Cupid's Coach with Julie Ferman
157 episodes - English - Latest episode: 15 days ago - ★★★★★ - 23 ratingsAre you Single? Wish you weren't? I'm your host, Julie Ferman, join me as I challenge today's evolutionary, modern day dating experts, through interviews that are frank, courageous, open-hearted and often hilarious.
We'll shine light on your blind spots (yep, we've all got 'em) and we'll laugh through our A-HA moments together. You'll hear about couples who did dating well and found each other, and the flops -- those who are doing dating badly -- we'll learn from them too.
How might you do dating differently? What subtle and not so subtle changes might you make that might just change everything? Join me on this journey as we listen, laugh, learn and love!
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Ep. 157 - Think It Be It with John Mitchell
April 12, 2024 11:37 - 52 minutes - 41.7 MBJohn Mitchell, creator of Think It Be It, is my guest, sharing the solution to most all of our problems in life - by influencing our subconscious mind, by design, on purpose. He used this process to achieve monumental success professionally and more importantly, to manifest his wife, at the age of 50, having never been married and after lots and lots and lots of dating. It's an honor to share him with you..
Ep. 156 - The Cupid's Coach Community
March 29, 2024 16:03 - 54 minutes - 43.5 MBWho are you guys? What are we creating together? Who gets to participate, and who doesn't? Why do I LOVE providing free Mitzvah Matches, every chance I can? How might you be the recipient? Where do YOU want to be in the Cupid's Coach Community. Why Boot Camp is co-ed, all ages. How to get invited to retreats? Why are free introductions more powerful than for-fee introductions? The future starts now.
Ep. 155 - How Traveling Solo Prepares You For Partnership
March 19, 2024 09:15 - 59 minutes - 47.8 MBRobin Fisher Roffer, Brand Stratagist, author and solo travel enthusiast shares why traveling alone makes you a better, richer, more interesting and more lovable person. What a mature partnership looks like and why being with the Evolved Guy can be a problem....
Ep. 154 - F the Fairy Tale with Damona Hoffman
March 12, 2024 08:44 - 53 minutes - 42.8 MBDamona Hoffman is my guest. She is the author of "F the Fairy Tale" and the host of the Dates & Mates Podcast. She busts the four dating myths and highlights the four pillars of lasting love. How to beat the online dating algorithms and the importance of bringing empathy to the dating process.
Ep. 153 - Making Quality Connections After 50
March 03, 2024 18:52 - 29 minutes - 23.6 MBAndrew Dowling, founder of Stitch is in the hot seat. A 50+ Community in 5000 cities all around the world for 10 years, Stitch connects people for companionship, shared interests, and activities. Combatting loneliness, making social connections, enriching lives through natural passions of all kinds. How walking/hiking together solidifies relationships.
Ep. 152 - Dating Can Be Fun!
February 27, 2024 09:36 - 54 minutes - 43.6 MBReally? Dating Coach, Sally Landau shows us how! Flirting - what is it, really? How is married life with Ken, after 20 years, and what did she do to SAVE the introduction from falling apart?
Ep. 151 - Words To Use Before, During, and After The Date!
February 20, 2024 08:26 - 46 minutes - 37.1 MBNick Notas, Dating Coach for Men, shares must-know advice on early engagement. What to say, how and when to say it. Confidence building, the KEY to nailing down the first / second date. How to say difficult things, and what a woman must do to save the guy, save the date and transform our dating culture.
Ep. 150 - Two Dating Coaches...Comparing Notes!
February 14, 2024 01:31 - 54 minutes - 43.7 MBMy guest is Lisa Shield, Dating / Love / Relationship Coach. What are The Four Agreements? Initiating is whose responsibility? What is it to "take the Feminine Lead" ? Do we need to be needed? How transparent to be about the desire to have children? Join us.
Ep. 149 - The Great Love Debate's Brian Howie...plus Mr. Ferman!
February 06, 2024 09:23 - 1 hour - 50.1 MBGreat Love Debate host (and Cupid's Coach podcast producer!) Brian Howie is in the Hot Seat, with Mr. Feman - Julie's hubby since 1990, former franchisee with Great Expectations Video Dating Service - where Gil sold Julie a membership to his agency. 34 years later, what does Gil have to say about Dating and the Dating Industry today? What's happening with The Great Love Debate in 2024?
