Doing It Wrong
23 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 3 years ago -Being in your twenties is kind of like walking directionless in a vast field and then being hit by someone on a swing. Joe Biden made a podcast so we decided, as two twenty-somethings with no real world experience and a wisdom value in the negatives, to make one too. Rainie Toll and Darcy Neureiter are two liberal arts grads with a penchant for f*cking things up. Follow them as they swing and miss gloriously.
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Lavender Calvin Klein G String
January 14, 2021 05:02 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBIt’s time to choose team captains for the age old thong vs panty debate. Rainie and Darcy adopt diametrically opposed positions for the discourse of a lifetime. As controversial issues often do, it stirs up some information previously lost in the depths of our psyches- including redeeming, vulnerable insights into one of the podcast’s peripheral characters and missed opportunities to meet Phoebe Wallerbridge. Yeah, we know this topic isn’t on par with the trying times. And by trying times ...
20s on 20th on 2020
December 30, 2020 07:00 - 30 minutes - 28.3 MBOh 2020, you venomous assailant with a penchant for dismay. We’ll be processing this trip around the sun long into our 80s, but for now, we assemble young people across the globe to discuss lessons they found as a consolation prize for the hardship, loneliness, and grief the year provided. The year’s daily activities included fending off cockroach infestations, managing isolation, and negotiating with TSA agents about taking your lizard on the plane. On the front lines, it was holding up i...
Michael Barbaro in a Leotard at the Disco
December 17, 2020 04:50 - 35 minutes - 32.4 MBThe season of Spotify Wrapped is upon us. Get ready to click through hundreds of “top artist” instagram stories and analyze why and how a niche 80s rock band is your most played. Instead of taking that algorithm seriously, we decided to choose emblematic songs of 2020 ourselves, with an agenda that includes Cher, The Jackson 5, and Pharell. Breadth and depth as we like to say. We also discuss the under discussed in a new segment, Not Spoken About Enough, created to provide a venue for proc...
I wrote a hit play! And I'm in love with you!
December 01, 2020 19:30 - 36 minutes - 33.6 MBNo one depicts a high powered dweeb experiencing the agony of identity dysphoria and unrequited love better than Wes Anderson himself. So this week, we analyze another coming of age film whose beloved and complex protagonist is in crisis. We'll explore the ways in which we see ourselves in Rushmore’s leading man, Max Fischer, in all his glory, absurdism, wisdom, naivete, and painfully relevant flaws. It's love, it's loss, it's belonging, it's drama. I wrote a hit play! And I'm in love wi...
Lifestyles of the Anxious and Famous
November 15, 2020 04:16 - 56 minutes - 52.6 MBEver wondered what it’s like to execute a Robert Di Niro Scorsese film level performances, engineer theatre kid reality tv shows, and spoof the greatest mid-2000s Australian mermaid show of all time within 60 second time frames? Today's your day. The aforementioned list is a reflection of the creative brilliance of Vienna Ayla: a woman who defies reality itself. This week we talk to rising comedienne Vienna about the circumstances and experiences that shaped her into the performer and pe...
Proposition 1000
October 23, 2020 17:44 - 39 minutes - 36.8 MBLet’s talk politics. If you've already voted, good on you, you shining example of civic engagement and participatory democracy, this will give you further insight on some of those decisions. If you haven't voted, we forgive your procrastination, there's still time to be a civic hero, and we produced this episode to give you precious intel on all those bubbles you're about to fill in. Consider this your quick n dirty guide to some of the most critical initiatives on the Colorado ballot folks....
Miranda Writes
October 09, 2020 01:39 - 53 minutes - 49.4 MBMoments of startling clarity can come at unexpected times. Like last weekend when I was standing on the porch of a home that wasn’t mine and someone asked me where I was going. I quite obviously took the question figuratively and realized with a jolt that I have absolutely no idea where I am going at any given time. This week we talk to Miranda Whitney, who experienced a critical moment of clarity standing in the doorway of her mother’s bedroom. In a stroke of lucidity, Miranda commenced h...
