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INFP Thrive for Enneagram 9s

39 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 months ago -

A show for gentle souls who are ready to shine. INFP Enneagram 9s are reserved yet passionate dreamers and creative thinkers who often put the needs of others first. That doesn’t mean we don’t have our own ambitions and desires. To achieve them, we must become more visible. In this experimental audio diary, host Sarah Mikutel stretches out of her comfort zone to work through what it takes to step out of the shadows and into the spotlight.

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Conflict: 4 Stoic Solutions for Managing Difficult Conversations

February 02, 2024 11:00 - 8 minutes - 5.74 MB

Why do we get angry? How can we challenge our immediate reactions? And what's the best way to articulate our feelings without passive aggression or a blow-up?  In this episode, you'll learn four Stoic tips to turn potential conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and stronger relationships. Become a member of the Live Without Borders Community ❤️ Let’s continue the conversation. Head on over to my blog on Substack for more on how to thrive through better communication, Stoicism, a...

Find the Good in this Very Moment

November 25, 2023 17:00 - 10 minutes - 7.56 MB

I’m reading David Fideler’s excellent book Breakfast with Seneca, where he quotes Seneca in one of his letters:  “If you want to escape your troubles, you don't need to be somewhere else: you need to be someone else.”  Those searching for meaning or purpose in life might think a new place will provide answers. But a new location, a new job, a new partner doesn’t guarantee a better life or a fresh start.  Finding purpose involves understanding your values, interests, and goals. It’s intern...

4 Best Tips to Communicate with Intent and Impact (Stoic style)

November 05, 2023 14:00 - 17 minutes - 12.1 MB

Our intentions don’t always line up with our outcomes, and misunderstandings lead to anger, sadness, frustration, and conflict. In this episode, I’ll talk about intent vs impact, which is more important, and how to effectively and ethically communicate your intentions. Of course, I’ll be weaving in the timeless wisdom of the Stoics. Hi, I’m Sarah Mikutel, your communication and mindset coach, an Enneagram 9 expat in England, and practicing Stoic.  Introverts come to me to learn to speak con...

Overcome Speaking Anxiety with Stoic Psychology

October 14, 2023 14:00 - 20 minutes - 14 MB

Introvert Emergency Kit   Click here if you're ready to become a less anxious, more charismatic public speaker. When it comes to public speaking, what exactly are you afraid of?  Most people I talk to don’t explore their fears at all – and this makes them worse.  The thought of public speaking brings up such uncomfortable feelings that they try to ignore them or stuff them down – which is why they continue to suffer from speaking anxiety, one of the most common fears in the world.  How i...

How to Stop (Negative) Self-Comparison and Increase Your Confidence

July 31, 2023 14:00 - 21 minutes - 14.6 MB

We often hear how negative self-comparisons can be, especially when it comes to social media. But what if we could use comparison as a force for good? A tool to help us grow and flourish at work and in our personal lives?  Great news, we can! Today you’ll learn how to stop negatively comparing yourself to others and start measuring your progress in healthier and more productive ways. Plus, you’ll learn the scientific theory about why you’re actually more likable the less perfect you are. H...

Stop Numbing Out and Start Thriving: Self-Mastery is an Act of Self-Love

July 15, 2023 10:00 - 30 minutes - 21 MB

Let's be real. We are smart people with an unhelpful habit of numbing out instead of taking action on our dreams.  If you relate with any of the following then listen to this episode ASAP: - find it difficult to stay motivated and focused on goals - tendency to give in to distractions and urges that hinder progress - struggle with procrastination and over-indulgence in unproductive activities - regularly break commitments to yourself but never other people We all have our vices. That c...

When People Interrupt You, Do This

June 24, 2023 12:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MB

Ever been cut off mid-sentence and feel a whirlwind of emotions – frustration, anger,  embarrassment? Why do we, as Enneagram 9s, take interruptions so personally, and how can we handle them with grace? I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel, and in this episode, I dive into effective communication and mindset strategies that will help you be seen and heard. By the end, you'll be equipped to handle interruptions confidently, communicate effectively, and enjoy life with less anxiety. https://sarahm...

