Exmormonology
304 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 months ago - ★★★★★ - 31 ratingsExmormonology is a podcast created to help you work through your faith crisis out of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, AKA The Mormons. Leaving high demand religion is most likely one of the hardest things you will ever do and takes longer than you think it will.
My faith crisis began in 2006 and back in the day there was not a huge wonderful exmormon community that there is today. I felt very alone, especially as a woman. I did not see any women creating content that I needed at that time. So, once I got on my feet under me, after a free fall that seemed to last for a very long time, I decided to be a public face for other women who where struggling just like I was. In 2012 I started a YouTube channel, where my old videos still call home. In the early days I called myself Soul Searching Girl, on YouTube.
Exmormonology began in 2019.
I am a certified life coach and I have helped hundreds of transitioning mormons leaving the fold.
I hope this podcast helps you through your soul searching days. You are going to be okay. It is going to be hard and heartbreaking, but you will make it through. Use the coaching tools that I share here on the podcast to help you heal and move on from the church.
You are an amazingly brave wildflower and I am here to watch you find out just what you were made for. (I heart Barbie)
If you would like to work with me in a coaching relationship, reach out. I am still taking clients and I would love to help you.
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The Exmormonology
September 13, 2023 17:38 - 23 minutes - 31.6 MBExmormonology lives on. Let's talk about it. Also, Wildflower Weekend is 6 weeks away and I want you to join us. Sharing words from previous Wildflowers who attended last years Wildflower Weekend and the exact reason why you should carve out time in your life so you can experience what this healing retreat is all about.
The Exmormon Bubble, LGBTQIA+, a convo with James Rhodimer
July 24, 2023 00:24 - 56 minutes - 77.7 MBHave you ever had a conversation with a stranger that ignited a sparked your brain? This happened this morning as Jim and I were having breakfast at a cafe in Provo Utah, we happened to have an amazing conversation with someone else who was doing what we were doing, eating. I share that conversation with you today. I invited James to join me today on the podcast because, well, he was there and we ended up having our own several hour conversation that was started by this happenstance meeting ...
Triggered Scrupulosity
July 17, 2023 16:47 - 27 minutes - 37.8 MBLet's dive into religious scrupulosity and the Doug Fabrizio's Radio West Episode last week. Radio West is a Salt Lake City radio/podcast show. I was a bit triggered by a few things said by a guest on last weeks show and I want to talk about it, what it means and what it may mean to you. Working your way out of religious scrupulosity is possible. For many it stops the minute your religious beliefs dissipate, for others it may take years to unravel. Either way, I want to talk about what is ha...
Affirmations Are BS
July 09, 2023 19:19 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBWildflower, you have a life to live and a brain to guide you to whatever it is you desire. On The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, I show you how to do just that, be your own brain guide. While I know that the title of this episode may sound like I want to take on the whole affirmation community (if that is a thing), that is not the case. I do believe there is a missing step in the process of how we have been taught to do affirmations. So, this week, I want to teach you the missing piece and speed ...
Obsessed with Televangelist & Shiny Happy People? Let's talk about why.
July 02, 2023 17:10 - 35 minutes - 48.1 MBYou may be developing an obsession, or at minimum a fascination, with things like televangelists or Shiny Happy People. Me too! This week I dive into why that happens, what is happening in your brain when you watch and how this is an important part of your healing. I also address the "script" used by most of the religious people in your life when you share the news that you are leaving your religion. It is the script that show that the indoctrination is working. Let's talk! I have so much to...
Focus: The Struggle Is Real
June 25, 2023 18:35 - 20 minutes - 28.2 MBIt was the summer of 1990, shortly after I was married, when my husband and I embarked on a journey to Flaming Gorge Lodge (in Utah) where we would work for the summer saving for college tuition. I worked as a waitress at the diner. In this week's episode of The Unorthodox Woman, I recount a remarkable encounter with a charming lady who happened to be working alongside me. While I can't recall her exact age or even remember her name, she appeared to be in her late 60s or maybe even 70s. (as ...
Is It Bad That I?