If You Get Murdered, I'll Avenge Your Death
September 23, 2020 00:22 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBAnother week as a twenty something, another week getting bitch slapped by your own short- comings. We’ve talked about romance and sexual chaos, but this week we discuss what is arguably the joy and nectar of the universe: Friends. They make it all bearable. They give you life, they push you to go out when you shouldn’t, they hold you accountable, they contribute to your personhood, but they also change. And you change. In your twenties, the friendship tracks that have been reliably parallel ...
Dead Cat September
September 09, 2020 04:53 - 41 minutes - 37.8 MBThe journey to journaling, doesn’t always have to entail navigating a collection of bizarre and disturbing events that culminate in a sea of despair, but for Rainie it did, and we couldn’t be prouder. Her path included but was not limited to: cats bleeding out in alleyways, speaking with the National Guard naked, the discovery of a tragic food allergy, and, of course, The Hunger Games trilogy. This week as we enter the gateway of hell, oh I’m sorry freudian slip- as we enter the month of Sep...
Anti-Capitalist on Monday, Fintech Bro on Sunday
August 20, 2020 06:09 - 32 minutes - 30.3 MBOh, the Modern Day Villain--you know who we’re talking about-- finance guy who aggressively orders to-go salads on his bluetooth headset, and believes in both meritocracy and nepotism. Do we despise him? But of course. Do we have darker, complicated desires to emulate his power? Have sexual fantasies about him? The answer is probably yes. Today, our neighborhood friend Anna Stenson, joins us to discuss judging character through career choices, “The Consultant”, leading happy lives with evil ...
Okay Golden Boy
August 10, 2020 19:50 - 25 minutes - 24 MBAs a college soccer player, serial monogamist, engineering major, American male who does the dishes, and all-around golden boy, we can’t really relate to Darcy’s brother, Luke. Except, of course, in humanity’s common denominators, such as rejection, breakups, and fear of being alone. This week we take a peek into the mind of Darcy’s younger brother, a Good Guy who just can’t seem to get out of long term relationships. What makes him tick? What allows him to find love so easily? What does he ...
Gen Z Sis
August 04, 2020 19:25 - 34 minutes - 31.4 MBYes, we are two zillenials facing existential quandaries. But, like many mortals, we also have siblings, and those siblings are also navigating their very own crises. Join us for our very first live-action interview with our Gen Z correspondent, May Toll-- tech expert, activist, and craftswoman extraordinaire. Also Rainie’s sister. We dive into the urgent issue that is TikTok and discuss how tech and the internet have shaped our lived experiences and what they might look like in the future....
Charli D'Amelio Is Our Sister
August 04, 2020 19:25 - 34 minutes - 31.4 MBBreaking: Gen Z bamboozled Donald one too many times. Enraged by their trickery, he decided to take away their most valuable possession: Tik Tok. What will this mean for the generation on the verge of revolution? Is he even allowed to do that? With us today is our Gen Z correspondent, May Toll-- tech expert, activist, and craftswoman extraordinaire. Also Rainie’s sister. After debriefing TikTok news, she talks about how the pandemic is making her days feel… empty. She’s in an existe...
Manual Transmission
July 27, 2020 18:08 - 33 minutes - 30.7 MBLoneliness is a pillar of twenty somethings, a staple of a pandemic, and a ramification of the age of the internet. Rainie’s socially distanced bumble date turns on its head, predominantly due to the lengthy list of assumptions she’d made prior. But can you blame her? Assumptions and disappointment are online dating’s most consistent accessories. Darcy ruminates on the importance of owning what you want romantically and the escapism mechanisms we use to remedy feelings of loneliness in our t...
Why You Gotta Fight With Me At Cheesecake?
July 21, 2020 16:27 - 27 minutes - 25.7 MBLast week, a serene and joyful lake house right outside Geneseo, New York was visited for the last time. Darcy and her extended family packed up the furniture and moved out. Sigh. To make matters worse, Darcy’s grandmother served up a little criticism that allegedly had been cooking for years. It did not taste good. On this episode, we discuss how to sit through feedback in the name of self-improvement. Then, to remedy the pains of being assessed, we assess some things. Cue some good old fas...
