From Long Distance to Marriage
124 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 63 ratingsHosts Aindrea and Rich were in a long distance relationship separated by over 5,000 miles, from Arizona to London. They closed the distance and are fast approaching a decade of marriage, having experienced many ups, downs and challenges along the way.
From Long Distance to Marriage exists for all types of relationships, and covers topics often not discussed. The podcast covers date ideas for couples who can be together physically and those who can't, the difficulties in relationships and how to overcome them, and the vital role of communication.
And much, much more.
This is a podcast where listeners can get involved. Aindrea and Rich read every email and social interaction they receive, giving their insight on every step of a relationship that followers want to know about - from long distance to marriage.
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122: E122: Anxiety about closing the distance
June 13, 2021 09:35 - 36 minutes - 33.5 MBListen - it's a big deal, and if you don't get at least a little worried about closing the distance, you're in the minority. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea address a listener email about their worries and concerns about moving from the US to Denmark to close the distance with their boyfriend.
121: E121: When your partner throws a curveball...
June 06, 2021 08:55 - 38 minutes - 35.2 MBWe all think we know our partners and what our life with them is going to look like, at least to an extent. But what happens when your partner throws a curveball and makes a big announcement you never thought you'd hear? Maybe they're gay. Maybe they've decided the don't actually want kids or they want to change religion. Perhaps they want to drop everything and pursue a degree in a niche field that they can only do on a remote island in Indonesia. These things can shake your relationship to...
120: E119: Being a considerate long distance partner
May 23, 2021 08:07 - 26 minutes - 24 MBAnyone going into an LDR needs to understand that certain things will be expected of them. Each long distance couple will need to agree on how much they expect to communicate with each other and see each other, and at the end of the day, being a considerate long distance partner means holding up your end of the bargain. In this episode, Aindrea & Rich dive into what that means.
120: E120: Being a considerate long distance partner
May 23, 2021 08:07 - 26 minutes - 24 MBAnyone going into an LDR needs to understand that certain things will be expected of them. Each long distance couple will need to agree on how much they expect to communicate with each other and see each other, and at the end of the day, being a considerate long distance partner means holding up your end of the bargain. In this episode, Aindrea & Rich dive into what that means.
119: E119: The Power of PDA
May 09, 2021 08:39 - 24 minutes - 22.2 MBRelationships change over time and eventually, that constant need to have your hands all over one another begins to fade a bit. While that's normal, couples should make an effort to continue affection for the fun of it. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea talk about the power of (tasteful!) PDA, and the importance of continuing to be affectionate - just because - behind closed doors, as well.
118: Ep118: Why your controlling behaviour is ruining your relationship
May 02, 2021 13:04 - 41 minutes - 38.4 MBWe all want certain areas of control in our lives - that's natural - and healthy to an extent! Having control over our health, welfare, finances and careers is something we should all strive towards. But what happens when our controlling behaviour starts to leak into other areas of our lives - specifically our relationships? The answer is that it can cause big problems and permanent damage if we're not careful. This week, Aindrea & Rich discuss what this controlling behaviour can look like, ...
117: E117: What about men?
April 18, 2021 11:19 - 1 hour - 55.6 MBOff the back of a Tweet that Rich found addressing the emotional needs of men, in this episode, hosts Aindrea & Rich dive into the topic and ask: what about men? In a society that encourages toxic masculinity and then vilifies the very same thing, how and when are the emotional needs of men being ignored and not met? Is this issue at the root of the problem, and what can we do to address it?
116: E116: Prioritising your relationship during the pandemic
April 11, 2021 09:38 - 23 minutes - 21.5 MBCouples, long distance or not, have all been affected by the pandemic. Our routines, habits and the things we enjoy doing together have all been turned upside down. So how do couples overcome this and still find ways to connect? Aindrea and Rich weigh in on the topic in this episode.
115: E115: Couples who workout together...
March 21, 2021 11:32 - 37 minutes - 34.6 MB... stay together. Or at least, Aindrea & Rich have certainly found that it adds value to their relationship. Whether working towards a common goal or challenge, or physically doing the same workouts together, dig into how facing fitness together can also make a positive difference in your own relationship - long distance or not.
114: E114: Making an effort in your relationship
March 14, 2021 10:52 - 33 minutes - 30.5 MBIt's something we hear joked about a lot in pop culture - people "giving up" or "not making the effort" when it comes to themselves or their relationship. But these things are very real and they can affect our relationships in very real ways. At the end of the day, it never hurts to make a big more effort - even if you're already doing really well in your relationship. We can all offer a bit more. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea discuss how these issues can manifest and how to address them.
