Divorce With Heart and Conscious Co-Parenting

#46: Holiday Health and Weight Loss

Join Gina and her special guest, Dr. David Rendelstein, leading wellness and weight loss expert, for a frank talk about maintaining physical health during difficult times and why NOW is the time to take control of your health. Dr. Rendelstein is a living testimonial for weight loss, even during difficult times. He lost 100 lbs. in 6 months and now helps his client's do the same. Special giveaway: Take the ThinTest to discover your barriers to losing weight and keeping it off...www.thintest.c...

#45: Why Settle?

WOW! This episode is powerful. Join Gina as she breaks down some top reasons WHY you should settle (or at least seriously consider it). She speaks with tenacity, compassion and love for her listeners and from a place of raw beautiful honesty to help protect their futures. A definitely "must listen" for anyone going through a legal process.

#44: How To Quickly Shift Your Mind and Heart

8 months ago, she was getting married... She was a stay at home mom of a beautiful little boy...life at home was good, going along as planned. 3 Months ago, life changed. She was out on the street, no money, no job, no fiance, and about to embark on a "battle" for custody. The break up was like getting hit with a Mack Truck. But she didn't stay down! she got up stronger than ever; She dropped the sword and started a new fight: a fight for peace. On today's episode hear all about how she did,...

#43: Why you need to "Check Your Bags" at the door, if you want more peace in your life

Did you know your thoughts and feelings are transmitted in your conversations and through your interactions, even when you're not aware of them. That's right. When we interact, we not only convey and transmit intended information and ideas, we also convey and transmit subtle information that we may not even be aware of. It's your vibe. Your vibe that emanates from your heart carries with it encoded information about your overall thoughts, feelings, and state of being. So if you think angry t...

#42: Communication Tips for Back to School

Access schedules, sports, instruments, homework, activities, vaccinations even.... all these things come to mind when I think about communication and back to school. What do you do when your communication is strained? What do you do when you can't talk to your Ex or STBX? How do you navigate all that needs to be done to protect and promote your children's best interests? Gina dives in to explore communication tips and tricks to help you stop fighting and start peacemaking and problem solving...

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#41: Are You a Reactor or a Responder?

If you're like most people in the midst of a breakup, it can feel like your world has been turned upside down. It can feel like your guts have been ripped out of you. It can feel like you have no sense of control and like you're just spinning further and further out of control. Good news ... first, you're not alone. Second, none of that is true. The truth is that you do have power to change things, and you do have power to feel in control and secure again.  Today we'll explore an essential i...

#40: Is It Possible to be with Your Ex and Not Ruin the Party?

No joke, does this idea seem like a pipe dream? Like chasing down a unicorn? How can it be, if you (and your ex) both want "what's best for the kids?" Holidays, graduations, weddings, funerals ... these are all times that you will most likely be around your ex again. And these are all times, that your kids and family will be embarrassed and feel awkward ... if you don't get COMMITTED to actually doing and being what's best for your kids, instead of just setting a goal to do it. There's a BIG...

#39: Communication with the Players and Your Ex

The legal system can seem unfair especially when you don't understand what's going on. Effective communication with your lawyer can make all the difference. This week Gina continues to explore communication with the other attorneys as well as your own, so you don't make the same mistakes that so many people do. And if you find yourself having to sit through mediation or co-parenting sessions with your ex, don't worry, Gina explores communication tips for that too. To stay in the loop: * jo...

#38: Communicating for Success with Attorney for Child, Guardian Ad Litem, Attorney Ad Litem, Custodial Evaluators

If you're going through a divorce with kids or in court fighting for custody and other parental rights, then you don't want to miss this week's show. Learn the difference between a law guardian, an attorney for the child, a guardian ad litem and a custodial evaluator and discover what you should do when communicating with other players, and how to prepare your kids for what's to come. To stay in the loop: * join the Facebook Group- Divorce With Heart * Get your FREE guide to Healing th...

#36: Listener Q & A and Making Space for What's New

Divorce is a life transformation. Your life is changing and will change no matter how you feel about the situation. It's inevitable. Before you can call in and create a better version of your life, of your family--after divorce, you have to make space for something new to appear and grow. In this episode, Gina explores some helpful detox and space clearing tips to help you wash away the old and make space for your new life. Also enjoy answers to listener questions recieved in January throu...

