Hopestream for parenting kids through drug use and addiction
238 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago - ★★★★★ - 24 ratingsHopestream is the defacto resource for parents who have a teen or young adult child who's misusing drugs or alcohol, hosted by Brenda Zane. Brenda is a Mayo Clinic Certified health & wellness coach, CRAFT Parent Coach, and mom of a son who nearly lost his life to addiction. Guests include addiction, prevention, and treatment experts, family members impacted by their loved one's substance use, and wellness and self-care specialists. You'll also hear heartfelt messages from me, your host. It's a safe, nurturing respite from the chaos and confusion you live with. We gather in our private communities between the episodes, The Stream for moms and The Woods for dads. Learn more at www.hopestreamcommunity.org.
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Parenting Through a Child's Substance Use With Clarity, Compassion And Your Own Therapist, with Patrick Balsley
April 11, 2024 11:00 - 50 minutes - 34.5 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Patrick Balsley's substance use began with alcohol in middle school and ended 11 years later with heroin- and cocaine-induced psychosis. But instead of talking to Patrick about who he used to be, today I'm talking to him about the incredible things he's been doing with his life since then and what he's learned while helping so many other families in their pursuit of recovery. Patrick founded Sana Counseling and Sana House, a recovery residence for men. He sits on the boa...
The Difficult Realities of Using The Invitation To Change With A Child Struggling With Drugs or Alcohol, with Brenda Zane
April 04, 2024 11:00 - 22 minutes - 15.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Because I sit at a vantage point of seeing many parents working to understand and implement the Invitation To Change Approach (ITC) with their child who struggles with substance misuse, I see things others don't. I hear the frustrations and the celebrations, and I know that while an approach like the ITC is very powerful and effective, it isn't a magic wand. Sometimes, the more difficult aspects of using a compassion and empathetic-centric approach to a very scary and cha...
Un-Addiction: A Mind-Changing Conversation on How We Think About Addiction and Risk, with Nzinga Harrison, M.D.
March 28, 2024 11:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When Dr. Nzinga Harrison was recently approached by her son, a high school senior, about going to his first party, she consented. He was unsurprised by her followup question: “Do you think there will be drugs there?” As an addiction psychiatrist and M.D. specializing in addiction medicine, Dr. Harrison had been talking with him about substances since he was very young, so the question wasn’t awkward. “Yeah, probably,” he replied. As her stomach twisted, she realized that t...
There Is No Such Thing As Drug and Alcohol Treatment For Adolescents, with Robert Schwebel and Lynn Smith
March 21, 2024 11:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When Dr. Robert Schwebel was approached by a local treatment agency about developing a drug program for adolescents, he was not interested. He decided to meet with the agency about the proposal, but also to share hard truths that he thought would encourage them to find someone else: Don't promise drug free kids overnight. Help them learn to make good decisions rather than telling them what to do. Incorporate life counseling. Rather than rejecting him, the program agreed to...
Debunking Myths and Connecting Dots Between Mental Health, Substance Use, and Gender Identity, with Jordan Held
March 14, 2024 11:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Years before his gender transition, Jordan Held still remembers the day he asked his employer if he could wear the same clothing as the male faculty. The reply: "We're not ready for that yet." Whether or not your young person is questioning their sexual identity, gender, pronouns or any other aspect of themselves, you’ll get so much from this important conversation. As a teenager, he had been a good student and athlete who just wanted to be the popular girl at school. He ...
Why Your Attachment Style Matters When Parenting a Child Who Misuses Drugs or Alcohol, with Jack Hinman, Psy.D.
March 07, 2024 12:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: If you could stand outside your own life, watching your family relationships play out like a movie, what patterns of behavior might you notice about yourself? If you could see those patterns now, wouldn’t it be much easier to improve them each day? In this episode, we try to understand ourselves and our family dynamics more deeply through the lens of attachment theory. If you’re like me, you’d never heard attachment theory mentioned in recovery spaces or literature. Bu...
Revealing What Exactly Educational and Therapeutic Consultants Do (and don’t do), with Joanna Lilley
February 29, 2024 12:00 - 54 minutes - 37.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When my son began using drugs and alcohol, I did what a lot of parents do: I dove headfirst into a world I didn't know existed, trying to evaluate all the possible programs and places he might go to get help. But there's so much to learn about the treatment world, and the knowledge is extremely specialized, making it almost impossible to sift through it effectively without a guide. On today's show, I spoke with someone who is that guide for families. Joanna Lilley has bee...