113: E113: Supporting your interests as a couple
March 07, 2021 09:45 - 22 minutes - 20.2 MBIt's important that couples have things they can enjoy together, but it's also important for each person to have their own hobbies and pursuits. What's even better is supporting your partner to enjoy those hobbies, when you're involved and when you're not. Tune in for more.
112: E112: Communication with exes: how much is too much?
February 28, 2021 12:11 - 25 minutes - 23.5 MBIt can be a tricky topic - but there should be some boundaries when it comes to talking to exes - especially when you're in a new relationship. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea address the situation and follow up on a listener's question around being uncomfortable with how much is partner is talking to their ex. How much communication is too much? Does it mean something unfaithful is going on? Are you allowed to feel uncomfortable? Tune in for all this and more.
111: E111: Dealing with parents who object to your LDR - Listener request
February 07, 2021 10:10 - 50 minutes - 46.4 MBIn this episode, based on a listener request, Rich & Aindrea dive into the difficulties around telling your parents about an LDR, how to handle it, how not to handle it, and how to salvage the situation if it has gone badly, while addressing issues specific to the listener's situation and other common issues that can arise from telling parents.
110: E110: Trauma in relationships, with Esty Rappaport and Orit Krug
January 31, 2021 11:54 - 48 minutes - 44.8 MBThis week, Rich and Aindrea welcome back two very special returning guests who specialise in trauma therapy from different approaches. You might remember Orit, from episode 89, and Esty from episode 91. Join in for an incredibly interesting conversation with two trauma experts who specialise in helping women and couples get past their trauma to help improve their relationships. Find Esty here and get a free mini session: @LifePixRelationships For a FREE mini session: LifePixRelationship...
109: E109: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships: Putting each other down
January 24, 2021 10:30 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MBIt’s easy to bring other people down, but it’s one of the worst things you can do within your relationship. This week, Aindrea & Rich continue to examine inappropriate behaviours in relationships, and the focus is bringing your partner down - either to their face, or talking badly about them behind their back. Listen as they dive in to all the ways this can be done and the long-term damage it can bring upon your relationship. Discover why you should be talking and lifting your partner up - w...
108: E108: Closing the distance during the coronavirus pandemic, with Tarley
January 17, 2021 11:06 - 40 minutes - 37.5 MBIf ever there was a better story to give long distance couple's hope right now, it's Tarley. Listen as Rich & Aindrea have a conversation with LDR survivor Tarley, who managed to move from Australia to London during the coronavirus pandemic to finally be with her boyfriend, Bradley. Tarley shares her experiences, advice as well as the realities and challenges of closing the distance at a time like this.
107: E107: Is constant communication bad for relationships?
January 10, 2021 10:35 - 48 minutes - 44.2 MBWe live in a world were it's easy, and expected, to be constantly contactable. This often results in almost constant communication in relationships - especially for long distance couples who don't have any other way to spend time together and feel they need to compensate. But what effect can this have on your relationship and why should you prioritise time spent NOT talking to your partner? Find out in this episode where Rich and Aindrea discuss the topic at length.
106: E106: Fresh starts for your relationship
January 03, 2021 11:18 - 31 minutes - 29.2 MBHappy New Year! Rich and Aindrea are back for their first episode of 2021, and this week the focus is goals and fresh starts for your relationship. From sharing some details on their individual goals and goals as a couple, this episode is all about fresh starts. Maybe you want to take on a challenge as a couple this year, or maybe it's time to lay some issues within your relationship to rest. Either way, there's tons of inspiration and guidance in this episode.
105: E105: Anxiety in long distance relationships
December 20, 2020 10:48 - 44 minutes - 40.6 MBLDR is hard. It makes everything about your relationship more complicated, and for some it can even bring up serious anxiety. In this episode, Aindrea & Rich discuss symtpoms, how to talk about it, and how to deal with it in a productive way so that your relationship flourishes rather than suffers.
104: E14: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Your Family VS Your Partner
December 13, 2020 11:15 - 41 minutes - 37.7 MBMany of us struggle when it comes to balancing our family and our partner's needs. But when you're in a committed relationship, it's vital that your partner is your first priority. Easier said than done, but how can you balance that? In this episode, Rich and Aindrea discuss the damages than prioritising your family's opinions and needs over your partner's can have on your relationship, why it's an inappropriate behaviour, and how to stop it.
