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286 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago - ★★★★★ - 193 ratings

So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will make it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

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Porn and Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer)

March 25, 2024 15:00 - 23 minutes - 16.5 MB

What is Polyvagal Theory? How can it help men outgrow porn? John Kilmer skillfully describes the autonomic nervous system and how to (re)shape it in order to experience regulation without unwanted sexual behavior. John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. John has completed the Foundations of Polyvagal Informed Practice Clinical Training Series with Deb Dana. He's a grateful follower of Jesus who is passionate about men's inner...

What Is God Doing In My Trauma? (with Matt Wenger)

March 18, 2024 15:00 - 20 minutes - 14.4 MB

We need a theology of trauma. In this episode, Matt Wenger powerfully invites us to view our trauma through the lens of Jesus's life, death, and resurrection. This episode is a preview of our new online course at healyourtrauma.com Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for Christian men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. Boulder Recovery uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences ...

How To Create Connection In Any Conversation (LIVE)

March 11, 2024 15:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MB

Do you long for connection, but it feels impossible? In this episode, you'll learn extremely simple tools and techniques to create connection in any conversation—using your eyes, face, voice, and words. Helpful phrases: Tell me more… What’s it like for you... How does that affect you? That makes sense (because)... It sounds like / I hear you saying… It seems like something shifted… That stood out to me… Resources mentioned (including paid links): Attunement: The Key To Connection, ...

Why Men Don't Talk About Their Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

March 04, 2024 16:00 - 1 hour - 71 MB

There are over 40 reasons why men don't talk about their sexual abuse. Let's break the silence. In this episode hosted by Mike Chapman and Doug Carpenter, survivors of sexual abuse share vulnerable stories of harm and healing. Mike Chapman is a Certified Husband Material Coach and the leader of the HM fellowship for survivors of sexual abuse. Contact Mike at polarlifeconsulting.com/contact Check out Mike's new podcast: Healing For Male Survivors Listen on Apple Listen on Spotify Dr. Do...

How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure (with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill)

February 26, 2024 16:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MB

What is full disclosure? When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure experts Dan Drake and Janice Caudill walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful. Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disc...

Full Disclosure: How To Tell Her About The Porn (with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill)

February 26, 2024 16:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MB

What is full disclosure? When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure experts Dan Drake and Janice Caudill walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful. Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disc...

Healthy Fantasy vs. Unhealthy Fantasy

February 19, 2024 16:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MB

Your imagination is not bad. Learn the 4 main types of fantasies, how to evaluate the healthiness of a fantasy, and what to do with your healthy/unhealthy fantasies! Related episodes: Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy Introduction To Sexual Symbolism How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material ...

A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)

February 12, 2024 16:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MB

What is grace, and how does it apply to sexual recovery? Jonathan Daugherty inspiringly explains how grace is not "soft" but the most powerful force for transformation and freedom from porn. Pride, shame, and comparison all melt away under the core truth that you are worth the life of God's son, and that can never change. Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken, and founder of the Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men. He also hosts the weekly radio program, Pure S...

Singleness & Same-Sex Attraction (with Dr. Greg Coles)

February 05, 2024 16:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MB

If you're single and you experience same-sex attraction, this episode is for you. Dr. Greg Coles offers insight, humor, delight, and hope that defies typical Christian categories of what a "good and beautiful life" can look like. Greg Coles is an author, speaker, and scholar at the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. Check out Greg's books (these are paid links): Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey Of Faith And Sexual Identity No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging In A World ...

Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

January 29, 2024 16:00 - 1 hour - 54.9 MB

What is the difference between outgrowing porn and purity culture? In this replay from The Porn Free Man Conference, you'll experience dramatic examples of what these two approaches look like, sound like, and feel like when you are... Reaching out to a friend after watching porn (failure vs. feedback) Sharing vulnerable parts of your story (harsh and critical vs. gentle and kind) Checking in with your small group (lots of accountability vs. lots of attunement) Feeling the urge to watch p...

