Heal From the Ground Up

Is Self-Care Selfish: The Trauma of Having Narcissistic Parents (Coaching Session)

August 27, 2021 16:51 - 1 hour - 83.7 MB

Do you feel guilt and an immense responsibility for others? Do you put yourself last because you fear taking care of yourself will take away from your ability to take care of others? All of this can be due to having narcissistic parents who treat you as an extension of themselves. Listen to this coaching session with Dustin and learn how your resistance to self-care is rooted in your childhood trauma.

Trauma of a Family Murder (Coaching Session w/Tia Landers)

April 14, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 105 MB

Tia feels lost as an entrepreneur, since recently leaving a steady job. She fears if she will fail or not, but the real issue is Tia not feeling in control. Tia gets angry with her daughter because she bought her enough clothes to wear a different outfit for three weeks in a row. Her daughter will wear one outfit Monday and wear the same exact outfit Wednesday, which makes Tia lose it. Where does Tia's feeling of powerlessness come from? Well when Tia was 1 year old, her mother's sister was ...

The Danger of Suppressing Our Emotions (Coaching Session w/Stacey Gross)

March 31, 2020 10:30 - 1 hour - 67.4 MB

Suppressing our emotions and feelings is dangerous because our unresolved feelings are emotional wounds and if we suppress them by avoiding them, they only grow and eventually consume us without even us being conscious of it. Parents who suppress their emotions and feelings pass down their unresolved feelings to their children in a dangerous way because the child grows up completely oblivious to it all since the parent consciously suppresses their feelings but the child subconsciously feel...

What If I Lose My Job? (Coaching session w/Xavier Diaz)

March 24, 2020 10:30 - 57 minutes - 52.8 MB

With the economy crashing due to Covid-19, Xavier has the constant fear that he will be let go since he is only a new hiree. What's happening now in the world is bringing up our worst fears so we can uncover and heal our unresolved deep-seated feelings. As always, "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." In this coaching session, we go to the core of the core and see what Xavier's fear of losing his job and thereby losing his ability to make money is ...

Finding Peace During a Pandemic (Covid-19)

March 17, 2020 10:00 - 29 minutes - 27 MB

You may have all kinds of emotions, feelings, and thoughts racing through you because of all that is happening right now. All of this may be eliciting one of the darkest times of your life. Through all of this, despite how bad it may be, I want you to first center yourself with the mantra that "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." This is not to illegitimize the severity of what is going on right now, but if what is going on right now is bring up...

Pt 2: Will My Family Abandon Me? Live Coaching Session w/Natalie Que

March 10, 2020 10:30 - 50 minutes - 47.8 MB

Where does Natalie's feelings of her family abandoning truly come from? In part two of this coaching session with Natalie, we go deep in the intergenerational healing process and unveil the source of it all. If you have not yet listened to coaching session part one, please go to listen to the previous episode first before listening to this episode. Receive your FREE "Feeling is Healing" Course by visiting healfromthegroundup.com You can find Natalie's Podcast, Your Spinout is Gorgeous wh...

Will My Family Abandon Me? (Live Coaching Session Pt 1 w/Natalie Que)

March 03, 2020 11:30 - 57 minutes - 53.1 MB

Here I coach Natalie Que through her fear that she will be disowned by her family if she speaks her true story that entails her family on her podcast "Your Spin Out is Gorgeous." This episode marks a big change in my podcast where I will be coming back to featuring coaching sessions, but this time around I will be coaching mainly podcasters and YouTubers and less so anonymous callers. You are going to see people really putting themselves out there in a boldly vulnerable yet transformative...

Anxiety, Anger and Depression are a Symptom of Intergenerational Trauma

February 25, 2020 11:30 - 31 minutes - 29.8 MB

The reason why anxiety, anger, and depression keep coming up in our lives and in our society is because we are not uncovering and exploring the underlying root cause which lies in intergenerational healing. Understanding intergenerational healing forever change how we as a human race understand and ultimately heal anxiety, anger, and depression. To give you an understanding of what intergenerational healing is, I used my personal story in today’s podcast episode. Ten days before my 5-month...

