Girl Talk With Pops
69 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 60 ratingsGTWP is a weekly podcast that delivers the male point of view on dating, love, relationships, and life that you are missing. It's a sometimes serious, other times funny, but always raw, transparent, and vulnerable discussion, hosted by a father and daughter duo who believes that healthy adult father and daughter relationships matter.
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Why Independent Women Struggle with Dating
April 17, 2021 16:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MBIt's our season finale! This season we talked a lot about how men and women are different-- from how we express ourselves to how we receive feedback. One thing is clear from our previous episodes: when women and men don’t understand our differences we struggle in relationships because friction is inevitable. Though men and women are different, I think we need each other. That is oftentimes difficult to see with so many women advocating for equality and taking on the head of household role. ...
Men and Women Express Emotion Differently
April 04, 2021 18:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBWe can give off the wrong impression sometimes, and some of us more often than others. I’ve been told I’m nonchalant or unfazed, and it can come across to other people the wrong way. Even when I’m trying to be more expressive, I don’t think I demonstrate it as strongly as I think I do. It does lead to an interesting topic of conversation, though. Today, Pops and I talk about sensitivity among men and women, which of the sexes is more expressive, and how men need to feel appreciated. But t...
Men Don't Like Women to Challenge Them
March 28, 2021 18:00 - 34 minutes - 23.4 MBI have this theory that men don’t like to be challenged. I’ve found myself asking men questions that make them uncomfortable. Not sure if it has been because they’re not expecting them or ready to answer, but some of my questions have caused men to shut down conversations I’ve tried to start. What’s at the root of it, though? In today’s episode, I discuss this with Pops and relate it back to the book I mentioned last week in episode 11. We talk about how differently men and women perceive ...
Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
March 21, 2021 18:00 - 38 minutes - 26.6 MBMen and women are inherently different: we communicate differently, we think differently, we even express our emotions differently. Those differences, however natural they are, are often forgotten in relationships. We often want our partners to be more like us which causes frustration when we’re at odds thanks to those differences. I’ve recognized those differences in my relationship and even started reading a book about how men and women are different, called Men Are From Mars, Women Are F...
White Dad, Black Daughter, and Conversations About Race
March 14, 2021 19:00 - 37 minutes - 25.5 MBThis week wraps up our interview with L’aigner. In part two, we talk about how she navigates difficult conversations about institutional racism and the experiences of black people living in America with her white father. We shift the topic for a bit to discuss history’s perception of black people in the media. Then, L’aigner touches on her father’s experiences with face-to-face prejudice as a white man who likes dating black women and whether or not she should feel empathy for him. You’ll...
What It's Like Being Raised by a Single Dad
March 07, 2021 19:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBQuick ask y’all! We want to create the best show for you and would love to hear more about what you want to see from us in future episodes. So before we get into this week’s show, can you take a few minutes to fill out our listener survey? As a thank you, you’ll be entered into a drawing for the chance to win a $25 Amazon gift card! This week we're welcoming another guest to discuss something a little different and exciting. We don’t hear a lot about single fathers even though there are ple...
Lessons from Living Together
February 28, 2021 19:00 - 35 minutes - 20.4 MBWe’re a little past the halfway point of season 3 and would love to hear more about what you want to see in future episodes. So before we get into this week’s show, I have a quick favor to ask: visit our listener survey and give us feedback on how we can create the best show for you. As a thank you, you’ll be entered into a drawing for the chance to win a $25 Amazon gift card! Last season, Pops and I released an episode on moving in with your significant other. That was before I spent signi...
Black Male Privilege
February 21, 2021 19:00 - 32 minutes - 18.5 MBWe’re back with Pops and my cousin Dana to continue our lively discussion about black male privilege. In part 1 of this conversation, I define black male privilege to get us on the same page, and Pops and Dana express their feelings on if they agree that black men are more privileged than black women. We got into issues about men needing to feel in charge and assert power, traditional lines of gendered responsibility possibly being erased, the possibility of recent history slowly being writ...
