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Episode 47: On Confidence, Ego, Orgasm, & How Good Sex is Like Improv with Stacey Hallal
Curious and Curiouser Podcast
English - February 14, 2018 06:32 - 46 minutes - 42.3 MB - ★★★★★ - 68 ratingsSexuality Health & Fitness Alternative Health Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
On today’s episode, Tracey and Cayly are welcoming Stacey Hallal (https://www.curiouscomedy.org/people/staff) to the show. A good friend of Tracey’s, Stacey is also the founder of and current artistic director at Curious Comedy Theater (https://www.curiouscomedy.org/) here in Portland, Oregon.
Tracey and Cayly invited Stacey to the show to share her perspective on dating in your 40s, the challenge of communicating with a sexual partner about sex, and the evolution of one’s sexual identity over multiple decades — including navigating through marriage and divorce.
The specific question around which this conversation revolves is: Why is it so hard to communicate about sex with a partner?
Buckle up, friends. This dialogue covers everything from confidence in the bedroom to female ejaculation to how to talk about sex with your kids. It’s a good one.
Highlights from this episode:
- Does talking about sex take away the magic of it?
- How do you suggest that somebody do something differently without making them feel like they’re not good enough?
- The confidence it takes to ask for what you want and to communicate around sex
- Communicating about sex in a new relationship
- What percentage of women have orgasm during intercourse?
- On not being passive as a woman during sex and how strong vaginas actually are
- Female ejaculation banned by UK in pornography (https://www.thedailybeast.com/why-has-female-ejaculation-been-banned-in-british-porn)
- This Film is Not Yet Rated (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0493459/) and female pleasure in movies
- Approaching sex with an attitude of playing an instrument vs. being good or bad at sex
- What we can learn from partnered sex that we can’t learn on our own
- Why we need to communicate with kids about sex and how to help them learn the language
- Stacy’s experience growing up in a home environment that was very open about sex
- How we felt about our parents having sex when we were kids
- Normalizing sex and desire for kids
- Stacy and Tracey’s experience of exploring their sexuality after divorce in their 40s
- The importance of checking your ego at the door when it comes to sex
- How pornography can make you feel insecure sexually
- She Bop (http://www.sheboptheshop.com/about) and the benefits of going to a sex shop with a partner
- A conversation Cayly regrets not having with a past partner and how this led to the break up of their relationship
- Why we’re often afraid to talk about sex with our partners
- On no longer being excited by the chase of someone who isn’t - interested in you
- How feeling shame around your body makes communication about sex more challenging?
- And more!