104: E104: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Your Family VS Your Partner
December 13, 2020 11:15 - 41 minutes - 37.7 MBMany of us struggle when it comes to balancing our family and our partner's needs. But when you're in a committed relationship, it's vital that your partner is your first priority. Easier said than done, but how can you balance that? In this episode, Rich and Aindrea discuss the damages than prioritising your family's opinions and needs over your partner's can have on your relationship, why it's an inappropriate behaviour, and how to stop it.
103: E103: Getting engaged before closing the distance
December 06, 2020 09:59 - 29 minutes - 27.1 MBClosing the distance is a big deal, especially if that distance is significant. Based on a listener request, this episode sees Rich & Aindrea diving into how to broach the topic of whether or not you should get engaged before closing the distance, what to consider, and why it may or may not be necessary.
102: E102: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Unrealistic Expectations
November 29, 2020 12:54 - 29 minutes - 27.4 MBExpecting too much of your partner, or having out of this world, unrealistic expectations within your relationship can cause real problems, and a world of hurt. In this episode, Rich and Aindrea discuss what constitutes as unrealistic expectations and the effects that they can have on your relationship.
101: E101: Making the holidays special during Coronavirus
November 22, 2020 10:11 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBThe holidays will likely look different for most of this year, with coronavirus still making social gatherings and travel problematic. Long distance couples are still facing extra challenges, so Rich and Aindrea have brought out their best tips and advice for making the holidays special, even if you’re separated from your partner this year due to COVID-19.
100: E100: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Manipulation
November 15, 2020 10:54 - 33 minutes - 30.4 MBContinuing their series focusing on behaviours in relationships that are (or can be) inappropriate, Rich and Aindrea look at manipulation this week. Manipulation can be on the big or small scale, and comes in many different shapes and sizes. Listen as Aindrea and Rich share an example of manipulation from their own marriage and how eliminating that behaviour has improved their relationship. Other methods of manipulation and its indications and possible outcomes are also covered.
99: E99: How to handle differences of opinion in your relationship
November 08, 2020 12:51 - 41 minutes - 37.8 MBIn light of recent world events like elections, protests and pandemics, sometimes it's helpful to know how to manage a situation in which you and your partner might have a difference of opinion on the big things. This translates into life choices, religious beliefs and so much more. Listen to this week's episode as Rich and Aindrea unpack how to respectfully handle differences of opinion in relationships.
98: E98: Rough patches in your relationship
October 25, 2020 11:16 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBEvery couple hits a rough patch now and again. Sometimes you can’t seem to have a simple conversation without bickering, sometimes your individual rhythms are completely out of sync, and sometimes life brings you obstacles that set you down a difficult path. But is a rough patch always something to be overly concerned about? How can you make steps to get back on track as a couple. Join Rich and Aindrea as they discuss these points and more.
97: E97: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Spending Habits
October 18, 2020 10:44 - 33 minutes - 30.5 MBThis week, Aindrea & Rich continue their series focusing on inappropriate behaviours in relationships and discuss spending habits. How can financial issues, spending habits, and ignoring monetary goals and agreements within your relationship be inappropriate? How can you work together for a common goal and support one another, forgiving the occasional financial slip up? Listen now to find out. Related Episodes: Episode 27, Money Management for Couples Episode 88, Aligning Your Future Goa...
96: E96: Ziv and Shachar of the Generous Marriage podcast
October 11, 2020 09:08 - 37 minutes - 34.5 MBAindrea and Rich are joined by Ziv and Shachar, hosts of the Generous Marriage podcast. Ziv and Shachar are both successful business owners, and educate men on how they can be more successful both in business and in their relationships. In this episode, they explain how men can be more present in their relationships, why that's important, and the similarities between relationships and businesses. They also have a 21-day blueprint to accelerate your results in boosting intimacy and improving...
95: E95: Knowing when to close the distance
October 04, 2020 09:12 - 33 minutes - 30.4 MBClosing the distance in your LDR can and should be an exciting time. But that’s not to say that there aren’t big conversations to have or that you won’t have some concerns and doubts. It’s a big commitment, so how do you know if it’s worth it for one of you to make the big move? This week, Rich & Aindrea talk through the preparations you should make and the issues you should discuss with your partner to help make the decision. You might want to also listen to episode 36, on when to call it...
94: E94: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Flirting
September 27, 2020 09:18 - 38 minutes - 35.4 MBThis week, Rich & Aindrea continue their ongoing series of things that are, or could be, considered inappropriate behaviour in a relationship. The topic of the day is flirting. What actually is flirting? What defines inappropriate flirting and perhaps harmless flirting? Is it sometimes ok, and how do couples potentially look at this differently? All this and more is covered in episode 94.
