How We Get By
29 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 13 ratingsIn “how we get by” I seek to uncover the meaning behind what drives human creativity. We’ll explore stories that run the gamut of the human experience- from incredible joy and connection to the devastation of heart break and loss - all through the lense of creativity and work. I believe the way we make our money over our lifetime absolutely leaves a lasting, perhaps defining, imprint on our lives. For some of us, our jobs are an outlet where we express our creativity - and for others our jobs enable us to find joy in creative endeavors somewhere else in our lives. No matter which of these applies, each one of us is a "creative type". If you’ve ever struggled with creative shaming, or negative self talk around creative expression this podcast is for you. Many episodes will center on an individual and their job or chosen career path. This will be a starting point for discovery. Other episodes will be me speaking directly to you about things I’m noticing, uncovering or experiencing in my life with people that challenge me, encourage me, frustrate me etc.
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LEADERSHIP 🤔🧐🤥
October 05, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes - 15 MBWhat makes a great leader and why have we all suffered so long under the myopic, cis white male patriarchy that dominates the American workplace? This week I share some thoughts from the HWGB community, and talk a bit about what I think makes for great leadership, and what, well, doesn't. Let's dive in! Support the show
PROCRASTINATION 🙅🏼
September 21, 2021 12:00 - 24 minutes - 16.7 MBThis episode is near and dear my procrastinatin' heart! As creative humans it's easy to get hard on ourselves when we aren't coming up with our most creative xyz each time we sit down to work. Sometimes though it's more important to take that walk, watch tv, go on a hike, call a friend....whatever it is that will distract you. The idea is that your mind is hard at work in the background creating connections and insightful, novel, innovative ideas. Adam Grant's research also comes up in th...
CRINGE 😬
September 14, 2021 12:00 - 26 minutes - 17.9 MBI spend this episode exploring ideas around the self conscious emotion of embarassment and how that manifests physically for a lot of us as "cringe". I pull some examples from a quick community poll, and also use Brene Brown's research on emotional vocabulary to create context for some of the examples. yikes. Let's do this! Also- check out the PDF if you want to be EXTRA prepared. Support the show
Something New
September 07, 2021 12:00 - 23 minutes - 16.1 MBHey everyone! Labor Day is here already and I honestly can’t believe how quickly time has been flying lately. I hope you all have had a brilliant summer so far. I took a break! hahah I know I know, what a novel idea. I didn't even announce it! WHO DOES THAT?!? Turns out it's hard recording a podcast in your studio in the middle of a Los Angeles summer when the only way to cool down is to run the window AC unit. The 20 year old WINDOW AC UNIT---you know, the one that sounds like a Diesel...
Sam Barbera from Beginners on making music her business
June 22, 2021 12:00 - 57 minutes - 39.5 MBThis week I’m speaking with friend, songwriter/producer and performer Sam Barbera from the band Beginners. This one is for all you music lovers out there, and for anyone aspiring to make a career with music. There are some hot tips embedded in her story - from how she runs her music career as a business to the best ways to create longevity and sustainability in a tough industry. For anyone wanting a birds eye view of what kind of timeline and tenacity it takes to get these kinds of projects...
standing on sacred homoground
June 15, 2021 18:00 - 57 minutes - 39.4 MBThis week I’m joined by Casper - founder of the queer music podcast Homoground, and the virtual co-working space Focus/Time. They’re also a new-ish employee at AIR media (Association of Independent Artists in Radio). I discovered Casper on Instagram through a sponsored ad they placed promoting homoground, and learning about a podcast dedicated explicitly to queer musicians made my heart happy. We discuss what it takes to fundraise for a creative project, the idea of kicking perfectionism out...
A Queer Music Podcast
June 15, 2021 18:00 - 57 minutes - 39.4 MBThis week I’m joined by Casper - founder of the queer music podcast Homoground, and the virtual co-working space Focus/Time. They’re also a new-ish employee at AIR media (Association of Independent Artists in Radio). I discovered Casper on Instagram through a sponsored ad they placed promoting homoground, and learning about a podcast dedicated explicitly to queer musicians made my heart happy. We discuss what it takes to fundraise for a creative project, the idea of kicking perfectionism out...
we're here, we're queer, and we're VERY hospitable
June 08, 2021 12:00 - 1 hour - 44.4 MBI remember bartending at a place called ZED451 in Chicago and talking with different ambassadors when they came to visit the bar— it always seemed like such a great job but was typically either a really gorgeous woman or straight guy that fit the stereotype of a 'rugged' whisky/tequila drinker. Anyway, as a a gay man it felt like there was a barrier to entry. I was out as a gay man, but still somehow apologetic. I was so excited to find that once I really embraced and integrated my full ide...
