Behind the BJ podcast
33 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 3 years ago -Let’s go Behind the BJ, with Brandye and Jason, as we discuss trying to date in a world where right swipes tend to dictate who ends up in our bed. We’ll listen to each other’s crazy dating stories and analyze from the other gender’s perspective. We’ll dive into everything from swiping left and right to taking things to that next level, plus everything in between. The New York Times (definitely did not) called us the best possible dating podcast you could listen to. And a number of our friends say “This is a MUST LISTEN for anyone and everyone - whether you’re single looking for advice or dating and need a reminder that the grass isn’t always greener”.
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30. Where the hell have we been????
June 28, 2021 08:00 - 25 minutes - 20.1 MBAfter a long extended hiatus…. WE ARE BACK! Yes… we know… we’ve been just a tad M.I.A. but we are back, and we’ll let you know what has been going on, and where we’ve been! But now as Chicago and the country opens back up, its time to get back on the horse and be here for your entertainment! Its time baby! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at [email protected]
29. Covid is the New Herpes… with Benny Mathew
February 01, 2021 11:00 - 1 hour - 69.2 MBAt Age 7, Benny Mathew immigrated to the US from India. He grew up in a predominantly Sicilian neighborhood in the suburbs of Chicago, poor, chubby, and racially confused. Later in life, it took watching his aunt, a real female role model, pass away from cancer, to see that he wasn’t living up to his own potential. He ended a marriage that did not bring him joy anymore, moved to Chicago, and joined the ranks of the single life. We talk to Benny about this change and so much more (...
28. If I see a Tit, I could see a Clit… With Nick Sautter
January 18, 2021 10:30 - 1 hour - 53.4 MBThis week we welcome guest Nick Sautter to the studio. Nick is a championship power lifter, a published scientist, an all around good guy and he is new to Chicago, single and trying to mingle! Our first guest of 2021 will get into some of the gore details of his experience dating on the apps in the Covid world. He teaches Jason the phrase “meet cute” and shares some truly crazy stories of just trying to find his perfect match! You’re going to want to listen in on this one, but be prepare...
27. New Year, Same old F**king ME!
January 11, 2021 10:30 - 39 minutes - 31.8 MBWe are BACK! After breaking for the Holidays and some other things… Brandye & Jason are back, and so excited to catch you all up on what’s been going on for the past few weeks. We’ll catch everyone up on what’s been going on and where we’ve been. We talk about our NYE celebrations to say “Bye Bitch” to 2020, and of course get into our 2021 resolutions. Now we want to hear what YOUR resolutions are, and what fun / sexy times your New Years Eve brought you! Find us on Peloton ...
26. And your first runner up is… with Gina Melchiorri
November 23, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 53.9 MBButt Glue is a thing guys! On this week’s episode, Comedienne, Personal Trainer, Ping Ponger, and perennial Beauty pageant first runner up, Gina Melchiorri discusses her experiences both on and off the Miss Illinois stage (including butt glue)! The hilarious Gina takes us through her own relationship, and how championship ping pong brought her love. And don’t forget… #WheresTheQueso? Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@BehindtheBJ...
25. Coming Out On Top with Todd Siddons
November 09, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 70.6 MBAfter months of trying, Brandye and Jason finally have had the opportunity to speak to Todd Siddons, network marketing guru, motivational speaker, and, just like Jason, die hard Philadelphia Eagles fan! As our first gay guest, Todd will talk to us about what his coming out experience was like, and just some of his storied relationships. Find Todd at www.toddsiddons.com, on Instagram @Todd.siddons and on Facebook at Todd Siddons. Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @Be...
24. A Relationship Casualty of Covid with Arthur Donovan
October 26, 2020 10:00 - 52 minutes - 41.8 MBIn this week’s episode, Brandye and Jason interview the founder of the non profit organization Adulting 1101, Arthur Donovan to talk about another ugly side of Covid life. Arthur discuses how the pressures of quarantine exposed some of the real issues that existed between he and his now ex-fiancee, and how all of this transpired while being forced to quarantine away from the outside world. We will also look at life after death (of a relationship), and find out if Instagram is the ne...
23. Building Mature Love and Intimacy with Thomas Westenholz
September 14, 2020 09:30 - 1 hour - 61.2 MBBrandye and Jason welcome relationship expert, author, and founder of zensensa.com, (and fellow red head) Thomas Westenholz on the show (All the way from London!) this week. Thomas discusses some of the keys to a mature love and mature intimacy including Thomas’s 3 steps to intimacy & love. Next, we discuss the 4 attachment styles and the 5 love languages and how understanding these can help you relate better with your partner. Find Thomas on www.zensensa.com and on Instagram @zen_...