Stoic Leadership: Lessons from the Greatest Generation

May 29, 2023 16:00 - 26 minutes - 18.3 MB

What do courage and resilience truly mean? This Memorial Day, I reflect on the incredible bravery of the 'Greatest Generation' during World War II, drawing inspiration from my visits to historic locations such as Auschwitz and Churchill's War Rooms in London. From blackouts to rationing, the everyday experiences of European civilians during WWII serve as a testament to human resilience. In the film Saving Private Ryan, a dying Captain Miller says to Matt Damon's character: "Earn this." ...

When You Think People Are Judging You

May 21, 2023 16:00 - 7 minutes - 4.9 MB

Have you ever noticed how our thoughts and reactions can create unnecessary stress, or cultivate empathy and understanding for others? On a recent flight to Florida, I was reminded of the power of perception and emotional resiliency. I share the story of passengers clapping after a smooth landing, the reactions of those around me as a father rushed to exit the plane, and how the simple words of a child turned turbulence into an exciting adventure. Inspired by the wisdom of Epictetus, we...

The Key to the Good Life: Who You’re With on the Journey

February 05, 2023 12:00 - 22 minutes - 15.2 MB

Harvard researchers have been studying what makes people happy for decades.  Since 1938, they’ve been following the same people, and then their families, to learn more about what makes a good life. This is the longest-running study of its kind involving hundreds of people across different walks of life. JFK was even involved when he was a student.  So what did they discover in this happiness survey?  Money, fame, and awards don’t lead to long-term happiness. Here’s what does — good relati...

Sign Up Now: Goal-Setting Workshop Jan 14

January 12, 2023 20:00 - 3 minutes - 2.47 MB

I’m hosting a 2023 Goal-Mapping Workshop on Jan. 14. It’s free and a replay will be available for a few days after if you register in advance.  This isn’t a lecture – it’s a very interactive session. You’ll: Create a vision for your year that aligns with your values and priorities Break down your big goals into manageable tasks that don't overwhelm you Develop a plan of action to stay on track and avoid procrastination Prioritize your tasks and projects in a way that helps you stay focu...

Keep Your Commitments: The Real Reason People Won’t Change

January 08, 2023 12:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MB

Around January 1, we set goals that we intend to keep. But most of us break these vows before the month is over – why? What’s the real reason people won’t change? And how can we use Stoicism and modern psychology to start?   To truly be free and move forward, we need to cultivate helpful thoughts and let go of unhelpful ones. This is how we become resilient and learn to flow with life instead of fighting it.    But what if you’re not even aware of your unhelpful thoughts?    I’ve talke...

Auld Lang Syne: What It Means and Why It Matters

January 01, 2023 22:00 - 5 minutes - 3.9 MB

What does Auld Lang Syne mean and why is its message so important? Find out in this episode. Also, Happy New Year! What are your intentions for this year? https://sarahmikutel.com/ Become a member of the Live Without Borders Community ❤️ Let’s continue the conversation. Head on over to my blog on Substack for more on how to thrive through better communication, Stoicism, and global exploration.  We can chat together in the comments and I have fab bonuses for paid subscribers. Or, you can ...

This Is Your Second Chance: Stay Present For It

December 23, 2022 23:00 - 16 minutes - 11.2 MB

It’s that time of year when we encourage each other to slow down, appreciate what we have, and be present with others. But how do we stay in the moment when our minds keep drifting to what’s happening next week, or what occurred 10 years ago? That’s what this episode is about. Sarahmikutel.com Become a member of the Live Without Borders Community ❤️ Let’s continue the conversation. Head on over to my blog on Substack for more on how to thrive through better communication, Stoicism, and glo...

Goals! How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions

January 02, 2022 18:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MB

“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life,” Seneca says, “it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today.” Seneca, On the Shortness of Life. Most of us don’t follow through on our New Year’s Resolutions because we treat them like wishes and not goals. Ideally, if we want to achieve a goal, we map out a plan to achieve it and follow through. Today’s episo...