Sporty Spice
July 12, 2020 17:27 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBIf you want to be my lover, you gotta be Jon Stewart. Silver fox alert. This week we discuss the role of recreational sports in our collegiate and then post-collegiate lives and beg the question: must we join a rec frisbee golf league to meet someone new? Oy. Next, we’ll unpack our running habits and our running emotions: Is running about feeling like you’re in the movie Rocky or is it about meditating? Or both? Then, we’ll take a dip into the thoughts that scare us the most. Cool and fun bu...
Wait... Was That My Fault?
July 04, 2020 19:00 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MBResponsibility from left field. You’re bouncing along, thinking you’re a crusader of truth and justice. “Pure intentions”. You’ve reached the Scott Disick mentality: “Maybe I’m just perfect and it’s everyone else that’s the problem.” And then all of a sudden, responsibility, the one you had shunned, smacks you in the face. Not so fast she says, you’re at fault too. This week, we each think about instances where responsibility is actually our prerogative. Then, we use social media beyond its...
Crash + Learn
June 27, 2020 04:56 - 51 minutes - 47.8 MBA pillar of twenty-something existence is failing. Wildly. Repeatedly. With grace and without grace. On your face. Publicly. Privately. This is our first (and most definitely not our last) foray into analyzing failure, what it means, how it's shaped us so far, and how we commit to it as an essential practice. Topics included: Running a marathon five days after breaking up with toxic bf, elections for 10th-grade class president, rapping as a political strategy, jumping during tennis, capita...
2020 For the Gals
May 25, 2020 06:31 - 42 minutes - 39.3 MBIt’s a perilous trial like no other: New Years Eve night, doomed before it even began. We roared into the 20s in our 20s. A lot transpired on that night and a lot has transpired since. We analyze mixed signals, destructive expectations, and the fallacy of the chill girl trope. Then, we talk resolutions--because if NYE is anything, it’s a time for reflection, intentions, and doing many things wrong in a compressed amount of time. The party commences here. Topics included: The anatomy of a rev...
A Literary Review: That One Book About Your Twenties
May 25, 2020 04:48 - 46 minutes - 42.7 MBIt’s book club, baby! We discuss Defining Decade, the book about why your twenties “matter” and how to “make the most of them”. Author and therapist and Meg Jay, PhD, urges urgency, dismantles reckless relationships, and tells us to network like Benjamin Franklin. We weigh the merits of her suggestions with indignation. Mostly, Meg Jay tells us we’re doing it wrong. Topics included: How to get out of a metaphoric ocean (cont.), identity cultivation, judgemental therapists, are your...
Defining Decade: A Lit Review
May 25, 2020 04:48 - 46 minutes - 42.7 MBIt’s book club, baby! We discuss Defining Decade, the book about why your twenties “matter” and how to “make the most of them”. Author and therapist and Meg Jay, PhD, urges urgency, dismantles reckless relationships, and tells us to network like Benjamin Franklin. We weigh the merits of her suggestions with indignation. Mostly, Meg Jay tells us we’re doing it wrong. Topics included: How to get out of a metaphoric ocean (cont.), identity cultivation, judgemental therapists, are your twenties...
F*ckboys Declassified
May 25, 2020 02:23 - 35 minutes - 32.9 MBRainie was ghosted in 2017 and so quite logically, she penned a seethingly well researched academic paper about how hookup culture perpetuates toxic masculinity and gendered power structures. On this episode, we break down multiple f*ckboy crimes and then we mull over the best ways to deal with the riffraff who wronged us (who we also can’t stop thinking about). Topics included: The definition of a f*ckboy, the disrespect, the utter disrespect. Have a more expansive definition of a f...
The Graduates
May 25, 2020 00:16 - 38 minutes - 35.8 MBIn 2019, Darcy had to watch the 1967 film “The Graduate” for one of the last classes of her college career. First came the rush of feminist critique and then, a few months later, the devastating realization that she related all too well to Dustin Hoffman and his scuba suit. This episode, we learn from The Graduate, contemplate sibling rivalries at Thanksgiving, and reminisce over Young AmeriTown, the 5th grader’s bank of choice. Topics included: Post-collegiate existence, parents as room...