Coaching Episode: Dealing With Anger and Disappointment When You Learn Your Child Is Misusing Drugs and Alcohol, with Rose
February 22, 2024 12:00 - 42 minutes - 29.5 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Rose has three children, so she's not new to being a mom. But when her son spent six months trying every drug he could find, she stepped into a foreign world of substance misuse and increasing risk. She dealt with the utter shock and disbelief her child had been using substances at all, let alone to the degree she came to realize. Rose’s son was on week six of outpatient rehab when he combined most of those drugs together into a single, dangerous dose, and when we spoke f...
Navigating Your Child's Substance Misuse: Six Crucial Mindset Shifts for Intentional Parenting, with Cathy Cioth
February 15, 2024 12:00 - 52 minutes - 36 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Hopestream co-founder, Cathy Cioth, is back for another episode to discuss six critical mindset shifts we both believe parents need to consider when they have a child struggling with substance misuse. We share how these important pivots in our thinking impacted our families and why, even though both of us have kids in recovery, we still vigilantly adhere to them. And, as usual, we go on a tangent or two, so grab your dog, bike, walking shoes, or whatever you do when list...
Trading Control & Punishment for Respect & Emotional Intelligence, with Ann Coleman
February 08, 2024 12:00 - 57 minutes - 39.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: After watching her brother's life cut short by substance use, Ann Coleman was intimately familiar with its dangers. So when her son - who already suffered from anxiety and depression - started using marijuana, hallucinogens and opiates, her trauma and instincts of fear and control kicked in hard. Looking back, Ann recognizes that at the time she believed her son was solely to blame for the unraveling of the relationship. Now, she knows better. "There were things I screw...
Pivot Points - Recovery Is For Those Who Do It, with Matt Nannis
February 01, 2024 12:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When young people in recovery return to use, we often hear phrases like “failure to launch,” “regression,” or the suggestion that “recovery is only for those who want it.” Today’s guest, Matt Nannis, says it’s time to abandon these concepts altogether. Matt’s journey from his own addiction to being the founder of the PIVOTPoint Program looked a little different than a typical recovery story. He didn’t “do the work” in treatment to stop using substances, find a more fulfil...
Insights From Honest Conversations With Treatment Programs, Consultants, and Real World Parents, with Brenda Zane
January 25, 2024 12:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: I recently sat down with over 20 treatment program owners, directors, therapists, educational consultants, and 20+ parents who are or have been on the journey with their kids, and I'm sharing the insights I gleaned in today's episode. From insurance nightmares to difficult transitions and THC-induced psychosis, I cover a lot of territory, bringing you a boots-on-the-ground view into what's really going on today in treatment and the struggles parents are facing when they h...
Decoding Today’s Adolescent Substance Use Treatment Landscape, with Trish Ruggles
January 18, 2024 12:00 - 1 hour - 46.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: At some point along your child's road to recovery, you will almost certainly need to make some difficult decisions about treatment. If they’re an adolescent, this becomes an even more complicated decision. And while I do have some personal experience with treatment, it's been 9 years since my son went to a wilderness program and residential treatment, and a lot has changed since then. My guest on today's episode is Trish Ruggles, a licensed clinical professional counselor...
Coaching Episode: Using Self-Care and Motivation as Tools in Teen Harm Reduction
January 11, 2024 12:00 - 43 minutes - 29.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Kelly’s son began smoking marijuana all day, every day after a serious trauma two years ago. Therapy and harm reduction strategies have led them to an arrangement where he is allowed to smoke occasionally, but only in the garage. Her son is smoking much less now, and in combination with therapy, reports he’s stopped using substances as a primary coping mechanism. Things have mostly settled down, but Kelly is still experiencing the constant mental and emotional stress of...
Filling the void: Six Emotional Nutrients Your Child (and you) Need, with Noel Koons
January 04, 2024 12:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: In the words of today's guest, Noel Koons, "We all dent our children." Though it may seem like so many other families have everything perfectly together, Noel assures us that isn't true – and with more than 13 years of clinical mental health experience counseling families and individuals, he should know. In today's episode, Noel explains why these dents are inevitable: It's literally impossible for parents to meet all of their child's emotional needs, many of which rel...
Hopestream Golden Nuggets of 2023
December 28, 2023 12:00 - 1 hour - 42 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: I release about 50 episodes of Hopestream every year, and every year there are a few conversations that just stick. Months later I’ll find myself reflecting on how a specific story or perspective has the potential to change the way we think and act as parents of kids working toward recovery. I think of these important moments as this year's “golden nuggets.” So at the end of every year, I share these nuggets in an episode packed with some of my favorite bits of wisdom, ...