The Fantasy of Marriage
February 13, 2021 17:00 - 29 minutes - 20.4 MBValentine’s day is here and for some it’s an exciting weekend, but for others it’s a regular day. Regardless of whether you’re celebrating or not, you know that V’Day is a super commercial holiday with a lot of hype around it. It’s one that perpetuates the fantasy and romanticizing of love and relationships— impacting how we all think about love and what we should be doing in relationships. In this episode we’re putting the fairytale of love and relationships aside and talking about the ung...
He Needs to Feel Like a Man
February 07, 2021 19:00 - 33 minutes - 19.2 MBGet ready for a lively discussion this week! I’m super excited for today’s episode. It’s a follow-up of our last episode when Pops and I talked about how black women take care of and help black men before themselves. We aligned on the fact that history is mostly told from the perspective of men and we agreed that women, of the two sexes, are naturally more nurturing. These two takeaways will drive us into this conversation, but we’ll take it a bit further. One of the things that came up in ...
How Society Silences Women
January 31, 2021 19:00 - 30 minutes - 17.8 MBWe talk a lot about men and women and the dynamics between them in relationships. But I don’t think we’ve talked about it like we do in this episode. Today’s show is inspired by a few conversations with friends and one in particular with my boyfriend. He had a call with a community group and was surprised to hear from black women that they often feel they’re at the bottom of the societal totem pole. I was shocked to hear that he’d never heard that sentiment before. So I wondered why that mi...
Healing from Daddy Issues (Part 2)
January 24, 2021 19:00 - 30 minutes - 17.5 MBHow do daddy issues impact romantic relationships? What’s it like to be expecting a new child while still healing the relationship with your father? How difficult is it to talk to your parents about parenting, when you don’t trust their opinions or how they’ve shown up for you in the past? In today’s episode, we answer these questions and more in a continuation of our conversation with special guest Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com and The Discussion Room podcast. You’ll hear about Ms. Reid’s lim...
Healing from Daddy Issues (Part 1)
January 17, 2021 19:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MBWe love talking to other women about their relationships with their fathers and how those relationships impact their lives. In this episode, we have a special guest and fellow former Howard University alumna: Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com. We love talking to other women about their relationships with their fathers and how those relationships impact their lives. In this episode, we have a special guest and fellow Howard University alumna: Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com and The Discussion Room podca...
Healing from Daddy Issues
January 17, 2021 19:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MBWe love talking to other women about their relationships with their fathers and how those relationships impact their lives. In this episode, we have a special guest and fellow former Howard University alumna: Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com. We love talking to other women about their relationships with their fathers and how those relationships impact their lives. In this episode, we have a special guest and fellow Howard University alumna: Ms. Reid of DaaamDaddy.com and The Discussion Room podca...
Dealing with Missed Expectations
January 10, 2021 19:00 - 37 minutes - 25.5 MBIt’s been a while, but we’re very excited to be back and starting the new year off with another season! To kick things off, we’re picking up right where we left off last season. In our season 2 finale, Pops asked me what he could have done differently or better as a father. So in today’s episode, we really open up the doors of communication: I explain how he could’ve shown up better for me as a child and adult, and he explains his mindset and thought process then and now. You’ll hear him ...
What men learn about women from having daughters
July 11, 2020 13:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MBTraditionally we hear about lessons that dads teach their daughters, but to mark the end of season 2 Brittney and Pops talk about what he's learned from her. Pops then shares what he's learned about himself in the GTWP journey so far and talks about how GTWP has impacted his love life. They discuss how being a father and learning how to parent don't stop when kids reach adulthood as well as how having a daughter can make men more vulnerable and accountable for their actions. Brittney shar...
What men learn about women from having daughters
July 11, 2020 13:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MBTraditionally we hear about lessons that dads teach their daughters, but to mark the end of season 2 Brittney and Pops talk about what he's learned from her. Pops then shares what he's learned about himself in the GTWP journey so far and talks about how GTWP has impacted his love life. They discuss how being a father and learning how to parent don't stop when kids reach adulthood as well as how having a daughter can make men more vulnerable and accountable for their actions. Brittney shar...
