Foundation Father
109 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 month ago - ★★★★★ - 1 ratingBecome a better father. A podcast about fatherhood, leadership at home, ancient wisdom, educating our children, and masculinity. Build a foundation for your great-great-grandchildren https://foundationfather.com
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Fatherhood as Your Children Age: From One to Twenty-One
June 03, 2024 13:04 - 43 minutes - 40.2 MBFatherhood always looks to the future. You have a goal in mind for your children, and as they grow and mature and differentiate themselves, your role changes with them. Once they leave the house, you can no longer ground them. You can’t control their movie choices. You must train them to live on their own. But you still have an important role. Scott Beyer has eight children, ranging in age from one to twenty-one. His oldest daughter is now married. He has children at almost every stage of ...
How Stories and Entertainment Shape Our Children
August 28, 2023 13:17 - 55 minutes - 51.2 MBThis is a recorded X (formerly Twitter) Space with Harrison from Save Your Sons. Harrison has started to create wholesome entertainment for his own children, and we talked about his motivations and process. We also talked about the new streaming service preparing to launch called Sherwood Entertainment. Right now, you can get lifetime access for a one-time price of $299. However, you can get $100 off by using the code “Franklin” during checkout. (I personally know the people involved and ha...
How to Improve Your Reading Taste
May 30, 2023 13:30 - 1 hour - 46.4 MBThis is a recorded Twitter Space with Jim Clair. Jim blogs at jimclair.com/ and has one of those rare newsletters that I look forward to and read all the way to the end. In this episode, we talk about: * Why do you want to improve your reading taste? Just like you don’t want to have a diet that consists mostly of candy, you want a better diet for your mind. Nothing wrong with candy, and we don’t want to look down on it, but if you want to improve your thinking, you must improve your reading...
How to Vet a Woman as a Potential Wife
May 01, 2023 13:53 - 1 hour - 53.3 MBIf you are serious about finding a wife, you need to get serious about vetting the women you date. Don’t string women along with indecision. It wastes your time, and it wastes her time. This information is worth thousands of dollars and can save you from years of heartache. Men used to get this information from their fathers and grandfathers. No more. And so our broken culture gets worse and worse. Vetting is not just about choosing the best woman; it is about knowing what you are getting ...
Finding a Local Church
April 21, 2023 19:27 - 40 minutes - 27.6 MBI talked with Jake Mentzel about what young men should look for in a local church. Because you should be part of a local church. Jake is a pastor at Church of the King in Evansville, IN, a father of 7, and helps run Warhorn Media. We had some technical difficulties, so there was some awkwardness, but it was still a good discussion. We go over some of Jake’s history and how that ties into the topic. Are there strong families in the church? Does the preacher/pastor refuse to be embarrassed ov...
Mimic Your Child’s Excitement
August 18, 2022 13:02 - 1 minute - 1.69 MBYour children approach you over and over to show you something. They are proud. They are excited. They want to share these emotions with you. So get excited for them. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Helping Your Children Face Their Fears
August 11, 2022 13:39 - 1 minute - 2.09 MBWe have to help our kids face their fears while they are in the controlled environment of our home. We do them no favors if we let them wallow in timidity. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
The Reality of a Child’s Imagination
August 01, 2022 13:09 - 2 minutes - 2.39 MBEvil rises and good is defeated. Epics are written in a moment, acted out with vitality, and then forgotten every single day. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Don't Raise a Bubble Boy - Deflate the Bubble
July 28, 2022 13:06 - 3 minutes - 3.86 MBYou can’t let your kids live in a bubble. Eventually, it will be popped by something beyond your control and they will have to deal with the outside world. If your children need to walk around with a fainting couch, just in case they hear someone use a bad word, you have failed as a parent. Better to introduce the outside world to them on your own terms. This takes discipline, wisdom, and patience. Not easy, but doable, as long as you don’t mind doing it imperfectly. This is a public episo...