Outgrowing Porn Through Parts Work (with Dr. Gerry Crete)

January 22, 2024 16:00 - 47 minutes - 33 MB

How can parts work help us outgrow porn? Dr. Gerry Crete combines Christian faith, internal family systems, attachment theory, and EMDR into a powerful approach to outgrowing porn. Learn why we need to work with parts pre-emptively, how to "break the spell" when you're in a trance state, and practical ways Jesus can meet our attachment needs. Dr. Gerry Crete is a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor who specializes in the treatment of trauma, addictions, and anxiety diso...

What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)

January 15, 2024 16:00 - 39 minutes - 27.4 MB

How can a husband help his wife during a trigger? Tammy Gustafson reveals what triggers are, how they affect your wife's brain, and what she needs after a trigger tornado has passed. Discover how her triggers can become opportunities for healing! Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR certified clinician, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is the founder of Betrayal Healing and host of the Betrayal Healing Conference. She is passionate ab...

Healing Through Artwork and Storywork (with Philip Leach and John Kilmer)

January 08, 2024 16:00 - 58 minutes - 40.3 MB

What happens when you combine storywork, artwork, and Jesus? Witness powerful healing in this live demonstration of HMA Coaching! As Drew shares a story of difficulty, chalk artisan Philip Leach creates a visual representation while coach John Kilmer offers attunement. Then we invite Jesus into the story and watch the chalk art change. The result is jaw-droppingly beautiful and incredibly meaningful. Watch the video of this episode here: husbandmaterial.com/blog/healing-through-artwork-and...

12 Reasons To Stop Shaming Yourself

January 01, 2024 16:00 - 20 minutes - 14.5 MB

Learn 12 reasons why shaming yourself doesn't help, what's more powerful than shame, and what you can do instead of shaming yourself. Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

How To Help Your Partner Heal (with Carol Sheets)

December 25, 2023 16:00 - 35 minutes - 24.7 MB

How can I help my partner heal from the impact of my porn and sex addiction? Psychotherapist and author Carol Sheets reveals what sexually betrayed partners need most, and how you can "help her heal" when you create safety, practice empathy, offer validation, and take ownership without going into shame. This episode is super practical and full of great ideas! Carol Juergensen Sheets (LCSW, CSAT) also known as "Carol The Coach" is the author of many books and workbooks about sex addiction an...

Blessing vs. Cursing Yourself & The Story Behind Your Porn (with Chris Bruno)

December 18, 2023 16:00 - 30 minutes - 21.1 MB

How do you shift from self-condemnation to self-compassion? Chris Bruno reveals how to discover the story behind your struggle with porn. You'll learn what it looks like to rediscover your true "masterpiece-ness" even in the throes of a porn relapse. Our deepest healing lies in turning to the God who knows and created us in His image. Chris Bruno leads Restoration Project and ReStory Counseling, where he helps people come alive. He is a licensed professional counselor who has decades of exp...

How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

December 11, 2023 16:00 - 1 hour - 41.5 MB

What can sexual fantasies teach us? How should we analyze them? In this episode, Drew and Doug vulnerably share and analyze each other's sexual fantasies so you can understand what this work practically looks like and how to do it well. The best place to start is Husband Material Academy, which opens up on January 1. Learn more at joinHMA.com Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community S...

Introduction To Sexual Symbolism

December 04, 2023 15:00 - 16 minutes - 11.3 MB

What desires are commonly symbolized by the penis, breasts, kissing, oral sex, nudity, diapers, and feet? Find out in this short and sweet introduction! Related episodes: Theology Of The Penis Unwanted Sexual Attraction Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies What Should I Do With My Sexual Desires? Here is the video I mentioned: Trauma and Sexual Fetish | Where Do Fetishes Come From? Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or w...

Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach (with Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson)

November 27, 2023 16:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MB

What is the Immanuel Approach? How can it help Christian men outgrow porn? Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson unpack this amazing way to change your brain and heal your heart through connecting with Jesus experientially. You'll also hear a refreshing reminder of how Jesus relates to you with unconditional love, even in your deepest shame. Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson are the founders of Face To Face Ministries. They are passionate heart healers who have dedicated their lives to activating a...