Navigating Addiction With Your Child: You Are Going To Be OK, with Brenda Zane
December 21, 2023 12:00 - 12 minutes - 8.84 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Friend, we made it to the end of 2023. This is my final solo episode of the year and after much thought and debate, I decided to share a gift I'd like to give you, some words of hope and strength for wherever you are in The Journey. This short episode is one you can save and play when things get tough, and I encourage you to share it with someone you know who's also going through difficulties - not just parenting challenges. Looking forward to another year of connection,...
The Greatest Gift I Can Give You If Your Child Is Misusing Drugs and Alcohol, with Brenda Zane
December 21, 2023 12:00 - 12 minutes - 8.84 MBFriend, we made it to the end of 2023. This is my final solo episode of the year and after much thought and debate, I decided to share a gift I'd like to give you, some words of hope and strength for wherever you are in The Journey. This short episode is one you can save and play when things get tough, and I encourage you to share it with someone you know who's also going through difficulties - not just parenting challenges. Looking forward to another year of connection, hope, and healing ...
Exposing the Hard Truths: Insurance Claims Denials for Substance Use Treatment, with Mark DeBofsky
December 14, 2023 12:00 - 47 minutes - 32.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Parents trying to navigate treatment with their kids are already pushed to their mental and emotional limits. When you're in it, you're so overwhelmed that it's hard to think about something as frustrating and time-consuming as insurance. But my guest today reminds us the earlier you get started and the more thorough your documentation, the more likely you are to receive coverage for the resources and services your child needs. I contacted Mark DeBofsky before I even fini...
Recovery Reframes Parenting: Second Chances for a Father and Son Navigating Early Recovery
December 07, 2023 12:00 - 40 minutes - 28.1 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: On today's coaching episode, we welcome our first dad from our community for dads, The Woods. As a father, Brad has some great things going for him. He still has a meaningful connection of supportive parenting with his ex-wife, who first introduced him to the podcast, and he’s a member of The Woods, our community for dads, which means he’s not doing this alone. His 18-year-old son is in a good place as well, currently residing in a sober living community after attending w...
Real Talk: Transparency and Accountability in Teen Conversations, with Dr. Janet Edgette
November 30, 2023 12:00 - 53 minutes - 36.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: So many kids who turn to substances are brilliant. Often that brilliance gets wielded in a variety of unhealthy ways and can wreck the power balance of an entire household. Perhaps you've felt telltale signs like being held hostage with gaslighting and emotional blackmail. Perhaps you woke up one day to realize you've been walking on eggshells, allowing your child to control the interactions in your own house for months. My guest today says that there are ways to right th...
Coaching A Mom Pushed To Her Limits, with Olivia
November 23, 2023 12:00 - 46 minutes - 31.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Long before Olivia became a single parent, she was forced to face her own trauma. The heartbreaking challenges she's faced since then have piled an incredible amount of stress onto an already complex life. The difficult journey for Olivia's son began with his father's brain injury and substance misuse, leading to a messy divorce that would have been difficult for any child. Working full-time as a single parent, Olivia has faced her son's depression, took the blame for the...
Learn From My Mistakes If Your Child Is Struggling With Substance Use, with Julie Merberg
November 16, 2023 12:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When Julie Merberg returned home from a work trip to find a scale and a pile of baggies on the table, she knew her son's involvement with substances was getting out of control. In the early days of the Hopestream Community, not many people showed up to the group calls I offered to members. Julie and I were the only people who showed up the day I met her, but connecting with her one-on-one in the depths of her crisis was an incredible blessing for me and the entire communi...
Why Parents of LGBTQ+ Kids Need Their Own “Coming In” Process, with Matt Seelos
November 09, 2023 12:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: The experience of coming out as an LGBTQ+ youth varies wildly across the country and world. In some families and communities, it’s celebrated. In others, condemned. But my guest on this episode of Hopestream says that we often forget about the “coming in” process needed for parents and families of those youth. Matt Seelos has worked in the mental health field for 20 years. He’s currently a primary therapist at Elevations Residential Treatment Center in Utah, where he admi...
The Lifeboat Episode; Six Essential Provisions For Parenting Kids Through Drug Use or Addiction, with Cathy Cioth
November 02, 2023 11:00 - 32 minutes - 22.5 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Navigating life with a young person who’s misusing substances and struggling with mental health can feel like a ride in a very stormy sea. Parents need to be well equipped for the journey but often aren’t sure what the mandatory, life-saving provisions are to bring along. In this episode, Cathy Cioth, Hopestream Community co-founder, joins me to share our top six recommended provisions for parents. We identify the items we wish we’d had in our lifeboat when we started ou...