June 18, 2023 16:38 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MBRaise your hand if you have ever asked a friend a question that starts with "Is it bad that I...?" Yeah, me too. Yep, I see you! Hello, we have a lot in common. This question is rich for the corners of your conditioning to explore. This week, let's dive into all things guilt and the psychology behind why it may be hard for you to make decisions. Your social, religious, spiritual and familial conditioning comes in hard and fast when the possibility of potential guilt or regret come into...
Trust Yourself
June 11, 2023 17:26 - 38 minutes - 52.9 MBWelcome to this week’s episode of The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, where we dive into the fascinating topic of self trust. Get ready for a refreshing perspective on how to navigate decision making and embrace your instincts. We have all heard the phrase “trust issues” tossed around, but let’s challenge that narrative and explore why it is time to leave it behind. Join me as we embark on a journey to boost your self trust, empowering you to take the helm of your own life’s ship, no matter what o...
Happy Pride & A Quick History
June 04, 2023 17:32 - 36 minutes - 50.5 MBHappy Pride, Wildflowers! June is a special month, filled with vibrant rainbows that illuminate our communities. It's a time when we come together to celebrate and show our unwavering support for our queer friends. However, it's important to acknowledge that not everyone shares the same level of acceptance and love. This reality reinforces the significance of celebrating and uplifting the voices of our queer loved ones. As allies, we have a responsibility to stand beside them, amplifying...
The Patriarchal Name + A Tool
May 28, 2023 13:19 - 35 minutes - 48.3 MBAre you ready to take back control of your emotions and the thoughts that keep you up all night, feeling stuck in anxiety or worry or fear or shame? ( just to name a few uncomfortable emotions) Let's talk about they psychology behind your brain and why you think and feel the way you do. I often refer to my coaching as thought work, but it is so much more than that. It is feeling work too. It is "work" because it takes time to rewire your brain and the habitual way you think and feel. No matt...
The Little You
May 22, 2023 00:18 - 22 minutes - 30.5 MBIt is time to connect with the younger you. Your healing is important. When you slow down and take the time to heal the parts of you that need you, you will be better for it. You will not be as triggered as you may currently be in the corners of your life. Let's dive into why this is so important. The younger you is waiting to hear from you.
Pay Attention ~ Awareness
May 14, 2023 18:56 - 29 minutes - 40.7 MBWould you like to be in the trailer for The Unorthodox Woman Podcast? Tune in to hear all the details. Time Sensitive ~ You have until June 1st 2023. If you are serious about improving your mental health, you must start with awareness. If you do not see the literal soundtrack your brain plays for you everyday, how will you know what to change or even how to improve? We are not looking for perfection, that is not a thing, but we can make huge changes in our life if we start paying attention...
Transitioning
May 07, 2023 19:59 - 40 minutes - 55.2 MBWelcome to the 1st episode of The Unorthodox Woman! We are a group of heretics, liberals, post religious peeps, smart feminists and passionate about life humans. In this inaugural podcast episode I share with you why the change from Exmormonology to The Unorthodox Woman and the direction and plan I have for the vision of this new chapter. Our collective religious, social and familial conditioning has most likely effected you in ways you may not see yet. I coach you through busing out of the ...
Exmormonology ~ The Second Shelf
February 11, 2023 02:32 - 23 minutes - 32.6 MBExperiencing your high demand religion initial shelf break and subsequent faith crisis is so hard! It is emotional, earth shattering and very overwhelming. Just when you think you are starting to get your footing and everything will be okay, you get hit with another shelf break. Deconstructiong mormonism is the first step, quickly you learn that there is another shelf that comes tumbling down. Are you ready for it? Let's dive into this topic this week and talk about how this happens, why thi...
Exmormonology ~ Is Healing An Illusion?
February 02, 2023 21:28 - 32 minutes - 44.7 MBAbout a month or so ago, a friend, a former Jehovah Witness friend, asked me a really great question, Is Healing An Illusion? I loved this questiong so much that I created a podcast around it. Let's dive into when healing does feel like an illusion and why and what you can do about it so you do not get stuck in the pain of reliving your pain/trauma again and again and again. There is healing in telling/sharing your story, it can be freeing in just doing that, sharing, telling your story t...
