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290 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 months ago - ★★★★★ - 183 ratingsTurn the embers of a distant and lonely relationship into a blazing emotionally intimate connection.
Are you tired of conflict? Do you dream of a secure and peaceful relationship?
Welcome to Relationship Psych, The Podcast.
The goal is to teach you to create a strong and connected relationship, that withstands the test of time.
Each week I share stories, practical strategies, and have inspiring conversations with guests to help you get and keep the relationship you and your partner dream of. Let's find out how to avoid relationship disaster and become relationship masters.
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122. 4 sticking points to overcome to be a better communicator
January 02, 2024 08:00 - 16 minutes - 22 MBIf you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024, here are 4 common sticking points that you will need to overcome. January is a time of New Year resolutions, commitments to do better, and learning something new. Here are 4 things to consider if you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
121. Questions to ask yourself if you’re not sure your relationship is for you with Alexandra Schelling
December 19, 2023 08:00 - 52 minutes - 71.6 MBIf you are wondering if you and your partner are compatible, or if you should break up, Alexandra has questions to consider to help you decide if you want to continue in your relationship. This podcast is for educational purposes only.
120. Compatiblity in Long Term Relationships
December 06, 2023 17:31 - 6 minutes - 8.96 MBIf you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
120. Satisfaction in long term relationships with Dr. Jennifer Guttman
November 28, 2023 08:00 - 6 minutes - 8.96 MBIf you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
119. Satisfaction in long term relationships with Dr. Jennifer Guttman
November 14, 2023 08:00 - 52 minutes - 72.7 MBIf you are looking for a sustainable, long-term relationship, this is the episode for you. Dr. Gottman reviews how to find safety and security in a love relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
118. Sleep and a Happy Relationship
November 01, 2023 19:46 - 12 minutes - 16.8 MBAfter being sleep-deprived, I was reminded about how important sleep is to a happy, healthy and harmonious relationship. At risk of sharing overly simplistic suggestions, in this podcast we are talking about the importance of good sleep hygiene and the impact on a relationship. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
117. Healing Mind Body Concerns with Tanner Murtagh and Anne Hampson
October 03, 2023 07:00 - 44 minutes - 61.7 MBTanner and Anne found themselves disconnected and hopeless as Tanner struggled with chronic pain. In this episode, they share how Tanner healed from his pain, and how their relationship healed too. Both Social Workers, Tanner and Anne share a unique perspective how pain impacts not only the person suffering but also the relationship. In this episode we cover: - Relationship healing - Structural pain vs. somatic pain - Mind-body concerns - How understanding led to healing - Communicati...
116. Why is my partner defensive and how to change it
September 19, 2023 07:00 - 18 minutes - 25.2 MBHave you tried to raise an issue to your partner and rather than hear you, they whine, make excuses, or worse – they turn the issue on you? Maybe you are the person who responds in these ways, and you don’t know why you do this. In this podcast I will cover the common reasons people are defensive, and how to overcome it. In this podcast we discuss: - 5 reasons people are defensive - The role of criticism - What to do if you’re defensive - Tools to change defensiveness - Tools to...
115. The Connection between Sexual Arousal and Imagination with Gina Gutierrez
September 09, 2023 00:28 - 47 minutes - 64.6 MBIf you want to reignite the spark in your sex life, and gain a practical tool to keep your sexual pilot light on, check out this episode with Gina Gutierrez. In this episode we discuss: - The link between imagination and arousal - Responsive vs spontaneous sexual desire - Scheduling sex and spontaneous sex - How “shoulds” can get in the way of a fulfilling sex life - The role of fantasy in sex Link for the 30 day free trial to Dipsea: https://www.dipseastories.com/PSYCH or cli...
114. Avoid the Gottmans’ 4 Horsemen and Save your Relationship
August 22, 2023 07:00 - 15 minutes - 20.6 MBDo you and your partner struggle to communicate? Have you ever experienced… - Things you thought were small issues turn into a blowout fight. - Your partner tells you they feel criticized. - You see your partner walk away in conflict and it makes you upset. - You’re unsure what is going wrong and why you are fighting so much with the person you love. In this episode, we are going to cover what Drs. John and Julie Gottman studied relationships and identified what they call the F...