part 2: she's my right hand man
June 02, 2021 01:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBIn part 2 Melanie McGraw and I discuss her beverage company MONK Drinking Botanicals* and how it has helped reinforce her identity and self-confidence, her realization that it’s time to nurture her creativity, and she explains the steps she’s taking to create boundaries and protect her sacred time. She discusses focusing only on the next right thing, and finally this very important point about the vocational choices we have to make in life. She says “no matter what -it’s all going to be ...
part 1: she's my right hand man
May 25, 2021 12:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MBThere is a kind of power in storytelling. In taking control of the narrative, in writing the characters, in defining the terms. We hear about the powerful storytellers, airbrushed beyond a flaw, lifted as a shining example of what to emulate to be successful. But were they always so skilled, so creative, so untouchable? The power isn't in the perfect. The power is is in the owning. Sometimes though, it takes time for us to unlearn ways of denying our needs, and learn to tap into our i...
she's my right hand man
May 25, 2021 12:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MBThere is a kind of power in storytelling. In taking control of the narrative, in writing the characters, in defining the terms. We hear about the powerful storytellers, airbrushed beyond a flaw, lifted as a shining example of what to emulate to be successful. But were they always so skilled, so creative, so untouchable? The power isn't in the perfect. The power is is in the owning. Sometimes though, it takes time for us to unlearn ways of denying our needs, and learn to tap into our i...
PHONE A FRIEND with MATT & ELLEN
May 18, 2021 12:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBBonus episode! I sit with Ellen Etten each week to recap the most recent podcast episode. These recap & debrief episodes live on Patreon and we use the episode as a jumping off point for our discussion and usually end up talking about....whatever we want. In this bonus episode Ellen and I get into so many topics but in terms of the important bits.. how we're consistently so impressed by our partners (Alex and Saif are you listening? ), and how the new Super Target in LA would be a great pla...
Bonus: recap chat of episode 6 with Meyghan Hill
May 18, 2021 12:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBBonus episode! I sit with Ellen Etten each week to recap the most recent podcast episode on Patreon. We use the episode as a jumping off point for our discussion and usually end up talking about whatever it brings up for us. In this bonus episode Ellen and I get into how exposure to different fields of work and creative outlets at an early age has a big impact on us later in life (but is NOT the only factor to achieving success), how we're consistently so impressed by our partners, and how ...
nothing says MOM like a puff paint sweatshirt
May 09, 2021 13:00 - 1 hour - 41.8 MBIn honor of Mother’s Day I wanted to release this episode early for everyone - not just for my Patreon subscribers. For this episode I was able to sit with my mom and ask her questions about her childhood, her experiences as a mother fostering creativity, what I was like as a kid, and how her participation in Al-Anon has positively effected her relationship to self. I’m so lucky to call her mom. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! Marching Band Grand Nationals Video To Fi...
part 2: the 'in-between' stories that define us
May 04, 2021 12:00 - 32 minutes - 22.3 MBThis week, I’m continuing my conversation with Artist and Researcher Helen Kim. We kick off the episode discussing her research partnership with Dr. Joyce Yip Green. In this art based research project, they seek understanding of the immigration experiences of Korean and Laotian Americans in order to amplify the stories of elderly immigrant populations and examine the mechanisms of silence. We talk about how words alone are often times not a sufficient way to capture true meaning and create a...
part 1: the 'in-between' stories that define us
April 27, 2021 12:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBThis week I spoke with artist, business owner, and researcher Helen Kim. I found our conversation incredibly nourishing and inspiring and with so much to cover, I broke this episode up into two parts. In part one I interweave her 9 minute art video “Go Back To Return Again” within the context of the interview. These are audio vignettes describing conspicuous events from her childhood growing up in Los Angeles. We also get into her accomplishments and set backs as an artist, her desire to tel...
what does it mean to be who you are?
April 20, 2021 12:00 - 54 minutes - 37.6 MBI had a fantastic conversation with organization psychologist, classical pianist, and professor Kristijan Civljak about identity, career changes later in life, and realizations around privilege. What he brought up that really struck me was when actualizing the self, we can hold culturally dominant and minority identities at the same time. How we are perceived and how we identify can be wildly different, therefore we can experience privilege in certain areas while also seeing the world throu...
a (wh)orehaus built on steel...