Michael's feeling of failure

February 18, 2020 12:00 - 40 minutes - 37.5 MB

Here l share my immense fear of failure with raw vulnerability. I was contemplating not publishing this episode because I did not want to appear as a hypocrite, failure, and fraud, but my wife convinced me that others easily connect when I share my raw vulnerability. It is only through the process of struggle, pain, and healing is transformation possible. For more information on private sessions and online courses with Michael go to www.healfromthegroundup.com If you enjoyed this episod...

Feeling is Healing

February 11, 2020 12:30 - 14 minutes - 13.2 MB

Do you find yourself feeling stuck in your negative emotions and problems no matter how much you think and analyze it all? Although thinking is important, thoughts must be balanced with the act of feeling, for "feeling is healing." "Feeling" is the first step of Michael's breakthrough emotional strength F.I.S.T. process which will help you get to the root of all your negative emotions, feelings and problems. "Feeling" is not the end all be all, but without this foundation, no other highe...

The Anger of Our Lost Childhood

July 24, 2015 22:17 - 17 minutes - 8.08 MB

Are you tired of being angry? I believe our anger has a lot to do with what was lost in our childhood. We don't know that because we're so busy being angry at others and ourselves. What we're really angry about is losing our childhood because our parents needed us as children for their emotional support. Throughout our entire lives we try to take on the pain of our parents so we can lessen their burden. But the whole time we don't even know this pain is not ours so we are so frustrated w...

Our Codependent Relationship with the World

June 03, 2015 12:00 - 18 minutes - 8.52 MB

I believe relationships can often be enmeshed in the sense you have two people so focused on each other but not looking at themselves. One partner can subconsciously blame the other partner for their past wounds. While the other partner feels responsible and wants to be their savior. Either way, you have two people so focused on each other which causes their individual happiness to be dependent on what's outside of themselves. Interestingly this phenomenon of enmeshment also carries ...

Chasing After Success Because You're a Failure

May 28, 2015 12:00 - 18 minutes - 8.42 MB

Why are we chasing after something we already are? Why are we chasing after strength when we already strong? Why are we chasing after worthiness if we already worthy? The only reason why we chase after something is because we believe we don't have it. We believe we are a failure so we must chase after success. We believe we are worthless so we chase after worthiness. Listen to this week's podcast to stop chasing after your greatness but living through your greatness.

Makings Others Responsible For Your Happiness

May 20, 2015 12:00 - 22 minutes - 10.4 MB

I've seen it a lot with my clients where couples get into heated arguments because they feel emotionally responsible for each other. Interestingly this helped see it in my own relationship where I would make my fiancee responsible for my own emotional well-being. When you make others responsible for your well-being you nit pick at everything they do, because everything they do carries the heavy weight of your emotional wellbeing. I noticed that whenever my relationship was not doing well...

Finding Peace and Infinite Wisdom Within Your Monkey Mind

May 13, 2015 12:00 - 19 minutes - 8.9 MB

We often feel we are a prisoner to our own minds. We are constantly wrestling with our thoughts and hate ourselves for our negative emotions. We either try to think our way out of the emotion, numb ourselves with busyness or project our self-hate onto others. The whole time we are doing everything we can to avoid our emotions at all costs. But the truth is there is infinite wisdom that lies deep within our emotions once we allow ourselves to be present with them. It is through meditating on...

Why Self-love Begins With a Clean Room You Love

May 06, 2015 12:00 - 25 minutes - 11.8 MB

I've been a messy and disorderly person all my life. I wanted to be organized but never truly understood the paramount importance of having my personal space orderly and including only possessions that spark joy within me. This has helped me create a clear mind and clarify on what is important to me since I am surrounded only by things that spark joy for me. Respecting your personal space serves as one of the pillars to respecting yourself. This took me 34 years to learn this, but glad I lea...