#35: My Teen Doesn't Have To See His Dad If He Doesn't Want To ... Or Does He?

You've worked hard at crafting a parenting schedule, maybe you've even been following it for a while now and there haven't been any issues. And then it happens....your teen flexes their independance, and tells you that they don't have to go anymore...that they don't have to follow the schedule. What do you do? What do you do, if you are the parent being rejected? What shouldn't you do because it almost always makes it worse? Get answers to these questions and better handle the situtation w...

#34: You Want to Stop Fighting? Create a Vision of Peace

Visions control everything. It's your vision that makes or breaks your future and your daily decisions that make or break your vision. Creating the right vision for the future can serve as a roadmap. It can provide context for how you live life, where you operate from, and how you make informed decisions and judge your success. In this episode, Gina guides you through the process of taking personal stock and creating a vision for yourself. It's been said that divorce is not the end, it's a...

#33: What's Broken Needs Healing to Feel Better

Healing is a choice! A broken heart produces feelings of hurt, anger, frustration, sadness, stress, jealousy, resentment and a whole lot more. So, you a have choice. Do you let it be? Knowing it will only fester and get worse? Or do you choose to TAKE ACTION and HEAL!? Choosing to heal is choosing to envision a better self, a better life, and a better future for yourself. Choosing healing means you can create a healthier divorce experience, and a healthier, happier life for you and everyon...

#32: Growing Through Gratitude Part 2 (The Step Parent)

Are you feeling angry and frustrated with your ex's new significant other? Is it bringing out the worst in you? Don't worry, that's normal! But it's not healthy or beneficial for anyone involved! In this episode, Gina expands on the topic of Growing Through Gratitude, this time confronting the step parent issue! You won't want to miss this episode! Gina explores the frustration and anger directed at the new stepmom or "girlfriend," how to move past the pain and into gratitude! This episo...

#31: Growing Through Gratitude During Heartbreak

YOU JUST WANT PEACE & HAPPINESS! BUT YOU'RE SO ANGRY! In order to reach the point of peace & happiness, you need to forgive. BUT IT'S SO HARD!!! So how can you overcome those negative feelings and start down the path to forgiveness? GRATITUDE. Gratitude is essential to peace and happiness and future life. Your future depends on the choices you make today. Gratitude can help you heal the emotions that left unchecked cause you to say or do things that you wish you could take back. Gratitude ...

#30: Overcome Anxiety and Announce Your Divorce With Peace and Confidence

Consumed with anxiety about telling your friends and family about your divorce? Confused about when and how to tell them? Worried about their reactions? It's normal. But it's not necessary. In this episode, Gina shares tips for knowing when the time is right, deciding what to say, how much information to divulge, and how to help others understand how they can best support you during this turbulent time of transition. Join Gina as she shows you how to conquer your anxiety, manage those diffic...

#29: Falling In Love With Fear, To Become Fearless

You know what's at the bottom of irrational decisions, senseless illogical decisions!? IT'S FEAR! It’s got you so worried, that you can't think straight. You're out of your mind crazy. Unable to sleep. Unable to eat. Unable to relax. Even breathe.You feel nuts. Like life is spinning out of control and like you're about to lose it at every turn.That’s the feeling of fear.  And when you feel like that, you don’t listen. You don’t hear things around you. You don’t hear good advice and direc...

GET OUT OF YOUR CHILD'S WAY (replay)

In this episode, divorcing parents can learn to untangle the emotions that keep them from reaching a fair agreement over the custody/parenting schedule.

#27: Are You the World's Greatest...?

Come on we've all seen them, the World's Greatest Mom, or the World's Greatest Dad awards. And yes, of course, we all think we are the greatest, right? Maybe we've even received a mug or two. But are we really? Are we really our child's greatest cheerleader? This week we explore more about what coaches wish you knew, and the interplay of your kids' activities and your co-parenting schedule.

