Heauxly Coitus

S1E37. Beth’s Heaux Story: SDA Pastor’s kid, Marriage, New Lesbian

I was raised as a Seventh-Day Adventist pastor’s kid, attending SDA schools through college. While I never really bought into it and mostly stopped going to church in my 20s, I didn’t start deconstruction and doing trauma therapy until last year at 42 years old. Through deconstructing and with the help of trauma therapy - which I can’t recommend enough! - I started unpacking purity culture and realized I’m lesbian. I’m so excited for the future and being able to live authentically is such a g...

S1E36. Patrick’s Heaux Story: Polyamory, Parenting, and European Seculiarism

Patrick @secure_not_pure is from Germany and has American roots - not only by blood, but he considers himself a transatlantic dropout from 1990s American purity culture. His ongoing journey of de/reconstruction has led him away from toxic church structures and a static view of the divine, towards a more healthy and inclusive mindset - and all the way into consensual non-monogamy (which he actually didn't see coming). Patrick is healing from early trauma and shame, and learning to embrace his ...

S1E36. Patrick’s Heaux Story: Polyamory, Parenting, and European Secularism

Patrick @secure_not_pure is from Germany and has American roots - not only by blood, but he considers himself a transatlantic dropout from 1990s American purity culture. His ongoing journey of de/reconstruction has led him away from toxic church structures and a static view of the divine, towards a more healthy and inclusive mindset - and all the way into consensual non-monogamy (which he actually didn't see coming). Patrick is healing from early trauma and shame, and learning to embrace his ...

S1E35. Sarah’s Heaux Story: Loving after Death, Healing from C-PTSD and Religious Abuse, Wholeness

I was raised in the fundamentalist Evangelical Christian movement, where there were very strict predetermined ideas of what was acceptable, holy, and sacred, and what was considered rebellious, evil, and profane. When I started exploring outside of those strict beliefs, I discovered to my surprise, that the sacred is often found with the profane. I often saw the most beautiful examples of God and God’s love wrapped up with what was considered sinful by the church. As a response to my explor...

S1E34. Sarah’s Heaux Story: Community in Religious Deconstruction; Pelvic Floor and Purity Culture.

My name is Sarah, and I am a physical therapist who also runs an instagram account in my free time called @DeconstructingPurityCulture. I started this account as a way to process through my own religious deconstruction, specifically when it came to purity culture, and I feel so honored that my words have resonated with so many people. The only goal of my account is to help people feel less alone while processing through and deconstructing their own journey through religion and specifically pu...

S1E33. Suzii’s Heaux Story: Finding love, making mistakes, and vulnerability.

Untamed and unpolished, I’ve always struggled with acne and a distorted view on beauty being done up. Over the course of Covid and the world shutting down I embraced getting real with myself, makeup was prolonging my acne and not being true to myself was causing stress and that would come through in my skin. It’s still a growing process but the more I learn to be very genuine to myself the more my body loves me back for it. I think this bleeds into all aspects of life. It become more about th...

S1E32. Tasha’s Heaux Story: “Overcoming the Drug Addiction I Never Had”

In this compelling memoir, Tasha Denese lays her soul bare as she recounts the adversities of her
childhood. Overcoming the Drug Addiction I Never Had is the incongruous true story of deep-rooted trauma and pain from years or physical, sexual and emotional abuse at the hands of people who were supposed to love and protect her. By breaking her silence and finally speaking her truth, Tasha Denese has sought to not only give a voice to other victims of childhood abuse and suffering but she was ...

S1E31. BJ’s Heaux Story: Marriage Coitus, Shamefree Parenting, Body Image

It’s awkward for me to post a picture of myself.  Not because I am self conscious of my body.  But it feels weird to say “hey, this is a picture of me that is sexual.”  I think it may be due to the fact that humility was hammered into me at a young age and it had both positive and negative consequences.  This first picture is of me in my running gear.  Being physically fit and how I look after a run or a ride makes me feel sexual.  I was taught and taught and taught from a young age that it’s...

