox, admitting our own imperfection, while also investing and embodying our innate lovability? That is t...

DAY 2: You Can’t Just Keep Saying “No” Forever

And we’re off to the races! Unpacking and fleshing out another questionable piece of common dating advice. Way back in Season 1 of the pod I recorded an episode about “The Possibility and Power in Saying NO”, where I discussed the importance of knowing what you want, and being a clear “no” to anything that is not that. Yes! Important! Very true! And…here we are now, five years later, five years wiser, and I need to adjust some of that advice. Because where Great Love is concerned, sometimes ...

DAY 1: Entitlement, Superiority, and Egoic Standards (EEK!)

Episode one of this series is all about deepening into what’s driving our standards in the quest for Great Love. A fire was lit under my booty on this topic when I bumped into a little post on Instagram reinforcing the popular idea that if you are a conscious, growth-focused person, then you should clearly be with a conscious, growth-focused person. And on the one hand, yeah! Totally! Why not? And on the other hand…welp – we gotta unpack this one and get into the deeper layers of what’s at p...

DAY 0: An Introduction to Dating & Relating for Grown Women

I’m offering something extra special this week, and I know you’re going to love it (and potentially be DEEPLY CHALLENGED by it – consider yourself warned!). This is a 4-part “PODCLASS” packed full of Dating & Relating Advice for Grown-Ass Women. Because I’m sick of seeing the overly-simplified, tired tips, tricks, and rule-based guidance that’s being offered by so many “relationship experts” out there. This episode serves as an introduction to the upcoming podclass, and to invite you to ente...

#76 – Slow-Burn Attraction & Detoxifying Your Dating Life

CLAIMED is coming up this Saturday, so let’s talk about getting ourselves outta the way of deep, lasting, love and partnership! I want to share my journey of shifting away from high intensity, toxic, trauma-bonded connections…and learning how to be attracted to healthy, sustainable, compatible partnerships. It’s been a whooole thing, and I know so many women feel very frustrated with continuously attracting more of what they don’t want. So how can we start opening ourselves up to better conn...

#75 – On Being Love’s Little B*tch (and Humble Student)

Registration for CLAIMED is wide open, so we’re gonna talk about it! To start, here’s a powerful question for you: What is your relationship like to LOVE itself? Do you know how to listen to Love? Respond from (and as) Love? Can you feel and sense how Love is guiding you, in your life, in your relationships, day-to-day?  In today’s episode, I’m talking about becoming a student of Love, surrendering to Love, and what that has looked like for me over the years. I wanted to tell some spicy st...

#74 – Longing for Love & Keeping Your Heart Open

First off: I have an exciting announcement of something NEW coming in March. And secondly…let’s get into a deep unpacking of the many ways we sweet, tender humans try to turn off our longing for love. Which, if I can be completely honest, is so futile and frustrating. If you are someone who has struggled in relationships, if you have been burned by love (and various versions of “not love”), if you can’t seem to turn off your heart and you deeply want to know what love is, in all of its varie...

#73 – Cultivating Your “Inner Mother” Energy

#72 – Are You Stuck in the Feminine Swamp?

Ladies, we’re leaving the swamp! The swamp of dilapidated Feminine flow and resistance to healthy Masculine support! The swamp of staying trapped under a gravity blanket of heavy, dense, energetic depression that prevents you from following your dreams and desires! The swamp of staring at your phone for hours on end when really, your energy wants to be directed towards literally anything else! Today I’m talking about creating supportive Masculine structure that exists in service to your Femi...

#71 – Dealing With Unsupportive People & Self-Love Practices

Another listener-requested episode! I received two awesome inquiries and got to go deep on the following topics: How do you detach from unsupportive people? And what are some specific tips for loving yourself very well? Ohmigahhh – these questions have me practically drooling with enthusiasm to dive in and share some personal stories unpacking my experiences with lack of support, and practicing self-love. Listen up and learn how to stop worrying about the people in your life who just don’t “...

#70 – Trusting Yourself & Not Waiting for “Level 10 Terrible”

Earlier this week I had a conversation on Instagram about the painful phenomenon of not listening to your inner knowing… or not making a change when something feels off/wrong/uncomfortable in your life… and instead… WAITING FOR LEVEL 10 TERRIBLE. Meaning, you wait until you’re pretty much forced to make the change because things become just plain intolerable, instead of making the change out of your own sacred volition. Oof! So painful! Why are we like this thought?! Well, in today’s epi...