113. Being Intentionally Selfish with Naketa Ren Thigpen
August 08, 2023 07:00 - 49 minutes - 68.6 MBThis authentic conversation about struggles, triumphs and the courage to be selfish with herself left me compelled to be more vulnerable and braver in so many areas of my life. If you are looking for a story about overcoming incredible odds to overcome challenges, breaking multi-generational cycles and healing this is the podcast for you. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
112. 2 ways to improve emotional connection in your relationship
July 18, 2023 07:00 - 10 minutes - 14.8 MBYesterday I sat down at the dinner table with my husband, and we ate in silence. We were both tired, it had been a long day, and I thought “what if this is what our relationship was like?”. I would probably feel lonely, disconnected, and bored. I can imagine over a series of silent dinner eating, I might feel like we are drifting apart. Or I might even get mad on the inside that he wasn’t talking to me (even though I could have initiated the dialogue). I have clients tell me that at firs...
111. Assess Your Instincts and Improve Your Relationship with Dr. Veronica Anderson
July 04, 2023 19:00 - 58 minutes - 80.2 MBThe episode is a deep dive into how understanding your instincts (and your partners, too) can help you increase connection and reduce conflict in your relationship. In this episode we discuss: - Different types of instincts - Your spiritual makeup - Energetic systems - The different ways people take action - How a deeper understanding of yourself can improve your relationship Website: drveronica.com Relationship Mistake Quiz: https://quiz.drveronica.com/sf/41...
110. Healing through Connection with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill
June 20, 2023 07:00 - 54 minutes - 75.1 MBIf you and your partner have felt disconnected, are getting stuck on conflict, or just want to rekindle the spark in your relationship, this episode is for you. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill cover how to use the Connection Codes framework to help couples connect emotionally, and even overcome conflict in as little as 4 minutes. Core Emotional Wheel Freebie Click here. https://www.connectioncodes.co/amber Discount code: amber20 Book The Connection Codes click here Website cl...
109. 6 Ways to Become a Better Listener
June 06, 2023 07:00 - 14 minutes - 20.1 MBAfter working as a couple’s therapist for the last 10+ years, I know that one of the hardest skills to master in a relationship is listening. And as a person, I too can be guilt of being a poor listener. Maybe I pick up my phone when someone is talking, jump in when someone is talking and tell them a related story about myself before they are done, or try to solve my partner's (or friend’s problem), when they haven’t asked for advice. This podcast is all about gaining the skills to help yo...
108. Recovering from Stress with Dr. Doni Wilson
May 23, 2023 07:00 - 40 minutes - 55.4 MBDiscovery how stress can impact your relationship and how you can calm your stress. In this podcast we discuss the role of stress in the body, how to take care of yourself, and simple activities to promote stress recovery. Dr. Doni Wilson is a Naturopathic Doctor, certified professional midwife, certified nutrition specialist, and bestselling author of Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health. For more than 22 years, she has helped thousands of patients overcome health challenges and ach...
107. How to Make Your Relationship Happier with Ricky Arenson
May 09, 2023 07:00 - 53 minutes - 73.3 MBIf you aren’t feeling as loved, appreciated, or valued as you would like in your relationship this episode is for you. In this episode, Ricky talks about how to make people feel valued and happy, what it takes to feel more like a team, and what makes relationships work. Book women are superior to men: https://drrickyarenson.com/book/ Website: https://drrickyarenson.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only.
106. Creating Intimacy in Relationships with Alexandra Stockwell, M.D.
April 25, 2023 07:00 - 53 minutes - 72.8 MBIf you and your partner are feeling more like roommates than lovers, and you want to reconnect, listen to this podcast. In this podcast, we discuss how to talk so that your partner wants to meet your needs, how to create uncompromising intimacy in your relationship, and what gets in the way of being physically intimate in relationships. Alexandra Stockwell’s website: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only.
