How to Be a Girl
41 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 months ago - ★★★★★ - 1.1K ratingsHow to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.
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Episode XXXIII: How We Are Now
December 25, 2023 01:45 - 13.9 MBIt's been over two years. I wanted to let you know how we are doing. Thank you for your patience. (Spoiler: My daughter is still amazing.) MUSIC CREDITS: Tides (instrumental) by Benjamin Mullins (Courtesy of Audiosocket) Lost in the Dark (instrumental) by Forest Sun (Courtesy of Audiosocket)
Episode XXXII: The Medical Stuff
September 06, 2021 00:36 - 42 minutes - 59.1 MBFor years, people have asked me what I would do when my daughter hit puberty. Was I going to let her do... the "medical stuff?" Well, right after the pandemic struck, so did puberty. And this is what my daughter (and her mother) decided to do.
Episode XXXI: M is for Middle School, Take Two
November 02, 2020 21:12 - 11.4 MBThis episode is different from any of our previous episodes. It’s also a do-over, because the first version of this episode overlooked the fact that my daughter is growing up, fast. She’s almost a teenager, and we both agree that it’s time she took charge. So that’s what she did. (Here’s a little more about how this episode came to be.) Listen to the book! How to Be a Girl on Audible Originals Find us on Twitter: @girlpodcast Support HTBAG on Patreon MUSIC CREDITS: “Edge of th...
Episode XXXI: M is for Middle School
September 18, 2020 21:48 - 34.3 MBA long-overdue update on the life of my beautiful transgender daughter. She's almost a teenager. She's in middle school. She's still magical. (And middle school girls can still be super mean.) Edited by the incomparable Whitney Henry-Lester. Music credits: “La Meduse Raconte” and “La Meduse Chante” by Wolfram Gruss, licensed by Audiosocket “Edge of the World” (Instrumental) by Dot Dot Dot, licensed by Audiosocket “Renaissance Garden” by Rosalind Richards , licensed by Audiosocket “S...
Episode XXX: Emma at last
September 23, 2019 20:06 - 37.2 MBI want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I'm so glad she's here now.
Episode XXIX: Eleven
January 25, 2019 03:57 - 15.3 MBI sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween. MUSIC CREDIT: “Little Girl” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)
Episode XXVIII: The Tell
December 31, 2018 20:38 - 15.3 MBA new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan. MUSIC CREDITS: “Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair” by Steve Rice (Courtesy of Audiosocket) “Chill Wave” by Kevin MacLeod “The Reckoning” by Podington Bear Please consider checking out our Support Page. Your help keeps this podcast going!
Episode XXVII: Playdates with Christians
November 29, 2018 23:09 - 36.2 MBAre the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she's transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I seek expert advice from a new friend in the Bible Belt. MUSIC CREDITS: “Morning” by Nicole Reynolds, “Shall We Gather at the River” by Pat Holmberg, “Amazing Grace Solo Piano” by Lana Palmer (Courtesy of Audiosocket) "Canoe" by Podington Bear "Amazing Grace," piano and vocals by Miss M. Mack Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It r...
Episode XXVI: Sarah McBride
November 06, 2018 22:09 - 31.5 MBNeed to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here's the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me hope (and is my personal pick for the first transgender president). MUSIC CREDITS: "Halflight," “G Piano," “Across the River, and "Triste" by Podington Bear; “Asturias” by Isaac Albeniz (Courtesy of Audiosocket). Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It really helps keep this podcast going!
Episode XXV: To Tell or Not to Tell? (Advice from HTBAG listeners)
October 30, 2018 21:42 - 26.7 MBIn the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she's transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over. MUSIC CREDITS: “Den," "Floating in Space," "Surface Tension," and "Threshold" by Podington Bear; "You Are a Memory" by Message to Bears (Courtesy of Audiosocket); and "Leave Them" and "Telling Me So" by St. Paul de Vence. Please consider supporting us. I...
Episode XXIV: Moving & Marrying, Part III - New School
August 20, 2018 07:27 - 35.3 MBMy daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month. It's a fresh start, where no one knows that she's transgender. How do I handle this? How do I advise her? Should she keep her transgender status to herself or be more open? At the end of this episode, I'll be asking for your advice: What should I do? MUSIC CREDITS: "Sensitive" and "Constellation" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0).
Episode XXIII: Moving & Marrying, Part II - Won't you be my neighbor?
July 31, 2018 17:08 - 25.7 MBWe've moved. To the suburbs. We're getting to know the new neighbors, and we're wondering: Will they accept us here? MUSIC CREDITS: "Glitter" and "Chauncy" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0).