#26: Parenting Technology Zombies (Your Kids) from Two Different Homes

Are you raising kids glued to Fortnite, Rocket League, Minecraft, Snapchat, Instagram? I think we all are. Girls don't put their phones down and boys are stuck on the PlayStation. Right? Now throw in the mix of co-parenting. ARGH. Today Gina is joined by licensed therapist and tween/teen specialist Cheryl A. Kosmerl for a frank talk on keeping your kids safe in this day and age and other tips for co-parenting technology zombies from two homes.

#25: The Answer Show

The Answer Show. What's troubling you? Listen as Gina answers some listeners' questions and meet Joe Vegas, a featured Rock Star of Divorce. He has some really great tips and insight to share for all you dads out there going through divorce and wanting custody of your kids.

#24: Dealing With the Absent Parent

Who does he think he is? He hasn't been around in years and now all of sudden I'm supposed to wait on him? Be flexible and accommodating to his schedule? Encourage the kids to see him, when they're angry or just don't care ... and for good reason. Sorry gentlemen, but in my experience I have yet to have a case with a mother absenting her kids and then using the courts to enforce her rights. Why is that? Moms can be absent too, but I've only seen dads not wanting to give up and threaten use o...

#23: From Stay-at-Home Mom to Career Woman? How to Make It Happen with Ease

Today Gina is joined by career coach Lorraine Rise of WorkSmart Career Counseling. They will discuss how to make a seamless transition from stay-at-home mom to career woman. They will share their stories and take callers live on air. GUEST NAME: Lorraine Rise GUEST BIO: Career coach and founder of WorkSmart Career Counseling GUEST URL: https://www.worksmartcounseling.com/

#22: Time to Hit Stop on Relationship Replay

Ever wonder why your ex/soon-to-be-ex and past lovers seem so different but yet so similar? How interesting that you were promised the sun, the moon and stars, by both, only to be left empty and shattered with the realization that they all promised one thing, seemed to act one way, and then just ... poof ... flipped the switch and left. Or why is it that you find yourself attracted to people with substance or communication and intimacy issues? How can you move on and stop finding the same ma...

#21: What Your Kid's Teachers, Coaches, and Friends' Parents Want You to Know, But Don't Want To Tell You

Nobody wants to screw up their kids by breaking up their marriage...but the reality is that it can happen and it does happen. Subtle gestures, hints, and comments made in front of kids are often to blame. Today we will explore some examples in perfect timing for the newness of Fall and back to school. So you can start this year off right.

#20: Ten or So Things Your Lawyer Isn't Telling You, That Could Save You Time and Money

Divorce, separation, child custody—it's all very expensive if you're relying on judges and lawyers to solve the problem for you. You want out, you want to be amicable, but somewhere down the line, things spin out of control, and your "amicable" divorce becomes a battle for the win. What happens? What can you do about it? What do you need to know and aren't being told?

#19: Stop Feeling Angry, Hurt and Pissed Off and Live Happier After Divorce

Join Gina in today's episode to find out how you can create less emotional baggage for your future and lighten your load. It really comes down to two things: don't meet anger with anger and paint the picture of a smile. We all have choices. Stop carrying the burden of your feelings, and choose to feel something different. Feelings are meant to be a choice and a signal, NOT your cross to bear.

#14: Divorce Intelligence

Join Gina as she discusses her Divorce Intelligence program, a service designed to assist people going through a divorce by providing the necessary legal help alongside a host of other emotional services designed to help divorcing couples resolve conflicts more easily and align their goals to make the process easier. Divorce Intelligence is designed to reduce stress, reach resolution faster, give individuals the chance to make their own decisions and help couples find a peaceful conclusion...

#18: Love Yourself So Others Will Learn to Love You Right

How can other's love you, if you don't love yourself? If you don't show them what loving you looks like, how are they to know? Of course it can be hard in the midst of heartbreak and intense stress, but just as in the song “A Dream,” Jay Z said " ... remind yourself: nobody built like you. You designed yourself." In today's episode, Gina journeys into the idea of self-love and why you need it for a life outside of the pain.  

#17: One Secret to Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

When you're forced to co-parent and share custody with a narcissist, life can feel like a nightmare! You know the kind where your trapped in a burning building and you can't get out, because no matter what you do you get burned! Well in today's episode, Gina shares how you can put out the fires, and survive. Even if your ex isn't a narcissist, but just difficult to deal with, you're sure to find some relief in this week's show.

