190: How to Improve Your Coaching Skills, with Tom Henschel

Tom Henschel
Host, The Look & Sound of Leadership podcast and Executive Coach, Essential Communications
When it’s a development issue (or a way of thinking) it’s coaching that’s most helpful.

Tom says that coaching needs good goals, or at least one single goal over time.

Think about the goal as if it were on video — how do you want the end result to look?

“Coaching? It’s not about you.” -Tom Henschel

“The coaching process is helping someone understand, from their own point of view, why it would be in their benefit.” -Tom Henschel

Tom shared two stories from his teenage daughter Julia that helps him with coaching.

Food for thought:

Do people see coaching as part of their jobs? Do they have time for it?

To improve your coaching skills:

Let them go first.
Use open ended questions, such as, “What does that sound like to you?”
Earn the right to give advice.

Tom last appeared on these two episodes:

107: Three Steps To Soliciting Feedback with Tom Henschel
164: How to Handle a Boss Who’s a Jerk with Tom Henschel
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