Men and Women Who Are Cheaters. There are so many people with the question what is cheating? If I take someone out or go out with somebody and I have a committed relationship am I cheatering. If you are in a committed Relationship with a Girl or Boy friend or married. You are cheating in of story. Some feel if they don't have any sexual encounters but talk on the phone often they are not cheating. Sneaking around making friends without your husband, wife, girl or boy friend is not cheating. All of this is cheating.