Exmormonology ~ PT 2 Healing After Faith Crisis w/ Emily Robinette
January 20, 2023 17:03 - 47 minutes - 65.8 MBThis is part 2 of my conversation wtih Emily Robinette! Enjoy the rest of our convo as we talk about all things post mormon related and how life coaching has helped speed up some of Emily's healing, not just with mormon related topics but also all of LIFE. Tune in as we talk about how unraveling your mormon brain takes time, years actually. What is the strangest place your mormon brain has shown up on this side of life? Seriously post mormon humor is one of my most favorite things. Laughter ...
Exmormonology ~ Healing After Faith Crisis w/ Emily Robinette
January 16, 2023 19:48 - 44 minutes - 60.8 MBThis week in Exmormonology Land I have invited Emily Robinette over for a conversation. We talk about all things faith crisis; the freedom we feel post faith crisis and also the rocky road we navigate after we leave the church, ie. high demand religion. You know that Exmormonology is all about helping you heal and work through religious trauma. Healing is not linear. It has ups and downs and joy and pain. Come be a fly on the wall while we discuss it all. Emily had her initial faith crisis i...
Exmormonology ~ Post Mormon Christmas
December 21, 2022 16:45 - 52 minutes - 72.2 MBLast December I created a podcast 12 days in a row and called it The 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas. The goal? To help you this time of year. This year, I pulled out the best snippets and put them all in one podcast episode. So, if you are working through a lot of thoughts and feelings about Christmas and Family right now along your own personal post mormonism journey, tune in. I give you specific tools and helps for you so you do not feel consumed with guilt or frustration or anger as you...
Exmormonology ~ A Conversation w/ Allison Crow
December 09, 2022 00:16 - 1 hour - 121 MBI am excited to share with all y'all wildflowers a conversation I have with my friend and fellow coach Allison Crow. Allison just released her new book Unarmored: Finding Home in the Wild Edges of Being Human. Allison was raised a devout Christian in the south, Texas. Although not raised mormon, Allison has experienced her own faith crisis. I know you will love our discussion and we ebb and flow about life and heartbreak and healing and busting out of the "being a made up woman my religion t...
Exmormon Thoughts & Things & Stuff
December 04, 2022 20:56 - 33 minutes - 45.6 MBThe title of this Exmormonology Episode sums up this week's episode, it is a little bit all over the place, but as you listen I have a feeling you will understand. I tap into some pretty tender emotions and I want to share them with you in hopes that you can relate and see and hear what healing sounds like. Healing does not mean you have landed at the top of healing mountain where rainbows and butterflies live forever and ever and you dance around in gleeful joy and you no longer feel grief,...
Exmormonology ~ You have been through something extraordinary
November 24, 2022 21:58 - 28 minutes - 39.7 MBDo you ever take the time to celebrate yourself and your amazingness? I am going to guess that you do not do this enough. This week I want to talk about why this is important and how easy it is to overlook it. You have been through something extraordinary. You have experienced a faith crisis, paradigm shift and you are rethinking most everything in your life. No wonder you are overwhelmed, stressed and feeling stuck. Let's work on shaking it up a bit. Life is good. You are amazing. I offer a...
Exmormonology ~ Bonus ~ The Irreverent Sessions
November 20, 2022 23:29 - 1 hour - 101 MBFinally, Irreverent Episode 13 is ready! So grab a drink or whatever you prefer and hang with us. Jim and I talk about Praying at Zupas and well just praying anywhere, anytime, temple tchotchke, Mormon women and careers, your "exmo personality," the changes to the For The Strength of The Youth, and so much more. We start out fairly serious and by the end we are straight up giggles, so much so that we just quite literally fade out. A good time was had.
Exmormonology ~ T is for Trigger
November 18, 2022 00:27 - 25 minutes - 35.1 MBAnother week of healing wildflower. This week's episode is a twofer, maybe a threefer! (is that a word?) A few topics blended together as we head into the holidays. Family. The void. Faith crisis v. awakening. Thoughts and feelings oh my! You have some decisions to make this time of year. Is your brain going off the rails as you brace yourself for family? Should you go? Should you not? Are you ready for a gathering with your mormon family or would some time off be best for you? This week I w...
