Connexions
377 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 months ago - ★★★ - 320 ratingsWe transform lives by teaching the principles of connection. Learn the tools necessary to connect with oneself and others.
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243: Speaking The Truth About Death
August 26, 2023 06:23 - 8 minutes - 95.6 MBHow do I approach uncomfortable topics such as cancer and death with my children? How do I share with my children about a loved one with limited time? The movement of life is vulnerable. The Truth is that death is a part of this vulnerable movement. Children need to know that death is part of the existence we live in. Learning to mourn and grieve is a Truthful movement. Grieving is a principle of Truth. Is there a difficult reality going on in your home that needs to be shared with small c...
242: Keeping Kids Safe in a Predatory Society
August 19, 2023 05:12 - 27 minutes - 307 MBIt is no surprise that children are growing up in a predatory society. Businesses, schools, governments and special interest groups are all finding ways to exploit and make profits off of our children. How do we, as the adults in their lives, keep them safe? Humans are the most intelligent of all the animal kingdom; yet, we are the only parents who show our babies how to move towards, instead of away from, predators. Animals teach their young to follow their intuition and run away from pred...
241: Holding Onto Trauma Will Make You Sick
August 12, 2023 04:23 - 14 minutes - 162 MBThe Truth about experiencing life is that most of us have experiences that are upsetting and even traumatizing. This is absolutely part of the human experience. The Truth is we are not meant to stay there in those experiences. We are meant to move through the upset and the trauma. What about PTSD? Can a person with post traumatic stress disorder, still move through their trauma? Can Truth heal someone who has been in therapy for years and is still triggered by sights, sounds, smells and me...
240: Distorted Boredom
August 05, 2023 03:39 - 26 minutes - 290 MBBoredom comes from a desire to connect but not wanting to be responsible for doing what’s necessary to connect. Boredom is a conundrum of wanting stimulus but feeling inconvenienced at the work it will take to feel that stimulus. Have you ever had a child react in aggression when they were bored because you wouldn't jump in and entertain them? If so, here is a child who is putting the responsibility to FEEL onto you, the parent. They are saying, “It’s YOUR job to make me feel better.” Anyti...
239: Drinking And Drugs Are Not The Problem
July 29, 2023 03:31 - 15 minutes - 172 MBYour child is on the brink of turning 18 and you find out that he's drunk at his friend's house. You're shocked! You thought he was safe. You call and tell him you're coming to pick him up. What type of boundaries do you, as the parent hold? Drinking is not really the issue at this point. Drinking is a symptom of his aggression, of his fear of his irresponsibility, of his entitlement, of his distortion, of his fear that he's not enough. His entitlement and lack of empathy, his dishonesty ...
238: Parable of the Pineapple
July 22, 2023 05:46 - 21 minutes - 237 MBIn today's podcast, I'm sharing with you a family parable I have taught my children for years. The Parable of the Pineapple! When my son was very young, he made a dishonest choice and tried to conceal it through a lie. Distortion begets more distortion. That's a consistent pattern! In order to break the pattern of distortion, Truth needs to be inserted! Give this parable a listen! You will all relate to tired parenting, mighty messes and sticky floors. Helping a child understand the messes...
237: Mother's Instinct to Protect
July 15, 2023 04:53 - 23 minutes - 261 MBHow can we wake up the women of this world and get them back to their natural instincts? Every animal in this world has protective instincts. As mothers, the women, the humans have lost their motherly instincts to protect their young. Women choose to hook up and be sexual with males who also are numb and have lost their fatherly instincts because both the men and the women of this world are not being nurtured, they're not being taught truth, they are not being truly loved. Listen to how t...
236: "Preserve" the Relationship
July 12, 2023 05:05 - 26 minutes - 287 MBIn this podcast, a mother asks how she can preserve a relationship with her adult children. Preservation is an outcome of applied principles. For example, preserving meat requires application of salt, brine, time drying and/or freezing temperatures. The idea of "preserving" a relationship also requires application of principles. Tune in and see how a mother is encouraged to "preserve" her relationships by sharing the Truth with her adult children who aren't so eager to hear it. Hosted on...