Craving Spring: How a Greek Myth Fueled a Mother’s Quest To Save Her Daughter, with Ann Batchelder
October 26, 2023 11:00 - 46 minutes - 31.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When Ann Batchelder discovered her daughter’s suicidal thoughts, bulimia and substance misuse, she desperately sought wisdom in the places many of us do: therapy, 12-step programs, and Buddhist teachings. But the ancient Greek myth of Demeter and Persephone gave her the greatest solace and understanding of parenting a wayward child. As Ann “did the work” to preserve mindfulness and realism about what she could control, she also began writing about her family's experience...
Filling The Sober, Fun And Social Gap In Early Recovery, with Eve Goldberg
October 19, 2023 11:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: The time period of recovery between a treatment program and responsible, independent living is an incredibly tricky one to navigate. My guest today says this is especially true in New York City, where marijuana smoke drifts down streets lined with thousands of alluring bars. After her son’s overdose death in 2014, Eve Goldberg founded BigVision, a recovery peer community in NYC that provides a social club of sober young people looking to separate themselves from temptatio...
Ten Recovery Eye-Openers For Parenting a Child Through Substance Misuse or Addiction, with Brenda Zane
October 12, 2023 11:00 - 20 minutes - 14 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: For parents who are on a roller coaster ride with their kids who misuse drugs and alcohol and struggle with mental health, recovery can sometimes feel like an elusive dream. So, after 187 episodes where I've talked with experts, people in recovery, parents, siblings, and my son who's in recovery, I wanted to distill down 10 of the top eye-opening recovery insights I've gathered on this journey. I also share related episodes for these so you can dive deeper into the one...
The Role of Mindfulness in Recovery from Eating Disorders and Substance Use, with Josh White
October 05, 2023 11:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MBAmong the red rock cliffs of Sedona, a group of young adults sit together in the Arizona sun, meditating with their roshi - a master instructor in zen tradition. Many of the students have already been through wilderness therapy or other recovery programs. They reside at nearby Red Mountain Sedona, an independent living program where they’re learning how to integrate, alongside more traditional therapies, mindfulness practices to create a healthy, productive, and sustainable substance-free li...
The Role of Mindfulness in Recovery from Eating Disorders and Substance Use, with Maureen and Josh White
October 05, 2023 11:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Among the red rock cliffs of Sedona, a group of young adults sit together in the Arizona sun, meditating with their roshi - a master instructor in zen tradition. Many of the students have already been through wilderness therapy or other recovery programs. They reside at nearby Red Mountain Sedona, an independent living program where they’re learning how to integrate, alongside more traditional therapies, mindfulness practices to create a healthy, productive, and sustainabl...
The Other Side of Addiction: A Compilation of Guests Who Made it Out
September 28, 2023 11:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Recovery Golden Nuggets episode. I’m sharing a curated collection of some of my favorite interview clips with people in recovery to celebrate National Recovery Month. All of these guests have been to the darkest places – jail, suicide attempts, overdoses. And yet, all have completely changed their lives, with several now working to help others in the field of recovery. Their direct, personal experience with addiction gives them insight and perspective that can’t be foun...
Close To Home: Personal Details and Insights From His Addiction and Recovery with Brenda’s Son, Enzo Narciso
September 21, 2023 11:00 - 57 minutes - 39.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: For years, listeners of Hopestream have heard stories about my own family’s experiences with substance misuse and recovery. Today, after 184 episodes, I’m thrilled to finally introduce you to my son, Enzo. I’m inspired by how he’s built a meaningful life free of substance misuse and for the time and energy he now dedicates to helping kids struggling with their own path to recovery. This is a conversation between two people who did (mostly) everything wrong but now spend ...
The Pivotal Role of Identity and Self-Worth in Addiction & Recovery, with Matt Elliott
September 14, 2023 11:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: I’ve been reminded of something over the past few months: Stories of hope are all around us, even if we don’t hear them. Just last week, I got to speak to my coworker from a former life, Steve Andrews, whose son had a frightening brush with death during the throes of his substance abuse. Both Steve and his son are now living fulfilling lives, and Steve himself has become the caretaker of our men’s community, The Woods. Since then, I was also contacted by today’s guest, M...
