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Friendshipping!

296 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 169 ratings

How do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends? Can I befriend my ex? Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?

Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.

Write us your questions at [email protected], and visit FriendshippingPodcast.com for more info. Remember that we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.

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Episodes

Thank you for Listening

August 05, 2021 18:13 - 1 hour - 57.9 MB

It's the last episode of the Friendshipping podcast... but YOU HAVEN'T SEEN THE LAST OF US!! Sign up for our weekly newsletter at the top of this here website to get friendship-related advice, tips, and pictures of our respective dogs.  This week, we're blasting through a bunch of questions as quickly as we can. We'll cover questions related to topics such as: capitalism, wildly decadent baby showers, ADHD, biphobia, and not being a gamer. We've also got a bunch of thank-yous to fo...

Be Expensive

July 28, 2021 16:33 - 30 minutes - 28.1 MB

Class solidarity means paying your friends fairly! But sometimes, our buds would prefer a little special treatment, even if we can't reasonably give it to them. This week, we'll go over what to say when your friends demand a discount, what to go over in an Informational Email, and when you might want to perhaps consider maybe possibly updating your prices perchance. This is the penultimate episode of Friendshipping! Next week will be our last new episode. Please continue sending yo...

Jenn I Love You

July 23, 2021 02:33 - 41 minutes - 38 MB

After seven years, it's the beginning of the end. This is the first of the last three episodes of the Friendshipping podcast.  But good news for all you Friendshippers: this is also the beginning... of the beginning?! Soon, Friendshipping will transition into a newsletter. We'll get you the details as soon as we have them, but until then, we're going to shout in confusion over this week's question. When should you hold your ground in an argument with friends? How can one reasonably ...

Let Me in Your Freakin' Van

July 16, 2021 00:41 - 39 minutes - 36.6 MB

Our asker this week lacks one of the MANY very specific skills that society asks us all to have, and guess what? It ain't that big a deal! Tune in this week for a spirited conversation about how bad cars are. We also go over the etiquette of carpooling, some High-Quality Car Passenger moves, and the fundamentals of gas money. Once again, basic math saves the day. CWs: Trin talks about her dog from 3m40s - about 9m15s. We discuss cars almost the entire dang episode. 

Lie to Kevin

July 08, 2021 18:06 - 36 minutes - 33.3 MB

If you want to know what your friends want, you’ll have to either ask them, or search your memory banks in hopes you can recall what they actually asked of you in the first place. This week, we’re going to be careful with how we share our expertise, we’re going to be mindful of what our words can do to our friends’ confidence, and we’re going to grow out our bangs. Difficult tasks, surely, but we believe in you. CW for death, parent death, car accidents, hospital from after the the...

No Saving This Friendship

June 24, 2021 16:52 - 28 minutes - 25.8 MB

If there’s one thing we at Friendshipping Incorporated can promise you, it’s that if we read your question on the show, we will answer it to the best of our ability. Today, we give an answer that nobody wants to ever receive, and it goes a little something like this: You fucked up, buddy!! Stay tuned for topics such as pandemic weddings, friends from past lives, and centering yourself when you really shouldn’t. CWs for pandemic chats and wedding talks. 

Bad Faith Contrarian

June 17, 2021 22:15 - 26 minutes - 24.1 MB

In this absolute doozy of an episode, our asker hopes to save a long-term friendship that has recently plummeted down the toilet. Unfortunately, his friend has absorbed and accepted a whole lot of questionable-to-terrible opinions from YouTube. What can a person do when their friend becomes a bad faith contrarian? We're not quite sure, but other topics include: coping mechanisms, flushing turds, and treating an unreasonable person as though they are a reasonable person.

Pre-grets

June 10, 2021 22:57 - 27 minutes - 25.4 MB

In this week's thrilling installment of Friendshipping, we're discussing pre-grets: The regret-like feelings that plague a person before anything bad has even happened yet. We'll also cover making tough choices, kicking your own ass, and  starting up The Ex Wive's Club.

Inconsiderate Doofuses

June 03, 2021 20:08 - 37 minutes - 34 MB

Friendship and Food are two of our favorite F words. But sometimes the etiquette of dining with pals can be a bit tricky! This week we'll discuss screwing up, doing better, and cringing quietly to yourself every night as you go over your Personal Mistakes: Greatest Hits album in your mind.  (Heads up: we talk about religion and food a lot in this episode.)