105. How to handle jealousy in a relationship with Dr. Joli Hamilton
April 11, 2023 07:00 - 53 minutes - 73 MBWhether you are in a monogamous relationship or an open relationship, you might have struggled with jealousy at some point. If you are like many of us, this isn’t an emotion you have a lot of experience handling. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Joli Hamilton educates us on dealing with jealousy in a relationship. We discuss the concept of compersion and how to cultivate it. Dr. Joli Hamilton’s website https://www.jolihamilton.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only.
104. 3 Essential Skills for Managing Conflict
March 28, 2023 07:00 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MBHave you ever wished to be heard, that you felt safe to bring up difficult topics, or maybe you just wanted you and your partner to be good role models for your kids when it comes to how to fight? If you have, this episode is for you. In this episode, we cover a sensitive topic that comes up in relationships. We cover 3 essential skills for managing conflict. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
103. Breaking Intergenerational Cycles with Kara Hoppe
March 14, 2023 07:00 - 45 minutes - 63 MBHave you ever found yourself behaving in the same way as one of your parents? Or Maybe you find yourself acting as if you are back in your family home even though you are a grown adult who has created a life of their own? If you relate to either of these, this podcast is all about breaking cycles and living with intention. In this podcast we discuss: - What cycles are - How to become aware of your patterns - How to collaborate with your partner - How agreements can help you and your pa...
102. How bids for connection can create a deeper relationship
February 28, 2023 08:00 - 11 minutes - 16.2 MBIf you’ve ever felt like your relationship is lacking connection, you feel ignored, or your partner dismisses you, this podcast is for you. In this episode, we talk about what a bid for connection is, and how understanding them and turning towards them can create emotional intimacy, connection, and increase relationship satisfaction. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
101. The Power of Healing in Groups with Tanya Cole-Lesnick
February 14, 2023 08:00 - 49 minutes - 67.8 MBIf you’ve wondered if you're loveable, if there is something about you others wouldn’t like, or if you were vulnerable others wouldn’t like you, this episode is for you. In this episode: · Tanya shares how she overcame her limiting beliefs, and how that lead to finding her husband · How to find alignment in your life · How to let go of energetic clutter · The power of group therapy · How group therapy helps Tanya’s website: https://www.tanyacole-lesnick.com/ This podcast is for infor...
100. What’s beneath the conflict with Figs O’Sullivan
January 31, 2023 08:00 - 48 minutes - 66.6 MBIf you are struggling with conflict in your relationship Figs provide insight into how couples get into fights, and how come it’s hard to get out of the conflict. Topics covered in the podcast: - Couples conflict - Changing from a me vs. you to us vs. the problem - Raw feelings that lie beneath the conflicts - Attachment - Wounds in relationships To learn more about Figs: www.Empathi.com Link for course: empathi.com/psych To get the course: Create an empathi.com account and visit ...
99. New Parents & Partnership – Tips for Healthy a Relationship with Kara Hoppe
January 17, 2023 08:00 - 53 minutes - 73.7 MBHaving a new bundle of joy is truly a delight for many, but it also comes with predicted and unexpected challenges. Between navigating feedings, sleep schedules, diaper changes and showering yourself, you are left to navigate the relationship with your new baby and your partner. In this podcast we discuss: ● Common challenges new parents face ● How come parenting issues can be so hot ● How to get in touch with your needs ● How to express your needs ● What attachment is ● Attachment St...
98. Fondness and Admiration: Secrets to Emotionally Intimate Relationships
January 10, 2023 08:00 - 11 minutes - 16.3 MBHave you ever thought, I want to feel · Liked · Loved · Respected · Cherished · Appreciated If you answered yes, you are wanting to strengthen or maintain your relationship fondness and admiration system. In Gottman and Silver’s 1999 book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work they outline one of the 7 pillars is the fondness and admiration system. In this podcast we cover: · What the fondness and admiration system is · Why the fondness and admiration system is so important ...