Fathering With Accountability and Grace When Your Teen Struggles with Addiction, with Steve Andrews
September 07, 2023 11:00 - 52 minutes - 36.1 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Today, I have the privilege of introducing the new host of The Woods, our community specifically for dads, stepdads, and male co-parents. After Steve Andrews and his wife got sober through Alcoholics Anonymous as a young couple, their sons never saw them drink or use substances. They warned their kids of the alcoholism and mental health issues on both sides of the family, but when one of them began misusing DXM, Kratom, alcohol, and marijuana in middle school, the couple ...
Ten Simple and Effective Phrases That Help Diffuse Difficult Conversations, With Brenda Zane
August 31, 2023 11:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When you have a complex child, all your conversations and relationships might feel more strained. If you're like me, you sometimes find yourself at a complete loss for words and struggle with how to diffuse or launch your communication in a helpful and productive way. If this sounds like you, you're in luck as I'm sharing ten very simple and highly effective phrases you can use when you're stuck for words or your words aren't currently working. And to make it even easier...
The Secret Menu; Reframing The Experience of Parenting and Addiction, with Brenda Zane
August 24, 2023 11:00 - 9 minutes - 6.37 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Sometimes you can gain a different understanding of things by looking at them through a new lens. Today's bite-size episode does that for you as the parent of a young person who struggle with substances - in the form of a short story. You'll hear about a restaurant owner and her strange, secret menu. And for those who eat from it, it can provide benefits and gifts not available anywhere else. It's one you may want to single-task for to absorb the full meaning. Created wi...
Accepting the Invitation To Change: Two Parents Confront Fentanyl’s Hold On Their Daughter, with Eleanor & Dave
August 17, 2023 11:00 - 1 hour - 41.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Every once in a while, I have the opportunity to speak with parents whose experiences are a perfect case study of why Hopestream Community exists. This episode with Eleanor and Dave is one of those conversations – especially for those of you with kids who are young adults living outside the home. Eleanor and Dave raised their two children in Silicon Valley, where they had a nice house, a beautiful community, and access to California's best schools. But as many parents rec...
Coaching Episode – Helping Your Child Progress Through Early Recovery and Begin Adulting, with Alice
August 10, 2023 11:00 - 46 minutes - 32.1 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: In this coaching episode we reconnect with Stream member Alice who I spoke to 18 months ago, when her son was in the worst of his substance misuse. And what incredible growth and development her family has seen since then! After wilderness and a therapeutic boarding school, Alice’s son is now an 18-year-old holding down a heavy load including work, volunteering and school in sober living. But the everyday things that Alice used to do for him at home – laundry, groceries...
How Parents Can Transcend Shame – and Help Their Kids Do the Same, with Patrick Hawkins
August 03, 2023 11:00 - 50 minutes - 34.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Today we tackle the difficult topic of shame and how it can affect our entire families. As parents of kids who are misusing drugs or alcohol, it’s common to experience a profound sense of failure or guilt when their lives begin to spin out of control. And as today’s guest says, “How could you not?” For many of us, it can seem like our kids are entirely different than the people we raised. As a substance use disorder progresses, they may engage in ugly behaviors like ly...
Substance Misuse Makes Perfect Sense: Redefining Addiction and Recovery, with Adam Sud
July 27, 2023 11:00 - 1 hour - 57.8 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: When I heard today’s guest on another (seemingly unrelated) podcast, I immediately wanted to bring his wisdom and perspective to the listeners of Hopestream. After years of stimulant and other substance abuse, Adam Sud tried to take his own life with an overdose - which thankfully failed. In the decade that followed that pivotal event, he became a behavioral wellness nutrition expert, international speaker, and the founder and CEO of a nonprofit that studies how nutritio...
Six Pivotal Decisions Parents Get To Make When Their Child Struggles With Substances and Addiction
July 20, 2023 11:00 - 17 minutes - 12.3 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Shorty episode alert 💫 Today I'm taking a break from talking about addiction, substances, mental health, all.the.things. Instead, I'm sharing six decisions you get to make as a parent that can help better your life when you have a child struggling with substances or finding their way to recovery. It's a quicky that will give you a few things to consider if you feel a bit untethered or like life is controlling you vs. the other way around. This podcast is part o...
The Intersection of Autism and Addiction, with Dr. Brandon Park
July 13, 2023 11:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: On several occasions, Hopestream has hosted conversations about the complex intersection of substance use and other issues like anxiety, trauma, and ADD. But there’s one convergence we haven’t yet discussed: substance use, addiction, and autism. After searching for a trustworthy specialist, we're finally covering this topic today with neuropsychologist Dr. Brandon Park, Founder and Executive Director of New Focus Academy. In this episode, Dr. Park explains why kids wit...