Fun Looks Different

May 27, 2021 17:32 - 34 minutes - 31.8 MB

A new, interesting, and difficult thing has occurred: this week’s asker is going through a life transition and experiencing bittersweet nostalgia. Today you will hear about cherishing memories whilst you make new ones, enjoying all of the lives and identities you will inhabit, and the infamous hole in the bathroom ceiling of Trin’s first apartment.

Keep it Fresh in the Bedroom

May 21, 2021 00:11 - 39 minutes - 36.2 MB

A group of friends is fracturing, and now there are far too many group chats for this week’s asker to keep up with. Let’s take a deep dive into the impermanence of friend groups, the importance of stated boundaries, and defaulting to the lowest level of contact. In other news: Trin has a new robot, Jenn takes her own advice, and everyone is a dork for Star Wars.

Just Some Freakin’ Guy

May 15, 2021 18:16 - 37 minutes - 34.2 MB

I'm fixated on one friend who doesn't seem as invested as I am. In fact, I find myself obsessing about our level of communication. I feel caught in this loop of waiting to be talked to, and sending messages that don't always get replies. How can I get unstuck? Here's an episode about investing in YOURSELF. Also introducing Susan, Trin's new Texas neighbor. Content warnings for discussion of COVID and therapy.

Brand New Baby Bi

May 07, 2021 21:02 - 37 minutes - 34 MB

Alright folks, let's say it one more time, with feeling: Crushes are mostly meaningless. And past crushes? Extremely meaningless. This week, we'll discuss coming out piece by piece, tappin' some mapes, and how no gay+ people should ever have problems ever again.  Quick edit: You don't have to be straight, gay, or bi+. You can be anything, friends! There is a whole cornucopia of human sexuality (including but not limited to ace+ and aro+), and you're in there!

Friendship Scones

April 29, 2021 14:01 - 32 minutes - 44.2 MB

Here's an episode about how to talk to your friends about your break ups, or how to not talk about them, if that's your preference. And don't miss our new segment, Adding Jenn's Name To Song Titles! CWs: divorce, brief mention of COVID-19.

Thawing After The Deep Freeze

April 22, 2021 20:54 - 48 minutes - 44.6 MB

In this week's episode, we discuss the astounding fact that we can start seeing people again, and what that might mean! A special thank you to Jamie Sanchez for guesting as our expert extrovert: https://jamiesanchez.com/ We also highly recommend checking out her Cowboy Bebop rewatch podcast, The Bebop Beat: https://thebebopbeat.simplecast.com/ CW for discussion of COVID-19.

Any Trash Animal Will Do

April 15, 2021 18:53 - 30 minutes - 27.9 MB

You are cool and interesting, and people want your time. Unfortunately, you are a mere mortal human. You can't just give out your time and energy like free samples at Costco. In this episode, we'll discuss being present for, but not solving, your friends' problems.  Additionally, Seinfeld is bad, Jenn goes for a walk, and Trin subtly reveals that she doesn't understand what other people eat.   One correction: The Leaning Tower of Pisa is doing just fine. Apparently, the leaning is...

Thighs on the Internet

April 09, 2021 18:27 - 36 minutes - 33.4 MB

It's springtime now folks, and you know what that means: everybody's itching to go out, and everybody's getting vaccinated. Wooo! Though it's still going to be a little while before it's safe to party, this week's asker is already worried about their guest list. Turns out, one of their friends is kind of a bummer, but the asker already invited them to boogie down with their Fun Friends in the future. Is there an amicable way to navigate this? Also featured this week is an in-depth d...

Clarify, Reassure, and Move on

April 02, 2021 19:06 - 33 minutes - 30.8 MB

When seeking advice about joking around with your pals, asking two people who have a podcast about friendship and also occasionally write comedy for a living is a pretty solid place to start. Today we’ll talk about being too depressed to find anything funny, being too funny to shut up, and being a Sensitive Badass. Please note that in this episode, it sounds like we recommend the movie Emily in Paris. We do not. That was a joke.  CWs: Most of this episode is about depression and ...

You're a Billy Zane

March 25, 2021 21:30 - 31 minutes - 28.5 MB

Roommates: can't live with 'em, can't afford an apartment without 'em. Sometimes they're friends, and sometimes they're just another human being stinking up your home. It's time to set some ground rules, bust out some clear communication, and stock up on hella coping mechanisms. We also discuss murdering Leonardo DiCaprio, the subtleties of living with a person with ADHD, and how deeply mad we are about people skipping in line for the COVID vaccine. Like...really, really mad. Please...