235: My Child's Caliber of Choices
July 08, 2023 01:29 - 12 minutes - 134 MBWhat do I choose? Do I choose to be honest, regardless of the outcomes? Am I willing to be humble and recognize when I choose poorly? These Truthful choices create a strong, sturdy foundation inside my child. I invite everyone listening to this podcast, to develop love for themselves by insisting they make choices inside Truth. You cannot buy self-esteem. You can’t word, “I love you,” in just the right way to make a person feel their self-worth. This belief will only create more dissona...
234: I'm Responsible For What Comes In My Home
July 05, 2023 03:27 - 12 minutes - 142 MBWhat if I am indebted to another person and I’m not able to return the favor, would that be distorted? This mother wants to know if she is obligated to follow through on a favor she believes she is responsible for, even if it puts her children at risk. Remember, my first responsibility is to create a home of safety for myself and my immediate family. I create a home of safety by being rigorously personally responsible, impeccably honest and vulnerably humble. I protect my loved ones, for w...
233: Can Fear Ever Be Truthful?
July 01, 2023 06:35 - 11 minutes - 125 MBAre there fears that aren’t distorted, but rather a part of the human experience? How can I differentiate between a fear that is reasonable and Truthful and a fear that is distorted? Come listen and find out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
232: Can You Go Overboard on Boundaries?
June 27, 2023 17:51 - 17 minutes - 192 MBCome, listen to a mother work through her distortions of holding boundaries with her child. The mother shares that she feels guilty for saying, "no," to her child. This mother may resemble others who fear that holding boundaries will create separation in relationships, instead of connection. The Truth is, boundaries are based in responsibility. Responsibility always brings connection. When boundaries appear to drive another away, what you are actually witnessing is the unwillingness of the ...
231: Taking Responsibility for Childhood Trauma . . . Through Forgiveness
June 24, 2023 03:11 - 18 minutes - 204 MBAddiction . . . whether you're the one addicted or you're on the other side of someone's addiction, either way it is a nightmare. It's a hell where everyone is living in fear, abandonment, chaos, disconnection, entitlement, confusion, loneliness. And so so many other characteristics that the addicted and the loved ones of the one that's addicted go through, especially when Children are involved. There is no escape for a child. They are trapped in a dynamic of needing emotional, physical, sp...
230: Honor Thy Father & Thy Mother . . . Even When They Are In Distortion
June 21, 2023 06:23 - 20 minutes - 220 MBHonor thy father and thy mother. These are words of wisdom. These words of wisdom are patterns that bring peace and connection in a family. So what do I do? How do I honor my father and mother when their choices are destructive. Honoring does not mean exposing myself to abuse. Honoring does not mean to do what the parent wants me to do, at the risk of my own responsibility. Come listen, I am going to talk about what honoring does mean. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inf...
229: How Parents Manage When Children Won't Manage Themselves
June 17, 2023 03:01 - 13 minutes - 145 MBWhat do you do when you find out something that your child, your teen, is doing and the thing they are doing is in violation of principles? Most parents take what their children are doing, personal; they react. Then, what the child is doing becomes about you instead of keeping the thing that your child is doing about them and their choices to violate principles. The reality. . . the Truth is that it is your child, your teen who is choosing, not you. Your responsibility always is to reflec...
228: Be A Peacemaker
June 14, 2023 06:24 - 29 minutes - 327 MBIn proverbs we read that all contention comes through pride. Pride is at the root of all contention. Pride is another word for a lack of humility. When I lack humility I do not take responsibility for myself. . . I am living in distortion. When I live in distortion, I am a contention maker. If I want to be a peacemaker, I need to choose humility. I do this by choosing to be honest and responsible for my thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Come and listen to how you can create peace in your ...