What Are Boundaries And Why Parents Need Them When Their Child Misuses Drugs or Alcohol, with Cathy Cioth
July 06, 2023 11:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: You might hear the term "boundaries" thrown around as you work to parent your child who's misusing drugs and alcohol - but what exactly are they, and why do you need them? Hopestream Community co-founder Cathy Cioth and I deep dive into this topic today because we see parents in our communities struggle with it constantly. We share: What boundaries are and are not We divulge some of our own struggles with setting and holding boundaries What can happen if you don't ha...
What the Chinese Farmer Teaches Us About Parenting Kids Using Substances, with Dina Cannizzaro
June 29, 2023 11:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: In this episode, Stream advisor Dina Cannizzaro is back with me to discuss the profound lessons in the story of the Chinese farmer. The parable applies to everyone’s lives, but it is especially relevant for those going through difficult times, as many parents in the Hopestream Community are. Take it from two moms who have survived their child’s extreme substance misuse: you never know what good may come from tragedy and misfortune. Yes, we are acutely aware of how crazy...
A Mother & Son Walk Us Through Addiction, Recovery and Rebuilding Family Connection, With Cindy & Colin
June 22, 2023 11:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: By the time Cindy learned to establish boundaries with her son Colin, he had already endured brain injuries and intubations as a result of his alcohol abuse. When Colin finally called her from jail one night, she knew that she shouldn’t bail him out despite her instincts. She expressed sympathy but didn't offer to rescue him - again. As Colin stewed in a holding cell that night, he realized his parents would no longer buffer him from the natural consequences of his action...
An Unexpectedly Humorous Take on Substance Misuse, Borderline Personality, Trauma and Tragic Loss, with Jess Kupferman
June 15, 2023 11:00 - 57 minutes - 39.3 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: On this episode of Hopestream, the show comes full circle to its roots. My guest, Jess Kupferman, is the CEO of She Podcasts, a membership-based group of all-women podcasters that played an important role in the creation of this show. What I didn’t know when I launched the podcast was that Jess lost her daughter to a heroin overdose at the same time I was going through our family struggles with my son. One of the most fascinating things about Jess is the way she has lea...
A Tribute To Bill Guy, A Role Model For Parents Who Love A Child Struggling With Drugs and Alcohol
June 08, 2023 11:00 - 28 minutes - 19.7 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: It's a very special Hopestream episode today in memory of a dear friend and host of The Woods Community, Bill Guy. Bill passed away June 2nd and he leaves a big gap in the world - we were fortunate to have had him as a generous and brave leader for our community in it's infancy. Bill was on the podcast late last year and to honor his legacy of helping parents of kids with substance misuse challenges I decided to share a compilation of beautiful thoughts and insights fro...
Is It Ok To Use A CALM Approach With A Child Who Misuses Drugs and Alcohol? With Brenda Zane
June 01, 2023 11:00 - 14 minutes - 10.1 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: It's a shorty episode today, tackling the question of whether a calm approach can work when you have a child misusing substances. I share my perspective on why I believe parents often think they need to use aggressive, confrontational tactics to get their children to change and invite you into an experiment to test the theory. I then provide a four-step way to move into a CALM approach when things get heated with your child. It's a simple but effective way to have less d...
FOO Fighter: Deprogramming Our “Family Of Origin” Triggers For More Effective Parenting, with Dr. Crystal Collier
May 25, 2023 11:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: Figuring out how to parent a teen or young adult experimenting with substances is hard enough on its own. But if you’re like me, there’s an additional layer of confusion about how this all happened: Didn’t we provide a stable home life for our kids? Didn’t they have access to everything they needed? What did I miss to prevent this? My guest today is Dr. Crystal Collier, an award-winning therapist working with adolescents and adults suffering from mental illness, behav...
Johnny’s Ambassadors: How One Mother’s Loss Started a Youth Marijuana Awareness Movement, With Laura Stack
May 18, 2023 11:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MBABOUT THE EPISODE: If you currently have a teen or young adult, you likely grew up in an era of marijuana liberalization and legalization. At that time, many of us learned that marijuana was not nearly as dangerous as we were led to believe by films like Reefer Madness and claims that showed our "brain on drugs.” But those studies were based on the potency of leaf material available before marijuana became a legal, multi-billion dollar industry – and the industry has radically changed. New...