Bonus: Just because he likes you doesn't mean it's a match
July 03, 2020 16:00 - 1 hour - 42.4 MBBrittney is back with Chiedozie Okafor, host of the I Think I Love My Wife Podcast, for *bonus* episode part two. He's back sharing his truth and more about why it takes him time to get to know a woman and settle down. They also discuss: How men "slow play" a situation to learn more about a woman Why women shouldn't end a potential relationship just because it doesn't match what they envision or immediately want Women’s boundaries and how men act when they face them And things men consid...
Bonus: Dating is a marathon, not a sprint
July 03, 2020 16:00 - 1 hour - 42.4 MBBrittney is back with Chiedozie Okafor, host of the I Think I Love My Wife Podcast, for *bonus* episode part two. He's back sharing his truth and more about why it takes him time to get to know a woman and settle down. They also discuss: How men “slow play” a situation to learn more about a woman Why women should give men (and take) more time to figure out if it’s really a match Dating multiple people at once (and why women should do it more often) Things men consider before dating a wom...
Bonus: Why men can't be pressured into a relationship
June 27, 2020 15:00 - 1 hour - 42 MBIn this *bonus* episode Brittney switches it up a bit and has a solo conversation with Chiedozie Okafor, host of the I Think I Love My Wife Podcast. And just like you’re used to, he’s sharing his honest and transparent perspective on all things dating, sex, and relationships. To give you a truly different male perspective we cover a range of topics that Pops and B talked about in Season 1: Dating in your 30s, women’s internal “clock”, and how relationships progress or don’t because of press...
How can I address my partner climaxing too quickly?
June 19, 2020 17:00 - 1 hour - 41.9 MBIt's Father's Day weekend and we're back with more questions you probably wouldn't ask your dad! We're excited to welcome Jerralyn Belinda to the show, co-host of the Tea with Qwns Podcast! On this episode she's helping us elevate the conversation around father-daughter relationships and share another woman's point of view on how she talks to her dad about dating, relationships, and love. And from the questions below you can tell she's keeping it 100! How can I address my partner climaxin...
How should I deal with a man who's not emotional?
June 12, 2020 20:00 - 57 minutes - 39.4 MBThe Girl Talk With Pops conversation is growingggg! With Father's Day coming up now is the perfect time to elevate our discussion and speak directly to another woman about her relationship with her father as it relates to dating, relationships, and love. We're excited to welcome MelRose, host of the Relayshons Podcast! In this show Mel opens up about the distance between herself and her father and asks Pops questions that she wishes she could ask her dad: How should I deal with a man who...
Unprecedented times: protests, uprising, and racism
June 06, 2020 00:00 - 42 minutes - 29.6 MBWhat a time to be alive. 2020 has been eventful to say the least. First COVID now national uproar over the latest black man (George Floyd) being killed by police brutality. Like you, B and Pops are tired, but not mum on everything that's going on. Listen in as they vent about the state of things in America, the history of how we got here, and what people are doing about it. Pops also shares his experience with the police and racism. These are their personal and very candid thoughts and the...
Monogamy: Can men be faithful?
May 30, 2020 16:00 - 46 minutes - 32.3 MBLet's be honest, society tells us that men are more likely to cheat than women. And because Pops once said that "men are not wired for commitment" in this episode of GTWP we're addressing the widely asked question: "can men really be faithful?". Does monogamy come with maturity for men? Listen in as Brittney and Pops discuss expectations around monogamy in the long run, the benefit/feelings men get from having a side-chick, and Pops' experience in this area. The truth isn't always pretty, b...
Meet the parents: Pops meets bae
May 22, 2020 16:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MBIn this week's episode Pops tells the story of how he met Brittney's bae. When it's time to meet the parents things can go really well, really bad, or be very weird. Many dads play tough guy when meeting their daughter's boo but this story is a little different. Their conversation then turns to parenting and Pops shares he thoughts on Brittney's independence, safety as a woman, and letting her fly the coop. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram @girltalkwithpops!
