#8 Achieving Authenticity Online

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Three main questions to ask when faced with negative, uncontrollable feelings & circumstances.

Is this permanent or impermanent?Is this pervasive or specific?Is this personal or impersonal?

How to get out of a learned helplessness rut and move into learned optimism. 

Setting personal KPIs

The "ABCDE" method for changing your mind – for the better!  From  Dr. Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology.

BTW… Here's the link to all the things mentioned today & more! CLICK HERE

Below is the Q's for the ABCDE" method 

1. Adversity: Describe a recent Adversity. Include the Who, What, When, and Where of the situation. Be specific and accurate in your description. Don't let your beliefs about Adversity creep in! Be objective.

2. Beliefs: Record what you were saying to yourself amid the Adversity. What was running through your mind? Write it down verbatim. Don't worry about being polite!

3. Consequences: Record the Consequences of your Beliefs (what did you feel and do?). Be specific. List all of the emotions you experienced and as many reactions you can identify. Ask yourself: Do your Consequences make sense given your Beliefs? If you don't have the Aha! Experience, see if you can identify other Beliefs that you may not have been as aware of initially.

4. Dispute: Generate one piece of evidence to point out the inaccuracy in your Beliefs, generate a more accurate/optimistic Alternative belief about the Adversity, or Put Into Perspective your Belief. You can use the tag lines below to craft your responses:

a. Evidence: That's not entirely true because…

b. Alternative: A more accurate way of seeing this is….

c. Putting It In Perspective: The most likely outcome is…, and I can… to handle it.

5. Energy: Write a few sentences about how your Disputation changed your Energy. What happened to your mood? How did your behavior change? What solutions did you see that you didn't see before?

Referenced in this episode:
1. The interview with Caroline Myss about how you know you are on the right path when you are not betraying yourself. Full Episode: “Intuition, Power and Grace” (Ep. 303) | SuperSoul Sunday | Oprah Winfrey Network ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8q6txrSPWyA)

2. https://wishfulthinkingworks.com/what-2/the-quotabcdequot-method-for-changing-your-mind-for-the-better/