S1E30. The Divorced Virgin’s Heaux Story: Purity Culture, Divorce, Sexual Freedom

Y’all. I popped The Divorced Virgin’s podcast cherry! Check out her very first podcast interview here!🍒💦 @thedivorcedvirgin Evangelical. Purity culture survivor. The difficult, fun and crazy journey of a divorced virgin to self-proclaimed whore. . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: https://heauxlycoitus.square.site 💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For pictures, past episodes, and st...

S1E29. Pratibha’s Heaux Story: Mental Health, Life After Abortion, Spiritual Practices

My name is Pratibha Dey, Founder @ Chai Together. A video podcast showcasing mental health journeys. I am a treatment specialist for men in domestic violence and I provide mental health support for engineers in the Cyberspace. I enjoy wheel throwing(pottery), current book interest is Osho’s “The Book of Women”, and I’m traveling to Japan this year! . “ Our spines are the most important covers of our lives. They unveil what’s beneath us, what’s unfinished, and what’s to come after gruesome en...

S1E28. Shannon’s Heaux Story: Author, Former Christian Fundamentalist, Now Transgender Theologian

Shannon TL Kearns is a transgender man who believes in the transformative power of story. He is an ordained priest, a playwright, and a theologian. He is the co-founder of QueerTheology.com which has reached more than a million people all over the world through videos, articles, and online courses and community. His first book “In the Margins: A Transgender Man's Journey With Scripture” comes out August 9 from Eerdmans Publishing. Shannon is a recipient of the Playwrights’ Center Jerome Fello...

S1E27. Phoenix Rising’s Heaux Story: Survivor and Thriver after Abuse, a Cult, and Purity Culture

**This episode contains themes (abuse, assault, suicide, trauma) that may be triggering to sensitive ears and hearts. If you’re in crisis, contact National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK) | website Deaf, hard of hearing TTY and chat options hereEn Español, call 1-888-628-9454… Crisis Text Line | Text HOME to 741-741 | website ** I am Phoenix Rising and I am a purity culture survivor. After surviving abuse from my biological family and the church, I left to find my...

S1E26. Jalila’s Heaux Story: Dating as an Expat in China. Face Palm.

A Heaux Abroad: Taking a Break from the Heaux Life Have you ever felt like you needed a break from the heaux life? Today Jalila and I talked about being a heaux abroad and what happens when you need to take a break from the heaux life because something has gone wrong. Jalila is an American expat living in Shanghai, yes, Shanghai lockdown, you’ve been glued to your social media feeds I’m sure, but I they should be free now. Jalila moved abroad to Beijing China September 2019 and after worki...

S1E25. Angela’s Heaux Story: Geechee Roots, Confidence, New Motherhood

Hello! I’m Angela. I’m an everyday 30 year old living on this rock like the rest of you. I have deep southern “geechee” roots but Atlanta will always be home to me. I hope to inspire new moms who are trying to find themselves after going through tumultuous transitions. Sex has always been an ongoing battle for me, but I’m proud I was able to save myself and loving how liberated I feel because of it. I’m happy to share my story and hope you find the courage to continue and rewrite your own. ...

S1E25. Angela: Geechee roots, Confidence, New Motherhood

Hello! I’m Angela. I’m an everyday 30 year old living on this rock like the rest of you. I have deep southern “geechee” roots but Atlanta will always be home to me. I hope to inspire new moms who are trying to find themselves after going through tumultuous transitions. Sex has always been an ongoing battle for me, but I’m proud I was able to save myself and loving how liberated I feel because of it. I’m happy to share my story and hope you find the courage to continue and rewrite your own. ...

S1E24. King Aiden’s Heaux Story: Cult Survivor, Transman, Musician

This picture (check out IG!!) means a lot to me because I’m proud of the man I have became and I can show off my chest if I want to. Talk about freedom! A heaux in my opinion would be a sexually free woman so I’ll leave it to the women to make comments on that one haha. King Aiden is an independent American actor, musician and singer-songwriter. Sent to artist development at The Abbott Agency in Nashville by Terry Watson from Warner Music Group. Aiden has worked with artists and producers s...