227: Counterfeits of Connection
June 10, 2023 06:25 - 21 minutes - 233 MBAll people need to be cared for. They need to be validated. They need to be invited into connection. All people need to be seen and heard and treated with care. Listen to how this child was attempting to secure those very Truthful characteristics, yet instead, because she didn’t know where to find them, she started spending time with people who would give her the counterfeits. She spent time around people who needed connection but were actually choosing disconnection. She became enslaved in...
226: Can I GET Others to Live in Truth?
June 07, 2023 04:34 - 9 minutes - 104 MBLearning principles of Truth is exciting! Many desire to share what they learn with family and friends. And we hope you will! Sharing our zeal and awareness with others is enjoyable when others share in the enthusiasm. A woman writes in that she is enthusiastic for Truth and wants to know how she can GET others to also live in Truth. While I share her desire for close friends and family to also live in Truth, find out how this request is actually control. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr...
225: Fruits of Living in Truth
June 03, 2023 04:36 - 14 minutes - 157 MBWhat does it take to live in Truth? The answer is it takes a person's willingness to stay in reality, use your choices and choose Truth. Why is Truth/Reality so uncomfortable that many people run from it? The answer is, there's pain in reality. There's pain, inevitable pain inside reality from things like loss, death, hurt, disappointments, loneliness, anger, greed, rage. And most people think that they can run from it, that they can hide from those things. The truth is when you attempt t...
224: Where Does Compassion Fit In?
May 31, 2023 04:37 - 42 minutes - 468 MBCompassion means combining elements of suffering and Truth and wielding them to obtain a higher purpose. Compassion is to be moldable through suffering. Compassion is only possible in Truth. Compassion aligns with, accentuates, compliments and fuels honesty, responsibility and humility. Compassion is the great motivator of Truth. It is not possible to support a person in distortion and call it compassion. Compassion always leads a person back to Truth. Come listen and learn the etimology...
223: Gen Z Desires Truth
May 27, 2023 08:25 - 11 minutes - 124 MBTruth is rare to find in our world. It’s even more rare to find someone who actually chooses to live inside the Truth. To find a person who is honest, responsible and humble is difficult. Why is that? Why are there so few people who choose to live inside values and principles? Today’s podcast talks of a young woman who finds herself in an environment where few to no people are choosing Truth. Though she knows she wants to live inside Truth, she is sad that so few people desire it as well. ...
222: Denial Around Eating Disorders
May 24, 2023 03:53 - 16 minutes - 180 MBWhen I choose not to be honest, responsible and humble, I will choose to be irresponsible, dishonest and prideful. These irresponsible behaviors are what we use to control the discomfort of reality. Each person has their own flavor of control. Some examples of controlling behaviors include, picking skin and biting fingernails, staying up all night playing video games, smoking, scrolling on social media, over-eating. The controlling behavior I’m focusing on today is the refusal to eat. I an...
221: My Son Wants to Wear Girl Clothes, Addressing Confusion with Principles
May 20, 2023 04:18 - 27 minutes - 306 MBWhat does it mean to "want to dress like a girl?" What would a girl dress like? Well, some people would say, "wear a dress," "wear pastels," "wear heels," "curl your hair," "put on makeup," etc. The Truth is there is no Truth to that. I, for example, am a girl and I dress very differently than those descriptors above. What you place on your body has zero to do with you genetically being a girl or a boy. So what's going on? Why are men and women demanding and inserting that they are in th...
220: Parenting Without Village Support
May 17, 2023 04:22 - 19 minutes - 213 MBParents, are you waking up to the reality that we are living in a world where we as moms and dads in Truth are not being supported? Can you feel the war being waged against raising children in Truth? It’s real! Distortion is constantly and deliberately battling Truth. And what better way for distortion to gather allies, than to flatter children with promises that they can have what they want? Standing for Truth, making necessary sacrifices and telling children “no," as village support is n...
