Intimate Covenant Podcast
220 episodes - English - Latest episode: 5 days ago - ★★★★★ - 30 ratingsBiblical Perspective for a Fuller Marriage and Extraordinary Sex! Most married couples want more for their marriage, especially when it comes to sex. Intimate Covenant offers biblical teaching and resources to help achieve oneness with your spouse, resulting in a fuller relationship and an extraordinary sex life. Warning: We cover necessary and important topics about the marriage relationship and sex. We use frank language without being crude or crass. Our approach is biblical and wholesome, but not intended for singles — especially not for children.
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Episodes
Lessons from China [162]
April 22, 2024 03:00 - 30 minutes - 21 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share some experiences from their recent trip to China and some life-changing lessons they are bringing back. We think these lessons will impact your marriage too! It’s easy to lose focus on eternal priorities and purpose. Revisit this conversation with your spouse frequently. Changing your circumstances will not change your marriage. To improve your marriage, you have to lean into the conflict and learn to better serve your spouse. We are deeply grateful for ...
Q&A (low sexual desire; body shame; reluctant spouse…) [161]
April 08, 2024 05:00 - 25 minutes - 17.7 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share excerpts from several different live Q&A sessions recorded at previous live events. - How do you differentiate between responsive sexual desire and a medical problem resulting in a lack of sex drive? - How can I keep striving for spiritual and emotional intimacy when my spouse is reluctant to do so? - How can I overcome shame in my physical appearance that hinders me from giving myself to and fully enjoying physical intimacy with my spouse? - Is it primari...
Laughter & Tears [160]
April 01, 2024 12:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share some important news and updates, including a fun blooper reel. There are multiple ways to help support Xander Moody and his family. GiveSendGo (https://www.givesendgo.com/supportxander) - This is a crowdfunding site launched by Xander's baseball team organization. Blessings Overflow: Mail checks (avoid transaction fees) with “Xander Moody” in the memo line to: Blessings Overflow 9114 Hermitage Ln Alvaton, KY 42122 Venmo (https://account.venmo.com/...
Q&A Tampa -- Sex During Conflict [159]
March 11, 2024 05:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share segments from the live Q&A session at the Tampa Marriage Day on March 2nd, including: How to connect sexually, even during periods of conflict How to learn contentment when I desire a certain sex act, but my spouse doesn’t How to avoid complacency when things seem “good” How to navigate different preferences for sexual frequency How to encourage spiritual growth and accountability Don’t miss early-bird pricing for the Annual Marriage Retreat. Save you...
Keeping Secrets from a Spouse [158]
February 26, 2024 06:00 - 39 minutes - 27.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share their responses to a few anonymous questions posed by attendees at a recent Marriage Day in Austin, TX. What are some ways we can help prevent our children from feeling shame about sex in marriage to stop the feeling we were raised with? Is it OK for me time in a successful marriage? How to deal with past relationships interfering with current one… as in constantly comparing oneself to another… If I am disinclined toward sex and my spouse feels guilty f...
Pursuer-Responder Shifting Roles [157]
February 12, 2024 06:00 - 42 minutes - 29 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn answer a listener's question about shifting roles roles in the pursuer/responder dynamic. But first, a few important announcements: "Covenant Conversations" is the official name for the daily exercise formerly known as "Daily Check-in." Our thanks to Lamar Schrei for suggesting this! Registration for the Intimate Covenant Annual Marriage Retreat opens on Valentine's Day! www.intimatecovenant.com/retreat Plan to join us for the 7th annual Marriage Retreat in Ho...
156 - Recovering from a Sexless Marriage
January 29, 2024 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to a listener’s question about struggling to recover from an infrequent and unhealthy sexual relationship. Struggles with sex in a marriage must not be ignored. Intervention and difficult conversations can save YEARS of suffering and shame; even save the marriage itself. The fundamental criteria for a wife to want more sex or different sex, is that the wife must have the expectation of sex worth having. The conflict of sexual frequency and/or sexual va...