The motherhood penalty
May 15, 2020 20:00 - 45 minutes - 31.1 MBLife's not fair, especially when it comes to women and choosing to have children and a career. In this week's episode Brittney and Pops discuss why women are assumed to be parent #1, the impact that has on their lives, and how to share some of that responsibility and sacrifice with fathers, family, etc. Times have changed a lot for women; more education, higher paying jobs, and the ability to build generational wealth for her family with her mate. Does a child have to slow down progress on t...
The motherhood penalty
May 15, 2020 20:00 - 45 minutes - 31.1 MBLife's not fair, especially when it comes to women and choosing to have children and a career. In this week's episode Brittney and Pops discuss why women are assumed to be parent #1, the impact that has on their lives, and how to share some of that responsibility and sacrifice with fathers, family, etc. Times have changed a lot for women; more education, higher paying jobs, and the ability to build generational wealth for her family with her mate. Does a child have to slow down progress on t...
Mother knows best (ft. mom herself)
May 08, 2020 16:00 - 57 minutes - 39.8 MBIt's Mother's Day weekend so you already know Mom had to grace us with her presence. Brittney and Pops are delighted to have Brittney's Mom on the show as their first guest! Mom and Pops are friends, but this is the first time that she's talked to Pops about their relationship in a while. You won't want to miss Mom dig into Pops and set the record straight (see previous episode: Baby mama drama). If your parents were young when they had you and aren't together today then this episode is for...
Baby mama drama
May 01, 2020 16:00 - 48 minutes - 33.1 MBWe all know the phrase and many of us hate to hear it (including Pops and Brittney). Baby mama drama, the tension and conflict that sometimes arises from two unwed young parents who aren’t on the same page. Pops is no stranger to it so this week Brittney gets he’s take on his experience having two daughters, by two different women in his twenties. And NO there's no mommy bashing here! This is a retrospective, we're sharing life experiences, lessons learned, and regrets. Don't forget to rat...
Ex-lovers and now friends
April 24, 2020 16:00 - 45 minutes - 31.5 MBRelationships come and go. That's a natural part of life, but what happens to the connection when the commitment is no longer in tact? Do you maintain friendships with your exes or do you completely disconnect? In this week's episode Brittney and Pops chat about why he's friends with his past girlfriends, what being friends with an ex actually entails (how friendly is "friendly"?), and how to do it right (obviously sex is not included). Being friends with an ex requires maturity... are you t...
What men really think about proposing and engagement
April 17, 2020 16:00 - 45 minutes - 31.5 MBWould you say yes to a marriage proposal if you weren't 100% sure or ready for marriage? Well apparently men often propose to women without being full bought into the committed life or the concept of marriage. In this week's episode Brittney and Pops talk about the various reasons a man might propose, what the engagement period is all about and how it could/should be used, and the general psychology involved in gearing up to marry "the one". Don't forget to rate and review our podcast on A...
What men really think about proposing and engagement
April 17, 2020 16:00 - 45 minutes - 31.5 MBWould you say yes to a marriage proposal if you weren't 100% sure or ready for marriage? Well apparently men often propose to women without being full bought into the committed life or the concept of marriage. In this week's episode Brittney and Pops talk about the various reasons a man might propose, what the engagement period is all about and how it could/should be used, and the general psychology involved in gearing up to marry "the one". Don't forget to rate and review our podcast on A...
Women cheat too
April 10, 2020 21:00 - 53 minutes - 36.6 MBWomen are often big mad and hurt when they suspect or learn that their man is cheating on them. Assuming a similar or comparable reaction is also true for men, Brittney starts this week's episode by asking Pops about his experience with being hurt by a woman. If you listen to GTWP consistently you might be able to guess his response. Haha. ;) They also discuss his experience with being cheated on and the various reasons women cheat. Brittney is often railing at Pops about why men are the w...