#16: Is Your Addiction to Thinking Complicating and Stalling Your Divorce?

Our thoughts can be as powerful as any drug; and our brain is like the drug dealer. When heartbroken especially, it's so easy to get addicted to thoughts that hold us down. Thoughts like "I feel like my marriage was a total lie," "How am I going to survive?" "Will I ever stop crying?" "Sh*t, I forgot to pack the kids lunch ... I'm such a bad mom." And what happens then? Stress, anxiety and fear consume you and drive your behavior and decisions. The results can be a longer divorce, money wast...

#15: Why Your Ex Keeps Interfering with Your Life

Deep dive into Gina’s favorite world. The world of metaphysics to heal wounds, and cut cords for better, healthier relationships. Sometimes when we work with only the obvious, little change results. Sometimes, real change needs an energy shift and soul level work. Gina’s guest, Ivy Rivera, will share her personal experience in working with Gina and how she helped her escape the cycle of abuse she was living, and also how she helps others to heal by teaching about relationship cords and many ...

#14: Divorce Intelligence

Join Gina as she discusses her Divorce Intelligence program, a service designed to assist people going through a divorce by providing the necessary legal help alongside a host of other emotional services designed to help divorcing couples resolve conflicts more easily and align their goals to make the process easier. Divorce Intelligence is designed to reduce stress, reach resolution faster, give individuals the chance to make their own decisions and help couples find a peaceful conclusion...

#13: Grieving the Heartbreak

Have you been told that "time heals all wounds"? Or how about, "be strong," "don't feel bad" or "just get over it." These are common myths we tell ourselves when faced with a broken relationship. When our heart breaks, we are grieving. In fact, grieving the loss of someone who is still here, is oftentimes the hardest to overcome. In this episode, we will explore the Grief Recovery Method (TM) with master coach Martina Meyer. Discover new tools to help you heal. GUEST NAME: Martina Meyer G...

#12: Getting the Numbers Right

In a lot of ways, divorce is akin to winding down a business. Consider your marriage a partnership and the divorce is the dissolution of the business of marriage. The entire marital estate needs to be divided between the two partners, or spouses. This can be a daunting task, because unlike the dissolution of a business, emotions run hot and deep in divorce. To help maintain an objective perspective, a Certified Financial Planner® (CFP®) or Certified Divorce Financial Analyst can be extreme...

#11: Using Divorce to Emerge Anew

Join me and special guest Christine Khetarpal, a divorce coach and momma bear. Christine will share her story as another guest in the spotlight series and also explore how you can truly emerge through the process of divorce. Christine went from "divorce drama to a kick-ass mama" and so can you. All you need is the right support and a willingness to adopt a healthier mindset. Tune in and let me help get you there! GUEST NAME: Christine Khetarpal GUEST BIO: Christine Khetarpal is an MSW, CP...

#10: Cosmic Interpretations with Cassandra Joan Butler

Join me with special guest Cassandra Joan Butler. Cassandra will be sharing her story from heartache to friendship and the steps she took along the way for herself and the happiness of her children. Cassandra is also recognized as having one of the Top 100 Astrology Blogs in the world. She knows Astrology! Let's see how how astrology plays into breakups, growth, partnerships and rebuilding. Call in with questions!

#9: Leaving a Narcissist

Join me and my special guest, attorney Hope R. Jay, as we explore narcissism and the special challenges one faces when breaking up with a narcissist. Hope is a survivor herself and has cultivated her law practice over the years to serve victims of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. She is also founder of the invitation only Facebook group Learn, Live, Grow-Support for survivors of narcissistic abuse.

#8: Conscious Uncoupling

"Conscious Uncoupling" was thrown into the world by Gwyneth Paltrow. It is an international best selling book, written by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In "Conscious Uncoupling" the book, Katherine outlines 5 steps to freedom. Join me for a discussion about conscious uncoupling and meet Paulina Young our featured spotlight guest. Not only does she have firsthand experience dealing with the challenges of a divorce with children after a 17 year marriage, she is also a certified conscious uncou...