Exmormonology ~ Breakdown
November 11, 2022 01:03 - 21 minutes - 29 MBHey all of you faith transition/faith crisis wildflower...has this happened to you? You have been through, what you thought was the worst of your faith crisis and then one day something happens and it brings it all back. You breakdown. All the work you thought you had done feels like it is erased and you find yourself in a heap of tears, yet again. Faith crisis, faith transition, and moving on is a life long process. Learning how to let those days of breakdown be a part of life and not take o...
Exmormonology ~ Money, My Interview With Natasha Tekeste
November 01, 2022 21:55 - 46 minutes - 63.9 MBContinuing our conversation about money with Money Mindset Coach Natasha Tekeste. Natasha Tekeste is a money mindset coach for women and people socialized as women who want to earn more money. She works with women who want to shift their beliefs around money and wealth so they can leave the drama behind and focus on actually doing the work that they love to do. She teaches people how to love the money they have, while also loving the process of earning and creating more – because it is pos...
Exmormonology ~ Money
October 22, 2022 19:17 - 35 minutes - 49.2 MBWhat is your money story? Do you even know that you have one? Have you spent anytime exploring why you think the way you do about money? Or do you just accept the fact (not fact) that you are doomed and it is what it is? One area of your life you may not have connected the dots with, post faith transition, is how your brain thinks about money because of your religious and social conditioning. Today I want to open the door to exploring this topic with you and get to the bottom of why you thin...
Exmormonology ~ I Am Back (grounding tool)
October 13, 2022 20:36 - 28 minutes - 38.8 MBWhen your thoughts get on the loose, what do you do? Do you believe those thoughts and go down the self loathing rabbit hole? Grounding tools help you get present and not stuck in the past or future. Here is a little tool to help pull you out of that stuck frame of mind. Also, Wildflower Weekend! We had amazing weekend and I want you there next year. When you plan your life out, do you schedule time for your healing and growth? If not, why? Change that up wildflower. Let's go!
Exmormonology ~ The Bully
September 02, 2022 20:42 - 26 minutes - 36.3 MBDo not underestimate the power of your brain. All healing starts with you, your brain and your emotions. One of meanest things we can do to ourselves is be our own bully. This week I want to talk to you about actual bullying and self bullying. The thoughts going through your brain are optional. What thoughts take center stage of your own brain? Do you speak kind words to yourself or words you would never say to a friend? Do you even notice? I want you to start paying attention. We cannot cha...
The Bully
September 02, 2022 20:42 - 26 minutes - 36.3 MBDo not underestimate the power of your brain. All healing starts with you, your brain and your emotions. One of meanest things we can do to ourselves is be our own bully. This week I want to talk to you about actual bullying and self bullying. The thoughts going through your brain are optional. What thoughts take center stage of your own brain? Do you speak kind words to yourself or words you would never say to a friend? Do you even notice? I want you to start paying attention. We cannot cha...
Wildflower Weekend 2022 ~ Are YOU Coming?
August 18, 2022 16:43 - 7 minutes - 10.4 MBDo you trust yourself? I know that can be a loaded question, but when one grows up in a high demand religion and has been taught to put their trust in a curated higher/church authority, it can be a tricky question to answer. This year at Wildflower Weekend we will be slowing down time and focusing on you and a few of your biggest struggles. I imagine, if you feel stuck in any area of your life, it is becuase you are not trusting your ability to have your own back, no matter what. You are let...
Exmormonology ~ What Is The Proper Response? An Essay by Amy Logan
August 17, 2022 18:05 - 34 minutes - 47.7 MBDrum roll please......It is my 100th Exmormonology Episode! I am excited to share this particular episode with you. I decided to write an essay and read it to you this time around. As exmembers of the church we often hear the same responses to our faith crisis and leaving the church, over and over again. I have seen patterns in the way members of the church respond to us. I will be addressing these repeated responses in this essay. I poised it as a an essay to members of the church, but it i...
What Is The Proper Response? An Essay by Amy Logan
August 17, 2022 18:05 - 34 minutes - 47.7 MBDrum roll please......It is my 100th Exmormonology Episode! I am excited to share this particular episode with you. I decided to write an essay and read it to you this time around. As exmembers of the church we often hear the same responses to our faith crisis and leaving the church, over and over again. I have seen patterns in the way members of the church respond to us. I will be addressing these repeated responses in this essay. I poised it as a an essay to members of the church, but it i...