#69 – Self-Love, Self-Honesty, and Making Changes

What are the top two most essential, non-negotiable ingredients for a rock solid relationship to ourselves? In my personal opinion (and experience…and expertise…) we need equal parts SELF-LOVE and SELF-HONESTY if we truly want to thrive in our lives. If we want to say “yes” to making uncomfortable changes. If we want to learn from our mistakes. If we want to wake up in the morning and feel grateful and excited to be ourselves every day. If we want to grow! All of the above becomes a lot hard...

#68 – Why “Practicing Gratitude” Can Be IMPOSSIBLY UNHELPFUL

Oh boy! Get ready for me to rant and rave and go in-depth into why I claimed to be “allergic” to gratitude for many years. Because sure, everyone knows that a gratitude practice is a great idea, but what do you do when it just feels icky and/or fake? And kinda impossible? And also…doesn’t work? What then?! If you’ve struggled with practicing gratitude, and then feel bad because you should be more grateful for how much goodness is in your life, then this is the episode for you.   Links:  ...

#67 – Clean Boundaries & Getting Outta My Head

Today is a LISTENER REQUESTED EPISODE! Two lovely listeners wrote in with brilliant questions so I got to go deep, riff, and rant on the art of clean boundary-setting in relationships (and what tends gets in the way), and then share about my experience of working with my body and energetic system after years of exclusively talk-focused therapy and coaching. Enjoy! Links:  November Movement & Meditation Practice: https://bit.ly/move-meditate-nov Make a request for a future episode: http...

#66 – My Painful Secret and “Everything is For Me”

Welp! Cat’s outta the bag. On a friend’s podcast recently (as well as in an Instagram story) I shared a bit about what happened in 2019 when I woke up one morning with extreme, excruciating, physical pain…that wouldn’t go away. So I wanted to share a bit more about my healing journey right here, in my personal podcast home. I talk about the experience of losing my confidence and sense of self, and feeling truly hopeless, helpless, and deeply afraid. AND the popular personal development meme ...

#65 – Cleaning up My Patterns of Attraction with Men

We’re dipping (or diving head-first?) back into the dating-and-relationship waters today! I’m getting personal in this episode and talking about some of the deepest, most uncomfortable, confronting work I’ve done when it comes to healing my relationships to men and the Masculine. I talk about my patterns of idealizing men, placing partners on pedestals, villainizing men, and making them the enemy – I’ve done it all. And I learned the hard way why trying to date men, when you also kind of hat...

#64 – Making Decisions from Body & Mind

Why does it feel hard to listen to your own intuition? Why is it that our minds are often yelling loudly, while our bodies only whisper? What happens when we start to move through our lives from a place of embodied wisdom…instead of following the rules of logic and rationale? In this episode I talk about the absurdity of me doing embodiment work, moving through resistance to listening to one’s body/deeper knowing, and how to start tuning in from the neck down. This is a great listen if you’r...

#63 – BIG Feelings and Romantic Relationships (Eek!)

Today I’m sharing a bit about my experience of being a highly sensitive, deeply feeling human in romantic relationships. Because learning how to own our sensitivities and responsibly move through (and express!) our emotions on our own is one thing…but doing it with another person?! Holy moly, what a ride. If you have ever worried that you are “too much” in relationships, and you want to learn how to heal the parts of you that feel emotionally overwhelming – both with yourself – and others, t...

#62 – Wifey Stereotypes & Sensitivity as a Superpower

I’m responding to two listener requests today. The first question from Michaela relates to redefining gender roles and stereotypes within marriage, and the second request came in from Joe, who wants to better understand how to start owning and championing our sensitivities in a world that says we shouldn’t be that way. I loved these questions, and I’m so excited to dive in with you. Let’s goooo!   Links:    Make a request for a future episode: https://bit.ly/jwyn-request Fox Tracks...

#61 – Shifting from Numbing to Nourishing Ourselves

Doom-scrolling, Netflix-binging, emotional eating, over-working, going in for that extra glass of wine…we all have unhelpful habits of numbing ourselves, choosing distraction, and trying to cope with uncomfortable feelings and overwhelm. But how do we begin shifting away from those habits (because they can be so compelling), and start to choose things that actually nourish us? That’s what this episode is all about! Get into it if you want to start supporting yourself on a deeper level. Your ...

#60 – Letting Go of Control & Codependency

You asked for it! I’ve been talking about living from intuition quite a bit lately, and those convos have brought up some prickly fears in many of you. Prickly fears about trusting your inner guidance to lead…and therefore…letting go of control?! Gasp! Eek! Because if you’re not in control of your life, then how can you possibly get everything you want, and have everything always be okay, and exactly as you prefer? (Hint hint: You can’t! Because no one can!) This episode is for anyone who’...