How to Live More Courageously Part 2

December 26, 2021 18:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MB

Quick reminder in case you need it…Even if you don’t feel like a particularly courageous person, you’ve acted bravely at some point in your life. Maybe you stood up for someone. Traveled solo. Moved abroad. Said no. Admitted when you were wrong. Jumped out of a plane. Cried in front of someone.  You have what it takes to show up courageously every day, but that doesn’t just magically happen. Here are four daily practices you can do to build your courage (a core Stoic virtue)  and resiliency...

How to Live More Courageously Part 1

December 19, 2021 22:00 - 18 minutes - 12.5 MB

We live in an age of cowards. Of people going along with the crowd because it’s the easy thing to do. It feels safer to throw stones at the other side than it does to stand for something positive and hopeful. There’s risk in questioning things and seeking other perspectives, whereas joining in the mob costs us nothing (except perhaps our character). Courage is about stretching out of your comfort zone and doing the right thing. You won’t always get congratulated for that, but, when it comes...

How to Manage Your Mind

December 05, 2021 21:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MB

Most of our suffering comes from thoughts that we let run wild in our brains.  We spend a lot of time each day rehashing different conversations and situations in our mind, and we think that we’re just reviewing facts. But we’re not. We’re reflecting on our own points of view, assuming what others think, worrying about the future, and ruminating about the past. The ancient Stoics understood that our thoughts are nothing more than stories we tell ourselves.  And modern mental health profes...

How Long Will You Wait Before You Demand the Best for Yourself?

November 28, 2021 20:00 - 15 minutes - 10.9 MB

Janus is the Roman god of beginnings and endings, transitions and passageways, doorways and duality, amongst several other things.  And he was one of my favorite sculptures in my town’s art Triennial this year, formally known as the Creative Folkestone Triennial 2021.  High up on the East Cliff, in a little park overlooking the ocean, stood this massive head of Janus, who’s typically portrayed with two faces, one facing toward the future and the other face looking toward the past.  That's...

How to Enjoy More Euphoric Days & Make Better Decisions by Listening to the Wisdom of Your Body

July 20, 2021 10:00 - 19 minutes - 13.3 MB

A few months ago, I downloaded the Waking Up meditation app. Founder Sam Harris compares the average mind with a sky clouded with light pollution. He says that meditation is like building a telescope that can cut through that fogginess so you can access “the sky of the mind.”  And that’s what the Enneagram and Stoicism help us do, as well. Cut through the clouds to get more clarity and set us free from our patterns. But we can’t change who we are by simply thinking about it, or passively r...

Anger and the Enneagram

July 13, 2021 18:00 - 24 minutes - 17 MB

In my episode on Stoicism and the Art of Happiness, Donald Robertson offered some techniques we can use to manage our anger toward people who hold views that we strongly disagree with. Today I want to talk to you about becoming more aware of your anger style, and to share more practices you can use to conquer your anger and also to learn from it. And you might learn about your partner or parent’s anger style, as well. Because we don’t all experience anger in the same way. Some people think...

Ancient Wisdom that will Change Your Life: The Story of Marcus Aurelius

July 04, 2021 21:32 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MB

For several years I've been interviewing women like myself who packed up everything to start a new adventure in another part of the world. One of the core values that I talk about is that we will never have this day again -- make it matter. It's my softer way of saying 'If you died tomorrow, would you be satisfied with how you lived this day?' I knew I didn't invent this way of thinking but I didn't realize that Stoics have been talking about this for thousands of years until I learned abo...

Stoicism and the Art of Happiness

June 27, 2021 15:22 - 28 minutes - 19.4 MB

Even though I haven't lived in the U.S. for 10 years, I've been in Italy and England for most of this time, I still pay close attention to my home country. At the time of this recording, it's 2020. The U.S. just ended the most contentious and vitriolic political campaign season I've seen in my lifetime. I see the divisiveness and bitter partisanship. People are becoming more tribal. Canceling out opposing views. At the same time people seem desperate for connection and to be part of someth...

