Mom is Upset About Her Gift (Hint: It’s Not About the Gift)

Julie finds it hard to buy her Korean mom a gift she won't criticize. She also suspects her mom's reactions are not just about the objects. And Yin J. Li, a psychotherapist who works with clients from the Asian Diaspora, helps us identify and understand hidden family tensions so we can better address them.

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Yin is a Portland-based psychotherapist with a private practice called Theralane. As a child of working class immigrants, they understand the shame and stigma of needing and seeking support from an outsider, a therapist. After a 15-year career in technology, they decided to pursue a Masters in Counseling Psychology at California Institute of Integral Studies, and became a licensed therapist. Yin has a podcast called Asians Do Therapy, aiming to reduce stigma and increasing accessibility.

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