219: My Child Doesn't Want to Go to Church
May 13, 2023 06:36 - 11 minutes - 125 MBMany people very intentionally decide to have children and some of us very intentionally decide not to have Children. And yet there are some of us who engage in sexual activity and then act shocked that they are going to be a parent! Regardless of whether a child is planned for and desired or whether a child is unexpected and catches you off guard, you are going to be a parent and parents are required to be responsible. You may ask what in the world am I responsible for in parenting a child...
218: The Internally Motivated Child vs the Externally Motivated Child
May 10, 2023 05:10 - 19 minutes - 219 MBIn every decision that I make, I am responsible to understand my motive. Why am I doing this? Who am I doing this for? What did I expect? Knowing my motive is critical if I am to live inside truth. When I am unaware of my motive, I will default into living a life of distortion. Join me in answering this mother's question about her daughter's motives. Why is this daughter showing up irresponsibly and lying? And how will this mother approach the daughter and help this daughter to see that h...
217: Teaching Truth to Toddlers
May 06, 2023 05:25 - 21 minutes - 242 MBAre you someone who believes that a one or two year old cannot understand principles? At what age do you think they're able to understand? What if you enable them to live in distortion . . . which means you're not honest with them, you don't encourage them to be responsible, you don't hold boundaries with them, you lie to them about people and about their environment because you want to be comfortable . . . and then when they turn five, you want to teach them the Truth? Do you think they ...
216: Demanding Adult Children
May 03, 2023 04:17 - 16 minutes - 177 MBHow do I connect with a loved one when the loved one only takes? Is it possible to wallow in a pigpen and not get muddy? These questions pull at the heartstrings of parents and grandparents all over the world. Selfish entitlement cannot demand a relationship. Relationships are carefully built, one Truthful choice at a time. Just as a home cannot stand without a solid foundation, neither can a relationship be demanded or coerced. Honesty, responsibility and humility are foundational to an...
215: Is My Child Ready to Date?
April 29, 2023 00:24 - 18 minutes - 206 MBTeenagers who want to date? When is that experience appropriate for your teen? Is there a certain age when kids are ready to date? I would say no, there's not an age, but I would say that there's a baseline that you don't even consider that your child begins to go one on one with the opposite sex until they are 16 years old. And then just because they're 16, doesn't mean that they are mature in such a way to be alone with the opposite sex. Kids are ready to date when they can give you evid...
214: Denial of Death Leads to Destructive Living
April 26, 2023 00:00 - 15 minutes - 170 MBThis life affords each human three guarantees. One is the opportunity to experience a physical body of flesh and blood. Two, the freedom to exercise agency to choose. And three, the realization of death. Each of us will experience the ending of life. We are all mortal. Just as our bodies differ in function, health and strength, so do our bodies differ in when and how death comes. Have you experienced the death of a loved one? Did you accept or deny the reality? Grieving, sadness, shock, an...
213: The Antidote to Suicide
April 22, 2023 05:30 - 16 minutes - 177 MBI'm done living. I can't do this any longer. I'm trapped. I want out. This is too hard. This person is experiencing much darkness. They feel lost, they feel confused, they feel trapped. They don't know where to turn. Darkness means that they are being lied to . . . by distortion. Distortion lies to the individual and tells them that there's no way out. Distortion says gigs up, you've lost, you're too much of a bother. This person needs to have someone speak truth to them. Truth sounds ...
212: Fighting the REAL Enemy in Your Home
April 19, 2023 00:00 - 23 minutes - 258 MBThe way a family talks with each other reveals a lot about the connection or the disconnection in the home. Have you ever asked a child how their day was and was given a shrug of the shoulders? Does your spouse sigh when you talk about spending Saturday cleaning up the yard and home? What response do you face when you announce unexpected plans? Do you find your family asking more often for “fun” things to do rather than ways to serve? Connecting as a family may not be as far off as you ...
211: Parent & Teen Tug-of-War
April 15, 2023 01:00 - 18 minutes - 208 MBWhat does control look like? What does it speak like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like to control and to be on the other side of someone inviting you into control? Today's podcast is about a mom who wants to, "help her daughter." However, her help and her willingness to make sure that her daughter is healthy is coming in the form of control. The mother does not want to allow the daughter's choices to be autonomous. And so there is a tug of war here. This is about the mothe...