Ep. 148 - From The Horse's Mouth
January 30, 2024 01:59 - 47 minutes - 38 MBWhat's it like being The Guy who's deservedly selective, sincerely seeking a relationship, struggling through the dating process? What does he need in order to engage with a woman at the coffee shop? What are HIS pressure points? When the matchmaker can't get his Yes for the introduction, why is that?
Ep. 147 - Who’s good? Who’s bad? Who’s ugly?
January 21, 2024 20:18 - 44 minutes - 35.4 MBWhy are some people one-date-wonder specialists? What does “doing dating well” look like? Good dating, Bad dating, Ugly dating— How would you rate your behavior of late? Edu-taining stories await for you here.
Ep. 146 - Grown-Up Dating Demonstrated Beautifully
December 24, 2023 12:10 - 54 minutes - 43.6 MBWhat "doing dating well" sounds like. Jonathon Aslay and Dr. Corinne Devin share insider perspectives on modern dating. What's intimidating, what's alluring in today's world? Alignment, the deception of chemistry, and the Sniff Test. How proactive to be? How much work should it be to do dating well? And how to say difficult things.
Ep. 145 - What Does Your Living Space Say About You?
December 19, 2023 18:48 - 38 minutes - 30.4 MBDoes it reveal that you’re ready for and prepared to have someone else around? My guest is Marlena Boardman, Interior Designer, whose company, Hello Handsome helps single men up their game in the arena of living space. How’s your Zoom environment? Your car? Decluttering does what for us?
Ep. 144 - Matchmakers, Behind the Scenes
December 05, 2023 10:00 - 47 minutes - 38.4 MBBe the fly on the wall, as two world class matchmakers talk turkey about what it’s like behind the scenes. My guest is Laurie Berzack, founder of Carolinas Matchmaker. Sex - when to go there and why we’re wise to wait for it. Why women are smart to be dating online and how to do it well. And the evolution of the planning of The Date.
Ep. 143 - What a High Quality Man Needs
December 04, 2023 01:36 - 1 hour - 48.8 MBFrom the Horse’s Mouth! My guest is Thomas Carouso, MFT, sharing the grown-up, mature guy’s perspective in dating. What is it that he is most seeking? Beyond attraction, what qualities are essential for a conscious, evolved man to see in a woman, to take her seriously? He’d rather be single forever than partner with a woman who isn’t ….what?
Ep. 142 - Chemistry Preparedness
November 12, 2023 19:39 - 54 minutes - 43.5 MBLooking for chemistry? What are YOU doing to seed it, to set the stage for connection? My guest is Dating Coach Hunt Ethridge, master of “chemistry preparedness” - sharing with us what tangential questions to ask in the dating process. What’s a positive emotional question? How can we set the stage for chemistry to find us? Why do men sit next to each other, vs. facing each other? And the power of respect, appreciation, a compliment in creating the space for chemistry.
Ep. 141 - Relationship Attraction: Creating Your Own Love Story
November 05, 2023 17:19 - 57 minutes - 45.7 MBMy guest is Kristina Court, who is on a mission to empower and support single, modern, professional women, using both spiritual and practical tools, accelerating the unseen desire for truth. She walks her talk and her British accent is delightful. Join us.
Ep. 140 - Who’s Getting It? What Growth Looks Like
October 29, 2023 18:05 - 34 minutes - 27.8 MBThose who aren’t getting it are easy to find - the folks who are looking for an unnatural match, who are polluting the waters with sloppy, discourteous, dishonest behaviors. AND there are miracles happening - Boot Camp Clients who are reinventing their dating lives. They’re planning their own events and they’re bringing the magic - willingness to rethink things, reorganize their priorities, their practices and behavior. Those who are getting it are practicing causing what’s been lacking.
Ep. 139 - Dating Blind
October 08, 2023 19:31 - 56 minutes - 45.5 MBLet's rethink this. Dating "your way" isn't working well? Might you be game for truly trusting your matchmaker - having a date with someone whose photos and "checkboxes" you've not seen? My guest is my colleague, Genevieve Gresset, Director of Communications for The Matchmaking Company, with 40 offices throughout the U.S. What possibilities and surprises might there be for you if you took your hands off the wheel?