93: E93: Relationships with In-laws
September 20, 2020 10:25 - 40 minutes - 37.2 MBThis week, Rich and Aindrea are discussing a topic that many couples have to face at some point during their relationship - getting along with the in-laws. Every family dynamic is different, but it’s not uncommon for there to be some struggles when it comes to having a good and comfortable relationship with your partner’s parents. The severity of these struggles can vary greatly, and Aindrea and Rich take a look at what these problems can look like and how to address them.
92: E92: Inappropriate Behaviours: Emotional Relationships, with Tony & Alisa of ONE Extraordinary Marriage
September 13, 2020 11:04 - 50 minutes - 46.7 MBThis week, Rich & Aindrea continue their series on Inappropriate Behaviours in relationships. But this week they are joined by special guests and marriage experts, Tony and Alisa of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast to discuss emotional affairs. How do emotional affairs stop? When are the lines being blurred? Why is it so important to make your partner or spouse your first port of call for ALL things in your life? Listen as we delve into this with Alisa and Tony. Discover more about t...
91: E91: CJEA with Esty Rappaport
September 06, 2020 13:53 - 40 minutes - 37 MBThis week Rich and Aindrea are joined by special guest and CJEA Coach, Esty Rappaport. Esty explains how journalling with your non-dominant hand can be an important and groundbreaking therapeutic treatment, and how this can be very helpful when it comes to relationship issues. Find Esty here and get a free mini session: @LifePixRelationships For a FREE mini session: LifePixRelationships.as.me
90: E90: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Adult Subscriptions
August 30, 2020 11:47 - 1 hour - 60.8 MBWhat counts as inappropriate behaviour in a relationships? In this first part of an ongoing series examining inappropriate behaviours in couples, Aindrea & Rich discuss the trend of adult or sexual subscriptions on platforms like Only Fans. Is using something like Only Fans cheating? Is it wrong? How can you talk about this with your partner? Discover this and so much more in this new episode.
89: E89: Healing past traumas, with Orit Krug
August 23, 2020 08:25 - 1 hour - 55.9 MBThis week, Aindrea & Rich are joined by Orit Krug, a dance movement therapist and trauma expert. Orit explains how trauma from previous experiences can sabotage our current and future relationships, and what we can do to heal from this trauma once and for all. Tune in for a fascinating and incredibly helpful episode. Learn more about Orit: Website: www.oritkrug.com Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lastinglovemovement/ Also, all of our listeners are invited to take ad...
88: E88: Aligning your future visions
August 16, 2020 10:18 - 35 minutes - 32.6 MBIt’s vital to make sure that you’re on the same page as a couple when it comes to your future. This week, Aindrea and Rich are discussing the importance of aligning your future visions and deciding how you’re going to work towards and achieve them. This could be career goals, financial goals, family planning, working towards a dream vacation - literally anything. But how can you achieve these things if you don’t talk about it and work towards it together? This episode discusses exactly that.
87: E87: Biting your tongue
August 09, 2020 13:00 - 23 minutes - 21.8 MBSometimes, silence is the best balm. Biting your tongue in your relationship, whether it’s off the back of a snappy remark or in the middle of a full blown argument, can totally change your relationship. In this week’s episode, Aindrea and Rich share steps for biting your tongue and how it has completely transformed their own marriage.
86: E86: 3 Tips for Showing Your Partner Appreciation
August 02, 2020 08:47 - 27 minutes - 25.2 MBThis week, Aindrea and Rich are providing 3 actionable, quick and easy tips for how to show your partner appreciation. It's easy to get caught up in the day to day and neglect showing your partner the gratitude they deserve, but it's important to make an effort to do this, and their 3 tips are the perfect place to start. Other episodes worth listening to: Episode 42: Showing Gratitude in Your Relationship
85: E85: Supporting your partner
July 19, 2020 13:38 - 28 minutes - 25.7 MBSometimes in relationships, one partner needs full support from the other. The reasons can vary - a new, challenging job, mental health issues, a time to shine, or a change in circumstance. This requires the other partner to take a step back sometimes, and offer full support. This can be a challenge for both parties, and in this episode Rich & Aindrea discuss how to do this with grace, love, and how to to see the bigger picture when it comes to being selfless.