Can Medication Help Me Outgrow Porn? (with Adam O'Neill)

November 20, 2023 15:00 - 32 minutes - 22.1 MB

What if certain kinds of medication can make it easier to outgrow porn? Adam O'Neill unpacks the benefits and drawbacks of supplementing your sexual recovery with medication such as naltrexone. You'll get wisdom about what to expect and how to decide what's right for you. Adam also addresses common objections and concerns about receiving psychiatric assistance with compassion and clarity from a Christ-centered perspective. Here are the case reports Adam mentioned about naltrexone: Internet...

Can Psychiatric Medication Help Me Outgrow Porn? (with Adam O'Neill)

November 20, 2023 15:00 - 32 minutes - 22.1 MB

What if certain kinds of medication can make it easier to outgrow porn? Christian psychiatrist and author Adam O'Neill unpacks the benefits and drawbacks of supplementing your sexual recovery with medication such as naltrexone. You'll get wisdom about what to expect and how to decide what's right for you. Adam also addresses common objections and concerns about receiving psychiatric assistance with compassion and clarity from a Christ-centered perspective. Here are the case reports Adam men...

What Is A Pornographic Approach To Recovery?

November 13, 2023 16:00 - 33 minutes - 22.8 MB

How has porn impacted your approach to recovery? Learn 7 pornographic styles of recovery and what healthy recovery looks like instead. Pornographic recovery is: isolated escapist avoiding pain impatient passive/consuming cold and harsh. Healthy recovery is: relational embodied embracing pain resilient proactive/creative warm and kind The idea of "a pornographic style of recovery" is based on Andrew Bauman's concept of "a pornographic style of relating" (PSR) as described here:...

Helping Men Feel Safe To Open Up And Heal From Trauma (with Dr. James Reeves)

November 06, 2023 16:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MB

What helps men feel safe to open up and heal from trauma? Dr. James Reeves (the pirate pastor) tells the story of facing his childhood wounds, building a hospital church, and creating the Fearless Series—which is fantastic! The Fearless Series for Men is designed for Christian men to get the conversation started about childhood sexual, physical, or emotional trauma and how it has affected their lives. Check it out: The Fearless Series For Men: fs4men.com The Fearless Series For Women: fs...

How Porn Recovery Can Transform Your Church (with Sam Black)

October 30, 2023 15:00 - 32 minutes - 22.1 MB

What if your church was a safe space to outgrow porn? Sam Black explains how porn recovery ministry leads to less work for pastors, more generous donors, more passionate volunteers, and a legacy of health for the next generation.  Sam Black is the Director of Recovery Education at CovenantEyes. He has edited 16 books on the impact of pornography and authored two: The Porn Circuit and The Healing Church. Buy Sam's new book (this is a paid link): The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong ...

How To Escape Creepy Conversations Before Sexting

October 23, 2023 15:00 - 27 minutes - 18.7 MB

Have you ever felt uncomfortable or unsafe while chatting online? In this episode, I’ll share practical tips on how to escape creepy conversations… and 5 reasons why we sometimes don’t. At the end, you’ll hear real-life examples of how I have responded to unwanted sexual communication.  Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn St...

Healing From Rejection, Racism, And Betrayal (with Roy Kim)

October 16, 2023 15:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MB

Have you ever been rejected? Roy Kim explains how rejection and internalized racism drove him to pornography. He also opens up about what it's like to struggle with with porn as a pastor—and as a male betrayed partner. Roy offers real hope through the power of compassion and community. Roy Kim, M.Div, CSAT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Southern California focusing on sexual addictions and betrayal trauma. He is a former pastor and enjoys partnering with pastors to educate ...