S1E23. Black Sheep Bios’ Heaux Story: Youth Group “Mess Up,” Sex as Power Trip, Guilt-Free Sex

Follow @BlackSheepBios on Instagram to learn more about Deconstructing religion, faith, spirituality, and all things purity culture! A Heaux Is someone who embraces their sexual autonomy, and as long as it remains consensual and causes no harm, doesn't allow religion to dictate what they do with and think about their body. ~ Black Sheep Bios _______ I don’t normally do show notes, but BSB was super organized and I want to acknowledge her preparation! See below for our talking points. 1) M...

S1E22. Tia’s Heaux Story: Body Love, Self-Trust After Trauma, Pursuing Pleasure

Tia Jones is a trauma survivor and trauma-informed self-trust coach for BIPOC women and femme cycle-breakers. She’s obsessed with helping you be your own cheerleader while pursuing a life you love with more grace, gentleness, and fun! Generational trauma healing is hard. It’s Tia’s mission to help you inject some loving lightheartedness along the way.  _________ A heaux is someone who confidently takes ownership of their pleasure and understands its not a gift that only other people can give,...

S1E21. Sister Shannon’s Heaux Story: ExCatholic, Reclaiming “Woman,” and Sexual Liberation

ister Shannon is an ExCatholic coach, helping people raised in Catholicism or impacted by its teachings reclaim the inherent GOODNESS of their bodies and step into their sexual power. IG:@sister.shannon . This is my regular day - because as I practice healthy sex and pleasure, I’ve built such reverence for my pleasure in EVERY moment that I now understand what looks luxurious, over-the-top, “too demanding” to some (I sit in a cafe like this almost every day), is actually my DESIRE. It’s just...

S1E20 B’s Heaux Story: Evangelicalism and Purity Culture, Body Acceptance, Nude Self-Portraits

B is a 40 year old midwesterner finding his way out of the shame and fear of evangelicalism and purity culture in part by taking and sharing revealing, freeing selfies and self-portraits that are helping him move toward a new love for and confidence in his body. You can follow him on instagram at @happyinmyownskin. “A heaux is someone who embraces, expresses and explores their desires.” ~B ______ Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.m...

S1E19 Treasure’s Heaux Story: Church Youth Group Shame, Newish Military Spouse, and Queer and Free

My name is Treasure (she/her), I’m sunshine radiating as a Black Queer woman. I’m studying English Literature Online as I maneuver and create a new path of authenticity, free from religion, on the island of O’ahu Hawaii as a newish military spouse. . It’s important for me to say that because I’m finally able to live the life I’ve always wanted, with freedom and privacy to dream and create. You’ll find my thoughts and writings @bodhi.curry & @freespace.diary. . A Heaux is an individual who ...

S1E18 Ahmad’s Heaux Story: Queer Canadian-Palestinian, Sugar Baby, Finding Community

I’m @realahmadray on all social media platforms and Ahmad Ray on YouTube! https://solo.to/realahmadray “A heaux is knowing what you want, when you want it, how you want it, and enjoy it happening.” LGBTQAI+ Resources https://docs.google.com/document/d/1JrYFefymLHtJncJi-Zo_H5QmHh_41o4cbLSjs38Us8g/edit . Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus 💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com 💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly ...

S1E17 Liz’s Heaux Story: Erotica Author, Spiritual Practices Connected to Sex, Sexuality Abroad

My books are an exploration of Love and Sex and how they come together. I wrote them in response to a lot of the prevailing toxic tropes in Romance and mainstream stories that I believe have shaped how we approach relationships and the unhealthy expectations we create around them. What I learned over the course of writing these books is that when we can embrace our sexuality and come into that personal power it affords us, our relationships can be more than we ever thought possible.  A heau...

S1E16 Helen’s Heaux Story: From Non-Denominational Church Shame, to Trauma Ho, to Polyamorous Heaux

This is a digital rendering of a nude of mine done by @lord_kpuri. I used it to come out as queer on my personal page. It, my like my interview with you, is a type of disrobing. I’m revealing myself, as I am or as I see myself, to the world. Take me or leave me. It’s really that simple. (Click on website below to see this picture.) . “A heaux is any particular individual who, while understanding and accepting all the consequences, engages in a sexual lifestyle that deviates from the the ‘patr...