Recovering from a Sexless Marriage [156]
January 29, 2024 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to a listener’s question about struggling to recover from an infrequent and unhealthy sexual relationship. Struggles with sex in a marriage must not be ignored. Intervention and difficult conversations can save YEARS of suffering and shame; even save the marriage itself. The fundamental criteria for a wife to want more sex or different sex, is that the wife must have the expectation of sex worth having. The conflict of sexual frequency and/or sexual va...
New Year's Resolutions [155]
January 15, 2024 13:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the accomplishments of 2023 and look forward to opportunities in 2024 for Intimate Covenant. We encourage you to do the same for your marriage with a State of the Covenant conversation. For real progress in your marriage, it’s important to critically evaluate the past and to set goals for the future. A thorough evaluation of your marriage should include assessment of each realm of intimacy: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. Please help suppo...
Daily Check-In [154]
December 25, 2023 06:00 - 24 minutes - 17 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn describe, in detail, the 15-minute ritual conversation that will deepen the intimacy and connection in your marriage. Meaningful conversation Expressions of gratitude and praise Pray together We referred to these conversation starter resources: Ultimate Intimacy Conversation Starter Cards: https://shop.ultimateintimacy.com/products/conversation-starters-card-deck Gottman Card Decks: https://www.gottman.com/couples/products/?fwp_couples_products=card-decks ...
Reigniting Passionless Sex [153]
December 11, 2023 06:00 - 40 minutes - 27.8 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn answer three listener questions about passionless sex: "How can I stop thinking of sex as an obligation when it's physically painful? While we wait for physical healing, how can I enjoy this part of our marriage?” “How do you navigate pleasing your spouse when you have no sexual desire and prefer not being touched at all?” “How can I enjoy a particular sex act that I get a lot of pleasure from but they do not, but they are willing to do it because they love me...
Coping with Rejection [152]
November 27, 2023 06:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to handle the inevitable emotional and sexual rejections in your marriage relationship. Rejection almost always occurs due to multiple factors that have to do with how you are presenting the bid and with your spouse’s circumstances. Angry outbursts or pouting will not get you what you want - rather, these kinds of reactions prove that you are unsafe, self-centered, and undesirable. Instead, consider the perfect pursuer, Jesus. Even he gets rejecte...
Thanksgiving Q&A Leftovers (sex when upset, infertility, filming ourselves, and more...) [151]
November 13, 2023 06:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn are sharing several segments from Q&A sessions that didn't make it into a previous episode. But, these questions are too good to leave out, so we're excited to include them here! Here’s what we’re covering: How do I have sex when I’m disappointed in or upset with my spouse? How can we handle infertility with faith and godliness? Should we film ourselves having sex? How can I overcome body shame that is hindering my sexual enjoyment and relationship? How to ...
Questions About Female Orgasm [150]
October 30, 2023 05:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn are pulling from submitted questions regarding the theme of female orgasms. Specifically, how can a husband help his wife orgasm? How can a wife learn to orgasm in different ways? And how important is a wife’s orgasm, anyway? Take-Aways: Husbands often place far too much emphasis on their wives orgasm and miss the far more important goal of seeking connection during sex. If a wife seeks to improve her ability to orgasm, a better understanding of her barriers i...
The Hymen & Other Misconceptions About Virginity [148]
October 16, 2023 05:00 - 38 minutes - 26.5 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the hymen -- facts and fiction -- as well as other misconceptions about the concept of virginity. There is no “virginity test.” The presence, absence, or any other physical appearance of a hymen is not a reliable indicator of a woman’s previous sexual activity. The same is true for vaginal bleeding or pain with initial sexual experience. Every women has a different experience. “Virginity” does not determine someone’s worth as a person or as a future spo...
Retreat Q&A (sexual frequency, embarrassed to try new things, and dealing with a distracted spouse) [148]
October 02, 2023 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn reminisce over some of the highlights of this year's annual Marriage Retreat and share a segment from the live Q&A session, including: I'm too embarrassed to try new things. How do I get over my sexual shame? Sex is Messy. What's a reasonable sexual frequency for a male? How to deal with a busy and distracted spouse? Is sexual humor appropriate? We also want to thank our sponsors for contributing to the success of this year's Retreat: J. Parker of Hot, Ho...