#59 – The 3 Ingredients for Creating Lasting Change

When we’re in a space of honest evaluation, and recognizing that some things in our lives just aren’t working anymore, and we can feel and hear and smell and taste the call of expansion…HOW DO WE ACTUALLY MAKE IT HAPPEN!? I’m so glad you asked! Because In this episode I offer three essential ingredients to creating lasting change, and letting yourself evolve as the powerful she-human you truly are. Because you are not supposed to stay the same forever, and life will always be calling you for...

#58 – Giving Up Your Goals & The Gift of Jealousy

On today’s episode I’m responding to requests from two listeners. If you’re sick of hustle culture, and are so over feeling jealous of (and comparing yourself to) other women, then this episode is for you. First we’ll dive into letting go of goal-based living, and looking at why achieving goals isn’t the ultimate path to fulfillment it’s often promised to be. Then we’ll shift gears and unpack jealousy and competition among women, and how social media can exacerbate the issue. Thank you to th...

#56 – Welcome Back! Let’s Catch Up.

Kicking off season 3 with maybe the longest solo episode I’ve ever done?! I guess we have a lot to catch up on! In this episode I talk about my experience of taking a three-month sabbatical last summer, and the subsequent awakenings, “aha” moments, and inevitable discomfort that arose behind the scenes. I get real about detoxing from my workaholic tendencies, living from my intuition (but only up to a certain point…), and the death of my “Inner Performer”. This past year has been one of profo...

#57 – Self Celebration vs. Being an A-Hole to Yourself

Here’s something that really grinds my gears: When a person is doing everything they can to create change for themselves, to grow, expand, evolve…and then they are hard on themselves in the process. Or feeling like they shouldn’t even need to change, or that it should just be easy. In this episode I ask a very important question to break out of the “hard on yourself” habit, so you can get on your own team in the process of personal transformation. It’s time to give credit where it’s due (and ...

#55 - Interview with Heather Allison

Can you be in devotion to a life of miracle? Today’s episode is a cosmic conversation between myself and Heather Allison. She is a Divine Feminine Channel who is overflowing with gorgeous wisdom and grace. I was guided to join her “Golden Goddess” program with very little understanding of what she did, and her work has completely transformed my world and the ways I show up in this lifetime. (and very well in future lifetimes!) This episode is truly focused on the divine feminine and trusti...

#54 - Answering Your Questions!

Today’s episode is the final solo episode of Season 2 of “Just What You Needed” and it was completely inspired by you! Thank you to everyone who submitted questions on Instagram. They sparked some really phenomenal conversation topics including dealing with the unknown, feeling like you’re over-giving, passion vs. practical careers, and, of course, listening to our inner knowing. Thank you so much for being here. Stay tuned for one final interview episode, and we’ll reconnect soon!   L...

#53 - Interview with Vianney Leigh

I am all about looking at things with a fresh new perspective, and today’s episode featuring Vianney Leigh gives us a whole new viewpoint of honoring and working with the menstrual cycle. We are shifting the narrative away from periods and women’s health being a taboo topic in society, and leaning in to the sacred power that it ultimately holds. Vianney gives great insight on what it’s like to track your cycle and get to deeply know yourself in the process. She is a true example of what it’s...

#52 - 4 Holy Grail Tips for Burnout Recovery

If you’re someone like me who has treaded into the deep waters of burn-out, then this highly requested episode is for you, my dear. We are going to discuss my four holy grail tips that help us acknowledge, move through, and get on the road to recover from burn-out. Burn-out tends to sneak up on us since we live in such a go-go-go society. It can actually be applauded in some cases, since we are commonly praised for being over-productive. Let’s reframe our perspective and get back in our bo...

#51 - Interview with Allison Fallon

This conversation was so personal, so vulnerable, and incredibly empowering. Join me today as I interview Allison Fallon, whose career as an author sparked from being a storyteller of her own life. As someone who grew up in the Evangelical Christian Community and was presented with a “golden path” to wholeness and salvation, Allison discovered along the way that to be true to her authentic self, she had to step away to create a life all her own. We discussed everything from religious trauma,...

#50 - I'm Stepping Away. Here's Why.