April 13, 2021 12:00 - 43 minutes - 29.9 MBIn this episode I speak with a friend and fellow creative Meygahn Hill of (Wh)orehaus Studios. Meyghan explains her military boarding school background as a midwest girl turned NYC model & actress, the incredible life events that lead to discovering her passion as a welder and designer in Los Angeles, and the dystopian landscape that descended on her studio and home (just as Covid hit) causing her to relocate to Colorado. Please visit Meyghan's company at the link below, and if you would l...
how a bollywood choreographer is fighting colorism
April 06, 2021 12:00 - 59 minutes - 40.8 MBThis week, I'm honored to share the story of Shweta Aggarwal, a British Indian author who is currently writing her memoir “The Black Rose”. As a six year old child living in India away from her parents, she developed a love for Bollywood films. Her dreams of dancing in these films were cut short when she was shamed by an aunt for the darker color of her skin. Shweta shares her first hand experiences with colorism and white supremacy and generously answers questions to help me better under...
Colorism in Bollywood
April 06, 2021 12:00 - 59 minutes - 40.8 MBThis week, I'm honored to share the story of Shweta Aggarwal, a British Indian author who is currently writing her memoir “The Black Rose”. As a six year old child living in India away from her parents, she developed a love for Bollywood films. Her dreams of dancing in these films were cut short when she was shamed by an aunt for the darker color of her skin. Shweta shares her first hand experiences with colorism and white supremacy and generously answers questions to help me better under...
the challenges of leading a team during Covid
March 30, 2021 12:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MBIn this episode I chat with Lorri Barone. She has been accessing her creative core throughout this pandemic as she and her team secure life saving personal protective equipment (PPE) for front line workers in Oregon. We discuss the joys of coming together, the scam artists, the difficulties of leading as a woman in a male-dominated industry, and the consequences of implicit bias and racial inequities in professional settings. Support the show
Creativity in Supply Chain
March 30, 2021 12:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MBIn this episode I chat with Lorri Barone. She has been accessing her creative core throughout this pandemic as she and her team secure life saving personal protective equipment (PPE) for front line workers in Oregon. We discuss the joys of coming together, the scam artists, the difficulties of leading as a woman in a male-dominated industry, and the consequences of implicit bias and racial inequities in professional settings. Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/howwegetby)
Creativity in Self-Acceptance
March 23, 2021 12:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MBIn this episode, fashion designer and non-profit founder Ripley Rader and I discuss the importance of listening to the yes's to understand your unique offerings, how she identified a crisis of confidence among young women at an early age and how she is taking action to fight it, and how perfectionism has no place in the creative process.
when a fashion designer teaches radical self-love, everyone listens
March 23, 2021 12:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MBIn this episode, fashion designer and non-profit founder Ripley Rader and I discuss the importance of listening to the yes's to understand your unique offerings, how she identified a crisis of confidence among young women at an early age and how she is taking action to fight it, and how perfectionism has no place in the creative process. Support the show
how a counselor uses creativity with her clients
March 16, 2021 12:00 - 51 minutes - 35.2 MBIn this episode, professional counselor Tessa Beukema (LCPC) and I discuss the importance of imagination when starting a new and challenging project, the pros and cons of instagram as it relates to self-diagnosing, and how using metaphor in therapy just hits different for clients. Lots to unpack! Support the show
Creativity in Counseling
March 16, 2021 12:00 - 51 minutes - 35.2 MBIn this episode, professional counselor Tessa Beukema (LCPC) and I discuss the importance of imagination when starting a new and challenging project, the pros and cons of instagram as it relates to self-diagnosing, and how using metaphor in therapy just hits different for clients. Lots to unpack!
tips on distance learning from a preschool teacher
March 09, 2021 10:00 - 24 minutes - 17.1 MBIn this episode, preschool owner and teacher Gisa Nico and I talk about the difficulties of keeping young kids engaged in distance learning, how failure is essential to growing your brain, and how books are a great starting point for difficult conversations. This chat helped me understand the ways in which the Covid-19 pandemic called on educators and parents to tap into their creative core. You can access the Butterfly Garden Preschool YouTube Channel here to find the read alongs we talk ...
Creativity in Teaching
March 09, 2021 10:00 - 24 minutes - 17.1 MBIn this episode, preschool owner and teacher Gisa Nico and I talk about the difficulties of keeping young kids engaged in distance learning, how failure is essential to growing your brain, and how books are a great starting point for difficult conversations. This chat helped me understand the ways in which the Covid-19 pandemic called on educators and parents to tap into their creative core. You can access the Butterfly Garden Preschool YouTube Channel here to find the read alongs we talk ...
Introduction to "How We Get By"
March 01, 2021 01:00 - 2 minutes - 2.07 MBMatt Schaefer introduces "How We Get By" and describes the premise of the podcast Support the show