S1E15 Aryam’s Heaux Story: Wearing Hijab, Asexuality, Healing After Assault

Aryam Marafi is a 21 year old Kuwaiti medical student and activist. She is an abuse survivor who advocates for survivors of abuse and raises awareness of safeguarding issues in Kuwait. She is currently seeking asylum in the UK. Instagram: @aryammarafi . This is a drawing (see below for website link) I made that I feel represents my view of my body. It expresses my frustration that my body and what I do with my body is always up for debate and my choices are never respected. The hands creepin...

S1E14 Emily’s Heaux Story: Religious Trauma-Informed Spirituality, Fatphobia, Burned Wedding Dress

Externally, I have presented as straight, cis-gender, and accommodating. I have seemed to follow purity culture even though I didn't completely. But those close to me know better and that's something I will always appreciate, both about me and about them. I think the whole bigger on the inside thing is also a good description of the love I have cultivated individually for my body in a fatphobic culture. “A heaux is someone who says no to oppressive control of their sexuality, body image, and...

S1E13 Sarah’s Heaux Story: Dating after a 32-year Marriage, Fundamentalism, Finding Pleasure

I grew up as a Baptist missionary kid in South America and attended a notorious right wing Bible college. After seven children and 32 years, I pulled the rip cord in pursuit of my own happiness and integrity. When I left my marriage in May of 2021, I became homeless virtually overnight. The judge signed my divorce papers unexpectedly with no hearing the same day I presented them while I had been counting on a 6-week or so waiting period. My Uber-holy Christian ex gave me the boot because “we...

S1E12 Fran: Nude Photography, Eroticism, and Sexual Freedom in Making Art

Hi! My name is Fran, a family man in his 40s from the South of Spain who frequently travels. In this podcast I spit it all out for when it comes to erotic photoshoots which I love to do as I’m a hobby photographer. I love helping women realize their dream of being nude in front of a camera, and making them comfortable with it, otherwise it’s no fun! A heaux is nothing else than a woman craving for love. Erupting her lava into another soul in the form of sex, the heaux is there to be taken o...

S1E11: Dr. Kyle’s Heaux Story: Philosopher, Complementarianism, Evangelical Purity Culture

I’m a philosopher, author, and podcaster in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA. I mostly work on disagreement, public discussion, trust, expertise, politics, and religion. My podcast is called “A Pastor and a Philosopher Walk into a Bar” and can be found wherever you get podcasts. You can find me on Twitter @robertkwhitaker and at my website: robertkwhitaker.com . Evangelicalism sends contradictory messages, especially to youth, about sex. “God made it, so it’s good and you should want it, but also it...

S1E10: Cat Delmar’s Heaux Story: From Narcissistic Abuse to “Trauma Ho” to Sea Witch Goddess

I’m Cat Delmar and I write about my experiences as a first-generation Jamaican-American, from leaving Christianity/Seventh-day Adventism and healing my intimacy disorder to my journey into earth-based spirituality and discovering and embracing an edifying type of sexuality. I struggled with sex and love addiction for years due to purity culture and narcissistic abuse. Then I had a spiritual awakening and came out of my “trauma ho phase.” Now I’m a free-spirited, twerking mermaid heaux for m...

S1E9: Nkem’s Heaux Story: Saying Yes to Pleasure, Thriving Beyond Being Hypersexualized, and Writing

Nkem is a human-goddess hybrid who is devoted to using her highly sensitive nature as a super power to access pleasure in this lifetime, whether sensing pleasure directly or in transmuting pain into pleasure through writing, dancing, and connecting with other souls across this big-but-small world. You can follow her @naturallyfree123 and read her written work at www.bynkem.co/words. A heaux is a person actively involved in the pleasure they receive; a person who prioritizes pleasure; a per...

S1E8. Rachel’s Heaux Story: Cult Survivor, Author, Religiously “None of the Above”

Rachel is the author of "Confessions of an American None: A Credo of Sorts" and the founder of @AmericanNone. She has overcome religious trauma both in her childhood and adulthood. Now she advocates for a world in which #LoveisGreaterthanLabels.  @rachel_l_roberts [email protected] — From Rachel: A heaux is owning the dichotomy that we can be sexually primal, raw, and rabid AND be vulnerable, sensitive, and delicate. Healthy sexuality represents the best of the spectrum of the t...

