#321 – Sex & Living Single

When was the last time you addressed the elephant in the room? The topic that no one wants to talk about and even warms your cheeks with sheer embarrassment to discuss in the confines of your spiritual community. One conversation that is sure to make many people uncomfortable and is likely to disturb [...]

When was the last time you addressed the elephant in the room? The topic that no one wants to talk about and even warms your cheeks with sheer embarrassment to discuss in the confines of your spiritual community. One conversation that is sure to make many people uncomfortable and is likely to disturb the peace is S-E-X. What would happen if you were allowed to “go there” — unapologetically and without concern for what may follow?

The hot topics surrounding our bodies, desires, and sexuality can be difficult when developing convictions rooted in biblical truths, but Kat Harris is all too familiar with the complexities of such topics and details them in her book, Sexless in the City: A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and Sex.

In our conversation, Kat Harris acknowledges that truly taking ownership of your decisions and feeling good about them means means investigating God’s heart surrounding sex and dating. What does God have to say about the matter? How has the church miscommunicated God’s truth? What responsibility do both men and women have with regards to modesty? What challenges do both the church and culture present in understanding and living in freedom? 

There is both a need and longing for a safe and inviting space for wisdom-filled answers and open/honest conversations. Because of purity culture and also the often silent position on the topic of sex by the Church, we need the ability to chat about these things. Because of purity culture and also the often silent position on the topic of sex by the Church, we need the ability to chat about these things without judgment,, to address the questions that many wrestle with and to honor the real wrestle with, and to honor the real desires along with the weight of shame many are afraid to talk about. 

If you find yourself struggling when it comes to your personal convictions and knowing what God says and intended through the creation of sex, know that your are not alone. He sees and is present with you. He wants to engage in the conversation with you as you unpack the truth of desire in His Word. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this transparent conversation is one that you won’t want to miss!

Discover God’s truth about sex and sexuality
Understand the roles of shame, guilt, and fear 
Find freedom in dating and desire

Resources from today’s show

Connect with Kat Harris on her website, Instagram, Pinterest.
Grab a copy of Kat Harris’ book Sexless in the City: A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and Sex
Interested in learning more? Check out The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, She Comes First by Ian Kerner, and Slow Sex by Diana Richardson.
Navigating grief? Consider reading C.S. Lewis’ book A Grief Observed. 

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“I think what Jesus’ life teaches us is less about what it means to be God, and more about what it means to be human.” – Kat Harris
“We deconstruct so that we can rebuild.”- Kat Harris 
“Deconstruction is being willing to ask the question that might blow the whole thing up and trust that if God is who He says He is…  He will show up for you in that place.”- Kat Harris
“If you’re finding yourself judging other people, ask yourself if you are living in shame in your own story.” – Kat Harris
“If you’re finding yourself judging other people, you’re living in shame in your own story.” – Kat Harris 
“You are not a victim to your relationship status.” – Kat Harris
”The invitation of Jesus is to lean into possibility.”- Kat Harris
“Don’t take your pastor’s word for it; You go to the scriptures.” – Kat Harris

Other Stuff to Check Out

Want to check out another other conversation related to this topic? Consider listening to #155 – “Real Talk About Relationships – Living Single”  and
Need to encourage your soul? Try listening to the playlist I put together for my mom, Lady Lois’ Worship
Interested in supporting the content I create and enjoying bonus content? Learn about joining my Inner Circle!
Be sure to also check out my books She’s Still There, Show Up For Your Life, The 28-Day Prayer Journey, and Kingdom Woman!

Let’s Talk!

How have you struggled to understand and live out God’s intention for sex and sexuality?
What current challenges do you face in maintaining integrity while acknowledging and embracing your God-given desires? What in this conversation may be of help to you?
Is there anything from this conversation that you desire to go deeper in? 

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