22. The Trials and Tribulations of Dating During Covid with Carlie S.
August 17, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 53.1 MBThis week we welcome Carlie S. to the studio to take us through her ups and downs of dating during a global pandemic. Tune in to hear about how Carlie manages to get guys to fall in love after a first date and how that plays out when boundaries haven’t been fully established! These are the realities of dating during Covid … enjoy! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at [email protected]
21. Shackin’ up with the Ex with Kirby B.
August 11, 2020 04:20 - 43 minutes - 40.7 MBWhat happens when a global pandemic pushes you to leave your big New York City apartment to escape to a more livable suburb? Well, if you’re our guest this week, you move in with your…. EX! In this week’s episode we interview Kirby S about her time over the past 3 months living with her ex boyfriend. Did the quarantine lifestyle cause sparks to fly, or did it just reassure both of them that they truly are better off as friends? Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @Beh...
20. And We’re Back!
August 04, 2020 03:28 - 44 minutes - 41.4 MBWe are back! Yes, we know… you’ve missed us, and we missed you too! We took the month of July off, but we are back now. This week we keep things pretty light and give everyone a quick recap of what has kept us busy the past month. We’re sorry that we left you for a few weeks, but the entertainment will pick right back up from here! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at [email protected]
19. Sex Drugs & Rock n’ Roll with Nathan Iz
June 29, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 64.5 MBWhat an episode we have for you this week! We are interviewing Nathan, a friend of ours who has led a crazy life that included a years long battle with drugs and alcohol. We talk to Nate about his battle and his long road to recovery, along with a slew of other fun and interesting stories he has in his arsenal - both dating and generally. This one will get you laughing, but we dive into some tough material too… definitely NSFW!
18. Ending the Love Triangle with Donna Chin
June 22, 2020 09:30 - 54 minutes - 49.6 MBThis week Jason and Brandye welcome another exciting guest onto the podcast! Donna Chin lives in LA where she finds herself immersed in the inner circles of the rich and sometimes famous. She discusses with us the LA dating scene, what it was like going on a date with her childhood celebrity crush, and struggling with her latest romantic challenges - dating a man who is less than available and coming to terms with the fact that he just won’t choose only her. Follow us @BehindtheBJ...
17. When Love and Politics Don’t Mix
June 08, 2020 09:00 - 56 minutes - 82.4 MBOur world is in turmoil. Between the stresses of the Covid-19 pandemic and, even more so, the current events that have once again highlighted the racial divide in this country and around the world, it is impossible to be neutral in our political stands these days. Politically, this country has become completely polarized. In this episode, we take a look at how this can play out in relationships. Can you date someone who with different political leanings than yourself? Do you want to be ...
16. Mom, It’s okay if I’m still single! Feat. Danielle S. AKA British D.
May 26, 2020 20:20 - 1 hour - 62.4 MBWe welcome another wonderful guest into our studio for this week’s fun episode! As you may tell from the title, our main topic revolves around how to deal with the pressure that family and some friends can place on us to settle down and have a family, even when so many other things in our lives are going so well. Our favorite Chicago educator and socialite from across the pond joins us to chat about this. While here, we also find out what brought Danielle to Chicago, our mutual love of ou...
15. Are we Just Friends?
May 18, 2020 09:00 - 48 minutes - 44.5 MBIn these crazy quarantine times, it can be hard to fulfill certain… needs! While you may not want to start breaking social distance rules with total strangers, it can be tempting to act on the unspoken sexual chemistry between you and your friend. In today’s episode Brandye and Jason look at the age old situation of being “Friends with Benefits”. It can be a difficult road to navigate. What if you or the other person catches feelings? How do you keep it truly just casual. Do you kee...
14. We’re Going the Distance
May 11, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 58.6 MBBrandye and Jason attempt to use technology to their benefit in their first ever Zoom podcast recording. In this week’s episode they’ll tackle the subject of “Long Distance Relationships”. Having both experienced the ups and downs of LDRs in the past, B&J will discuss the tips, tricks, and challenges of trying to maintain a relationship with miles in between! Luckily, some advancements in technology (Hello FACETIME!) has made things slightly easier, but make no mistake… the LDR takes some...
13. Are We Going Crazy?
April 27, 2020 15:07 - 39 minutes - 37.1 MBAs we creep into our 7th week of quarantine, Brandye & Jason are starting to go a little stir crazy! In this episode, we give updates on our own lives, our relationships, and our current mental states. The reality of being cooped up with our significant others without a break has set in, and we discuss how we are dealing with it. We also have a big surprise update on a previous BTBJ guest! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at info@...
12. Do you have a type?
April 20, 2020 09:00 - 51 minutes - 47.1 MBIn this episode Brandye and Jason delve into dating “types”. As in, do you have a type (spoiler alert: most of you do), why do you have a type, and is it wise to try and date someone who matches what you think you want in a partner, or maybe expand your horizons just a bit? We’ll also reflect on life today vs. just one month ago, and how much things have changed, etiquette while on video calls, Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email u...
11. Keeping Busy
April 13, 2020 09:00 - 59 minutes - 52.9 MBAs we all slide into our 4th week of being quarantined and socially distanced, Brandye and Jason discuss their thoughts on the current state of the world, how they are feeling about everything, and some of the different ways they have been trying to pass the time. We give updates on our current TV lineups, tips on staying sane while staying inside (mostly), and of course… sex lives during the quarantine! While we are all struggling at the moment, Behind the BJ is here to hopefully p...
