#83 Elise Michaels - Men's Mental Health

Elise Micheals
Episode Run Time: 58:25

Elise is a men’s mental health coach and advocate, helping men find purpose and passion by healing their subconscious trauma. In this episode, we talk about the differences, or lack thereof, in providing support for men and their mental health and trauma, how men can look for love in this modern era, and how one can help the men in their life heal towards a better life.

00:00 00:49 Introducing Elise
 01:35 Polarity on Support Between Men and Women
 04:07 Cracking Open Men’s Heart Center
 06:26 Men and Decisiveness
 09:32 Common Trauma Among Men
 11:00 Getting Men Out of Toxic Relationships
 13:27 Where Can Men Look for Love?
 16:08 Rejection VS Normal Human Interaction
 20:20 Social Stigma of Men Asking For Help
 23:02 The Boy Crisis
 25:58 Divorce and Prenup
 32:28 Men’s Roles in Relationships
 35:16 The Midlife Crisis and the Retirement Era
 38:21 Being a Woman in Mens’ Topics
 39:40 Developing EQ
 42:14 Old School Mentality on Men
 44:05 Transactional Relationships
 45:06 “The Whore Whisperer”
 47:32 Men VS OnlyFans
 50:36 Escapism Through Ejaculation
 53:15 What Does Depression Look Like in Men?
 54:17 Alleviating Anxiety
 57:12 Where to Find Elise

How do we crack open men’s heart center

In order for men to create a safe space for the feminine, they don’t necessarily have to get in touch with their emotions, because that’s when we see them go into more of their feminine. This is also what happens in relationships when women take so much on the masculine and is hard-strung on this dynamic. Relationships need balance, and in this case, men will start taking on the feminine and dive into the emotional side if they’re not taught to control or get in touch with their feelings, confusing both people. The way a masculine man can maintain his masculinity while in a relationship with a masculine woman is to take lead. Men should be a witness to where the burden is, not give women the responsibility on how to un-burden her, and be a witness to how they can participate in leading. Simply, just doing it without asking. 

Mental Health in Men

Depression looks like in men like it does in anybody else, but no one pays attention to it. We’ve adopted the fact that this is what’s normal for men when in fact, majority of them are actually very depressed and they don’t even know it. A lot of it is high-functioning depression where they’re going to work and doing well in their job, but they have to take a drink when they come home because they can’t sleep, they can’t shut down, their brain is constantly going “you have stomach issues”, they’re full of anxiety, they can’t connect with people, have no enjoyment, and while all of this is happening, we just think, “oh, this is every man”. This is precisely the problem. Men don’t realize that they can live a life that is free of anxiety and that they don’t have to take a shot before they go to bed, that they can actually sleep peacefully, and they can actually enjoy their lives. They don’t even recognize that this could be a possibility for them, and this is what Elise aims to solve, or at least alleviate, among these troubled men.

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Men’s coach Elise Micheals dives deep into the social stigma surrounding men’s mental health, trauma, toxicity, and how they can become better people and partners in their relationships. 

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