Enneagram 101

January 03, 2021 15:47 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MB

[UPDATE: I've since changed the name of my newest podcast to LIVE Without Borders, merging it with my original travel and wellbeing podcast. The purpose: Freedom is about more than getting on a plane. It’s about becoming the most heroic version of yourself. I want to help you live your best life without literal or self-imposed borders.] Why hello there. The holiday season has just about come to an end, but I hope you are still finding time to relax this weekend. If you’re looking for somet...

Introducing Part of Something Greater

January 03, 2021 15:47 - 29 minutes - 40.7 MB

Why hello there. The holiday season has just about come to an end, but I hope you are still finding time to relax this weekend. If you’re looking for something to listen to, I wanted to let you know about my new personal transformation podcast, Part of Something Greater, a show for peacefully ambitious people who are ready for more peace, happiness, and connection in their life. I’ll be talking a lot about raising self awareness through Stoicism and the Enneagram and while all 9 types can ...

You Deserve to Be Your Biggest Advocate

November 08, 2020 22:49 - 8 minutes - 6.05 MB

What do you do when someone takes advantage of you or tells YOU how YOU'RE feeling? You might want to cozy up in bed with a pillow on your head. But advocating for yourself and tackling the problem head on will make you feel better. You deserve to be your biggest advocate :) Xo Sarah Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to...

Ask for Help

November 01, 2020 19:11 - 4 minutes - 3.04 MB

Are you treating yourself as well as you treat your best friend? The next time you find yourself holding back when you want to ask for help, consider how you'd respond if a friend asked the same of you. Xo Sarah Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you get there? Visit sarahmikutel.com to learn how we can work together to help you achieve more peace, happiness, and positive transformation in ...

You Matter. Your Voice Matters.

October 25, 2020 19:44 - 7 minutes - 5.47 MB

Do you feel like you matter? When I first learned about the Enneagram, I resonated with almost everything there was to say about 9s, except the idea that we think we're not important, that we don't matter. "That doesn't resonate with me. Of course I matter," I thought.  But this weekend I've been reflecting on how I've actually lived my life and had some real moments of clarity that might help you, too. Xo Sarah Mikutel Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who ...

Growth Mindset and the Power of Yet for INFP Enneagram 9s

August 02, 2020 20:51 - 13 minutes - 9.12 MB

Last year around this time, I went to the beach with my mom. She was flipping through Real Simple magazine, which is our favorite beach read, and one of the articles posed this question: “What book has had the greatest impact on your life?” I immediately knew that the book that changed my life the most was Mindset by Carol Dweck, who is a psychologist, Stamford professor, and one of the world's leading researchers on motivation. You heard me reference this book in the last episode. Minds...

Find Your Focus: How to Add More Peaceful Productivity to Your Life

July 19, 2020 19:00 - 42 minutes - 29.5 MB

Are you having a hard time getting things done? Maybe you’re a daydreamer. Maybe something is going on with your family. Maybe you’re devastated at the state of the world. Maybe you’re happy and hopeful and jumping around from thing to thing because you’re so excited. Maybe you have ADHD like today’s guest. I’m speaking with my friend Emily Prokop, podcast editor, host of the Story Behind, and co-host of the Hate to Weight podcast. Emily and I have a lot in common, including being recover...

Let Future You Take Care of It

July 05, 2020 09:55 - 7 minutes - 4.94 MB

Are you overthinking something right now and can’t seem to move forward?  I have a simple yet very powerful mindset mantra that will get you moving in the right direction: "Let Future You take care of it." Whoah! So simple yet such a powerful mindset shift.  I heard this idea from one of my online business mentors, Elizabeth Goddard. Here's what she means by 'let future you take care of it': Have faith that Future You will have the experience and the context to make the right decisions. ...

Are You Choosing Alive Time or Dead Time?