Happy Hour, Am I Right??

March 18, 2021 22:24 - 34 minutes - 31.2 MB

When your coworkers describe themselves as a close knit dysfunctional family, are you obligated to participate? This week, we'll talk about how very healthy and normal it is to have a job that is "just a job." We'll also discuss why you should never, ever admit that out loud. Also: Jenn discovers The OmegaBunny, and Trin has an adventure in sunless tanning. CW: At about 27m40s going forward, we have a COVID-related discussion of what "returning to normal" might look like, and what ...

General Advice from the Elderly

March 11, 2021 23:27 - 37 minutes - 34.3 MB

Teens these days have a lot going on! Too much, if you ask us. This week we'll discuss never going to therapy, always protecting your energy, and occasionally telling your friends information about yourself sometimes. Have you ever wondered what Jenn and Trin were like as teens? Well, this is the episode for you. Journalism Bad Boy Jenn Bane and Makeout King Trin Garritano, at your service. 

Fuckboy Book Club

March 04, 2021 21:43 - 35 minutes - 33 MB

A very nice bisexual woman has been repeatedly failed by the members of her book club—and not just in the normal ways, like never reading any of the books! Instead, they're failing her in much more disappointing, homophobic, misogynist ways, and quite frankly, we are pretty miffed. Join us for a rousing discussion of getting good grades from your therapist, wielding your privilege, and just quitting your horrible book club already.  CWs:  For about the first 11 minutes, the topic ...

Eggs, Eggs in a Basket

February 25, 2021 19:24 - 33 minutes - 30.5 MB

Extroverts in the pandemic. Much like dark matter, our calculations suggest that they must exist, but we've had no hard evidence or firsthand accounts... UNTIL NOW. Our asker wants to know if she should just give up and move on from her less-active friendships. What's a socially starved extrovert to do? This week we also discuss writing exercises, Trin's scalp, and how deeply angry we are about the question we're going to answer next week. CW: Hair loss (3m42s - 6m02s) Meet our Ex...

The No Meme Zone

February 18, 2021 20:53 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MB

There are few things more frustrating than attempting to take an Internet Cleanse... only to be continuously derailed by memes from your pals. This week, we'll discuss discouraging your friends from sending you links to Instagram drama, and Internet Privilege, and Trin's poor little boogery face.

What Your Screams Mean

February 11, 2021 20:35 - 35 minutes - 32.2 MB

Tale as old as balls: All of your friends really love doing ONE THING together, and it's the ONE THING that you simply do not want to do. Today's asker is tired of playing the often stressful online game "Among Us." Sounds like it's time again for stating some needs and boundaries! If you're looking for games to play online with your friends, check out Trin's twitter thread here for more suggestions from #TruGamerz.

Every DnD Group has a Dave

February 04, 2021 16:00 - 36 minutes - 33.9 MB

No matter how cool you may be (and we're pretty sure you're super cool), every human being in history has experienced rejection. This week, our asker wonders if it's worth reaching back out to a group of friends who removed her from their ongoing DnD game, but does not consider that she herself may have done something wrong. Interesting!

Ideally We’ll End Up in Hobbit Holes

January 29, 2021 23:21 - 34 minutes - 31.3 MB

Today’s asker brings extremely relatable content: How can I be in touch with my friends, without actually expending the energy to have a conversation? We’ll discuss leaving “love packets” for your pals, the benefits of living underground, and how impressive it is any time you can give even a small amount of time to someone you love. Thanks to Trista Sutter for having us on Better Etc. Also, if you’ve read our book, please leave a review! We would very much appreciate it.

Every Damn Day, I am Fucking Up

January 21, 2021 23:29 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MB

I haven't heard from my friend in a long time. Like: a lonnnng time. Are we still friends? This week, we discuss how equally valid all of the following options are: giving up, giving up for now but then trying again later, or trying now and giving up later.

The One who Looks Gayer

January 14, 2021 20:22 - 35 minutes - 32.6 MB

We're not gonna mince words here. The asker's two best friends became best friends themselves, stopped talking to the asker, and moved in together. Allow us to be the first to say: What the fuck? Today we'll discuss accepting our bad feelings, Minecraft streamer RPF on AO3, and how you shouldn't start physical therapy while you're still in the ICU.