The Hard Work of Great Sex [147]
September 18, 2023 12:00 - 36 minutes - 24.8 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss some of the challenges to great sex and the work required for the rewarding, lifelong journey of an intimate and fulfilling sexual relationship. Believing that great sex just occurs spontaneously and effortlessly is actually preventing us from achieving good sex. Great sex, like any other mastery, is the product of consistent, intentional work over time. Take responsibility for your part in growing your sexual relationship. Then, commit yourself to lea...
St. Louis Q&A: kingdom purpose; healing from betrayal; resetting your relationship [146]
September 04, 2023 19:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MBIn this episode Matt & Jenn share another live Q&A session - this time from a recent Marriage Day in Saint Louis. We respond to the following questions: What are some examples of a kingdom-purpose for a marriage? What’s a good way to come up with a vision/purpose? How to heal your sex life and trust after sexual immorality (eg porn, lust) How do I move past my spouses past sexual experiences with others before our marriage? Would you give an example of how to “reset” if we’ve become dis...
Will It Fit? - concerns about sexual pain, especially with first-time intercourse
August 21, 2023 05:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to an email from a bride-to-be regarding her concerns about first-time sexual intercourse. We also address concerns about sexual pain relevant to all married couples. Pain with intercourse is not a rare circumstance and may occur for many reasons. The good news is that there are solutions for nearly every cause. Some discomfort may occur for a new wife as her body becomes accustomed to the process of sexual intercourse. The keys to reducing or preventi...
Q&A Seattle: spontaneous sex, increasing daily romance, afterglow, and more... [144]
August 07, 2023 05:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share some clips from a recent live Q&A session at our Marriage Weekend in Seattle. We covered these questions: - Explain what you mean by “newness is required in the sexual relationship"? - How to increase romantic intimacy when life isn’t romantic? - How often should we schedule date night? - What are some ways we can be spontaneous with sex with kids in the house? - What are some ways a responder can prepare for intimacy later in the day? - Can the afterglow ...
Premarital Pornography Use [143]
July 24, 2023 04:00 - 51 minutes - 35.6 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the negative impacts of pornography use -- even if it occurred before you were married. We also address the unmarried about how to deal with the challenges of finding out that your potential spouse has a porn problem. Pornography is a negative influence in society and may manifest terrible consequences even if a spouse used pornography before they were married. Prior to getting married, this issue must be addressed in conversation and counseling. Don’t...
Grieving Together [142]
July 10, 2023 05:00 - 37 minutes - 25.6 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share personal advice about how to find comfort and healing in your marriage while suffering deep loss. Share open and honest conversations about emotions, memories, fears, and needs. Find solace and support in each other. Prioritize emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual connection. Lean on your spiritual family and don’t be afraid to seek professional help. To purchase the 2023 DATING DIVAS MARRIAGE BUNDLE, including the brand new eCourse by Intimate Coven...
Better Pursuit & Initiation [141]
June 26, 2023 05:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss better ways for pursuers -- emotional or sexual -- to better communicate and initiate connection. Poor pursuit and poor initiation result in missed connection and feelings of rejection — intentional or unintentional. Pursuit should not include criticism, shame or other forms of pressure. Instead, offer an appeal for connection and an invitation to co-create. Be specific with your invitation to avoid miscommunications and hidden expectations. The Intim...
My Wife Has No Sex Drive [140]
June 12, 2023 05:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to a husband's desperate email about his wife's loss of sexual interest. Is the re anything he can do about it? A wife’s sex drive is negatively impacted by many obstacles and challenges. As a husband, don’t be another reason your wife doesn’t want to have sex! Prioritize the whole relationship and the sex will almost certainly improve. Sex is best when you both feel valued, appreciated and pursued. Nourish and cherish your wife. Anything you can do to...