Ep. 138 - In the Hot Seat: NYC's Matchmaker Maria, Agape Match
October 01, 2023 18:01 - 54 minutes - 43.5 MBMy guest is renowned, enormously popular NYC Matchmaker, Maria Avgitidis Pyrgiotakis, host of the Ask a Matchmaker podcast. What partnership looks like, with a strong, accomplished, "intimidating" woman. Once and for all, we handle height, wealth and religion. And, how to have better first dates - masturbate first. Who knew?
Ep. 137 - Who's Getting it? And Who's Not?
September 20, 2023 02:07 - 54 minutes - 43.3 MBWhen dating goes beautifully and when things flop. Why? Did he blow it? Did she? How might she have saved him? How might he have saved her? Where's The Man with the Plan? Where's the woman who's low maintenance, easy to please? It might be the person in the mirror, with a bit of insight.
Ep. 136 - The Cupid's Coach Boot Camp - Taste it here
August 31, 2023 19:15 - 1 hour - 65.5 MBCan true transformation happen in 60 days? Yes, indeed! Listen in to the Group Zoom Webinar, to find out how we are indeed transforming how dating is done in today's wild world. What's Julie's Boot Camp actually like? Find out here to see if it's for you. The real question - Are you a "grower" ?? Let's find out.
Ep. 135 - Loving Life After Divorce
August 13, 2023 22:24 - 30 minutes - 24.2 MBDesigning life while divorcing and afterward. My guest is Kelly Bonanno, Creator of the virtual Summit: Loving Life After Divorce. Kelly is a Wellness and Life Coach, specializing in guiding men and women through the transition and upheaval that occurs when a marriage chapter ends and a new chapter begins. Why to and how to prioritize self-care, self-love and the personal development that is essential to overall wellbeing and the preparation for the tomorrows ahead.
Ep. 134 - The Value of Dating Discipline
August 06, 2023 19:13 - 52 minutes - 41.6 MBIn the hot seat is Confidence Coach, Cameron Schwartz, shining light on the value of discipline in developing the personal confidence which is essential to doing dating well and being successful in our relationships. How becoming the most optimized version of ourselves and falling in love with ourselves is essential to attracting a healthy partner. the value of a power nap and how to get the gift you really want from a guy.
Ep. 133 - Getting Raunchy with Madison Malloy
July 03, 2023 02:59 - 58 minutes - 46.5 MBDo guys like raunch? Can we girls handle raunch? Let’s find out. My guest is Comedian / Podcaster Madison Malloy, author of “Time to Lighten the F*ck up - a Self-Help Guide with a Side of Humor.” What’s dating like for a comedian who’s 40, adorable and quite outspoken? What’s a guy to do with all that? Love her, that’s what.
Ep. 132 - Preparing for and Manifesting The One
June 28, 2023 04:12 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBBack in the Hot Seat is Arielle Ford, sharing the keys to preparing for, manifesting and keeping love alive and thriving. Do you kill a guy off quickly? Developing receptivity and how to not inspire "Limp Dick Syndrome." The Key that Shared Vision is. What is the Kiss of Death in dating and is love at first sight reliable?
Ep. 131 - Men, Sex, Porn, and Blind Spots
June 18, 2023 23:57 - 52 minutes - 72.3 MBLessons from the GUY's perspective. My guest is Scot McKay, Relationship Consultant / Media Personality who boldly addresses hotspots in modern day dating. Pornography, sex, unspoken fears and the importance of open-hearted authenticity as the ultimate turn-on for both men and women.
Ep. 130 - Get ready for Boot Camp!
May 28, 2023 18:01 - 19 minutes - 27.3 MBWhat's Julie's new 60-Day Boot Camp all about? Is this virtual learning / growth opportunity your next important step in your dating / relationship journey? We'll find out together. Wherever you live on the planet, this is the course to take BEFORE you hire a matchmaker and BEFORE you throw yourself into an online dating process to dramatically increase your chances of success. Your invitation is in this podcast episode.
Ep. 129 - Are Men Afraid Of Women?
May 22, 2023 00:30 - 49 minutes - 67.6 MBMy guest is Dr. Avrum Weiss, best selling author of Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men's Fear of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships. Dr. Weiss addresses the socialized expectations related to "What it is to be a man" and how these fears impact communication, conflict, sex and child-rearing. He sheds light on what we can do as women to ease the tension and also what men can do to move beyond these fears.