When Your Brain Is Ready
August 03, 2022 17:02 - 29 minutes - 40.6 MBWhen is your brain ready to go down the rabbit hole? We each have our own experience and come to our awakening in our own time. I had signs along the way, relating to the church, but my brain was not ready to see it. Much like marketing and needing to see/hear something 7 times or more before we start making connections about certain issues or products or ? I want you to start looking for other areas of your life where you can maybe short cut this process. What are you not believing about ...
Exmormonology ~ When Your Brain Is Ready
August 03, 2022 17:02 - 29 minutes - 40.6 MBWhen is your brain ready to go down the rabbit hole? We each have our own experience and come to our awakening in our own time. I had signs along the way, relating to the church, but my brain was not ready to see it. Much like marketing and needing to see/hear something 7 times or more before we start making connections about certain issues or products or ? I want you to start looking for other areas of your life where you can maybe short cut this process. What are you not believing about ...
Keep Showing Up
July 15, 2022 20:24 - 33 minutes - 45.5 MBPick your favorite musician and think about how many times they have performed the same songs over and over and over. Do you think they want to show up and sing each and every night, EVEN THO they love being in a band? My guess is no, not every time. However, they do it, night after night. What areas in your life are you not showing up, even tho you signed up for it? Let's dig into this topic. How do you want to show up? What matters here, your thoughts and the way you talk to yourself about...
Exmormonology ~ Keep Showing Up
July 15, 2022 20:24 - 33 minutes - 45.5 MBPick your favorite musician and think about how many times they have performed the same songs over and over and over. Do you think they want to show up and sing each and every night, EVEN THO they love being in a band? My guess is no, not every time. However, they do it, night after night. What areas in your life are you not showing up, even tho you signed up for it? Let's dig into this topic. How do you want to show up? What matters here, your thoughts and the way you talk to yourself about...
Exmormonology ~ Reproductive Health, Roe v. Wade & Thought Work
June 30, 2022 19:24 - 35 minutes - 49.2 MBWhat a week, lots of feelings, all the feelings. It has been a tough one for most of us. This week on Exmormonology I dive into the overturning of Roe v. Wade and how we desperately need thought work to help us through what will be quite the fight. You will need time to process your emotions and then you will need to figure out how to create new thoughts that help you out of hopelessness. New thoughts that keep you out of stuckville. You are capable of doing this, it is possible. It is okay ...
Reproductive Health, Roe v. Wade & Thought Work
June 30, 2022 19:24 - 35 minutes - 49.2 MBWhat a week, lots of feelings, all the feelings. It has been a tough one for most of us. This week on Exmormonology I dive into the overturning of Roe v. Wade and how we desperately need thought work to help us through what will be quite the fight. You will need time to process your emotions and then you will need to figure out how to create new thoughts that help you out of hopelessness. New thoughts that keep you out of stuckville. You are capable of doing this, it is possible. It is okay ...
Time & Your Relation With It
June 15, 2022 19:13 - 44 minutes - 61.5 MBDo you find yourself saying....I need to hurry. I gotta get it done. I am so busy. I never have enough time. I wish there was more time in the day. Wildflower, if you find yourself saying these words, this episode is for you. Our experience growing up in a culture focused on forever and the next life may be playing a bigger part in your life than you know. Let's explore the construct of time and you can slow down and enjoy more moments in THIS life.
Exmormonology ~ Time
June 15, 2022 19:13 - 44 minutes - 61.5 MBDo you find yourself saying....I need to hurry. I gotta get it done. I am so busy. I never have enough time. I wish there was more time in the day. Wildflower, if you find yourself saying these words, this episode is for you. Our experience growing up in a culture focused on forever and the next life may be playing a bigger part in your life than you know. Let's explore the construct of time and you can slow down and enjoy more moments in THIS life.
Exmormonology ~ Abortion, A Conversation w/ Amanda Kingsley
June 10, 2022 14:53 - 1 hour - 83.2 MBWe do not back away from hard conversations here on Exmormonology and with the pending reversal of Roe V. Wade, I wanted to talk about Abortion. I have invited Amanda Kingsley to be a guest today. Amanda Kingsley is a Certified Feminist Life Coach and Doula. She is the host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast. And the Author of ‘What I Wish: 100 love notes to help you survive, come alive, and thrive after abortion.’ After her own unanticipated abortion as a mother of three, she recog...