Episode XXII: Moving & Marrying, Part I - The Prince
May 17, 2018 07:39 - 18.1 MBDid you know there's a wedding coming up, uniting an Englishman with an American bride? Listen now for ALL the juicy details on this intercontinental couple's forthcoming nuptials! (And hear what my daughter thinks of her soon-to-be stepdad.) MUSIC CREDITS: "Lord of the Land," "Evening Melodrama," "Master of the Feast," "The Rule," and "Bossa Bossa" by Kevin MacLeod
Episode XXI: Going First
May 10, 2018 08:00 - 32.4 MBIn this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes. Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famous transgender teen in the world. Her mom Jeanette is as brave as they come. MUSIC CREDITS: “Springtime,” “Quartrefoil,” and “Blue” by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) “Helice” by Monplaisir (licensed under CC0 1.0) “Comedie” by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0)
Episode XX: The Betrayal
April 26, 2018 19:13 - 40.1 MBOf course I knew this was going to happen eventually. But that didn't make it any easier when it did. Music credits: “Chicxuclub” and “Transient” by Podington Bear “Undaunted” by Kevin MacLeod “Dormir rien de plus” by Monplaisir
We're back! Welcome to a new season!
April 19, 2018 08:00 - 11.4 MBAfter a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back! The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week. Here's a little taste of what's to come. Music credits: "Lode Runner" and "Sorrento" by Podington Bear.
We Shall Overcome
January 15, 2018 22:35 - 2 MBA little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!
December 25, 2017 00:14 - 9.16 MBThis mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! Music credits: Dee Yan-Key, "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) Borrtex, "Buying Presents" (licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)
When it rains it pours
July 06, 2017 22:43How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite. M. tries her hand at TV journalism. Music credit: David Mumford, “Singing in the Rain (Instrumental)" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)
Episode XIX: Red State Mama
February 22, 2017 16:51I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state. Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence
A little update from Marlo
February 18, 2017 02:04This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious. I also have some news. Plus, cat videos. (KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-listening-party) MUSIC CREDITS: "Quirky Dog" by Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com) "Mama" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence (Thank you, Benjamin Doerr!!)
Episode XVIII: Big Sister
February 01, 2017 17:02I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me: A transgender big sister. Music credits: “Dormir Rien de plus” by Monplaisir (public domain)
Episode XVII: The Window
January 11, 2017 23:47In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close. I hadn't been in much of a rush to change my 9-year-old transgender daughter's Social Security record, but I sure am now. MUSIC CREDITS: “Dubakupado” by www.incompetech.com “Homeless California” by Monplaisir (public domain) “King Thumbscrew The Third” by Doctor Turtle (CC-BY-NC...
Episode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl
December 21, 2016 14:00It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time. What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager? Music credits: Andy G Cohen, "Land_Legs" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) David Mumford, "Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) Loch Lomond, "Elephants and Little Girls" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) Kevin Macleod, “J.S. Bach, Prelude in C” (licensed under CC BY 3.0)
Episode XV: Just Maybe
November 30, 2016 14:00She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy. How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother? Music credits: "Child Come Home" by Michael Howard (Licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) "Flagger" by Blue Dot Sessions (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0) “That Old Harpoon” by Gillicuddy (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)
A post-election message from my 8-year-old trans daughter
November 21, 2016 23:14My 8-year-old transgender daughter is not giving up. She's eating popcorn and singing and telling jokes and she has some advice for you.
Episode XIV: My Friend Lauren
November 09, 2016 14:00When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I'm terrified. She's the bravest woman I know. My friend, "Lauren," in 1979. Music credits: “George Street Shuffle” and “In Your Arms” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) “Evenhanded” by Podington Bear “From here to Iceland" by Loch Lomond “I Enjoy Being a Girl,” performed by Christine Jorgensen "Mars Landscape: Moon Set” by Julie Max...
Episode XIII: Play Date
October 19, 2016 13:00My daughter has lots of friends, and she's big on play dates with other little girls. But sometimes we need to book a special play date, because sometimes you just need to hang out with somebody who's just like you. Music Credits: "The Temperature of the Air on the Bow of the Kaleetan” by Chris Zabriskie, “Hélice” by Monplaisir, and “Rainbow Street” by Scott Holmes. Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Ann Frossard, Lorna McCarthy, Maricia Scott, Lyle Mattson, Ryann Grove, Je...