210: What Does a Manipulative Parent Sound Like?
April 12, 2023 00:00 - 21 minutes - 234 MBManipulation means to handle or control in a skillful manner. Am I a parent who manipulates? When I manipulate in Truth I handle and control the only person I can control - MYSELF! I also invite my child to recognize, feel and then accept personal responsibility for every choice they make. When I manipulate in distortion I am creating an illusion that I can control my child. I minimize, justify and distract from my own choices and my child’s accountability for their choices. Where do I l...
209: From Teen Pregnancy to Responsibility
April 08, 2023 00:00 - 14 minutes - 154 MBI had children as a teen . . . not my best choice. I want God back in my life and I want my kids to obey me and they don't. How can I have both of these outcomes that I want? Come listen to this podcast about a teen mother who made very selfish choices when she was a teenager and now she is having the outcomes. She really likes many of the outcomes and many she doesn't. Well, the Truth is you can have God in your life. That is an outcome you can have because it's all within your control ...
208: Standing in Truth Without Family Support
April 05, 2023 00:56 - 11 minutes - 125 MBCan I choose in Truth? How can I choose the Truth, knowing on the other end, I'm going to have family and friends choose to leave my life? What principle can I exercise that will strengthen me and give me a base to support living inside my integrity? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
207: Teens Numb Responses to Pornography
March 31, 2023 19:33 - 21 minutes - 240 MBIt is alarming to watch children be so numb and disconnected to their choices. Here's a child who used their phone to send and receive pictures of lewd and lascivious behavior. Children are engaging in criminal behavior and are not aware of the seriousness of what they're doing. Are children being groomed to engage in child pornography? Yes! Are Children aware of the emotional, spiritual, sexual, physical consequences or outcomes of what they're doing? No! Are their parents aware of th...
206: Truth & Religion
March 29, 2023 05:24 - 15 minutes - 165 MBHow do I know if religion is in the Truth? How do I know if MY religion is in the Truth? If the Bible is the Truth, then how do I know if the interpretation is also in the Truth? What can I do to be responsible inside my own religious choices? Knowing principles and how to use them will help me navigate this confusion! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
205: Millennials Desire to Live in Truth
March 25, 2023 04:48 - 8 minutes - 91.1 MBAre millennials listening to the Truth? Many millennials are full of distortion, they attack others, they blame others. They expect people to take care of them from cradle to grave. They want money distributed to them without them earning it. They act entitled and they are quite selfish and we hear from them. True? Yet . . . this millennial is also out there and wants to be heard and understood that she is a hard worker. She is honest, she is not entitled and she is responsible and humble!...
204: Are Makeup & Hair Color Distorted?
March 22, 2023 02:00 - 18 minutes - 203 MBIs it distorted to wear makeup or color your hair or get Botox, or maybe lip fillers? How about plastic surgery? Is it distorted to wear fancy dresses or lose weight or to get your nails done? Where is the Truth when you're grooming yourself? This is going to be a really fun podcast to listen to! I go to the heart of the motives behind these questions and look at the guiding principles of how to know if I'm in Truth when applying and working with my physical body. This podcast goes to the...
203: Teaching Tenacious Children Truth
March 18, 2023 04:46 - 17 minutes - 192 MBI have met several parents who have said, "I have a child and she's fiery and fierce! What do I do?" And I will smile at them and say, "That's good. She's animated about life." Did you know that a child's energy can be turned towards Truth? You can take that energy, that fire, that fierceness, that excitement for life and angle her into Truth. What this child needs is a mother and a father who both know how to angle that energy, how to bridle that passion and reflect the Truth to her. It'...