Leftovers [139]
May 29, 2023 17:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors www.opendoorfa.com Where finances meet faith and family. ------------------------------------------------ In this episode, Matt & Jenn share several segments from previous live Q&A sessions which we haven't included in an episode before. These leftovers won't be stale! Here's what we cover: Do you have any specific tips to train yourself to stop defaulting to "logistic" conversations and encourage more emotionally connective conversations? How c...
How Does Sexual Shame Impact My Relationship? [138]
May 15, 2023 05:00 - 48 minutes - 33.1 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors www.opendoorfa.com Where finances meet faith and family. ----------------------------------------------- In this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to listener feedback about the impacts of sexual shame on the marriage relationship. sexual shame results in sexual relationships that are disconnected & withdrawn. Sexual pursuers and responders tend to be impacted by sexual shame differently. Pursuers often bear unnecessary guilt for having sexual desire...
Asking for Orgasm [137]
May 01, 2023 05:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors www.opendoorfa.com Where finances meet faith and family. ----------------------------------------------- In this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to two listener emails about one-sided sex and asking your spouse for orgasm. The purpose of sexual desire is to point us toward intimate connection with God and with each other. When we fail to see the spiritual significance of sex, we miss the opportunity for fullness of pleasure and intimacy. Present ci...
Sex Toys - Do they belong in the marriage bed? [136]
April 17, 2023 05:00 - 54 minutes - 37.2 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors -- www.opendoorfa.com Where finances meet faith and family. ----------------------------------------------- In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the biblical principles that should govern the use of sex toys in the holy marriage bed. The Bible does not specifically address the use of sex toys in the marriage bed. But, even without a specific prohibition, careful consideration and wisdom are indicated. Sex toys can be useful for couples to injec...
Nashville Q&A - How to continue pursuing when I'm constantly rejected [135]
April 03, 2023 06:00 - 36 minutes - 24.8 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors www.opendoorfa.com In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer questions posed at the 2023 Nashville Marriage Day. We had a lovely time with this group and they asked some great questions, including: Do you have advice on communicating when needs aren't being met without coming across as selfish or making my spouse feel like a failure? In an effort to spice things up, is there anything a Christian couple should steer away from to protect your minds and y...
Q&A Nashville - How to continue pursuing when I'm constantly rejected [135]
April 03, 2023 06:00 - 36 minutes - 24.8 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors www.opendoorfa.com In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer questions posed at the 2023 Nashville Marriage Day. We had a lovely time with this group and they asked some great questions, including: Do you have advice on communicating when needs aren't being met without coming across as selfish or making my spouse feel like a failure? In an effort to spice things up, is there anything a Christian couple should steer away from to protect your minds and y...
Interview with Justin Gerhardt [134]
March 20, 2023 05:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBSponsored by: Open Door Financial Advisors www.opendoorfa.com Where finances meet faith and family. ----------------------------------------------- In this episode, Matt & Jenn chat with Justin Gerhardt, creator of the Holy Ghost Stories Podcast AND our special guest performer at the Intimate Covenant Annual Marriage Retreat. Justin will be performing a live storytelling for our limited audience. This year, the Retreat is September 21-23 in The Woodlands, TX. Space is limited and we are al...
Q&A Tampa: What if I married the wrong person? [133]
March 06, 2023 06:00 - 40 minutes - 28.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn answer some of the questions from the Tampa Marriage Day 2023. Name the three greatest examples of marriage in the Bible. How to have a conversation with your spouse about something they think is “dirty”? What if I feel that I’ve married the wrong person? What does it look like to see my spouse as the image of God and hold them in awe? Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant: Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29 Shop from...
Am I taking too long to orgasm? Why does my husband need me to orgasm? [132]
February 20, 2023 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.4 MBIn this episode Matt and Jenn respond to two listener questions regarding expectations about orgasm: My husband’s efficient/impatient personality prevents me from mentally and physically “getting there” for fear I’m taking too long. How do we strive for better? It feels like my husband only feels satisfied with our sex if I orgasm… but sometimes I don’t feel like orgasming but still want to please him… thoughts? How are these questions the same? What do these questions tell us about misco...
