Gifted this Moment to Begin with Christian Long

At first glance, you might wonder why Christian Long, a man with multiple fathers, would be featured in a series on fatherlessness. Good question. It’s true that Christian has a biological father, but he was out of the picture before Christian was three years old and only emerged again when Christian was 25. Christian also had three stepfathers (and three different last names.) Thanks to his wife, he has a father-in-law… So there is no shortage of fathers in his life.
What’s missing, though, was a dad – a safe, constant male figure in his life.
The story of Christian’s father-void is still not over. At age 50, he’s still processing how his experience of fatherlessness has affected his temperament, his fears, and his relationships – especially his relationship with his own children.
As he reflects, a deep, raw honesty emerges. It’s real. It’s is a place of acceptance. And it’s hopeful.
By the way, here's a link to Christian's poem, "https://thinklab.typepad.com/becketttobe/2009/02/contextberkeley-to-be-countdown-less-than-a-month-to-goimaginingit-starts-like-spring-lambs-wool-caresses-papaim-im.html (Imagining)," that we discuss in the story.
OUR STORY
Hey there, welcome to Season 3 of Belly of the Beast Life Stories. I’m David All.
It’s another season of life here at the podcast. This third season is a very rare collection of stories by men who share the golden thread of growing up with an absent biological father and broke the pattern to be a good man. I’ll be sharing my own Belly story later this season. And let me tell you that a year ago, when we launched this show, I didn’t realize this was my Belly story.
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EPISODE SUMMARY
Part I
- Christian reflects on having multiple fathers -- stepfathers and a biological father –- yet he had a dad-void.
- Christian’s childhood memories of his biological father are so few, whatever in-person memories exist happened at or before the age of two.
- Christian’s first stepfather insisted on adopting him. Years later, Christian realized the adoption was not based on love for him as a child; it was nothing more than a negotiation, a poker move of sorts.
- Once a year, Christian visited his paternal grandparents, and once while he was there, he spoke with his father on the phone, though at the time, he didn’t know who he was.
- Anger, often suppressed or masquerading as sarcasm, has been a constant companion of Christian’s.
- The threat of violence from his stepfather left Christian on edge, scared, and looking for outlets away from home.
- Christian describes a difficult time in his marriage when he moved out for a couple of months and how the responsibility he felt as a father helped pull him back home.
Part II
- Christian shares why he believes his children are what held his marriage together through a rocky time.
- Christian reflects on the lines of a poem he wrote for his daughter, Berkeley.
- Christian articulates why feeling love is so difficult.
- Christian describes the work of healing from being fatherless.
- Christian describes his online community of men who choose to be honest and vulnerable with one another.
Part III
- In some ways, Christina feels like he’s just beginning -- just beginning to discover himself, to feel. It’s never too late to start.

QUOTABLES
“The first thing that Christian said to me about his story was that it might not be a good fit for this season, because he still feels the deep wound of fatherlessness.”
“The idea...