S1E7 Jennifer’s Heaux Story: Polyamorous, Christian, Mom.

Jennifer C. Martin is a writer living in Richmond, VA with her two partners and their two children. She is a polyamorous dirtbag Christian and a proud leftist. In her spare time, she enjoys baking, yoga, gaming, and consuming all kinds of media. You can find her on Twitter or Instagram at @notreallyjcm. “My body was once a prison. It was something I hated, something that was too much and not enough at once. And now, it’s home.” ~A heaux is a person who is totally comfortable with themselves...

S1E6: Mackenzie’s Heaux Story. Dance, Deconstruction, and Purity Culture

My name is Mackenzie and I am a deconstructing Christian living in the High Rockies of Colorado. After a lifetime of conservative indoctrination influenced by denominations such as the Church of Christ and Assembly of God, I started an Instagram called "Why I Left the Church" as a personal journal project. I have since amassed more than 800 followers. This online community has brought me great relief in knowing that I'm not alone and a lot to think about in my own spiritual journey. This mo...

S1/E5. Melissa’s Heaux Story: Ex Seventh Day Adventist, Author, The Glory Whole

Melissa is writing a book! The Glory Whole – a memoir of misogyny, sex, family, secrets and purity culture within the claustrophobic depths of the Seventh-Day Adventist church. Raised in a severe, cult-like branch of the extreme fundamentalist SDA church, Melissa fled the church at 18 and plunged headlong into the “real world,’ notching an Ivy League degree, a modeling and movie career, jobs working for famous politicians and billionaires, and seeking every excess possible with the sex & cel...

S1/E4: “Well That Ended Quickly”

Ms. HC retells an early encounter in her heaux phase and reflects on some lessons she’s since learned about power, agency, coitus, and expectations men have about women. 💦💦Ready to share your story? Follow, share, and slide into my DMs @heauxlycoitus or drop me a line at [email protected]. Let’s chat and collaborate! 💦💦 Read up on my heaux phase at heauxlycoitus.home.blog where I share my shenanigans after being a super virgin for 31 years.💦💦 Have an orgasm filled week, babe!

Coitus Convo: Cindy, Purity Culture, Freedom, and Her Fancy Vibrator

Cindy spent her college years and early adulthood in an exceptionally strict evangelical Christian group that took ownership of folks’ agency. Purity culture is hard to be in and hard to get out of, but Cindy found strength to choose herself, take ownership of her own vagina and her body, and free herself to pursue wholeness. In her coitus convo, we talk about her journey and what she’s learned over the years. 💦💦Ready to share your story? Follow, share, and slide into my DMs @heauxlycoitus o...

A Guest’s Sexual Autobiography: The Virginal Condom Plug, BDSM Munches, and Her Honeycomb

Our guest today, Nella, shares her sex story and her work in normalizing sexual pleasure and information for everyone. She has found her home and curiosity satiated in the BDSM community and encourages everyone to think outside the box and truly find their voice and orgasm. From being the go-to person in her high school for sexual education and condoms even though she herself was a virgin, to when she was a nude model in college and saw her body as art, to when she experienced alternative lif...

My Next Door Neighbor

Ms. Heauxly Coitus reminisces on one of her first coital encounters. She now knows why folks say don’t have sexy with your neighbor. Also, 4.5 strokes only? Surely you jest! Truly a pity this one was. Stay tuned. Send this episode to your people. Share your story on the pod. Website: heauxlycoitus.home.blog Follow on Insta: @heauxlycoitus

Introducing Ms. Heauxly Coitus

Hey y’all. It’s me, Ms. Heauxly, and I invite you to join me as I retell stories of my heaux phase. Get to know me, why I’m doing this podcast, and how you too can be a part of the pod. Follow on Instagram @heauxlycoitus and the blog heauxlycoitus.home.blog. Do you have a sex story or shenanigan you need to get off your chest? Come tell it here! Episodes come out weekly. Have a coitus and/or orgasm-filled week, beloved 😘😘

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