Episode XII: How to Be a Dad
September 28, 2016 16:00When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I've never really asked him how he feels about this. So I did. And this is what he said. (I asked him a few other questions, too.) Music credits: “The Father’s Name” by Gianluca Sgalambro Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Chris Wright, David Roswell, Laura Kivlen, Britt Tanner, Robyn Kanner, Nicole Villa...
Short and Silly
September 04, 2016 23:50This isn't a full episode. Just a little update on what we've been up to, with some very silly audio of my daughter. (What can I say? It's been a silly summer!) There's also an important announcement about the future of this podcast and some news on my daughter's love life (and mine too!). Music credits: "Fudge" by Gillicuddy
Episode XI: Bathroom Bill
June 30, 2016 01:07I never thought a bathroom bill - the kind they passed in North Carolina - would come to my home state. But it did. They're trying to pass one where I live, and this is the story of my fight (so far) against it. (You can see more photos related to this story on my blog, gendermom.com.) Music credits: "Heartache" by Broke For Free, "Golden" by Little Glass Men, "A void" by johnny_ripper, "Pure Attitude" by Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com), "The Tallest Man in Idaho" by Michael Howard,...
Episode X: School (Part II)
March 24, 2016 20:29This is a continuation of Episode IX. It tells the rest of the story of what happened when my transgender daughter started second grade at a new school. Music credits: "Light Thought Variation 2," "Thatched Villagers," and "Relaxing Piano Music" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Moonlight Sonata (Ludwig van Beethoven)" by Dr. Phibes and The Ten Plagues of Egypt, "Bagatelle (Ludwig van Beethoven)" by Circus Marcus. THANK YOU to my generous supporters on Patreon.com: Nyssa, Nicholas...
Episode IX: School (Part I)
March 09, 2016 19:30This episode has been six months in the making, because that's how long it took for this story to play out. It's the story of my daughter entering second grade at a new school where we knew no one, almost no one knew her secret, and I had no idea how I was going to keep her safe. Music credits: "Blackbird" and "Light Thought Variation 2" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Chiaroscuro" by Zé Trigueiros, and "Piano Symphony No. 1" by Miss M. Thank you to my generous supporters on Patreon...
Episode VIII: Meeting Laverne
August 05, 2015 19:38 - 353 MBEarlier this year, my daughter got to meet the transgender TV star Laverne Cox. I wrote about it for my blog, and that heart-warming, feel-good post went crazy viral on the internet. But there's more to the story. Here it is. My daughter gave her first interview (to Amy Poehler's Smart Girls website): Check it out! Music credits: "Hearts Mend (Prelude)" by Rebecca Foon, "EDM Detection Mode" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "nu pop2" by Plusplus.
Episode VII: THE FACTS (about transgender kids)
June 30, 2015 22:15 - 28 minutes - 51.5 MBWhen my "son" first started saying that "he" was actually a "she," I went looking for information. I wanted hard numbers. I wanted data. I wanted science to tell me to do. This is what I discovered.
Episode VI: The Interview
December 25, 2014 03:10 - 286 MBThis episode is a little different from the others I've made. It's mostly just my daughter talking, answering my questions about what it's like being a transgender six year old.
Episode V: Looking for Love
November 20, 2014 06:04 - 15.3 MBShe's six years old and transgender. I'm a single mom. This is what happens when we both hit the dating scene and compare notes about it. Music credits: "Night Owl" by Broke for Free, "Is This What Mama Meant" by Michaela Anne.
Episode IV: Tom Boy Trans Girl
August 24, 2014 18:27 - 13.4 MBHow girlie do you have to be to secure your spot in the girl club? And what happens when your own mother questions your girl credentials? Bonus: The Origins of Acrobat Girl: Music credits: "Action" and "Eastern" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), "Xena: Warrior Princess - Main Title" by Joseph LoDuca.
Episode III: How Old is Gender?
July 08, 2014 20:43 - 8.58 MBAm I insane? How can I be so sure that my young child is transgender? Music credits: "Her Love Comes in Air" by soundZcapa, "Gato" by Rod Hamilton, "Kaikou" by Satori.
Episode II: Daily Life in the House of Girls
June 07, 2014 21:12 - 10 minutes - 3.91 MBWhat's it like raising a transgender child? How did your family respond? What about school? How in the world does this work? This episode gives you the low-down on what daily life is really like for us.
Episode I: Mama, I'm a Girl
June 07, 2014 21:06 - 7 minutes - 10.5 MBWhen he was three years old, my son informed me that she was actually my daughter. I'm now the mother of a happy, confident little transgender girl, but it took a while to get here.