Living in full alignment and integrity – that’s the ultimate goal, right? Today’s episode is a little behind-the-scenes discussion of what is to come over the summer months, which includes me stepping away and taking a well-needed break. This hasn’t been an easy decision for me to come to. But when your Knowing speaks, you have to listen. This is the perfect opportunity to really walk my talk and get back in alignment.   I just want to thank you all for the incredible support you provide...

#49 - Interview with Mark Groves

Amy Young + Mark Groves (the dynamic podcasting duo!) are at it again with another juicy conversation. We probed into topics surrounding patriarchal influence in relationships, fearing loss of connection, facing inadequacy, and having the hard conversations. We hope you leave this episode feeling empowered with some new perspectives for the ways you can show up in the world and with those you love most.   Mark Groves (he/him) Mark Groves is the founder of Create The Love. His own rock...

#48 - Do You Want to be NEEDED? Or LOVED?

Do you find that you are someone who finds your worthiness from other people “needing” you? You feel as though you need to overdo, overwork, and overperform to morph yourself into being indispensable?   Well in today’s episode of “Just What You Needed,” we are going to dive into that exact concept. We’re stepping back from that exhausting chase of safety, security, and belonging and settling into a NEW truth that you are inherently worthy just as you are. Your lovability stems from you s...

#47 - Interview with Michel Grey

Get ready for a deep dive in this one! The beautiful conversation I had with Michel Grey covered everything from talking about doing deep inner work to the applicable lessons you can take away from Grey’s Anatomy.   We covered all of the bases - immersing yourself in your ultimate truth, being able to honestly look at our shadow and egoic sides, and honoring (and even embracing!) your sensitives. If you are ready for some enlightening insight, this episode is for you.   Michel Grey (...

#46 - Scarcity, Good Sex, and Higher Standards

The Undoing Unfiltered call I hosted last month took a deep dive into Feminine Embodiment and Empowered Sexuality. There are so many stories that we, as feminine identifying beings, have surrounding our sex lives and we only scratched the surface. I received a very interesting question on that call which revolved around a breakup and the fear that the individual wouldn’t be able to find that level of sexual connection again. This thought process is scarcity and I am NOT here for that energ...

#45 - Interview With Rachael Maddox

I spoke with Rachael Maddox about collective healing, supporting those around us, and how to work with sexual trauma.   Rachael is a trauma resolution educator, coach and guide who’s helped hundreds of humans move from sexual, complex or developmental trauma into pleasure, power and trust-filled relationships.   Author of Secret Bad Girl: A Sexual Trauma Memoir and Resolution Guide, and the upcoming book ReBloom: A Soulful System for Post-Traumatic Growth in Sex, Love and Society – R...

#44 - How We Hide From Our Deepest Healing

Personal. Self. Responsibility. Yep, I went there.    More times than not, the problem you think you have is not the true problem. The root of the issue is way deeper than you allow yourself to see and if you allowed yourself to see what was going on five levels deeper, then it would mean you’d have to face some really uncomfortable truths about yourself. So instead of taking that radical personal responsibility, we’ve all been taught to look at the surface level and point to that boss, ...

#43 - Knowing And Owning Your (Feminine) Power

We (as women) learn to define ourselves by who or what we’re in relation to. Example: “I’m a good daughter / partner / mother / worker bee, therefore...I’m okay, safe, and enough.” And as a result, we forget who we really are. Your Soul’s journey is to come back to itself. To dig in and figure out who we’re meant to be in this life. To identify who we were before we absorbed everything the world told us we needed to be. We’re meant to be the leading lady of our own lives! It’s time to shif...

#42 - In The Pursuit of More, Watch Out For This

Do you want a richer, more satisfying and more aligned presence in your life, or do you just want more?   In the process of epic self-discovery, identifying what lights us up and how we feel called to show up in the world can be both exhilarating and terrifying. It’s exhilarating because the more we practice, the more it feels like we’re coming home. However, sharing ideas and concepts that go against the grain of what is usually considered “acceptable” can be really terrifying. The wait...

#41 - New Year, New Unknowns, New Ways to Deal

Things wont magically change the moment the clock strikes midnight, but that doesn't mean we are destined for the "same old, same old." When we remain open to the possibilities and opportunities that could come our way we may surprise ourselves with what the universe will afford us. Happy New Year my friends. Cheers to a new, stronger and more grounded us in 2021   Let’s Connect!   Learn more about me at www.amyyoungcoaching.com.   Follow me on Instagram: @amyyoungco   Subscr...