97. Attachment – The Anxious Avoidant Trap + How to Get Out of It with Nicole Walker
December 27, 2022 08:00 - 53 minutes - 72.8 MBIf you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap. In this episode we talk about: · What the anxious-avoidant trap is · How to get out of the anxious-avoidant trap · What attachment is · What attachment styles are · Fears that underly different attachment styles · Examples of protest behaviors · How to start to change your patte...
96. 6 Steps for Healing After a Fight
December 13, 2022 08:00 - 8 minutes - 12.3 MBI know how much it sucks to be distant from your partner, to walk on eggshells wondering if your next step is going to set off a landmine, feeling hurt frustrated abandoned overwhelmed and not sure how to repair. All couples are going to have fights and it's important to learn how to make things better after these fights happen. In this podcast, we talk about · Ways to increase the chances you will talk about your fight without fighting again · That you can both be right · Listening to the re...
58. 6 Steps for Healing After a Fight
December 13, 2022 08:00 - 8 minutes - 12.3 MBI know how much it sucks to be distant from your partner, to walk on eggshells wondering if your next step is going to set off a landmine, feeling hurt frustrated abandoned overwhelmed and not sure how to repair. All couples are going to have fights and it's important to learn how to make things better after these fights happen. In this podcast, we talk about · Ways to increase the chances you will talk about your fight without fighting again · That you can both be right · Listening to t...
95. An Exploration of Non-monogamy and Open Relationships with Rachel Wright
December 03, 2022 16:58 - 53 minutes - 73.3 MBIn this episode we discuss: - How Rachel came to understand her sexuality - Things to consider when looking for a therapist open to non-monogamy - Navigating feelings of jealousy, fomo and fear of doing something wrong - Tips to help with how to think about non-monogamy - Books suggested are The Ethical Slut and Polysecure - Questions to Ask Yourself o In your past, have you ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time? o How do you define the word commitment? o What do...
95- An Exploration of Non-monogamy and Open Relationships with Rachel Wright
December 03, 2022 16:58 - 53 minutes - 73.3 MBIn this episode we discuss: - How Rachel came to understand her sexuality - Things to consider when looking for a therapist open to non-monogamy - Navigating feelings of jealousy, fomo and fear of doing something wrong - Tips to help with how to think about non-monogamy - Books suggested are The Ethical Slut and Polysecure - Questions to Ask Yourself o In your past, have you ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time? o How do you define the word commitment? ...
94. 6 Examples of Helpful Relationship Actions from Love is Blind Season 3
November 15, 2022 08:00 - 13 minutes - 18.2 MBI have been obsessed with Love is Blind. Reality TV about Love is my jam. I think I work with couples because I love love… so this show tugs at every heartstring. It is easy to point out things they have done wrong, you don’t need to be a couples therapist to watch and go “ooooofffff bad move”. And if you’re struggling to understand some of the moments that maybe could have gone different, just go on Instagram and look at the memes… In this episode we are looking at 6 moments that went rig...
93. Why Sleep Is Important with Terry Cralle
November 01, 2022 07:00 - 52 minutes - 72.6 MBIn this episode, we look at how sleep deprivation and poor sleep health could be negatively impacting everything from your relationship to weight loss. We look at how to improve your overall functioning and relationship through sleep. We cover: · Conditions for your bedroom to sleep better · How much sleep do you need · The relationship between sleep and illness · The relationship between sleep and weight loss · The impact of sleep on your relationship Terry’s website: https://terryc...
92. 5 Tools to Help You Survive a Long-Distance Relationship
October 18, 2022 07:00 - 8 minutes - 11.2 MBLong distance is hard. · You are lonely. · You do miss each other. · You fight over silly things because you miss each other and you’re sensitive. · You have different expectations for how connection looks, texting, phone calls, and what your in-person time should be like. I get it, my husband and I dated long-distance for 14 months. We would fight about things like: · The appropriate amount of time it takes to text back · When to schedule longer calls · How often we should talk on t...