Don't Let Your Friends Be Your Guitar

January 07, 2021 19:13 - 30 minutes - 27.9 MB

How do I maintain friendships if I have a very, very limited social battery? This week we discuss how to keep yourself charged while still putting in the work and being a supportive, loving friend. Content warnings for discussion of diagnosis, brief mentions of depression, PTSD.

A Pooper Situation

December 31, 2020 23:59 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MB

My roommate films the whole damn apartment when he’s on Discord. Is it normal to have Good-Smelling Room Spray in your bathroom? Cohabitation in the Age of COVID is tricky, but we’ve got special guest co-host Billie Bullock to help sort us out! CWs: Poop is all over the first question. Skip to 24m15s if that’s not your thing.  We go real hard on poop at 11m10s Brief death mention at 11m17 Brief dong mention at 34m20ish A special note:  Trin would like to acknowledge that ther...

Got my Zoom Eyebrows On

December 24, 2020 19:34 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MB

We found the only people on Earth who are consistently, meticulously getting ready for Zoom calls, and they are driving this week’s asker a little bonkers. Let us discuss this rare species and how to handle it when your friends look so perfect that it’s starting to give you feelings. Also covered: Chris Evans’ useless muscles, the deep satisfaction of a warm bowl of oatmeal, and how greasy and filthy we are, in detail.  CWs: Lots of body issues, grooming, gender presentation, and ...

A Really Long Bong Hit of Friendship

December 17, 2020 16:42 - 29 minutes - 26.9 MB

Alone time: a precious commodity in these trying times. How can I ask for and receive alone time when I'm stuck inside an apartment with two other adults 24 hours a day? This week, we'll discuss creating conditions that work for you and your housemates, just locking the freakin bedroom door already, and Trin's "two-hour long" Jimmy Eat World Greatest Hits Playlist (which in reality clocks in at 2 hours 57 minutes).

A Walgreens Friend

December 11, 2020 16:29 - 29 minutes - 27.2 MB

"My neighbors in having parties, not wearing masks in our apartment common spaces, and in no way following pandemic protocol. What can I do?" We've got some ideas to kick around. One involves laminating! Also, Jenn has a realization, and Trin takes a bathroom break. Content warnings for COVID; brief mentions of death and aging.

The Red Hots

December 03, 2020 23:02 - 28 minutes - 26.1 MB

A listener wants to know how to best support her friends right now, even as she is feeling bad herself. This one's about managing the rage, ADHD coping mechanisms, and what you can do for yourself between therapy sessions.

Your Anger Can Be Reasonable

November 23, 2020 21:59 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MB

"I’m quarantining, and my friends are not. What can I do?" This week, everyone we know is staying home and not breathing on anyone, including the wonderful person who asked today’s question.  Content warnings: The entire episode is about COVID and isolation 22m12s - Penis mention, poop talk We also have two online events this week, and we'd love to see you there: Quarantine Book Club! on Tuesday, 11/24/20, 7PM CT. Registration is required, so please click the link!  We’re stre...

Give It Up For Burping

November 19, 2020 22:24 - 30 minutes - 28 MB

My friends are stressed. Can I tell them to take a break from the news cycle? Our answer is yes, no, maybe, and sometimes! Here's an episode about absorbing the world's crap like a Bounty paper towel.

-5000% on the LSAT

November 12, 2020 18:10 - 26 minutes - 24.2 MB

This week: we're here, we're very tired, and we're discussing envy between friends. What if you and your friend want the exact same darn thing, but your friend is coming by it much more easily than you are? Also: Jenn speaks on behalf of the humble apple, and Trin puts their foot down for perhaps the very first time.

Back 2 Cool

October 23, 2020 21:00 - 30 minutes - 28.4 MB

We're back, we're online, and we're not entirely sure if we remember how to talk to people. Let's find out! This week, an asker wonders: When should I switch therapists? How do I know if this therapist is The One? We're here to give you our hottest therapy tips, appreciate one another, and read from our upcoming book. Content warnings: The first nine minutes revolve around coping with existential dread, loss, and social distancing.

Ok Now Do This Work Forever

June 04, 2020 13:00 - 37 minutes - 34.2 MB

What is the right thing to do? What should you do when you tried to do the right thing, but ended up doing the wrong thing? We hope you’re in the mood for a good, deep cringe! After Animal Crossing and plants banter, we detail some choice moments when we really screwed the heck up, and how we made amends and recovered in the aftermath. CWs In banter (first 14 min): Humorous/cartoon skeleton, death, fake murder mentions. After banter: Racism, social mistakes discussion. Trump admin ...