#8: Conscious Uncoupling

"Conscious Uncoupling" was thrown into the world by Gwyneth Paltrow. It is an international best selling book, written by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In "Conscious Uncoupling" the book, Katherine outlines 5 steps to freedom. Join me for a discussion about conscious uncoupling and meet Paulina Young our featured spotlight guest. Not only does she have firsthand experience dealing with the challenges of a divorce with children after a 17 year marriage, she is also a certified conscious uncou...

#7: Litigation, Mediation, Collaborative Law — Which is best?

There is certainly more than one way to get a divorce. In today's episode we will explore the three most popular roads to divorce: litigation, mediation, collaboration. There are similarities in each method but also striking differences. And what may be good for your neighbor or friend may not be best for you. Learn to find the right lawyer for each type and how to determine which method is best for you. If you don't have a choice and the method was chosen for you, that's ok too. Learn how...

#6: Courage to Change

  To divorce with heart and build a better life you need courage. Change cannot come without courage. Courage is strength. Courage is taking risks. Even risks on yourself for the sake of your children. Courage is being willing to stand out. To stand out from the crowd and resist the norm. Courage is risking judgment. Judgment from those even closest to you. But it’s only in courage where you discover your strength and can create change. Courage can feel like sacrifice and be tricky to r...

#5: A Shout-Out to Moms

Happy Mother's Day. In honor of all the moms out there, we will talk about and honor each of your roles. The single mom, the step-mom, and the bio-mom, and even the girlfriends who stand in like mom. You are all important and deserve a shout-out. We will dive into your challenges and explore solutions. We will honor all that you do to mentor and raise healthy children, and refute the most common criticisms regarding child support and spousal support.

#4: Forgiveness is the Path to Freedom and Trust

Forgiveness is a release. Anger lurks in the absence of forgiveness. Like a Loch Ness monster anger will lie beneath the surface of all your life experiences and lurk around every corner. When we have been stung by anger and hold onto anger, we guard and brace against life, missing the good and creating the bad. And when you guard and brace you block trust. With trust you are open. Open to receiving all things. Good and bad. Without it, you don’t trust that all good things will happen. In ...

#3: Blame Breeds Battles

Blame gets in the way of happiness. Blame intrudes on your right to a better life, a more peaceful life. A life that’s easy, joyful, and in sync with your highest and best. A life where your children are happy and know they’re loved. A life where your children are well adjusted and not scarred by divorce. A life in balance. Blame is in the way. Blame allows you to hide yourself from your self. In pointing fingers at someone else, you escape the truth of who you are. Because you’re not look...

#2: Making Your Break Up Work for Your Children

Some people stay together for the kids. Some don’t. But what they have in common is the desire to not hurt their kids. The truth is, kids get hurt when parents break up. It’s inevitable. But kids’ hurt when parents stay together, too, if being together means living inside a relationship built on power struggles, arguments, bickering, or apathy. So no matter what circumstance you are in, your kids will hurt. They will be sad, angry, and frustrated. This is normal. So what can you do, when y...

#1: Making Your Divorce Work For You

Divorce and Heartbreak can tear you down or build you up. The choice—and it really is a choice- is yours. Make your divorce a journey of self-discovery and transformation by adopting the mission to Divorce with Heart. A divorce with heart is a divorce that cultivates peace and strengthens future relationships. Your future life and your children’s happiness depends on the choices you make and your mindset. Where you are now is colored by your thoughts and feelings about the past; where you ...

Ditching Expectations For Peace After Divorce

By allowing yourself and your partner to be right in the decisions of the past: the bad and the good; you can free yourself for a more peaceful future.   Gina's guidance helps you to approach the present from a perspective of being right, not wrong, and to explore your expectations for positive tweaking.   Please like, rate and share.  Joing the community private facebook page:  Divorce Intelligence email [email protected] for private coaching and guidance.  

Nasty Co-Parenting and Generational Effects

Failure to Consciously Co-Parent has devestating effects on you, your children, and their children to come.  It can be generational.  Identify some hallmarks of nasty co-parenting to change for the better and increase awareness to more consciously co-parent. From Gina Marie DePrima, Esq. a divorce and family law attorney, natural empath, energy worker, and Co-Parenting Coach. www.deprimalaw.com