202: Be a Refuge for Your Loved Ones
March 15, 2023 04:47 - 20 minutes - 230 MBHow can I help a family member living in distortion? Where is my responsibility when I witness self-destructive behaviors? Is there a way for me to be an influence for Truth when my loved ones reject the Truth? Listen for unchanging principles as I speak to a young woman about being a refuge for her little sister. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
201: The Three Pillars of Self-Esteem
March 11, 2023 06:47 - 17 minutes - 182 MBWhere does self-esteem come from? Was I born with it? What is self-esteem? Exactly how do I know when I've found it? People commonly think self-esteem is something that is lost and they need to find it. But the Truth is, self esteem or self love is an outcome of using your choices, your free-will to choose, to be honest, responsible and humble. Yep, that's the Truth! Come and learn how to develop self-esteem. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
200: Don't Get Stuck in Parental Regret
March 08, 2023 06:10 - 19 minutes - 219 MBEvery mother and every father have made choices where they gave their child access to something that was harmful. Whether it was the peanut butter you offered, the hot food you served, the internet you introduced or a family member you gave access to ... each parent has had experiences they wish they could go back and change. It is so critical to understand that your choices don't mean you're bad and it doesn't mean you have to live in regret the rest of your life. The Truth is you get to...
199: Truthful Protective Anger
March 04, 2023 05:04 - 17 minutes - 194 MBAnger ... Why do so many of us struggle with managing it? I hear often, "I need to control my anger," "I hurt people with my anger," "My anger is out of control," "Anger is bad," "Anger scares me." However, anger is an emotion and if used inside the Truth, can be a protection to you. Anger?? ... can protect you? and anger can protect others? A resounding Yes So for example, when you see some type of violation of Truth, like children being sex trafficked, I feel angry. Or any kind of viol...
198: Break Your Dependency on Social Media
March 01, 2023 05:15 - 19 minutes - 220 MBWhen I think of a security blanket, I think of Linus from Charlie Brown! Linus carried his security blanket wherever he went. That thing became a dusty, tattered, nasty little piece of cloth! How many of you have a security blanket? Has a person, an action, a hobby, a sport, a Tv show or some kind of engagement become your security blanket? Well ... I looked up "security blanket" in the dictionary. Security Blanket: An imposition that helps keep a secret. How many of you are carrying ar...
197: Why Parents Fear Intervening on Behalf of Their Child
February 25, 2023 05:16 - 20 minutes - 222 MBYou see your child headed towards a cliff, a fiery building or a tidal wave of water. And yet so many parents say, "I don't want to get involved," or I don't want them to think I don't trust them or that they're incapable or I don't want them to get angry with me. All of these statements are very selfishly focused on the person saying them. The kid is going to crash and burn and the parent or the adult who claims to love them is more worried about the outcomes if they get involved ... inste...
196: Teaching Modesty to Teens
February 22, 2023 05:31 - 12 minutes - 135 MBTeaching the principle of modesty to your teen can be a challenge! Understanding the basic tenets of modesty will help give you language to teach, inspire and enlighten your child. Modesty is about presenting yourself in humility, not about controlling the people around you. Modesty is a principle of protection intended to safeguard the soul. Your teen is a soul who came from God and therefore has a need honor God. Dressing the body is an intimate experience between you and your creator, ...
195: Are You Dealing With Entitled Adult Children?
February 18, 2023 03:55 - 15 minutes - 171 MBThis is a hot topic ... adult children and their feelings of entitlement towards mom and dad taking care of the things they're responsible for. Why do adult Children act entitled towards parents caring, helping, babysitting, supporting, etc.? Do parents really have the freedom to say, "No, I'm not available"? Or will these entitled children throw a fit and threaten them and kick them out of their lives? Is this really love coming from the parents and also the kids? Or is there manipulati...
194: Truthful Choices in Womanhood
February 15, 2023 04:14 - 24 minutes - 247 MBWomen have many choices today! They can choose to get married, become mothers, have careers, be home with their children, or have children and a career. With so many choices, it can be confusing which direction is best. What if instead of asking, “What should I do?” we ask, “What is the responsible and honest choice for me?” What is my calling? What is my passion? What is my Higher Power asking me to do? What is my responsibility? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informati...