Porn And Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (with Andrew Loyd)

October 09, 2023 15:00 - 28 minutes - 19.9 MB

Do you know what it's like to struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) in addition to porn? Andrew Loyd does; he has also experienced years of freedom. In this episode, Andrew unpacks how OCD and unwanted sexual behavior can be related. With curiosity and compassion, he also highlights the path to healing. This episode is important! Andrew Loyd is the founder of Restored Story Coaching. He is an ordained minister, Certified Enneagram Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He ...

David’s Sexual Story (Sermon)

October 02, 2023 15:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MB

Who was David—the boy, the king, the sex offender? In this episode, you’ll see David’s sexual story from a new angle. You'll also get a taste of church with Husband Material Men through the dramatic reading of Scripture, confession of sin, assurance of pardon, and Christ-centered preaching by Drew Boa. This sermon was delivered on September 10, 2023 at the Husband Material Retreat. "God loves all parts of you and me. He did not come to destroy our parts. He came to redeem our parts." NO...

King David's Sexual Story (Sermon)

October 02, 2023 15:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MB

Who was King David—the boy, the man, the sex offender? In this episode, you'll see an old story with new eyes. You'll also get a taste of worshipping with Husband Material Men through the dramatic reading of Scripture, confession of sin, assurance of pardon, and Christ-centered preaching by Drew Boa. This sermon was delivered on September 10, 2023 at the Husband Material Retreat. "God loves all parts of you and me. He did not come to destroy our parts. He came to redeem our parts." NOTE...

David’s Sexual Story

October 02, 2023 15:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MB

Who was David—the boy, the king, the sex offender? In this episode, you’ll see David’s sexual story from a new angle. You'll also get a taste of church with Husband Material Men through the dramatic reading of Scripture, confession of sin, assurance of pardon, and Christ-centered preaching by Drew Boa. This sermon was delivered on September 10, 2023 at the Husband Material Retreat. "God loves all parts of you and me. He did not come to destroy our parts. He came to redeem our parts." NO...

David's Sexual Story (Sermon)

October 02, 2023 15:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MB

Who was David—the boy, the king, the sex offender? In this episode, you’ll see David’s sexual story from a new angle. You'll also get a taste of church with Husband Material Men through the dramatic reading of Scripture, confession of sin, assurance of pardon, and Christ-centered preaching by Drew Boa. This sermon was delivered on September 10, 2023 at the Husband Material Retreat. "God loves all parts of you and me. He did not come to destroy our parts. He came to redeem our parts." NO...

Reintegrative Therapy (with Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr.)

September 25, 2023 15:00 - 33 minutes - 23.2 MB

What is reintegrative therapy? Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr. explains his approach to treating trauma and how it can help men outgrow porn. Joseph also shares insights about sexual attraction, sexual development, euphoric recall, and the importance of being able to choose your own values and goals. Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr. is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, researcher, and clinical director at The Breakthrough Clinic in Southern California. He received his Ph.D. in 2009 from the Chicago ...

What To Do When You Feel The Urge To Watch Porn (with Dan Johnson)

September 18, 2023 15:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MB

How do you handle the intense urge to watch porn? This was Dan Johnson's dilemma. Dan struggled with porn for over 20 years. After re-confessing to his wife, putting filters on all his devices, joining a community of other men, and seeing a certified sex addiction therapist, he was still not experiencing the freedom he was longing for. In this episode, Dan shares the specific strategy he used to finally outgrow porn. Dan Johnson is a husband, a father, and the creator of The P.A.T.H. Plan a...

How To Heal Shame And Self-Contempt

September 11, 2023 10:00 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MB

Have you ever struggled with shame or self-contempt? In this episode, you'll learn the simple formula for healing shame through vulnerability and connection. You'll also hear a vulnerable, shame-filled part of my story I've never shared publicly. What if shame is actually not a curse, but a clue to our hearts and what we really need? Shame is a normal human emotion that shows us how much we care. Instead of using shame as a weapon, let’s use it as a window into where we need to heal. Tak...