91. Women’s Sexuality and Changes Over the Lifespan with Jessica Elizabeth Cole
October 04, 2022 07:00 - 49 minutes - 67.8 MBHas your sex drive changed over time? Maybe menopause is making you feel different in your body and your sexuality has shifted. If you want a new way to think about sexuality and how it changes over the lifespan, this is the podcast for you. In this podcast we cover: ● Ways women’s sexuality changes over the lifespan ● Ways hormones and menopause impact sex drive ● The difference between reactive desire and spontaneous desire ● How to change your sex life to match your stage of life Je...
90. Why Couples Fight
September 20, 2022 07:00 - 20 minutes - 28.4 MBWhen couples are fighting, they say things like: I would like to feel more connected to my partner I want to feel understood by my partner I’m unheard and getting resentful I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight We struggle to find a resolution Tools to improve your communication and prevent fights If you want more help on how to improve your communication, check out my self-paced course for couples, Communication Cures. Clic...
90. Why Couples Fight & How to Stop It
September 20, 2022 07:00 - 20 minutes - 28.4 MBWhen couples are fighting, they say things like: I would like to feel more connected to my partner I want to feel understood by my partner I’m unheard and getting resentful I’m tired of fighting about silly stuff I’m walking on eggshells to avoid the next heated fight We struggle to find a resolution Tools to improve your communication and prevent fights If you want more help on how to improve your communication, check out my self-paced course for couples, Communication Cures. Click...
89. Emotional Intimacy with Dr. Wyatt Fisher
September 06, 2022 07:00 - 46 minutes - 64 MBDo you want a deeper connection with your partner? Maybe your relationship started out with a close emotionally intimate connection, or maybe you’ve never had it but would really like it. In either case you’re in luck. In this episode Dr. Wyatt Fisher gives practical tools on how to create emotional intimacy in your relationship. In this episode we discuss: - what is emotional intimacy? - what gets in the way of emotional intimacy? - what to do if these things don’t feel natural or organ...
88. Building Meaningful Relationships with Tamara Henningham
August 23, 2022 07:00 - 47 minutes - 65.8 MBIf you’ve wanted to build a deeper connection in your relationship, feel safe with your partner, and repair past hurts, this is the podcast for you. In this episode we discuss: · How to prevent damaging your relationship · Why ask yourself “is this helpful?” · The difference between impact and intention · How to repair your relationship after a rupture · The importance of loving your partner the way they want to be loved · How to increase safety in your relationship · Why you will ma...
87. 6 Signs You’re Compatible with Your Partner
August 09, 2022 07:00 - 11 minutes - 15.6 MBIf you’re in a romantic relationship and found yourself wondering “are we compatible?”, “is love enough?”, or “what if we don’t have chemistry?”, this episode will help you understand the difference between compatibility and chemistry. It will also give you a framework to evaluate if you and your partner have enough in common to be compatible, with or without chemistry. In this episode I discuss: · The difference between chemistry and compatibility in a relationship · Neurotransmitters in...
86. When Pornography Becomes a Problem with Wendy Maltz
July 19, 2022 08:00 - 47 minutes - 65.1 MBHave you ever wondered “why would my partner rather watch porn than be with me?”, or maybe you’ve started to think your pornography use is becoming excessive and aren’t sure how to stop? If you relate to either of these things, this podcast is worth a listen. In this podcast we discuss: Factors leading to compulsive pornography use The impact of pornography of relationships What to do if you think you may have a problem with pornography Tips to make quitting pornography easier Healing...
When Pornography Becomes a Problem with Wendy Maltz
July 19, 2022 08:00 - 47 minutes - 65.1 MBHave you ever wondered “why would my partner rather watch porn than be with me?”, or maybe you’ve started to think your pornography use is becoming excessive and aren’t sure how to stop? If you relate to either of these things, this podcast is worth a listen. In this podcast we discuss: Factors leading to compulsive pornography use The impact of pornography of relationships What to do if you think you may have a problem with pornography Tips to make quitting pornography easier Healing...