Living through the COVID-19 pandemic
April 04, 2020 17:00 - 40 minutes - 28.1 MBHow are you doing? Hopefully you're staying well in these crazy times. In just a few short weeks the Coronavirus has swept the world and changed many aspects of our lives. It's all over the place, in the news, online, and being passed person-to-person all over the world. No matter who you are it's hard to ignore the fact that COVID-19 is making history and that we're living through a pandemic. So this week GTWP is switching it up a bit to talk about "the rona" and how it's impacting our day-...
Things to consider before moving in together
March 27, 2020 21:00 - 1 hour - 43.4 MBSo you love your man and you both want to take it to the next level, well Brittney can relate to that. This week Brittney gets Pops' thoughts on moving in with her boyfriend. As a non-married woman who has never lived with a significant other, she thinks living together is a big deal. Pops has lived with a few girlfriends in the past so she's curious about the big and small things she should be thinking about before making the leap to cohabitat. They discuss what's important to align on befo...
Do you know your love language?
March 20, 2020 21:00 - 42 minutes - 29.2 MBYou may not realize it, but you receive and give love in very specific ways. And when it comes to loving someone romantically, you've probably been in situations where you didn't feel loved even though the person insisted that they loved you. Have you ever thought about why you didn't feel that person's love? Ever think that It could just be that they express love differently than you? That's where The Five Love Languages come and in this episode Brittney and Pops dig into what they're all ...
If he's not happy he will leave you
March 13, 2020 16:00 - 53 minutes - 36.9 MBLove is not the only thing that keeps two people in a relationship. People break up with partners they really love, all the time. Pops transitioned out of a relationship last year so in this episode Brittney picks his brain about what keeps men in long lasting relationships and what makes them leave. Feelings of excitement and happiness are at the core of their conversation, although Brittney doesn't necessarily agree with Pops' POV. One thing they do both agree on is that evolution is not o...
Bonus: What men think about Valentine's Day
February 14, 2020 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.6 MBFor some unknown reason society trends toward making Valentine's Day about ladies, but what about guys? Men around the world flood stores before V'day to buy flowers, cards, and heart-shaped knickknacks. Have you ever stopped to think about what your man wants or how he feels on Valentine's Day? We think that guys should get loved on and be appreciated on Valentine's day too so in this episode Brittney and Pops talk about why the world generally cares less about men on Valentine's, plus Pop...
Bonus: T.I. the hymen hall monitor
November 22, 2019 17:00 - 21 minutes - 14.8 MBT.I. has the whole internet looking at him sideways. He recently went on the "Ladies Like Us" podcast and shared TMI regarding his 18 year old daughter's sexual history (or lack thereof). T.I. presents himself well as a family man, but his latest comments are.... controversial, to the say the least. Listen to Brittney and Pops discuss what TIP had to say and hear a clip of the original audio too. And apparently T.I. (and Tiny) are set to be on the next episode of Red Table talk so we're look...
The father daughter disconnect
October 25, 2019 13:00 - 35 minutes - 24.2 MBBrittney and her dad (Todd) started GTWP to promote healthy relationships and conversations between fathers and their adult daughters. So to close out season one, the duo use this last episode to discuss why men struggle to communicate openly, honestly, and transparently with their daughters about dating, sex, etc. When their baby girls are young dads fawn over them with googly eyes, but what happens between adolescence and adulthood that changes that dynamic? What is it that prevents so ma...
12. The father daughter disconnect
October 25, 2019 13:00 - 35 minutes - 24.2 MBBrittney and her dad (Todd) started GTWP to promote healthy relationships and conversations between fathers and their adult daughters. So to close out season one, the duo use this last episode to discuss why men struggle to communicate openly, honestly, and transparently with their daughters about dating, sex, etc. When their baby girls are young dads fawn over them with googly eyes, but what happens between adolescence and adulthood that changes that dynamic? What is it that prevents so ma...
11. Courting: The pregame of dating?
October 18, 2019 13:00 - 30 minutes - 20.9 MBThis is the second to last episode of GTWP for season 1! The first season has flown by! Before it ends, don't forget to rate, review, and share our podcast. In this episode of GTWP Brittney and Pops discuss the purpose of courting in relationships, the difference between courting in your 30s vs. 50s, and the origin of traditional courting. But what place does courting have in today's modern society? Is courting still a thing? Brittney feels that women [still] want men to put forth more effo...
