Intimacy Matters
13 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 days ago -Intimacy Matters is a podcast all about love, sex and relationships. Join qualified sex and relationship therapist Nicola Foster and her partner Jason Porthouse as they talk about all aspects of sexuality and relating. Featuring occasional guests who are also experts in the field of intimacy. Whatever your stage in life - whether single or dating or in a long-term partnership; whether a couple or a thruple or a moresome; friends-with-benefits to happily married, and all flavours in-between - you'll find enlightening discussions and plenty of thought-provoking ideas in our fortnightly show.
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Endings
April 21, 2024 20:00 - 39 minutes - 27.1 MBEndings, though difficult, are an essential part of life. Whether it's a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one, endings can be traumatic. In the podcast we talk about how society often downplays the significance of endings, offering clichés like "plenty more fish in the sea," which fails to acknowledge the pain and complexity of separation. Research shows that the pain of a breakup can trigger physical responses similar to those of physical injury. Heartbreak is real and can have a p...
Desire Discrepancy
April 10, 2024 05:00 - 39 minutes - 27.1 MBWelcome to the latest episode of the Intimacy Mattters podcast where we dive into intimacy and relationships. Highlights of this episode include: Sex Frequency: How often is "normal"? Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire: Why knowing the difference makes ALL the difference. Navigating Differences: Contrary to popular belief, sex can improve with time through exploration, communication, and a shift away from performance-based attitudes. Initiation Strategies: We share some playful approac...
C is for Consent
March 26, 2024 01:00 - 30 minutes - 20.9 MBIn this episode, hosts Nicola and Jason dive into the crucial topic of consent within established relationships. We explore the dynamics of consent using the "wheel of consent" framework, addressing common questions and concerns about ongoing consent. Emphasizing open communication and mutual respect, we reflect on our own experiences with non-consensual touch and discuss practical ways to ensure boundaries are respected. Consent isn't just a one-time conversation—it's an ongoing dialogue t...
Silva Neves - The Myth Of Sex Addiction
March 12, 2024 01:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBIn this episode Nicola and Jason talk to author and psychotherapist Silva about the myths surrounding 'sex addiction'. It's become a buzzword of late, with celebrities caught in the 'Me Too' movement citing it as a reason for their behaviour. In his book 'Compulsive Sexual Behaviours', Silva challenges the notion that sex can be addictive at all, and provides a pathway towards healing for those who feel they do have a problem. In this wide ranging talk we'll bust some common misconceptions...
The Power Of Both / And - Embracing Creative Tension
February 27, 2024 01:00 - 27 minutes - 18.9 MBAre you tired of the never-ending battle over how to load the dishwasher? 🍽️ Do you and your partner feel like you're constantly at odds? 🤔 In our latest podcast episode, we explore the fascinating concept of polarity in relationships and how it impacts every aspect of our lives. Join us as we discuss: The two types of people who load dishwashers: the precision-driven Scandinavian architect 🏠 and the free-spirited raccoon on meth 🦝 How pushing each other into polarities can create unnec...
A is for Appreciation
January 30, 2024 20:00 - 31 minutes - 22 MBWe're back! After a LONG hiatus (the longest in podcast history?) Intimacy Matters returns. In this episode we tell you some of what's been going on, what will be coming up, and begin with our A to Z of Relating with 'Appreciation'. Show notes: Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy If you'd lik...
Adam Wilder - Togetherness, Intimacy and Sovereignty.
May 23, 2021 22:00 - 51 minutes - 35.5 MBIn this episode we talk to Adam Wilder about all sorts of interesting stuff - how Togetherness, his school of connection and online community, started; safety versus authenticity (and how to navigate between them); the collective and the individual; 'us and them' and how we can use our common experiences to foster connection. We also touch on men's work, how we bring connection into our intimate relationships, saying no, how Dutch people break up with friends, notions of sovereignty and much...
Ruth Culver - From Surviving to Thriving
May 08, 2021 23:00 - 48 minutes - 33 MBRuth Culver talks to us about the fascinating world of Internal Family Systems therapy, and her work linking IFS with Polyvagal Theory. Sounds complex? You'll be an expert after this podcast, which is full of learning and warmth too. Ruth talks about how we process trauma and how IFS can help us to gently access this and ultimately heal ourselves and our relationships. Ruth's website can be found here: http://calmheart.co.uk Her Survive/Thrive diagram can be dowloaded here (requires emai...
Jan Day - The Art Of Conscious Relationships
April 26, 2021 07:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MBWe talk to acclaimed relationship and intimacy expert Jan Day. We discuss Living Tantra, her school of intimacy and relating, and her forthcoming book. We look at what constitutes a conscious relationship and how to cultivate one, and get some advice on practices that couples can use to help keep intimacy alive in long term relationships. For more information visit Jan's website: www.janday.com And you can find us at www.realrelating.com/podcast If you're ready to take the next step in ...
Janet McGeever - Sex and the Menopause
April 11, 2021 08:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBJanet McGeever is an educator, speaker, psychotherapist and author, based in Australia. Together with Diana Richardson she wrote Tantric Sex and the Menopause, and regularly hosts women's and couples workshops in Australia. We chat to Janet about her background and path to becoming a teacher, menopause issues, how we change as we age, the differences between the sexual response of men and women, and much much more. Janet can be found here: www.janetmcgeever.com If you're ready to take th...
Introducing Intimacy Matters
March 28, 2021 12:00 - 20 minutes - 14 MBIn which our intrepid duo lay out their stall. Why a podcast? What is Intimacy Matters all about? What do we hope to achieve, and what can you, dear listener, expect? And finally, what does Alanis Morissette have to do with ANY of this? All will be revealed ... Contact us here: www.realrelating.com If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy can be found here at www.realrelating.com/reignitingintimacy If you'd like to contac...
Cate Mackenzie - Bridging, Flirting and being an Octopus
March 28, 2021 12:00 - 47 minutes - 32.4 MBWe chat to sex and relationship therapist Cate Mackenzie about being in lockdown with your partner, the importance of flirting and the difference between Turtles and Octopuses. Cate introduces us to the practice of Bridging as away of enhancing communication, and the importance of 'going slow'. We also find out how it was to do couples therapy 'live' on air with Denise Van Outen and fiancé Eddie! Cate's website is here: www.catemackenzie.com And you can find us at www.realrelating.com ...
Kalindi Jordan: Shame, Healing and Sensuality
March 24, 2021 19:00 - 53 minutes - 37 MBKalindi Jordan is a teacher working with women and couples to help them reclaim their innate sensuality. We talk to her about the roots of shame, coming back to the body, giving and receiving, and the effects of trauma in blocking our pleasure. We look at the importance of working with others to help healing, and the power of group work. Kalindi can be found here: kalindijordan.com If you're ready to take the next step in deepening your connection, Nicola's course Reigniting Intimacy ca...