May 24, 2020 19:25 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MB

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been walking around coastal England and marveling at how nature just keeps going. The tulips here are so red and lush and full of life. The birds are singing, the sun is shining, the waves keep crashing as they always do. They don’t pause when there's a pandemic or when there's any other type of crisis in the world. We can learn from them. Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to b...

Are You Choosing Alive Time or Dead Time?

May 24, 2020 19:25 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MB

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been walking around coastal England and marveling at how nature just keeps going. The tulips here are so red and lush and full of life. The birds are singing, the sun is shining, the waves keep crashing as they always do. They don’t pause when there's a pandemic or when there's any other type of crisis in the world. We can learn from them. Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to b...

How to Make Faster Decisions as an INFP 9

April 19, 2020 21:05 - 10 minutes - 7.22 MB

Do you ever feel like you're a workaholic who never gets anything done? I felt like this for so long. When I started my own business, I really, really struggled with moving forward and taking action. I got stuck in rabbit holes and analysis paralysis and spent so many days and nights, including weekends when I could have been seeing my friends, staying home because I had to work. But then I would look at the clock. The entire day had passed and I couldn't point to anything that I had done ...

A Conversation with a Myers Briggs Coach, and My Friend, Caitlin Hawekotte

April 05, 2020 14:09 - 50 minutes - 34.5 MB

Today I’m sharing a podcast episode I did with my friend Caitlin Hawekotte, who is an MBTI® Certified Practitioner, which means that she administers and interprets the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® assessment to help people discover more about their personality types and preferences. I actually shared this episode on both of my other podcasts because I loved it so much and I thought you might get a lot out of it, as well. Learning how people think about and process our world, especially thos...

Now is Your Time to Lead as an INFP Enneagram 9

March 29, 2020 20:37 - 10 minutes - 7.05 MB

Hello from lock down in the UK. I’m sending you a big virtual hug wherever you are waiting out the COVID-19 coronavirus. Do you feel like you’re the only one not losing your mind grapes right now? Or maybe you were feeling really calm, but easing the anxiety of others is weighing on you and now you’re freaking out? I imagine we’ll feel a range of emotions while sheltering at home. As Enneagram 9s, our go-to feeling is calm, and the world needs this energy. Now is our time to step up as lea...

What Does It Mean to be an INFP Enneagram 9?

March 29, 2020 19:53 - 8 minutes - 5.88 MB

New to Myers Briggs and the Enneagram? I am. I’ve been digging in deeper with both these assessments this year, especially the Enneagram, and I’m obsessed! I believe personal development is essential to living a happy, meaningful life and that we should explore tools not only to understand ourselves better, but also those around us. In this episode, I share definitions of the INFP personality type from 16Personalities, and of the 9 Type from the Enneagram Institute. Resources 16Personali...

Expat Life: How I Learned to Thrive as an INFP Enneagram 9

March 29, 2020 19:37 - 13 minutes - 9.34 MB

As INFP Enneagram 9s, we don’t always love putting ourselves out there publicly, but that doesn’t mean we’re not dream chasers. On this episode, I share how I, as an American, achieved my dream of living abroad. It all started with me scrubbing bathtubs as a chambermaid in England, where I lived in a converted stable. Humbling for sure, but an experience I wouldn’t trade for the world. I also get into three big life lessons that I’ve learned as an expat/entrepreneur that can apply to anyon...

Welcome to INFP Thrive for Enneagram 9s

February 05, 2020 18:20 - 2 minutes - 1.66 MB

Does this sound familiar? ✔️ The weekend passed by in a blur of busyness, but you’re not sure what you actually did and somehow your to-do list got longer. ✔️ You’re a rock star at helping others achieve their goals. But your dreams fall to the bottom of your priority list. Imagine how amazing it would feel if you fought as hard for yourself as you did for everyone else.  Hi, I’m Sarah Mikutel, a clarity coach who helps Enneagram 9s replace anxiety, overwhelm, and procrastination with ca...