Why Control is the Cause of Your Pain

April 29, 2015 17:13 - 20 minutes - 9.52 MB

We think control as something that is self driven because it gets things the way we want it to be. But control is really about forgetting who we are and what is important to us because control is focusing everything that is outside of you. We need to control our environment and other people to have them give to us what we really need to be giving ourselves. We feel like we need to control to feel safe but control is the very thing that keeps us feeling unsafe and in pain. Listen to this ...

Who Are You Without Your Fears?

April 22, 2015 12:00 - 18 minutes - 8.58 MB

Who are you without your fears? Asking this question allows you to understand your true authentic self. We have identified with our fears for so long because it feels familiar to us, but none of our fears make up the fabric of who we truly are. Our fears is what make us look at our unattained goals everyday and think how far we are away from achieving them. This makes us feel we are not enough, but the truth is, the gift and beauty of who you are is the vehicle to all your goals an...

Why Your Pain Doesn't Belong To You

April 15, 2015 12:00 - 22 minutes - 10.1 MB

The pain and fears we carry are so hard to let go because they feel like they are a part of our soul. The amazing thing is that our pain doesn't even belong to us. As empaths or codependents we took on the pain of those we loved in order to lessen their load. Especially when we took on this pain as children, this pain and this responsibility for the pain of others becomes our sole identity into our adult lives. In this podcast you will see how realizing that your pain doesn't belong ...

The Double Edged Sword of Empathy

April 08, 2015 12:00 - 19 minutes - 9.16 MB

Codependency is a word we often view as something that is negative and needs to be eliminated. My understanding of codependency is that it is a result of a gift of ours that we overuse. That is the gift of being an Empath. As empaths we feel, identify and can even feel responsible for the emotional well-being of others. This is a gift we use to intuitively know what others need in order to break free from their old wounds. However, this gift becomes a doubled edged sword when we don't...

Why You're A Gift to the World

March 31, 2015 17:25 - 27 minutes - 12.8 MB

We falsely believe that accomplishing our life goals and dreams is what bring us our self-worth. The truth is who we are just as we are is a gift to the world. Ironically when we realize that, is when our greatest dreams and goals come true. Therefore your gift to the world is not your "success.: It is you just as you are.

Healing the Pain of Being Selfless With Boundaries

March 24, 2015 16:41 - 17 minutes - 7.98 MB

Boundaries serve to protect you in all areas of life, especially in relationships and work. In a relationship, boundaries are so important to protect not only yourself but your partner. Because once boundaries are crossed both parties are disrespecting themselves. Any disagreement can only get worse if boundaries are crossed. In this society we praise being selfless which fosters the idea that we should not have boundaries. Boundaries are your vault to protect what is most essenti...

Reclaiming Your SELF Through Boundaries

March 18, 2015 16:41 - 18 minutes - 8.29 MB

Every waking moment is an opportunity to share the gift of who you are and not to validate your self worth with what you do. Lacking boundaries is not knowing where you end and the other person begins. Without boundaries you cease to exist and thus sacrifice yourself to purely become a vessel to help others. Reclaiming your boundaries allows you to give from the gift of who you are. Without boundaries we are forced to be a servant desperately seeking for value outside of ourself and to ...

How Your "Problems" Take You Out of Reality

March 10, 2015 18:23 - 1 hour - 28.9 MB

We all feel overwhelmed by all the things that we need to get done and especially all the problems we need to resolve in order to get to where we want to in life. But the real issue is how we focus on these problems that take ourselves out of reality. Thus the very thing we think will get us closer to our life goals and visions is actually taking us farther away from it all. Listen to this podcast where I get coached by Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast. It takes me a few days to...

Basing self-worth on what you DO and not on who you ARE

March 03, 2015 18:25 - 12 minutes - 5.92 MB

This summary is hard to write because it has to do with my parents. I do not want to defame them in any way. But the truth is I am not emotional responsible for their feelings. I had to console my mother through panic attacks as a child which planted the seed into my adulthood that I was emotionally responsible for the world. In doing so, I completely lost my sense of worth that lied within me. And because I had no self worth from within, I had to create it with what I accomplished. ...

