Thoughts on Self Worth

We can put a goal out in the universe and focus on it, but there is no guarantee we will achieve it. What is guaranteed is we will learn and to come out with more experience. Life is a series of destinations, some of which we will have the pleasure of reaching and some not but every goal that we work hard for is worth it’s weight in gold in self worth.
An important distinction is to forever understand that what we do, what we chase and what we achieve is not who we are, just what we do. Our kids don’t care if we are a CEO or cleaner, they only care if we are a good parent whose actions show and give them happiness and love. Likewise with good friends.
Therefore working towards a goal will benefit our self worth if it is based upon expanding ourself, not as a mission to define our identity. We cannot be so flimsy as to be a good person, parent or example of positive self worth when we succeed and a bad one if not.
Part of self worth is to care about others and ourselves, but not care about what others think about us, which is always based on variable circumstances. What we think about ourself is our worth and our attitude and actions to working for a goal is what will affect our worth, not achieving it, which is a temporary high. Our actions will reflect our beliefs and attitude and therefore our world will reflect back what we think of ourselves.
Often the media tries to make us believe that others can make us who we are, damage our self worth, but the stark reality is - we can choose to own our worth or give it away.
Just as we are responsible whether we can receive unconditional love, because we cannot expect this if everything we do is conditional to how others will perceive us or what they can give back to us.
It is so simple yet so hard to continually accept that we are responsible for our lives. It is so easy to blame and find excuses. The easiest thing to find are people happy to play this game with us as long as we reciprocate and let them off the responsibility hook, until it becomes so believable that we forget we can and for our self worth must take responsibility for our decisions and choices.
It is this journey that I’m continually working to achieve, to cut out any blame or excuse. This constant awareness is starting to pay dividends when I have a decision to make - which is to ask myself “am I prepared to accept the outcome?” This in turn forces me to analyse the consequences more thoroughly.
I will end with a question that I grapple with, that is both wonderful and ugly! - What is it that I really want and am I prepared to take responsibility for the life it brings me?
If you want a deeper dive into goal setting and self worth I have an special offer on my book where you have access to both the digital and audiobook by following the link in the show notes. Locker Room Power book:
https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/offers/TZyNbjEu/checkout
 

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We can put a goal out in the universe and focus on it, but there is no guarantee we will achieve it. What is guaranteed is we will learn and to come out with more experience. Life is a series of destinations, some of which we will have the pleasure of reaching and some not but every goal that we work hard for is worth it’s weight in gold in self worth.

An important distinction is to forever understand that what we do, what we chase and what we achieve is not who we are, just what we do. Our kids don’t care if we are a CEO or cleaner, they only care if we are a good parent whose actions show and give them happiness and love. Likewise with good friends.

Therefore working towards a goal will benefit our self worth if it is based upon expanding ourself, not as a mission to define our identity. We cannot be so flimsy as to be a good person, parent or example of positive self worth when we succeed and a bad one if not.

Part of self worth is to care about others and ourselves, but not care about what others think about us, which is always based on variable circumstances. What we think about ourself is our worth and our attitude and actions to working for a goal is what will affect our worth, not achieving it, which is a temporary high. Our actions will reflect our beliefs and attitude and therefore our world will reflect back what we think of ourselves.

Often the media tries to make us believe that others can make us who we are, damage our self worth, but the stark reality is - we can choose to own our worth or give it away.

Just as we are responsible whether we can receive unconditional love, because we cannot expect this if everything we do is conditional to how others will perceive us or what they can give back to us.

It is so simple yet so hard to continually accept that we are responsible for our lives. It is so easy to blame and find excuses. The easiest thing to find are people happy to play this game with us as long as we reciprocate and let them off the responsibility hook, until it becomes so believable that we forget we can and for our self worth must take responsibility for our decisions and choices.

It is this journey that I’m continually working to achieve, to cut out any blame or excuse. This constant awareness is starting to pay dividends when I have a decision to make - which is to ask myself “am I prepared to accept the outcome?” This in turn forces me to analyse the consequences more thoroughly.

I will end with a question that I grapple with, that is both wonderful and ugly! - What is it that I really want and am I prepared to take responsibility for the life it brings me?

If you want a deeper dive into goal setting and self worth I have an special offer on my book where you have access to both the digital and audiobook by following the link in the show notes. Locker Room Power book:

https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/offers/TZyNbjEu/checkout

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