34: Dr. Michelle Deering | Psychologist, Mother/Daughter Relationships

Dr. Deering and I chat about common mother/daughter relationships experiences that shape their communication, some tips for addressing a broken relationship and more from her book "What Mothers Never Tell Their Daughters."

4:26 Dr. Deering shares how her personal story plays into the work she does with mothers and daughters.

Her interaction with young moms in her neighborhood prompting her writing the book What Mothers Never Tell Their Daughters.

9:32 Dr. Deering observed young moms complaining about their moms yet repeating some of those same behaviors.  She discusses how that pertains to her relationship with her 2 daughters.

"I have owned up to when I have done something incorrectly. I've apologized...I am quick to say I am sorry."

11:15 Dr. Deering shares a few common mother/daughter experiences that shape the way they see each other, which ultimately influences how they communicate with one another.

"How moms and daughters deal with their experiences of difference is key....For instance, the first time a mom will notice her daughter is doing something that's different than how she would think it ought to be done and how that mom reacts to that and in turn how the daughter responds to that or reacts to that.  That then, starts a certain dance between the two of them, because ultimately what a daughter wants is to feel accepted and love."

15:49 Dr. Deering shares a few ways mothers and daughters can begin the reconciling process

"I think there is an element (this is not to say anything negative about the body of Christ), but I think sometimes there can be this expectation that reconciliation is the definite goal.  Reconciliation actually takes two....It is the same way God deals with us.  Jesus died on the cross. It's out there for everyone. It's available....The fix really takes two if you want the full reconciliation, but sometimes it is just one willing to come to terms with some things."

SHOW NOTES continued

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Dr. Deering and I chat about common mother/daughter relationships experiences that shape their communication, some tips for addressing a broken relationship and more from her book "What Mothers Never Tell Their Daughters."

4:26 Dr. Deering shares how her personal story plays into the work she does with mothers and daughters.

Her interaction with young moms in her neighborhood prompting her writing the book What Mothers Never Tell Their Daughters.

9:32 Dr. Deering observed young moms complaining about their moms yet repeating some of those same behaviors.  She discusses how that pertains to her relationship with her 2 daughters.

"I have owned up to when I have done something incorrectly. I've apologized...I am quick to say I am sorry."

11:15 Dr. Deering shares a few common mother/daughter experiences that shape the way they see each other, which ultimately influences how they communicate with one another.

"How moms and daughters deal with their experiences of difference is key....For instance, the first time a mom will notice her daughter is doing something that's different than how she would think it ought to be done and how that mom reacts to that and in turn how the daughter responds to that or reacts to that.  That then, starts a certain dance between the two of them, because ultimately what a daughter wants is to feel accepted and love."

15:49 Dr. Deering shares a few ways mothers and daughters can begin the reconciling process

"I think there is an element (this is not to say anything negative about the body of Christ), but I think sometimes there can be this expectation that reconciliation is the definite goal.  Reconciliation actually takes two....It is the same way God deals with us.  Jesus died on the cross. It's out there for everyone. It's available....The fix really takes two if you want the full reconciliation, but sometimes it is just one willing to come to terms with some things."

SHOW NOTES continued

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Dr. Deering and Curative Connections

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