Michael Uncovers the Root of All His Problems

February 24, 2015 16:21 - 1 hour - 36.5 MB

This is a powerful coaching session where I uncover the root of all my problems and struggles. I realize all the healing that I do for the others is the same healing I need to give to myself. In this session you will see how the struggles of my adulthood are all actually rooted in my childhood. Thank you Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast for coaching me and really changing my life.

Pt 2: Michael & Daria Explore Their Relationship Triggers

February 17, 2015 18:33 - 1 hour - 28.6 MB

Living in fear is a pattern that was taught to us very early on in our lives. The reason why we live out our childhood in our adulthood is because that is what was programmed into us. In part two of this couples coaching session with my fiancee Daria and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast, you will see me trying to control Daria and my work environment through fear. Unfortunately, what I try to control, only ends up controlling me by living in constant fear. You will want ...

Pt 1: Michael & Daria Explore Their Relationship Triggers

February 10, 2015 18:31 - 1 hour - 33.7 MB

In relationships you are always going to have fights. It's normal and necessary. But one thing to be conscious of is to avoid the downward spiral of relationship triggers. What this means is when one partner gets triggered, he or she takes it out on their partner. And that partner triggers the other partner back. It just goes back and forth and builds layer upon layer on the real issue at hand. It is important to look at where this trigger is coming from. But it's hard to see that whe...

Why Feeling It Is Achieving It

February 03, 2015 17:49 - 12 minutes - 5.8 MB

We believe the achieving of all our goals and dreams will bring us a feeling of happiness. But the truth is everything that you so desperately seek resides within you. And how you experience that is not setting a condition to your happiness but giving yourself the permission to feel the happiness that you are in the present moment. Do not set a condition on your happiness with "goals" because your worth is unconditional. Follow me at Twitter Facebook healfromthegroundup.com

Michael's Personal Journey Interview with Jade Inspiration

January 27, 2015 13:00 - 1 hour - 27.7 MB

This is the first time I did an interview for my show. You will get to learn about how all the healing I offer others stems from the healing I give to myself. We all want to help others but we forget that to become selfless we need to first be "selfish." Or in other words put yourself as a top priority instead of the last. www.healfromthegroundup.com Follow me: https://twitter.com/HealGroundUp Subscribe on iTunes

Why You're More Powerful Than You Can Ever Imagine

January 20, 2015 13:00 - 51 minutes - 23.7 MB

Putting ourselves down is something as natural to us as breathing. So natural that we are not even aware that we are doing it. Our focus is purely on our "problems" that we have created which we treat as reasons for why we are not good enough. The truth is not only are our fears false, but the truth is we are more powerful than we can ever imagine. For us to realize this we must boldly claim back our power. We are all kings and queens that have forgotten our power. Now its time for ...

The Voice of Your Inner Critic

January 13, 2015 13:00 - 51 minutes - 23.8 MB

The voice of inner critic is strong but acts like a ghost. It controls your every move but you don’t know that you are being controlled and by what. When you touch a hot stove, you don’t have the time to think about the pain, you just automatically remove your hand without thinking. We live our lives the same way, when something triggers a negative emotion we automatically do whatever we can to eliminate the thing that is triggering the negative emotion without thinking about what our negat...

Pt 3: Michael's Anger Towards His Fiancée

January 06, 2015 13:00 - 40 minutes - 18.5 MB

In this part 3 finale you will discover the absolute root cause of my anger towards my fiancée. In Part 1 you saw how my anger towards my fiancee was really an expression of feminine tendencies of being overly sensitive and emotional. In Part 2 you began to see how my anger towards her was really about my anger towards myself. Finally in part 3 is where I bare all and discover for the first time how vicious my anger towards myself really is And it's not about my anger towards her because ...