#40 - Answering the Call of Our Soul

We believe that following the rules and staying the course is the best way to keep us safe, sane, and provide our greatest desires in life. But when we really dive deep in our feminine self and answer the true calling of our soul we really learn how to trust ourselves to provide all we really want and give us what is really meant for us.   Links:   If you want to come to the Undoing UNFILTERED call on Dec. 18th sign up here: https://amyyoungcoaching.com/undoing-unfiltered-monthly-ca...

#39 - Being Your Best Self for Yourself

Ever heard the saying, “you wouldn’t treat your best friend like you treat yourself?” Today we’re exploring what it would look like if you were your own best friend. Understanding how it feels to be the best version of yourself, and cultivate an ability to connect with yourself deeper so you have all you need even when it’s just you by yourself.   Links:   If you want to come to the Undoing UNFILTERED call on Dec. 18th sign up here: https://amyyoungcoaching.com/undoing-unfiltered-mo...

#38 - All Things Love & The Big Love Bundle

Last week I did a call with 200+ beautiful ladies where we talked about all things love as a final farewell to my love and relationship coaching body of work. Today on the podcast I am giving you fly on the wall access to what we talked about.   Links:   The Big Love Bundle is on sale now at www.amyyoungcoaching.com/big-love-bundle-2020/ if you want more big love talk and teachings!   If you want to come to tonight's Undoing UNFILTERED call sign up here: https://amyyoungcoachin...

#38 - What Actually Works When Looking for Love? [Live Call Replay]

Last week I did a call with 200+ beautiful ladies where we talked about all things love as a final farewell to my love and relationship coaching body of work. Today on the podcast I am giving you fly on the wall access to what we talked about.   Links:   The Big Love Bundle is on sale now at www.amyyoungcoaching.com/big-love-bundle-2020/ if you want more big love talk and teachings!   If you want to come to tonight's Undoing UNFILTERED call sign up here: https://amyyoungcoachin...

#37 - Saying Goodbye and Intentional Endings

Recently I have been working on The Big Love Bundle that will usher in an end of my love and relationship work and it has me in my feels! This week we are talking about how to bring closure to an ending in life with grace, love, intentionality, and respect. Let’s Connect!   Learn more about me at www.amyyoungcoaching.com.     Follow me on Instagram: @amyyoungco     Subscribe to my YouTube channel: Amy Young on YouTube     Make sure to join my email list at www.amyyoun...

Saying Goodbye and Intentional Endings

Recently I have been working on The Big Love Bundle that will usher in an end of my love and relationship work and it has me in my feels! This week we are talking about how to bring closure to an ending in life with grace, love, intentionality, and respect. Let’s Connect!   Learn more about me at www.amyyoungcoaching.com.     Follow me on Instagram: @amyyoungco     Subscribe to my YouTube channel: Amy Young on YouTube     Make sure to join my email list at www.amyyoun...

#36 - Why It's So Hard to Really Love Yourself

Why is it so hard to love yourself?  This week we are uncovering the three things you must first do to come to terms with and love the parts of yourself that you thought you never could. Loving yourself is the start of allowing someone else to truly love all of you and the first step to unlocking your best and most beautiful self. Let’s Connect!   Learn more about me at www.amyyoungcoaching.com.   Follow me on Instagram: @amyyoungco   Subscribe to my YouTube channel: Amy Youn...

#36 - Why it's so hard to really love yourself

Why is it so hard to love yourself?  This week we are uncovering the three things you must first do to come to terms with and love the parts of yourself that you thought you never could. Loving yourself is the start of allowing someone else to truly love all of you and the first step to unlocking your best and most beautiful self. Let’s Connect!   Learn more about me at www.amyyoungcoaching.com.   Follow me on Instagram: @amyyoungco   Subscribe to my YouTube channel: Amy Youn...

#35 - What Makes You a Powerful Woman?

At the beginning of September I made an Instagram post that claimed women were users -- GASP! Today, on the podcast I am expanding on this perspective and diving into what happens to women when we source false power. Are you using patriarchal structures as a crutch to false self fulfillment? Find out today. Links:   Join me for October's Undoing Unfiltered Call       Let’s Connect!       Learn more about me at www.amyyoungcoaching.com.       Follow me on Instagr...

#34 - Stepping Into Your Feminine Energy

Exploring a profound question today: What if you’re not wrong? Oftentimes, identifying with Feminine energy will have you feeling like you are a square peg trying to fit herself into a round hole. This is why so many women learn to assimilate to the Patriarchal system (which I clarify in this episode -- what is Patriarchy and what isn’t) that frankly, isn’t energetically aligned to support them. Take a listen to hear my reflections on this, my new body of work, and what you can do to begin t...