Appropriate Touch Between Men (LIVE)

September 04, 2023 15:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MB

Touch is one of our most basic human needs. But many of us have been deprived. How can men outgrowing porn embrace healthy physical touch with each other—and prevent harm? Find out in this panel discussion with Certified Husband Material Coaches Drew Boa, Stephen Thomas, John Kilmer, and Mike Chapman.  You'll learn: the importance of safe touch for emotional and sexual development cultural differences in physical touch between men around the world rules about touch for members of the Hus...

Healing Your Marriage After Gay Porn (with Tamara Lichfield)

August 28, 2023 15:00 - 38 minutes - 26.7 MB

This episode answers unique questions for married men who have sexually acted out with gay porn or other men. You'll learn what partners go through upon discovery of gay porn, why transparency matters, and how we can pursue connection with other men while continuing to rebuild trust with our wives. Tamara Lichfield provides support for women who have experienced betrayal trauma at Becoming Shatterproof LLC.  Tamara has been trained by APSATS (Association of Partners Of Sex Addiction Treatme...

The Inner Child Challenge Workshop (LIVE)

August 21, 2023 15:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MB

In this workshop led by Drew Boa, you'll learn how to connect with your inner child like never before.  To complete the exercises, you will need: A piece of paper (digital documents will NOT work for this) 3 different crayons or colored pencils (if not, just use a pen) A posture of curiosity and willingness to try something new Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take t...

Why You Need A Recovery Action Plan (with Nick Stumbo & Trevor Winsor)

August 14, 2023 15:00 - 43 minutes - 30.3 MB

How do you take action after relapse for growth and healing without using shame or punishment? After a porn relapse, what do appropriate consequences look like? Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor are members of the Executive Team at Pure Desire Ministries. Together, they host the popular Pure Desire Podcast. Free tools mentioned in this episode: Recovery Action Plan (for when a relapse has occurred) Escape Plan (for when we are triggered or tempted) Relapse Prevention Plan (for day-to-day li...

From Rock Bottom To Recovery Coach (with George Morning)

August 07, 2023 15:00 - 51 minutes - 35.5 MB

In this episode, you'll hear the inspiring story of George Morning ("Coach G"). We talk about the challenges faced by black men and men of color in outgrowing porn—and how societal pressures, misconceptions, and the normalization of addiction intensify these challenges. Coach G highlights the importance of finding relatable support and the power of positive internal dialogue. George Morning (Coach G) is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach. After 30+ years as an addict and losing family, fi...

How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time

July 31, 2023 15:00 - 27 minutes - 18.7 MB

In this episode, I'll share 7 things that shifted my sexual fetish to become less intense, less frequent, less disruptive, and less arousing. NOTE: I believe trying to alter sexual attraction is both unethical and unhelpful. My fetish has not been removed or replaced, and that is not my goal. Rather, my fetish lost its power through a series of shifts that took place as I pursued healing and freedom from porn. Here are the 7 things that helped me: Talking about the fetish Understanding th...

A Story Of Healing Through Psychodrama (with Rick Carlson and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

July 24, 2023 15:00 - 32 minutes - 22.6 MB

What does psychodrama actually look like? In this episode, Rick Carlson tells the amazing story of his psychodrama process at the Husband Material Leaders Retreat. Register now for the upcoming Husband Material Retreat at husbandmaterial.com/retreat The early bird discount ends on August 1st. Rick Carlson is a Recovery Pastor, Life Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at comebackcoaching.org Dr. Doug Carpenter is an author, clinical psychologist, and Certified Husband...

Experience Healing Through Psychodrama (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

July 17, 2023 15:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MB

What is psychodrama? How can it help men outgrow porn?  In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why this powerful type of therapy creates profound healing experiences and accelerates freedom from porn. Picture this: you're on stage. You're the protagonist in your own drama, undoing and redoing the story of your life. But you're not alone. Your director is attuning to you. Your auxiliaries (other actors) are supporting you by playing the roles you need them to play. Your audience member...