Pt 2: Michael's Anger Towards His Fiancée

December 30, 2014 13:00 - 46 minutes - 21.2 MB

This is Part 2 of a couples coaching session I had with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of The Overhwhelmed Brain Podcast. The biggest things I'm taking away from these couples sessions is that the issues that come up in my relationship has a lot less to do with the other person and mostly what's going within each one of us. I'm realizing my anger towards my fiancée is really about the anger towards myself. I have to forewarn you though the arguments get pretty headed in this second half ...

Pt 1: Michael's Anger Towards His Fiancée

December 23, 2014 13:00 - 40 minutes - 18.7 MB

This is a couples coaching session with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast. The previous couples session we did (episode 28) you saw the anger my fiancee had towards me which was really her suppressed anger towards her mother. The tables have turned and you will now see my suppressed anger come up in the relationship and get directed at my fiancee. Although I was not conscious of the root of my anger, it was secretly controlling my life and being projected at ...

Projecting Your Hidden Fears onto Others

December 16, 2014 13:00 - 1 hour - 31.4 MB

Things we do not like about ourselves we project onto others in such a subconscious way that we don't even realize what are real fears are. I do this all the time with my fiancee and everything that I do not like about myself, I pour my frustration onto her. It's almost I'm subconsciously saying she is the root cause of my insecurities. This is something that happens so often in our relationships with others. And we feel we are the victim. But the problem is that for as long as we fixa...

Michael Discovers the Healing Power of Pain

December 09, 2014 13:00 - 25 minutes - 11.8 MB

I have spent my whole life using logic to understand life my life which has kept my negative feelings and most importantly pain at a safe distance from me. But it is my pain that holds the missing key to my healing. In this episode, I share all that I've learned from feeling the emotions I would typically suppress with logic. http://healfromthegroundup.com/michael-discovers-the-healing-power-of-pain/

Breaking Through Analysis Paralysis

December 02, 2014 13:00 - 38 minutes - 17.5 MB

In thinking of the title for this episode I could have titled it after the epiphany that surfaced which is "The Gift of Who You Are". However, this epiphany was only brought out from me breaking through analysis paralysis. The best way I believe to do this is from feeling all of our feelings as opposed to resisting them through analysis paralysis. Thoughts and analysis are distractions to keep the pain of our fears at bay. What this means is that pain will always be there until we acknow...

Michael Shares His Mother's Impact on Him

November 25, 2014 21:33 - 40 minutes - 18.4 MB

The impact that my mother has had on my life is something that has been hidden from me for most of my life. Although I'm still processing it, I'm beginning to realize the pain I've been hiding and denying within my self. Having said this, my mother is still the best mother I can ever ask for. But we all have been heavily impacted by our parents and the seed is planted in our childhood. The work I do for others on the podcast and in my private practice is all mirroring things that I'm le...

Couples Coaching with Michael & His Fiancée | Paul Colaianni

November 18, 2014 13:00 - 1 hour - 31.8 MB

We may be deeply in love with our romantic partners but the relationship still serves as a vehicle to heal our inner most wounds. Within the relationship triggers are naturally manifested for us to bring our wounds to the surface so we can begin to see them and heal them. What this means is that despite all the nuisances, problems and arguments that may come up in a relationship, they are actually opportunities to heal our deepest wounds that we may be completely unaware of. http://healfro...

The Danger of Emotional Detachment

November 11, 2014 15:16 - 45 minutes - 21.1 MB

Because of the pain associated with negative emotions we automatically numb or distract ourselves of these emotions. The problem with this is that deep within our emotions is a message we need to understand and resolve. But we can't find any resolve if we are so busy distracting ourselves from our emotions. This renders us helpless because these emotions will never leave us and end up controlling our lives until we understand what message they have for us. Listen to this coaching session ...

Feeling the Weight of the World on Your Shoulders

November 04, 2014 13:00 - 1 hour - 28.8 MB

This podcast speaks to a hidden epidemic within families across the world. Parents are a child's foundation and source of love. But so many parents, for whatever reason are not able to be the parent they need to be for their child and leave the child to feel like they must be the source of foundation for the ones who brought them into this world. This role reversal is an incredible burden and pain that the child carries with them throughout their adult lives. Listen to this podcast where...

