Episode 49: Gender, Feminism, Inclusivity, & Why Your Story Matters

This week’s conversation has the potential to ruffle some feathers. Because Tracey and Cayly are taking on some charged topics — including gender, feminism, and inclusivity — and asking themselves this question:  Who is allowed to have an opinion anymore?

Both Tracey and Cayly were a little nervous to have this dialogue on the podcast, but also feel like these are important issues to be able to discuss freely in a open forum. So here goes.

If you have anything to add to this conversation, Tracey and Cayly would love to hear from you! Please email them your thoughts at [email protected]. And they encourage you to disagree with them and/or challenge their opinions. The more perspectives on these topics the better!

Highlights from this episode:

- The Instagram post that prompted this conversation

- Why we need to make space for more diverse stories without invalidating anyone’s story

- Tracey’s conversation with her 15yo son about the patriarchy

- Inclusivity in feminism and why we should be able to talk about the differences between us

- Bret Weinstein and Heather Heying on Joe Rogan’s podcast (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HYJFgyqs0sM&t=163s) and why we shouldn’t deny biological truths

- Sports on Fire, Episode 6:  She Runs Like a Man (https://www.netflix.com/title/80149697)

- Our need to make space for nuance in conversations around gender and feminism

- Are generalizations ever useful?

- The patterns Tracey has witnessed in her work with couples

- Tracey’s experience raising both a girl and a boy, a biological child and an adopted child

- Being a tomboy as a child

- The tendency to dehumanize each other and why masculinity and femininity are necessary and equal

- Some thoughts on the #metoo movement

- The problem of political polarization and tribalism

- Why we need to ask ourselves what we actually believe instead of just following along with the group mentality

- The Armchair Expert Podcast with Dax Shepard (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/armchair-expert-with-dax-shepard/id1345682353?mt=2)

- Why we should try to prove ourselves wrong and update our opinions over time

- There is a difference between opinion and facts

- Alternative facts are not true

- How telling our stories gives context for our opinions

- The danger of making someone else’s story about yourself

- Tracey’s experience in the queer community as a bisexual woman

- And more!

Piquing Our Curiosity:

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