Be, Do, Have.

“Personal transformation and goal achievement can begin at any level: Story/Thinking, Emotions/Feelings, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, Environment. However, for them to endure, each component must remain in coherhence.”

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Be, Do, Have: Cliché or Cornerstone?

The personal development mantra '“Be, Do, Have” often gets dismissed as a tired cliché.

Enter the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System,”/Grunburg Behavior Model. The model reveals a striking parallel, it underscores “Be, Do, Have” and, reinforces the dynamic interplay of the essential components; thoughts (stories), feelings/emotions, behaviors/habits/skills, and one’s environment required for goal achievement and personal transformation.

The Grunburg Model showcases three concentric circles: At the epicenter: Thoughts/Stories, the Middle concentric circle: Behaviors/Habits/Skills, and the Outermost concentric circle: Environment.

Everyone resides/exists within their own “Behavior Echo-System.” It’s important to recognize that one’s emotions and feelings are the fundamental conduits between each of the ‘major’ components.

The innermost circle, Thoughts/Stories, comprises the vast array of one’s narratives. These are the stories about oneself, entailing who we are, who we can become, and what we’re capable of achieving.

Our identities form as a construct of these elements, shaping our self-image and reverberating back to influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

For example, a confident and optimistic story (“Be” a world-changer) can fuel the motivation to develop empowering habits and pursue ambitious goals.

Conversely, a limiting or negative story can hold us back and prevent us from reaching our full potential.

[Key point: Run any real-life scenario through this behavior model and notice how each element reverberates to influence the others.]

The power of one’s “BE” ing (identity) lies in one's ability to reassess one’s personal narratives to understand the conscious and unconscious stories that may influence the very foundation of their behavior echo system.

The middle circle, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, represents the “Do” ing.

Hence, we put our stories about ourselves and our capability (beliefs) into practice, and these practices (habits) begin to shape our external world (Environment) through our choices and actions.

The “Environment” as represented in this model is both one’s sensory inputs – the ‘things’ that happen to us, and the things we can influence and change – our results.

Finally, the Environment includes everything that is not identified in the model itself, including physical surroundings, social connections, life situations, etc.

It’s a bit of a mind-bender, but since we can influence and change our body, and our body influences and changes our feelings/emotions, behaviors and thinking/stories – one’s body is part of their environment in this model.

Consider how one’s body alters one's emotions/feelings, behaviors/habits/skills and the stories and vice-versa. (See Nature vs. Nurture)

The “Thee Circles behavior model” underscores precisely how “Be, Do, Have” works. And, importantly, it’s not in a linear-type progression as all other previous behavior models depict (see TTM, CBT).

It’s the dynamic interplay (reverberation) of elemental behavioral forces that represents the essence of the Grunburg Behavior model.

It’s clear that “Be, Do, Have” is far more than clichéd personal development advice.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

P.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.

With this in mind, we asked Google’s AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System Model” (perhaps a future post).

The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not.

The best Bard could offer is, “What about people who aren’t aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It’s a good try, but unconscious stories are still stories (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

BTW: If you’re invited to try to “break” the model as well. If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.

*Note: ChatGPT’s has no knowledge of the model yet, which was officially published in October of 2022. GPT’s latest update is from January 2022.

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“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.

Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

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