Fix Your Own Face
June 09, 2022 13:33 - 1 minute - 1.65 MBBeing a man means doing the right thing even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you know you will suffer. And not complaining about it. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Be Like the Unicorn
June 02, 2022 13:32 - 2 minutes - 2.57 MBYou should be able to have a conversation with anybody. If you think you are high above a certain class of people, or that you think thoughts too grave and mighty for the peasants, you’ll come off as an insufferable boor. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Just Say “Yes”
May 12, 2022 13:03 - 2 minutes - 2.37 MB“Yes” should be your default answer whenever your children ask you to do something. As I look back on the times I have said “yes,” I realize I have never regretted saying “yes.” This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Echoes of Your Own Words
May 05, 2022 13:35 - 1 minute - 1.88 MBChildren learn to speak to themselves based on how their parents speak to them. They are mimickers. Their thoughts will be echoes of your own words. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Boys and the Dangers of Homeschooling
April 21, 2022 13:00 - 3 minutes - 3.59 MBThere is no better environment than homeschooling to tailor the education of your children to their specific needs. But... There might be a reason to send your boys to public school. Eventually. This has to do with the differences in how you treat boys and girls. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Be Thankful
March 31, 2022 13:00 - 1 minute - 1.72 MBWe are so busy doing things for our children that we risk never stopping to recognize what they are doing for us. They are a gift. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
When Apathy Leads to Anger
March 24, 2022 13:00 - 1 minute - 1.96 MBIf you are getting angry at your children, it’s your fault. Every time. All of the time. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
10 Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Children - Part 2
March 17, 2022 13:00 - 4 minutes - 5.14 MBBased on Anthony Esolen's great book, Ten Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Child. This is part 2, going over items 6-10. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
10 Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Children - Part 1
March 10, 2022 14:00 - 4 minutes - 4.97 MBBased on Anthony Esolen's great book, Ten Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Child. This is part 1, going over items 1-5. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Pulling a Solomon
February 03, 2022 14:00 - 2 minutes - 2.73 MBThis is the most important thing we can learn from Solomon: his humility. Without that, we will never be able to do justice. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Do or Die Moments
January 27, 2022 14:00 - 2 minutes - 2.71 MBEvery boy needs a “do or die” moment to consider himself a man. His confidence depends upon it. It doesn’t have to be drastic. It doesn’t have to be literally life or death. But there needs to be some risk. Some serious consequences for failure. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Book Recommendations from 2021
January 20, 2022 14:00 - 4 minutes - 5.34 MBI read over 50 books last year. These are the 7 you should read this year. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
A Garden Untended is Not a Garden
January 06, 2022 14:00 - 1 minute - 1.95 MBMany fathers don’t tend to the garden of their family and then get mad when it doesn’t bear any fruit. Years of neglect, and they are surprised at the thorns and thistles that greet them. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
What to Do When Your Kids Won’t Answer Questions
December 23, 2021 14:00 - 1 minute - 2.27 MBWhenever we ask our kids a question, whenever we try to get them to open up, there are two dreaded responses: Silence “I don’t know.” When this keeps happening, we should first check that we aren’t asking boring questions. Or that we are asking questions that deserve to be asked. They need to be worth the effort and breath we are expending. But sometimes, kids just need a primer. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episod...
They Might as Well be Orphans
December 16, 2021 14:00 - 3 minutes - 3.53 MBYou can tell when a little boy has had no masculine influence in his life. When I take my kids to parks that contain lots of other children, these emasculated boys stick out like a tone-deaf singer in a choir. They might as well be orphans. They are desperate for a father. They’ll take a fake one. Anything. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
The Lowest Stakes Imaginable
December 09, 2021 14:00 - 1 minute - 2.12 MBAnd this is what childhood is all about. Learning to make the right decisions when the stakes are small, the risks are minimal, and the consequences minor. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Don’t Assume They Know
November 23, 2021 14:00 - 1 minute - 2.05 MBWhen we teach them something, we are coming from a position of experience and knowledge. It’s hard to go back to the beginner’s mind and speak from foundational principles. What words do we need to define? What concepts do we need to elaborate on? This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Require Excellence
November 09, 2021 14:00 - 3 minutes - 3.8 MBAs your children grow and you begin to give them jobs, you will quickly find yourself in several predicaments. And you must require excellence. This episode goes over several reasons why a child might be do something with excellence and the different responses a father should have. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Listen to Both Sides
October 12, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 3.67 MBNever reward the first one to come yelling to you for help without having a firm understanding of the situation. There are no easy answers here. But if both sides feel they have been listened to, things usually go better, no matter what your decision. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
How to Homeschool Your Kids in Under 2 Hours per Day
October 04, 2021 13:00 - 1 minute - 1.99 MBThe book has been launched. This is a free preview. Buy it at https://foundationfather.gumroad.com/l/hSKHP This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Admit Your Fears
September 16, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 2.69 MBAdmit your own fears, and your kids will trust you to help them deal with theirs. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
What Makes a Good Friend
September 09, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 3.15 MBWhile there are many attributes that a “good friend” will have, there is one that is critical. A lack of envy. Agamemnon gives a clarifying speech about so-called friends. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
7 Ways to Cultivate Gravitas
September 02, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 3.42 MBGravitas means you have weight. People tend to conflate it with somberness and over-seriousness, but the men who have the most gravitas usually have an equal amount of charisma. But true fathers have gravitas. They have a weight that attracts and influences. If you want to have influence on your children, and on others around you (including young men who are looking for good models of fatherhood), then you need to cultivate and promote your own gravitas. This is a public episode. If you’d ...