Abortion, A Conversation w/ Amanda Kingsley
June 10, 2022 14:53 - 1 hour - 83.2 MBWe do not back away from hard conversations here on Exmormonology and with the pending reversal of Roe V. Wade, I wanted to talk about Abortion. I have invited Amanda Kingsley to be a guest today. Amanda Kingsley is a Certified Feminist Life Coach and Doula. She is the host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast. And the Author of ‘What I Wish: 100 love notes to help you survive, come alive, and thrive after abortion.’ After her own unanticipated abortion as a mother of three, she recog...
Happy Pride! & I Don't Know Who I'd Be
June 03, 2022 22:47 - 20 minutes - 28.8 MBHappy Pride Month! I celebrate you and love you so much! This week let's talk about showing up authentically and why it is so hard to do so. Remember the phrase we have heard over and over at church..."I don't know who I would be without the church in my life?" What??? Let's change that verbiage. That thought is not helpful as you navigate this new road. New roads require new thoughts. Let's go!
Exmormonology ~ Happy Pride! & I Don't Know Who I'd Be
June 03, 2022 22:47 - 20 minutes - 28.8 MBHappy Pride Month! I celebrate you and love you so much! This week let's talk about showing up authentically and why it is so hard to do so. Remember the phrase we have heard over and over at church..."I don't know who I would be without the church in my life?" What??? Let's change that verbiage. That thought is not helpful as you navigate this new road. New roads require new thoughts. Let's go!
Exmormonology ~ Forever and Ever
April 20, 2022 22:31 - 28 minutes - 39.2 MBHave you stopped to think about how the concept of "forever" may be tripping you up? If you have been raised in a religious faith tradition, you know the theology around forever is a regular topic of conversation. Making it back to heaven, to live with God, is the whole point of this life. We are being tested, right? You may have left your religion, but have you examined whether those thoughts you have tied to "forever" may be affecting your thoughts and feelings in subconscious ways, in THI...
Forever and Ever
April 20, 2022 22:31 - 28 minutes - 39.2 MBHave you stopped to think about how the concept of "forever" may be tripping you up? If you have been raised in a religious faith tradition, you know the theology around forever is a regular topic of conversation. Making it back to heaven, to live with God, is the whole point of this life. We are being tested, right? You may have left your religion, but have you examined whether those thoughts you have tied to "forever" may be affecting your thoughts and feelings in subconscious ways, in THI...
Exmormonology ~ Trust Issues
April 02, 2022 21:48 - 17 minutes - 24.5 MBIf you have experienced any kind of betrayal, abandonment, manipulation, etc. you may have uttered the words "I have trust issues." I know there is a lot to this topic and your life is very multilayered, but today I want to talk to you about why it may be time to change up that phrase. Every time your brain thinks, I have trust issues and you believe it, you have trust issues. By doing this you most likely build up a huge wall around your heart and you don't let anyone in and therefore you ...
Trust Issues
April 02, 2022 21:48 - 17 minutes - 24.5 MBIf you have experienced any kind of betrayal, abandonment, manipulation, etc. you may have uttered the words "I have trust issues." I know there is a lot to this topic and your life is very multilayered, but today I want to talk to you about why it may be time to change up that phrase. Every time your brain thinks, I have trust issues and you believe it, you have trust issues. By doing this you most likely build up a huge wall around your heart and you don't let anyone in and therefore you ...
Exmormonology ~ Dreaming
March 25, 2022 18:06 - 24 minutes - 33.5 MBA little bit of tough love coming your way this week via Exmormonology. You hold all the power inside of you to create the life you want, yet your brain is stuck on the hamster wheel of thoughts that tell you you can't. Stop it! Stop believing those thoughts. I am going to tell you exactly how to do that this week. Buckle up!
You Have To Do It ~ Dream Big
March 25, 2022 18:06 - 24 minutes - 33.5 MBA little bit of tough love coming your way this week via Exmormonology. You hold all the power inside of you to create the life you want, yet your brain is stuck on the hamster wheel of thoughts that tell you you can't. Stop it! Stop believing those thoughts. I am going to tell you exactly how to do that this week. Buckle up!