Quit it with the Sack Tapping

May 22, 2020 21:30 - 41 minutes - 94 MB

The first asker is caught between two friends going through a sudden divorce, oh no! The second asker isn't freaking out about COVID, and can't understand why everyone else seems to feel differently. Hm!! Most importantly, we want to know: Why do all men go through a phase of hitting each other in the testicles? Aaaa!!! CWs: - Discussion of testicles and kicking them, first ten minutes of the show. - Discussion of divorce, death throughout show. - Big death mention at 27m20s, big c...

Hork Down a Pie!

May 14, 2020 13:00 - 38 minutes - 35 MB

Sometimes, you just need a little more. We’re here to help you figure out how to effectively ask for it. How can I get my friends to talk freely about their guilty pleasures? What can I do to encourage my buds to initiate more conversations and online hangouts? In personal news, Jenn has started Animal Crossing, and Trin waxes poetic about her Wonder Woman emotions. Content Warnings: - Food mentions around 7m00s, 7m50s, and 18m18s. - COVID-heavy second question. - Occasional joking...

Low Stakes Vandalism

May 07, 2020 20:00 - 35 minutes - 32.6 MB

First up: “I was out on leave and I’m worried my coworkers are resentful that I’ve been gone. What can I do to feel less terrible about this?” Then, “I feel closer to my coworkers through this pandemic trauma. Is this why hazing works?” Around Friendshipping Headquarters, Jenn just started playing Animal Crossing, and Trin can’t stop screaming. Big week all around for everyone. Production note: Trin is wrong; Spanish Flu was not our most recent pandemic. But she is correct that we ...

Bonus Episode: Animal Crossing Etiquette

May 04, 2020 07:00 - 45 minutes - 41.5 MB

Today on this here podcast, it’s all about being polite on our favorite utopia simulator, Animal Crossing. What’s the tea on Blood? Do you leave a tip for big gains on the Stonk Market? Why is my friend sitting motionless on a log? Whew! Now that we got that out of our collective system, we’ll be back on Thursday with your regular friendship programming.

Turn Off My Face

May 01, 2020 11:25 - 49 minutes - 45.1 MB

“My friend mailed me $50. She’s the worst, right?” This week, Jenn wonders if there’s a gas leak, Trin deeply mispronounces “Oregon,” and neither of us can quite wrap our brains around an asker who feels grievously wronged by a sorta disappointing wedding gift, I guess. Thank goodness, the second question is about Animal Crossing (but is applicable to the other social tech that we now rely on for human interaction). CWs: Queerphobia, and money are discussed at length. COVID mention...

The Butter Garage

April 23, 2020 08:00 - 46 minutes - 42.5 MB

Is it okay to like having time off from work? Jenn and Trin tell you the hard truth about enjoying your life. We also get down with house envy, the box full of personal shame that lives in everyone’s home, and empathizing with your bored house cat on a level you never thought possible. CWs: Discussion ADD/ADHD spectrum. Brief, sudden masturbation mention when we read the first question.

Steamboy 3000

April 16, 2020 18:50 - 45 minutes - 41.9 MB

Mary Tyler Moore, the real one*, wants to know how to deal with the guilt of her shelter-in-place privilege in relation to her friend Ethel, who has it much harder as the single caretaker of four kids and one adult nurse. This week we once again validate an asker and everything they are doing. Plus: How to gracefully exit a group video call when everyone knows you don’t have anything better to do, and Tom Nook is an oligarch who must be deposed, his monopolies disbanded, and his asse...

We're All Depressed Here

April 09, 2020 21:10 - 41 minutes - 37.7 MB

How can we fight off the terrible dark feelings of pessimism? And what can I do when my friends set up wayyy too many group video calls? I don’t have anything else to do, and they know it, so I feel like I have to go to all of them. Help! This episode once again starts with a Pop Culture Corner, with some mentions of cinematic violence. Are you all into that segment? Should we keep doing it? Let us know! CW: COVID discussion throughout, discussion of the fall of civilization/human ...

Everything Feels Sharper Now

April 02, 2020 20:05 - 35 minutes - 32.1 MB

Notes: Stubby Stanley on Instagram

Huge Powerful Energy

March 26, 2020 17:00 - 34 minutes - 31.2 MB

How should I check on my friends while we're social distancing? Is asking "how are you?" a silly question right now? We're all in this alone together! Content warnings for discussion of COVID-19.

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