Stay Married
August 30, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 4.24 MBGood fathers are good husbands. How you treat your wife will be mimicked by your boys and expected by your girls. At a minimum, this means you should stay married. It is one of the most important things you can do as a father. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Nate Dean - Life Insurance & Generational Wealth
August 24, 2021 13:00 - 1 hour - 44.2 MBNate Dean is the co-founder of Unlimited Life Concepts. He does financial coaching and mentoring, helping people build up wealth while they start to erase their bad debt. I consider myself pretty good with finances, but Nate has taught me some things that completely blew my mind. How to be your own bank Leveraging loans that you make to yourself Making every dollar that comes in earn you more money Grow your wealth tax-free, without an IRA You don't want to miss this one. *None of the...
Earning Respect From Other Men
August 19, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 2.53 MBYou aren’t owed respect. You have to earn it. If you want to be treated like a man, you have to act like a man. This means taking on responsibility without grumbling or complaining. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Killing Envy in Your Children
August 10, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 4.39 MBIf not kept in check, envy will destroy relationships. It can also twist a person’s affections beyond recognition, making them chase things they don’t even care about. Here are 4 ways to kill envy. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Don’t Make Your Daughter Beg for Attention
August 05, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 2.66 MBIf you have sons but only one daughter, you can inadvertently cause her to beg for your attention. Even if it is an accident, you are responsible. Don’t start relating to your daughter as if she is one of your sons. This can lead to resentment and insecurity. Be intentional about relating to her as your daughter. Here's how. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Limiting the Freedom of Teenagers
August 02, 2021 13:00 - 4 minutes - 5.36 MBWe get a lot of things backward. With children, we must move from strict to permissive. Not permissive to strict. When your child becomes a teenager, you want to start giving them more freedom and more responsibility. You want them to start exercising more self-control. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
How to Protect Your Daughter from Insecurity
July 29, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 4.41 MBA girl craves male attention and validation. She seeks it out. She desires it most from her father, and a good father will provide that attention and validation. Let’s walk through a common scenario that plays out day after day, time and again, in homes across the world, and how it leads to broken, insecure women. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Focus on Your Future Grandchildren
July 26, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 3.05 MBIt is not enough to think about the future of your children. If you are not at least thinking about what you will leave your grandchildren, you are not thinking long-term enough. It is a poor legacy indeed that only lasts a single generation. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers
July 22, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 3.4 MBPrepare your daughters to respect the strength of your sons. She should treat their potential strength as actual strength. Don’t put your daughters in a position where they are naive about the strength of men and the respect it deserves. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
The Best Habit to Build as a Father
July 15, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 4.03 MBReading to your kids every night is one of the best habits to have. Start immediately after they are born, before they can hold their head up, before they can crawl, before they can read. The earlier the better. Tips to get started and some book recommendations. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Choosing Your Wife Everday
July 12, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 2.54 MBMarriage is not choosing your wife. It's choosing your wife every day. What your wife wants is for you to have lots of other options…and then choose her, no matter what. To choose her every day. To come home every day. She chose you when you were still a boy. Choose her after you have become a man. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
King David - The Quit Porn Strategist
July 07, 2021 13:00 - 1 hour - 44.8 MBInterview with King David - The Quit Porn Strategist. Porn is poison. It will cause you to rot from the inside and prevent you from enjoying life to the fullest. David has made it his mission to help people quit porn for good. He shares why porn is so addicting, why treating it like drug addiction is useful, why real-time accountability is important, and some tips on what NOT to do if you find out your sons are looking at porn. Check out his master class on how to quit watching porn: htt...
Growing Generational Wealth
July 01, 2021 13:00 - 4 minutes - 5.27 MBIt’s hard to create a legacy without wealth. And by wealth, I mean valuable assets: real estate, investments, intellectual property, etc. I wish I had discovered this secret 15 years ago. Grow your cash, tax-free, at a guaranteed rate Help pay off your bad debt while growing your pool of money Bypass banks to fund your big purchases (cars, mortgage down payments, etc) Provide emergency cash when needed Help fund your other investments Reclaim opportunity cost Take care of your family...
The Secret to Making Your Wife More Beautiful (Overnight)
June 28, 2021 13:00 - 6 minutes - 7.73 MBIf you could instantly make your wife more beautiful overnight, would you do it? It's in your power. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Love is not Inclusive
June 24, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 2.43 MBLove creates boundaries. It sets up exclusionary relationships. Those you love have a claim on your time. They have a claim on your attention. They have a claim on your strength and treasure. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Ask Them to Teach
June 22, 2021 13:00 - 3 minutes - 4 MBAre you having problems connecting with your children? Ask them to teach you something. If you ask them to teach you about something they love, they will not shut up about it. You will be drinking from the firehose. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Replace a “No” with a “Yes”
June 17, 2021 13:00 - 1 minute - 1.42 MBYou will be forced to say “no” to your children for various reasons. But that doesn’t mean you can’t give them something else. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe
Chores and Money, Identity and Obligation
June 14, 2021 13:00 - 2 minutes - 2.51 MBA family is about a shared identity. It runs on something more important than money: shared obligations and responsibilities. Your children should learn to fulfill their obligations without expecting any kind of monetary reward. Just like their father. Just like their mother. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.foundationfather.com/subscribe