85- How to have deeper conversations with your spouse
July 05, 2022 07:00 - 11 minutes - 16.4 MBWhat to do to feel closer, have a deeper connection and have conversations that can go on for hours. FREE GUIDE the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet This is a conversation guide with 36 questions designed to help you and your partner deepen your connection through conversation. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet Click the link to get the free guide. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
85. How to have deeper conversations with your spouse
July 05, 2022 07:00 - 11 minutes - 16.4 MBWhat to do to feel closer, have a deeper connection and have conversations that can go on for hours. FREE GUIDE the Emotional Intimacy Cheat Sheet This is a conversation guide with 36 questions designed to help you and your partner deepen your connection through conversation. https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/emotional-intimacy-cheat-sheet Click the link to get the free guide. This podcast is for informational purposes only.
84- 6 Common Relationship Problems with Isabella Gondek
June 21, 2022 07:00 - 44 minutes - 61.7 MBIn this podcast we cover the top 6 reasons relationships fall apart. Listen up to gain insight on what to watch out for and repair so you can keep your relationship healthy and connected. In this episode we cover: · The ideal ratio of positives and negatives in a relationship · How negative interactions breed more negative interactions · What leads to emotional withdrawal · What happens when you fail to accept influence from your partner · The difference between negative and positive s...
84. 6 Common Relationship Problems with Isabella Gondek
June 21, 2022 07:00 - 44 minutes - 61.7 MBIn this podcast we cover the top 6 reasons relationships fall apart. Listen up to gain insight on what to watch out for and repair so you can keep your relationship healthy and connected. In this episode we cover: · The ideal ratio of positives and negatives in a relationship · How negative interactions breed more negative interactions · What leads to emotional withdrawal · What happens when you fail to accept influence from your partner · The difference between negative and positive s...
83. 2 Common Communication Struggles
June 07, 2022 07:00 - 16 minutes - 23 MBIf you’re like me, you probably went to school for 12 years, but never learned a key skill for connection and belonging – communication. Many of my clients tell me they struggle to · share how they feel because they fear their partner will be defensive. · Stay level headed enough to understand the other person’s point of view · Clearly communicate their needs · Feel like their partner cares about their needs Do you relate? In this podcast, we will cover some of the answers to these qu...
82. How to Have Connecting Conversations with Dr. Jessica Higgins
May 24, 2022 07:00 - 57 minutes - 78.6 MBIn this powerful episode, we cover communication strategies to help you connect with the person you love when you’re hurt, how to avoid criticism, and give you practical tools to help you convey your upsets in a way your partner is likely to hear. No one gets into a relationship to have blowout fights with their partner. In this episode, we cover what is beneath the conflicts you and your partner have, and how to communicate so you feel safe and heard by one another. Other topics covered i...
81. Betrayal Trauma with Liz Lacy
May 10, 2022 07:00 - 49 minutes - 68.2 MBThis episode is the follow up to episode 73: How sex becomes compulsive or addictive with Liz Lacy. Betrayal Trauma is the impact that happens when there have been repeated betrayals in multiple ways by your partner. It is a “harsh violation of trust by someone you depend on.” This episode is all about what Betrayal Trauma is, the impact of betrayal trauma, and working through betrayal trauma as a couple. In this episode we cover -what betrayal trauma is -how betrayal trauma is different than...
81. Goal setting – More than New Years Resolutions
May 03, 2022 07:00 - 9 minutes - 12.6 MBIf you want to have clarity and purpose in 2022 and feel confident that you can achieve your goals this year, then this episode is for you. Do you relate to this? · Have you ever had your soul whisper to you about something you might like to achieve in the new year? · You started off the new year working towards a goal, but as the days passed by you lost your motivation, or maybe · You feel spread thin, like you have too many goals, too much to achieve, and you look at your year and wond...