I'm Fine Syndrome (with Stephen Thomas)

July 10, 2023 15:00 - 44 minutes - 30.5 MB

Have you ever pretended to be fine when you're really not? In this episode, Stephen Thomas explains "I'm Fine Syndrome"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and how to crush it. You'll learn the importance of honoring your wants and needs...and the power of being authentic. Admitting you're not fine is an act of bravery and the first step towards true freedom. Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has enjoyed freedom from porn and hookup culture for over 14 years. He is a Certified Hus...

Secrets Of Sex And Marriage (with Dr. Michael Sytsma)

July 03, 2023 15:00 - 43 minutes - 29.7 MB

"He said at 74, I am having the best sex of my life. At 74, my penis only occasionally shows up for the party. But I am still having the best sex of my life. I wish I had known in my thirties how to have this kind of sex." What is sex ultimately about? How can married couples enjoy sex more? How do you deal with differences in sexual desire? In this episode, Dr. Michael Sytsma offers a robust theology of sexuality AND clinical wisdom on how to unlock arousal, increase intimacy, and have fun...

Making Sense Of Masturbation: Case Studies And Spicy Questions (LIVE)

June 26, 2023 15:00 - 42 minutes - 29 MB

Can masturbation ever be neutral or healthy? In this episode, I'll explore complex moral questions about masturbation. Together with a live audience, we'll analyze 10 situations you may have never considered before: A toddler touches his penis to feel pleasure A young boy learns to masturbate from his uncle A teenager masturbates to regulate his emotions A teenager masturbates while imagining a cheeseburger A single man committed to celibacy discovers "core-gasm" A single man who has n...

Making Sense Of Masturbation: Science, Scripture, And My Story (LIVE)

June 19, 2023 15:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MB

What is masturbation? How does it affect the brain? What does the Bible (not) say about it? What will happen to me if I don't masturbate? In this episode, I'll share insights from neuroscience, the New Testament, and my own story of masturbation.  I've been researching this topic for the past 13 years...so I have a lot to share! You'll learn why myelination matters (even in masturbation without fantasy). You'll hear how masturbation combined with pornography has increased widespread erectil...

Porn And Third Culture Kids (with John Kilmer)

June 12, 2023 15:00 - 41 minutes - 28.6 MB

Growing up between worlds, third culture kids face unique challenges in developing their identity and sense of belonging. Can these experiences create a higher risk of struggling with pornography? John Kilmer reveals the impact of moving during crucial developmental stages, and how unprocessed grief and loss can lead to unwanted sexual behavior. Through John's story, we discover the burden AND the beauty of being a third culture man. John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational T...

Porn, Autism, and ADHD: Embracing Neurodiversity (with Candice Christiansen)

June 05, 2023 15:00 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MB

How do neurodifferences like ADHD and autism relate to unwanted sexual behavior? How can embracing neurodiversity help us heal and outgrow porn? Candice Christiansen offers powerful perspectives and practical advice. This interview is delightful! For neurodivergent individuals (and same or mixed neurotype couples) who are struggling, Candice is here to help you gain clarity to make your relationship, intimacy, and sex as enjoyable, wonderful, and pleasurable as possible! Candice Christians...

How To Confront Parents With Compassion

May 29, 2023 15:00 - 22 minutes - 15.3 MB

Have you ever thought about confronting a parent, but you're not sure how? In this episode, you'll learn the right questions to ask yourself when considering why and how to confront your parent(s) with compassion.  Three important questions to ask:  What happened (to them and to me)?  How do I feel about what happened?  What do I want going forward?  Recommended reading (paid link):  Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved P...

Healing With My Parents (with Yvonne Boa and Sandy Boa)

May 22, 2023 15:00 - 31 minutes - 22 MB

In this episode, my parents share the good and the bad of how they raised me, and how we are healing. It's a story of vulnerability, repentance, and redemption.  "All families have difficulties. If you bury them, you grow apart. If you get them on the table and solve them, then you can heal from that." —Sandy Boa  "Don't be afraid to go to the person and ask for forgiveness, because God's healing you and he's gonna heal the other person too. If you truly trust Him and you go with God, it's...

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