84: EP84: Saying goodbye in a long distance relationship
July 12, 2020 08:33 - 24 minutes - 22.1 MBIn this week’s episode, Rich & Aindrea are talking about one of the hardest long distance related topics - saying goodbye after spending time together, and heading back to that LDR life. With tips to coping and strategies for making it work, this episode can help you deal with the pain of saying goodbye, especially in uncertain times such as these. You might also find Episode 30, Coping between visits in a long distance relationship, to be helpful.
83: E83: Nudes and intimacy
July 05, 2020 08:38 - 37 minutes - 34.4 MBThis week, Aindrea & Rich are revisiting the topic of nudes, originally covered in episode 23. But this time, they’re looking at how incorporating the sending of nudes in your relationship can actually establish trust, reinforce intimacy, and really help couples who are apart - even those who have found themselves in a temporary long distance relationship as a result of coronavirus lockdown restrictions.
82: E82: Feeling lonely in your relationship
June 28, 2020 08:41 - 34 minutes - 31.2 MBIn this week’s all new episode, Rich & Aindrea are focusing on loneliness in relationships. Long distance presents it’s own challenges with loneliness, which are discussed at length, but so do face to face relationships. Many people living in the same home as their significant other experience loneliness. What does it mean, and what can cause it? When is it valid, and when is it in your head? What should you do about it? Hear all this when you tune in to episode 82.
81: E81: Coping with time differences
June 14, 2020 07:54 - 36 minutes - 33.1 MBAindrea & Rich are discussing the burden of time differences this week, and how to face them together as a couple. For long distance lovers, a hefty time difference can make it difficult to find time to say a quick hello, let alone enjoy deep and meaningful conversations. This episode offers tips on how to make the most of the time you can spend talking, how to cope when you can’t, and everything in between.
80: E80: Making a home together
June 07, 2020 12:56 - 29 minutes - 27.5 MBJoin in this week as Rich & Aindrea discuss the steps that all couples should take when entering the stage of building a home together. You might be making the step of getting a place together or even getting married, but either way there are conversations you should have to prepare for the big changes. Get tips for learning to deal with arguments, arrange household management styles, establishing traditions and much more.
79: E79: Get to Know Our Guests
May 31, 2020 10:12 - 40 minutes - 37.2 MBThis week, Rich & Aindrea are bringing you up to speed on all the guests that have ever appeared on the From Long Distance to Marriage podcast. They highlight each of the guests, from relationship experts to couples battling the distance, and the points that can be taken away from each episode. The guests all bring something unique and special, and whether you’re looking for ways to keep things special over the miles or how to communicate better in your relationship, there’s something for ev...
78: E78: Meet the Couple: G and Joshua of Sycamore Tree Design
May 24, 2020 06:30 - 57 minutes - 52.4 MBThis week, Joshua and G from Sycamore Tree Design join the From Long Distance to Marriage podcast. A long distance couple, they use their creativity to create the most incredible and unique jewellery, and are offering a generous 50% discount to listeners with the code LDTM. Joshua and G explain how they met singing karaoke in an app, have suffered big disruptions through coronavirus, and how they started their own company making wooden jewellery for customers around the world. View their ...
77: E77: Dealing with the unknown in a long distance relationship
May 17, 2020 06:11 - 32 minutes - 29.6 MBOne of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship is feeling like so much is out of your control. There are a lot of unknowns to deal with, and now we have coronavirus that has suddenly wiped out a lot of plans for a lot of people. In this episode, Aindrea and Rich discuss ways of dealing with the unknown, looking for the opportunities within it, and the silver linings to make the most of these negative situations.
76: E76: How to deal with a defensive spouse, with Dovid Feldman
May 10, 2020 06:30 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBAindrea & Rich’s first returning guest, Dovid Feldman, is here to talk marriage and relationships. A licenced family and marriage therapist, Dovid helps us learn the best ways to communicate to eliminate defensiveness, how to show up in your marriage, and how to reflect on your own behaviours and emotions. Join them for this very special episode. You can find David on Twitter at @dovidfeldman or over at his blog, https://dovidfeldman.com If you want to read the article on communication ...
75: E75: Coronavirus and divorce
May 03, 2020 06:30 - 38 minutes - 35.1 MBThis week, Rich and Aindrea area address the concerning news that divorce rates are on the rise because of the coronavirus outbreak. Here, they discuss why this might be happening, how to use this time to invest in your marriage rather than becoming a statistic, and share some helpful resources for nourishing your marriage during these really weird and trying times. For more--- Listen to their episode with Tony and Alisa from ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Listen to their Episode with Dovid...