Why Your Vision is Not a Destination

October 28, 2014 12:00 - 1 hour - 36.6 MB

We all strive hard to fulfill our life's purpose and vision. This session in coaching Dr. Karen Osburn, host of Mom at 41 podcast, was amazing for me because what she needed coaching on ended up being something that I wasn't clear myself. Karen was able to reflect back to me what I'm not able to see within myself on my own. Doing so, the answer we have both been looking for unveils itself within the session and heals us both in the process. We all have a life purpose and a vision. It ...

The Fear of Letting Others Down | Jade Le with Michael | Ep 25

October 24, 2014 12:00

No matter how you feel, you must be honest with others and most importantly to yourself. We have these endless obligations and responsibilities but in the end we must respect ourselves. I feel drained and frozen on producing my next episode set to publish the next morning but I don't want to disappoint my listeners. In this episode I reach out to my dear friend Jade Le who is an inspirational speaker and life coach. Share your comments at: http://healfromthegroundup.com/the-fear-of...

The New Direction of Heal From the Ground Up | Michael Hsu | Ep 25

October 24, 2014 12:00 - 16 minutes - 7.38 MB

The new direction for my podcast comes from my heart's vision. The new direction entails me coaching callers on the podcast and me being coached by other coaches. I want pull back the curtains for the "teacher" and show where all of the teachings truly come from. How the journey of the teacher and client coincide with each other and evolve with one another. None of what I do on this podcast is possible without my own personal healing.

Feeding Your Fears Through Resistance | Paul Colaianni with Michael | Episode 24

October 21, 2014 18:35 - 41 minutes - 19.1 MB

Do you hate the feeling that anxiety gives you? I know that you would do almost anything to get rid of that awful and painful feeling. This is what we all do in our response to anxiety. We try to lessen them and coax ourselves through our anxiety. Listen to this powerful coaching session where Paul Colaianni from The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast transforms my entire relationship to my fears and anxiety. Share your comments to this episode at: http://healfromthegroundup.com/feeding-your-...

Addicted to Please | Episode 23

October 17, 2014 12:00 - 34 minutes - 15.8 MB

What does it mean to be addicted to please? It's about constantly looking to others to determine your self-worth. Through this addiction to please others you forget who you are. This need to please others is something that has withheld me from showing you all of myself on the podcast. In this podcast I announce a major decision to step even taller into my power and self-worth. Listen to this monologue where I share and explore my addiction to please. Share your comments at: http://...

What is Your Anxiety Trying to Tell You? | Michael Hsu | Episode 22

October 14, 2014 12:00 - 55 minutes - 25.5 MB

The feeling of anxiety is a big part of what makes us human. However the feeling of anxiety can be very overwhelming and even painful that we try to fight it and avoid it at all costs. This only makes it grow. What we need to do differently is learn to face our anxiety and understand what it is about. When I come to face to face with my anxiety, I see it is often a major sign that I have forgotten about myself. It is when I have made others my main priority and have forgotten to plac...

Why You Must Put Yourself First | Michael Hsu | Episode 21

October 10, 2014 12:00 - 27 minutes - 12.6 MB

Learning to put myself first has been my most important and challenging life lesson. I personally feel like it will be a lifelong lesson for me. I'm not saying that I am relearning the same lesson because the lesson of putting myself first, just as with any lesson acts like a tree with hundreds of roots. I know that putting yourself first is something we label as selfish. But the truth is the person we abuse the most is ourselves. The person that we disrespect, neglect, criticize is by...

Living Through Joy | Sharon Freedman & Michael | Episode 20

October 07, 2014 14:00 - 1 hour - 29.4 MB

Want to learn how to live through joy? My playful and silly self is the best part of me but I often forget that in the "seriousness" of life. In this podcast where I get coached by Sharon Freedman you will see me learning to embrace my playful self that has been hiding for so long on the podcast. www.healfromthegroundup.com

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