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Preparing Your Kids for the Transition to Divorce with Dr. Jeff Zimmerman
Divorce Dialogues
English - March 18, 2020 00:00 - 25 minutes - 23.2 MB - ★★★★★ - 10 ratingsKids & Family Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Conventional wisdom tells us that divorce has a negative influence on children. And yet, the research reveals that it’s the level of parental conflict that has the greatest adverse impact on kids—whether their parents stay married or not. So, how can we work WITH our ex to make the transition a little easier on our children? What can we do to step up and be parents for our kids when they need us most?
Dr. Jeffrey Zimmerman is a licensed psychologist with more than 35 years of experience supporting individuals and families through the stress of separation and divorce. Dr. Zimmerman is trained as a mediator, parenting coordinator, and collaborative divorce professional, and he earned the Connecticut Psychological Association’s Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology Award for his work with high-conflict families of divorce. Dr. Zimmerman is also the coauthor of Adult Children of Divorce, The Co-Parenting Survival Guide, and Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other.
On this episode of the podcast, Dr. Zimmerman joins Katherine to explain what parents can do to prepare their kids for divorce and explain the situation in an age-appropriate manner. He discusses the research around parental conflict as the greatest negative influence on kids, walking us through what parental conflict can look like and what parents can do to engage in cooperative coparenting. Listen in for Dr. Zimmerman’s insight on sharing your emotions with your children and learn how to separate your role as a spouse from your role as a parent to make the transition to divorce easier on your kids.
Topics Covered
Explaining divorce to your children in an age-appropriate manner
How divorce impacts the development of very young children
The research around parental conflict as the greatest negative influence on kids
What parental conflict looks like (e.g.: badmouthing, sarcasm, outright hostility, etc.)
What parents can do to engage in cooperative coparenting
Why teens and adult children have complicated reactions to divorce
Dr. Zimmerman’s advice on telling very young children about divorce
Small doses of info in terms they understand
Reassurance more important than schedule
Dr. Zimmerman’s insight on sharing your emotions with your children
Separating your role as a spouse from your role as a parent
Making the transition to divorce easier for kids through nesting
Connect with Dr. Jeff Zimmerman
Dr. Zimmerman’s Website: https://jeffzimmermanphd.com/
Books by Dr. Zimmerman: https://www.newharbinger.com/author/jeffrey-zimmerman
Call (914) 595-4040
Connect with Katherine Miller
The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/
Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/
Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1
The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246
Email: [email protected]
Call (914) 738-7765
Resources
Adult Children of Divorce: How to Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents’ Break-up and Enjoy Love, Trust, and Intimacy by Elizabeth Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman: https://www.newharbinger.com/adult-children-divorce
The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce by Elizabeth Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman: https://www.newharbinger.com/co-parenting-survival-guide
Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other: Powerful Tools for Navigating a High-Conflict Divorce by Lauren J. Behrman and Jeffrey Zimmerman: https://www.newharbinger.com/loving-your-children-more-you-hate-each-other