Ugh, Dating Right Now

Recently, I asked those of you who are single and looking for a relationship to tell us how dating has been going for you during COVID. You told us about messed up momentum, lots of new rules, wrenches thrown into your plans, and a lot of frustration and longing. "I feel a sense of cautious desperation," one listener told us, while another added, "There's no spontaneous kissing. There's none of that sparks flying situation." While some of you have found some unexpected upsides to dating during a pandemic, most of you are pretty burned out. So today, we're airing your grievances about dating right now—and following it up with a pep talk.

Logan Ury is the director of relationship science for the app Hinge, and author of the new book How To Not Die Alone. "Love is this natural thing, but dating is not," she told me. "Dating is a skill. And so like anything else dating is something that you can actually learn about, get better at and improve." Even, she says, during a pandemic. 

Your stories about the struggles of dating right now, and a pep talk from dating expert and How To Not Die Alone author Logan Ury.

For more on Anna's upcoming book, "Let's Talk About Hard Things," listen to her conversations with writers Kelly Corrigan and Anna Quindlen on the podcast Kelly Corrigan Wonders all month long. Here's the first episode.

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