Ep. 128 - Dating in LA just got safer
May 19, 2023 01:56 - 34 minutes - 46.7 MBIn the age of scammers and posers, there's a new cop in town. My guest is Cameron Wetherby, founder of Kupple, a new online dating site that verifies each user's identity. Launched first in Los Angeles, rolling out in other big cities next, the site appeals to women, and then, of course, smart men join in.
Ep. 127 - Making Plans Just Got Easier
May 07, 2023 15:41 - 23 minutes - 19.1 MBWhat do you want to do on Saturday? I dunno, what do YOU want to do? Sound familiar? My guest is Jordan Scott, Founder of Cobble, an app that makes getting together a whole lot more fun and lots easier. Listen in on the discussion and see what happens to your social life.
Ep. 126 - The Art of Social Magnetism
April 16, 2023 20:38 - 46 minutes - 42.3 MBThe magic that is love - how do we spark that in ourselves and in others? How do we bust through self-consciousness to reach outside our comfort zones into the eyes, minds and hearts of others? Discover your inner magician with me.
Ep. 125 - Communication and Taking Initiative -- Both Sexy
April 03, 2023 14:51 - 36 minutes - 33.7 MBCourtship is evolving. Whomever took the initiative to make magic happen? THAT person is sexy. Get to the coffee date early, grab the table, text your date, "what would you love?" and forget who's wearing pants or a skirt. Checking your expectations and sharing with each other right away what intimacy means to you? That's sexy too.
Ep. 124 - Stop Listening To Your Girlfriends
March 14, 2023 13:31 - 40 minutes - 37.4 MBLadies, your girlfriends mean well, but they're typically lousy dating advisors; I'll tell you what to pay attention to instead. Discover today's surprising new trends - Dating on the Fringes, redefining generosity and experiential first dates!
Ep. 123 - Expectations Check
February 26, 2023 16:15 - 34 minutes - 31.9 MBEngage with me in these questions. Are your expectations setting you up for disappointment? Expectations about intimacy and exclusivity, about the nature of the first / second / third dates? Has your dating methodology been fruitful, experientially, for you AND for the people you're meeting? If so, hats off to you. If not, let's fix that.
Ep. 122 - One Date Wonders? Stop it!
February 05, 2023 08:49 - 53 minutes - 49.2 MBHave you had a lot of One Date Wonders? Are second and third dates rare for you? If so... uh oh... but the fix is here. Listen and learn, from stories of people who have found lasting love in surprising ways, and NOT on the first date. What might you be missing, letting the ball drop after just one meeting? How to keep the ball in play, so it doesn't fall. And great ideas for second and third dates. And how women today are getting comfortable initiating and letting a guy know how to "win" w...
Ep. 121 - Autism and Dating
January 22, 2023 16:00 - 52 minutes - 48.2 MBPeople who are neurodivergent, neuroatypical, neurospicy, autistic - Matchmakers are finding and creating new avenues to help. My guest is Jeremy Hamburgh, founder of My Best Social Life, a ground-breaking resource that's serving to combat loneliness and to transform the social lives of people who need love even more than the rest of us do.
Ep. 120 - New Year, Bold Plans
January 15, 2023 21:11 - 49 minutes - 45 MBIt's a bright, bold new year. How will you orchestrate your love life? What did this matchmaker / dating coach discover this past year? In what ways are we progressing and regressing, and how will you chart your course in the coming months? Events, Consultations, Scouting, Recruiting -- in what outside-the-box ways will you engage in your community and with me this year?
Ep. 119 - About That Bod...
December 13, 2022 22:11 - 40 minutes - 32.7 MBWhat might be altogether different, if you were able to shred and keep off those pesky 10-15 lbs? My guest is Brigitte Weil, a Matchmaker and Food Coach, answering our questions. Should you date now or wait til you shed the weight? How do we successfully maintain weight loss? Join me. We're learning together.
Ep. 118 - Text Messages - What They Reveal About Us
December 04, 2022 19:33 - 53 minutes - 49.1 MBMimi Winsberg, M.D. is my guest, author of Speaking in Thumbs. What can we learn about ourselves and the people we're dating based on our text messages? How can we establish connection and chemistry through texting? What is "instamacy" and how can we spot the bad, the ugly and the good in people through the words they thumb?