Courting: The pregame of dating?
October 18, 2019 13:00 - 30 minutes - 20.9 MBThis is the second to last episode of GTWP for season 1! The first season has flown by! Before it ends, don't forget to rate, review, and share our podcast. In this episode of GTWP Brittney and Pops discuss the purpose of courting in relationships, the difference between courting in your 30s vs. 50s, and the origin of traditional courting. But what place does courting have in today's modern society? Is courting still a thing? Brittney feels that women [still] want men to put forth more effo...
Age ain’t nothing but a number
October 11, 2019 13:00 - 31 minutes - 21.4 MBWhat do Diddy and Lori Harvey, Solange and husband Alan Ferguson, and Mike Epps and wife Kyra Robinson have in common beyond their association with the entertainment industry? They're all couples (or once couples) who have a 13 year (or more) age difference between them. In this week’s episode Brittney shares her perspective on dating older men and Pops shares his POV on dating younger women. What is it that attracts you to someone 10-20 years your junior or senior? Listen in as this fathe...
10. Age ain’t nothing but a number
October 11, 2019 13:00 - 31 minutes - 21.4 MBWhat do Diddy and Lori Harvey, Solange and husband Alan Ferguson, and Mike Epps and wife Kyra Robinson have in common beyond their association with the entertainment industry? They're all couples (or once couples) who have a 13 year (or more) age difference between them. In this week’s episode Brittney shares her perspective on dating older men and Pops shares his POV on dating younger women. What is it that attracts you to someone 10-20 years your junior or senior? Listen in as this fathe...
Dating with kids: A package deal
October 04, 2019 14:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBIn this episode Brittney and Todd discuss both sides of dating with kids; when single parents should introduce their kid(s) to someone they're dating and when the non-parent feels it's ok to meet the child(ren) of someone they're dating. When he was younger Todd encountered both scenarios and has some words of wisdom for men and women who find themselves in this situation. Listen in to hear what they think about how soon is too soon, how long is too long, and how maturity plays into meeting ...
9. Dating with kids: A package deal
October 04, 2019 14:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBIn this episode Brittney and Todd discuss both sides of dating with kids; when single parents should introduce their kid(s) to someone they're dating and when the non-parent feels it's ok to meet the child(ren) of someone they're dating. When he was younger Todd encountered both scenarios and has some words of wisdom for men and women who find themselves in this situation. Listen in to hear what they think about how soon is too soon, how long is too long, and how maturity plays into meeting ...
8. Be second string or win him over
September 27, 2019 12:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBImagine you're dating a person who you really *really* like. You two have a great connection and the vibe is strong, but he’s dating other women too (he's honest you love that!). His other situations mean that your time together is limited. You want more dates, love, romance, and eventually a relationship. What do you do? Do you pull out all the stops to win him over or do you become girlfriend number 2? Listen to Pops and Brittney duke it out over becoming “number 1”. Do you love about GTW...
Play second string or win him over
September 27, 2019 12:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBImagine you're dating a person who you really *really* like. You two have a great connection and the vibe is strong, but he’s dating other women too (he's honest you love that!). His other situations mean that your time together is limited. You want more dates, love, romance, and eventually a relationship. What do you do? Do you pull out all the stops to win him over or do you become girlfriend number 2? Listen to Pops and Brittney duke it out over becoming “number 1”. Do you love about GTW...
8. Play second string or win him over
September 27, 2019 12:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBImagine you're dating a person who you really *really* like. You two have a great connection and the vibe is strong, but he’s dating other women too (he's honest you love that!). His other situations mean that your time together is limited. You want more dates, love, romance, and eventually a relationship. What do you do? Do you pull out all the stops to win him over or do you become girlfriend number 2? Listen to Pops and Brittney duke it out over becoming “number 1”. Do you love about GTW...