I'm Perfectly Fine Without You
22 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 8 years ago - ★★★★ - 6 ratingsSound piece "I’m Perfectly Fine Without You" by Daisy Patton is an ongoing project that discursively explores the perspectives of children of absent fathers through their own memory. A collection of tenuous yet emotionally charged recollections, the sole criterion is that their father was missing during childhood, with the only exception being death. The voices of the participants together form a kind of confessional, with you the listener as the recipient of their now unconcealed, personal divulgences.
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BC
November 14, 2015 07:30 - 9.18 MBWe don’t really have a great relationship…but I’m okay with that. I’m okay with that, but it’s also a little frustrating because we have had a good relationship at one point. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_BC/BC.mp3
HH
November 14, 2015 07:21 - 21.8 MBIt’s difficult to think, you know, how much do I owe my parents? What should I—what should I give up for them? I still haven’t resolved it…on the one hand, he gave me something in my childhood that nobody else could. But on the other, I don’t think I’m equipped to be able to help […]
TA
November 14, 2015 07:02 - 5.69 MBYou know, I don’t know if this is going to affect me. But surprisingly it did, you know. It just–it fit everything together that I didn’t know it needed to be fitted together. It just answered a lot of questions that I had inside of me. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_TA/TA.mp3
CC
March 14, 2013 09:18 - 11.8 MBYou know, “why can’t you have the time for me?” and “why don’t you care enough not to be drunk around me?” Like…”do you realize how much your actions have warped my life?” Like…”just what makes you think you can throw a little girl down the stairs?” Like, “what makes you think you can do […]
CR
March 14, 2013 06:37 - 26.6 MBI technically do have him there for me, and he was there, I guess, some of the time. But I mean…I really only remember the absence. It’s really true, like, I only remember the absence. http://archive.org/download/CRfullfile/CR.mp3
IR
March 11, 2013 07:08 - 18.7 MBThey always seem to want to redeem him, you know, try to like make him into someone I do want to get to know. But it only makes it worse, and I think they fail to realize that. http://archive.org/download/IRfullfile/IR.mp3
NE
March 11, 2013 07:03 - 13.3 MBWhen anybody says like, asks me questions about my “mommy and daddy” or my “mom and dad” or “your parents,” plural, it just makes me feel funny inside just cuz it makes me feel like people are ignorant, a little bit, and they don’t realize how many single parents there are… http://archive.org/download/NEfullfile/NE.mp3
RN
March 10, 2013 08:12 - 10.4 MBI think I wanted him cuz I was supposed to, but when I actually think of who my father is, like, I would not want him around more because we would just argue and he just annoys me. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_RN/RN.mp3
JM
April 27, 2012 23:59 - 7.98 MBWhy are you trying to pull me away? I’m perfectly fine without you. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_JM/JM.mp3
AR
April 25, 2012 23:20 - 13.6 MBWhat is there to say for a guy who’s never around, who you’ve talked to maybe three times, and your only memory is a horrible one from when you were a little kid? There’s not much to say. http://archive.org/download/ARfullfile/ARMaster.mp3
DI
April 25, 2012 23:18 - 34.9 MBThe most heart-wrenching thing for me is that it was my father’s decision. That my mother said please don’t, I will never talk about my feelings again if you just won’t leave me. http://archive.org/download/DIfullfile/DIMaster.mp3
QG
April 25, 2012 23:00 - 16.5 MBThere should be good memories, but there just aren’t any. Guess that’s something I’ll always have and unfortunately will never be able to get over. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_QG/QG.mp3
WY
April 25, 2012 22:57 - 22.4 MBBut that name is obviously not the same name of the guy that I grew up with. http://archive.org/download/WYfullfile/WYMaster.mp3
MS
April 25, 2012 22:56 - 21.7 MBYou feel like if you have a biological parent they would want to get to know who their children are? It’s so impersonal, like even though the minimal contact that he makes is so impersonal that I wish he didn’t make it at all. http://archive.org/download/MSfullfile/MSMaster.mp3
SA
April 25, 2012 22:54 - 13.3 MBI’m not ready to be okay with what happened. I’m not ready to forgive–I’m not ready to…to reward him, you know? Why should I contact you and have this relationship with you when…you didn’t? https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_SA/SA.mp3
AO
April 25, 2012 22:51 - 14.7 MBI think it remains an unresolved issue and probably always will create some sort of structural weakness in me… https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_AO/AO.mp3
EL
April 25, 2012 22:49 - 14.1 MBFrom an early age, I was not able to dream in the same ways or to think about life in such a positive way as many of the kids that were just thinking about cartoons. Like very early on, I realized that my parents were not a source of protection. Very early on, I realized […]
HIL
April 25, 2012 22:47 - 7.89 MBUm, my mom’s told me that when I was little I used to ask where he was, and it broke her heart because she didn’t want to tell me or she couldn’t tell me. There was nothing that would sort of relieve that curiosity in me… https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_HIL/HIL.mp3
LG
April 25, 2012 22:38 - 9.1 MBI am not your daughter. You didn’t have anything to do with raising me…You didn’t try to contact us for 14 years… https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_LG/LG.mp3
AH
April 25, 2012 22:36 - 10.8 MBI rather he die than I say any of the things I thought about him. Because I don’t want to–I feel like it’s too late for him anyway, you know, like there’s no reform. So I might as well let him just, like, die with the thought that perhaps his kids don’t hate him. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_AH/AH.mp3
YO
April 25, 2012 22:35 - 6.62 MBI don’t remember having a lot of anger, but I do remember the fights. https://archive.org/download/IPFWY_YO/YO.mp3
RI
April 25, 2012 19:40 - 20.9 MBHis absence was just as formative as his presence. And it’s just…it’s so forced. http://archive.org/download/RIfullfile/RIMaster.mp3