Ep. 117 - The Dating Photo Conundrum
November 27, 2022 20:41 - 56 minutes - 52.1 MBAre your dating photos as bad as the ones you see online? Worse, maybe? My guest is Ann Maas, with LookBetterOnline and she answers the questions we all have about photos. What's with the bathroom selfie and the car selfie? What about dated photos, those pesky filters, hairstyles or full body photos from a former decade - the answers are here. Whether you take your photos yourself, with a friend or by a dating photographer, we'll help you look like you, on a good day, in beautiful light.
Ep. 116 - Why Men Love Women
November 06, 2022 16:49 - 55 minutes - 44.1 MBTroy Rawlings is my guest, The Relationship Guru of Comedy, author of Buck Naked Honest. He reveals the qualities that truly matter to men, what femininity is and why men need it. Developing the courage to be transparent in communicating at all stages of dating.
Ep. 115 - Two Handfuls Handling Tough Topics
October 30, 2022 17:14 - 1 hour - 48.6 MBStrap on your seatbelts, open your hearts and minds as firecracker matchmaker Michal Naisteter shares openly about sensitive subjects that are tough to talk about. Sex Positivity, Neurodivergence, and US women's misguided obsession with money and height.
Ep. 114 - Are You a Myth Perpetuator?
October 16, 2022 20:31 - 26 minutes - 21.3 MBHave you been perpetuating the usual myths? That people on the online sites are "leftovers" or that Quality Women or Quality Men don't exist where you are? Do you dare to challenge yourself by dating off-type? What might you discover if you stopped dating altogether and started volunteering, caring for others, serving on a committee or political campaign, or by re-engaging with a family member who misses you?
Ep. 113 - Events, Retreats, Experiential Adventures Ahead
September 26, 2022 01:39 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MBInvitations galore for you. Find out about the "Kind is the New Sexy" adventure. A new era of dating has arrived and you get to participate. Events are BACK, more creative and substantive than ever before. Retreats, Meet-Up gatherings over Conversational Quickies are popping up all over. In person or online, live or recorded, AHA moments are ensured.
Ep. 112 - Two Rock Stars and some Misbehavers
September 18, 2022 20:29 - 52 minutes - 72.4 MBWhat have Alissa and Megan done that's elevated each to Rock Star Status with this matchmaker? Why have others fallen off the matchmaker's radar entirely? Listen in to determine for yourself who's been misbehaving and who's been clueless, and how it is that some folks breeze through dating and land in a loving partnership.
Ep. 111 - The Real Deal
August 21, 2022 20:05 - 49 minutes - 19.7 MBIn this episode, we ask, "Are you the real deal, really? Does your behavior match the way you describe yourself on your profile?", or maybe not so much. In your dating life, how has your communication with people been sloppy, lazy or slimy? Scheduling, rescheduling and cancelling dates - how one guy blew it and another spun the disappointment into a magical opportunity and triumphed.
Ep. 110 - Women: Approaching Them, Meeting Them
August 09, 2022 01:48 - 33 minutes - 15.3 MBApproaching a woman at the Coffee Shop - How? What to do? What to say that isn't creepy? My guest is Eddy Eddy Baller, Dating Coach for Men, who shares the how-to with us, from opening lines, conversation bridges to The Ask. And what women can do to make social engagement easier for the guys out there.
Ep. 109 - Are You Being TOO Selective?
July 31, 2022 16:34 - 30 minutes - 24.7 MBAre you highly selective? Are your age preferences limiting your chances? Listen in to find out, and if so, discover a tweak that will make all the difference. We address how to break through loneliness, by venturing into new types of social activities and developing the courage to initiate. We take a look into how we speak, to ourselves, to others and the words we use in our profiles. And I share a tool to determine where you are on the masculinity / femininity scale..
Ep. 108 - Cultivating Intuition
July 17, 2022 17:25 - 52 minutes - 29.8 MBHow's your intuition? Can you access it? Do you trust it? My guest is Martha Arnett, psychotherapist and transformational coach -- a specialist in intuition. Are you an empath? Who in your life is an empath, and how is life different for them? Discover how our lives and relationships can be enriched through the cultivation of our intuitive capabilities, and guides us in how to be more confident, joy-filled, intuitive and connected.