Big Announcements & Listener Feedback [131]
February 06, 2023 06:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn reveal the guest performer for the Annual Marriage Retreat in September. Also, we'll share about our personal struggles in balancing this ministry and some restructuring of our vision for Intimate Covenant as we move forward into new opportunities. Look for the next intimate Covenant episode in TWO weeks, and every 2 weeks going forward. The Intimate Covenant Marriage Retreat is September 21-23. Registration opens on February 14th. This year, the Marriage Re...
Q&A: ideal sexual frequency, kids, rejection and pouting, wives' insecurities... [130]
January 30, 2023 06:00 - 35 minutes - 24.6 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share a recording from the Q&A session at a recent Marriage Day event in Dallas, TX. Some challenging questions that we discussed are: How often should a couple have sex? How can we still have great sex with a house full of kids? What if we are both sexual responders? How can learn to stop pouting when I get rejected? What can be done about ED and other sexual dysfunction? What are common insecurities that wives face? Please support these companies that s...
Higher Drive Wives with guest, J. Parker [129]
January 23, 2023 06:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn are joined by Christian sex blogger and author (and friend), J. Parker of Hot, Holy & Humorous, to discuss the non-typical dynamic when the wife is the sexual pursuer. While not the majority, relationships where the wife has the higher sexual desire is certainly more common than many would think. Most of the time, this dynamic does not indicate physical, emotional, or spiritual problems in the relationship— it is simply a result of individual variability and ci...
Birth Control - specific methods [128]
January 16, 2023 06:00 - 56 minutes - 39.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn compare all of the different birth control options -- how they work, their advantages and disadvantages. The decision whether to use birth control should be carefully considered after you’ve considered whether your motivations stem from a sense of responsible use of God’s blessings in your life or whether you are being motivated by selfish and materialistic desires. The specific methodology of birth control that you use should be chosen based on important crit...
Birth Control - What Does The Bible Say? [127]
January 09, 2023 06:00 - 41 minutes - 28.8 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn encourage couples to make intentional and biblically informed decisions about birth control. The conversation about birth control must start by rejecting society’s notion that children are a negative to my personal life and to society. Rather, we must view children as God sees them — a sacred blessing and holy responsibility. That said, responsible management of childbearing does not seem to be defiant of God’s command to “be fruitful and multiply” so long as t...
State of the Covenant [126] -- encore
January 02, 2023 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn share their method of critically assessing the state of their own marital intimacy and some tips on how to have the conversation about setting goals for better connection. For real progress in your marriage, it’s important to critically evaluate the past and to set goals for the future. A thorough evaluation of your marriage should include assessment of each realm of intimacy: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. In setting relationship goals, I need t...
What Do I Want For My Marriage? [125] -- encore
December 26, 2022 06:00 - 35 minutes - 24.6 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn consider the question, "What do I want from my marriage?" Is there a better question as we consider New Year's resolutions for our marriages? Mature past the selfish motivations of relationship and begin to see the true fulfillment of covenant love built on self-sacrifice — in your marriage and in your relationship to God. For this new year (and everyday), ask the questions, “What do I want FOR my marriage?” “What more can I give TO this covenant?” Begin the a...
Great Wedding Gifts [124]
December 19, 2022 06:00 - 30 minutes - 21.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn suggest some meaningful wedding gift ideas that may not be on the engaged couple's registry. Rather than an arbitrary choice from the wedding registry, consider a more thoughtful and relationship-focused wedding gift for the newlyweds in your life. Providing resources for date nights or getaways is a great way to invest in a young couple. Professional counseling or coaching can be an incredibly impactful gift to help provide relationship and communication tool...
Tips for a Great Honeymoon [123]
December 12, 2022 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.3 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice and tips for planning a a special and intimate honeymoon experience. We're continuing our series aimed at not-yet-married couples. Share this episode with engaged couples that you know to help them avoid common pitfalls that lead to honeymoon disappointment. When planning your honeymoon, be mindful of the purpose of your honeymoon — i.e. to begin to explore your new sexual relationship and build a foundation for intimate connection. Prior to the we...
Premarital Advice
December 05, 2022 06:00 - 42 minutes - 29.5 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice to couples who are not yet married, and to those of us who should be mentoring these premarital couples. Choosing your spouse is one of the most important and consequential decisions one will make. The way that we are dating will play an important part of getting this right. Premarital counseling, before and after engagement, is a crucially important investment in your future relationship. To best assess a potential spouse you need to be aware of ...
Sexy Gifts [121] -- encore
November 28, 2022 06:00 - 42 minutes - 29 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn offer advice about giving and receiving sexy gifts. Consider starting a sexy Christmas tradition. This is a great time to gift your sexual relationship by exchanging sexy presents and/or by making time for a Christmas Eve quickie. If you are a sexual pursuer, be sure that you are primarily considering what is best for encouraging sexual connection for your spouse. Sexual responders should consider how to get in the Christmas spirit by giving their beloved a g...
Keep Scrooge Out of Your Bedroom [120] -- encore
November 21, 2022 06:00 - 41 minutes - 28.2 MBIn this encore episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how to keep your relationship and your sex life from freezing over during the busy holiday season. Protect your spouse. Make sure they know that you’ve got their back. Approach your extended families with an “us vs. them” mentality. Prioritize your spouse and your relationship. You absolutely MUST make time to continue to connect with your spouse, even at the expense of making others happy - even your kids. Plan ahead so that you are prepared to...
Better Sex Despite Conflicts [119]
November 14, 2022 06:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss how the sexual relationship can sometimes be a pathway to help smooth and heal emotional or spiritual conflicts. Rather than seeing your relational conflicts as a barrier to your sex life, consider that investing in your sexual relationship can be an important tool to build and strengthen your whole marriage. Recognize the power of the sexual pathway to connection. A meaningful sexual connection can open up emotional and spiritual channels of connectio...
Sexual Warning Signs [118]
November 07, 2022 06:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss characteristics of your sexual relationship that may be pointing to some deeper and broader issues in your marriage. Your sexual relationship doesn’t happen in a bubble. It is a reflection of the whole of your relationship and is affected by the quality of your spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy. If there are signs of an unhealthy sexual relationship in your marriage, stop ignoring them and find someone to help. Please support these companies t...
The Fallacy of Foreplay [117]
October 31, 2022 05:00 - 41 minutes - 28.8 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn challenge the mind set of "foreplay." Is there a better way to think about the process of building sexual arousal? The concept of “foreplay” may be counterproductive to a godly and healthy view of sexuality since this idea limits a definition of sex to just intercourse and promotes the goal of sex as orgasm. Instead, consider embracing the idea of “simmering” — a general tone of frequent acknowledgment and engagement of sexual arousal, desire, and play. Embrac...
Oral Sex, part 2 -- tips and techniques [116]
October 24, 2022 05:00 - 36 minutes - 25.1 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn continue the conversation about oral sex -- tips and techniques to help make oral sex more comfortable and pleasurable for the giver and the receiver. There are plenty of ways to help make oral sex more pleasant and more pleasurable, especially for the hesitant spouse. For the giver or receiver, be creative, offer feedback and be curious about each other’s desires and needs. Whether this is something you’ve never tried or something you do every Tuesday, oral s...
Oral Sex [115]
October 17, 2022 05:00 - 43 minutes - 29.6 MBIn this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss moral, emotional and physical aversions to oral sex. How does a hesitant giver or receiver confront your blocks? Oral sex is as biblically acceptable as any other means of sexual intimacy. Whether or not you incorporate oral sex into your marriage bed is ultimately up to you and your spouse. But, we hope we can encourage you to find as many ways as possible to share sexual pleasure in your marriage bed. Consider any physical, emotional, or spiritual bl...