10. Family Matters
April 06, 2020 14:42 - 57 minutes - 51.9 MBYou’ve started dating someone and you think they’re great! But do they pass the friend test? What about when it gets a little more serious and you think you want them to meet your family? These are big steps in a relationship and in this episode, Brandye and Jason tackle this subject. When is the right time to make the introductions? What settings should you avoid? What topics should you avoid? Preparation is the name of the game here! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Ins...
9. Hanging out to Dry
March 23, 2020 09:00 - 55 minutes - 49.6 MBThe world is in lock down / self quarantine. Your dating apps may be blowing up, and your exes may be sliding into your DMs, but it doesn’t mean much if you can’t see them, right? Those of you who are single are bound to end up in a bit of a dry spell during this pandemic! In this episode, Brandye and Jason interview a guest who is no stranger to dry spells - she’s been on one for quite some time now. We’ll get into why it’s been so long, how to cope with a dry spell (masturbation...
8. Love in the Time of Corona(Virus)
March 16, 2020 09:00 - 51 minutes - 42.7 MBWe are in unprecedented times! The zombie apocalypse, err… Coronavirus may be upon us! Store shelves are empty as people are hoarding… toilet paper? And while some may want to practice social distancing, what does all of this mean for our dating lives and sex? In this week’s episode, Brandye and Jason think about how to use this social distancing thing to our advantage, because… who want’s to stay celibate in quarantine? Brandye also tells us about some Miami shenanigans a...
7. Let’s just be friends!
March 09, 2020 09:00 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MBLet’s stay friends, okay? Is that ever a good idea? Brandye and Jason do a deep dive into whether or not it is possible to be friends with your ex, when it is, and when it definitely isn’t, and they also go over some basic tips for how to make a friendship work with someone who you used to see naked on the regular! Spoiler alert… take a lot of time to recover first! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram, @BehindtheBJ on Twitter and email us at [email protected]
6. The DoppelBänger
March 02, 2020 13:24 - 1 hour - 83.4 MBWhat’s the best way to get over someone? Get under someone who looks exactly like them! Brandye and Jason interview Chris and A, creators of the I’d App That Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id-app-that-podcast/id1460434471 ), and learn all about how they came to meet and develop their hit show. A tells us about how easy it is to get kicked off of Tinder and Chris shares a no-holes barred one night stand experience that leaves everyone in tears laughing. Plus… we talk doppe...
5. Is It Time To Combine?
February 24, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 46.8 MBIn our fifth episode, we analyze taking that major step in a relationship of moving in together! Why do couples decide to take this next step, and when is the right time to start to consider it? We discuss tips on how to successfully manage the transition of combining all of your things and, most importantly, your living space, to make sure that taking this next step… isn’t your last step! As always, we’ll start by catching up with each other on our (Valentine’s Day?) weekend happenin...
4. Is it Time to Define?
February 17, 2020 10:00 - 57 minutes - 51.3 MBIn our fourth episode, we get all into that potentially nerve wracking topic of the D.T.R., or Defining The Relationship! What exactly does it mean, when is a good time to do it, how to do it, and some of the reasons why it’s so hard to do! We, of course share some of our personal stories of being on both sides of the “Defining Wall”. We’ll also hear about Brandye’s crazy Super Bowl weekend, and someone from Jason’s past is trying to make a comeback… but will he let her? Follow us @...
3. Stalk Me Baby One More Time
February 10, 2020 20:39 - 42 minutes - 63.4 MBIn our third episode, we follow up from last week’s topic, and we discuss the topic of Googling someone before a date. Is it appropriate or not? Do you talk about it or not? And of course… what are some of the more “interesting” ways of finding out who a person is before they tell you! Whether it is for your safety on the date, or just to make sure their pictures match them IRL, we dig deep on the topic of digging deep! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram!
Stalk Me Baby One More Time
February 10, 2020 20:39 - 42 minutes - 63.4 MBIn our third episode, we follow up from last week’s topic, and we discuss the topic of Googling someone before a date. Is it appropriate or not? Do you talk about it or not? And of course… what are some of the more “interesting” ways of finding out who a person is before they tell you! Whether it is for your safety on the date, or just to make sure their pictures match them IRL, we dig deep on the topic of digging deep! Follow us @BehindtheBJPodcast on Instagram!
What’s APPening?
February 03, 2020 10:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBIn our second episode we dive head first into the world of the dating apps! We explore some of the most popular apps, what their unique features are, and what our feelings are on each. Then we get into our thoughts and advice on putting together the best profile possible, and taking it from online to offline. And of course we’ll add our signature flair of some great personal stories from our own experiences with swiping right when we should have swiped left! Follow us @BehindtheBJPo...
2. What’s APPening?
February 03, 2020 10:00 - 1 hour - 54.1 MBIn our second episode we dive head first into the world of the dating apps! We explore some of the most popular apps, what their unique features are, and what our feelings are on each. Then we get into our thoughts and advice on putting together the best profile possible, and taking it from online to offline. And of course we’ll add our signature flair of some great personal stories from our own experiences with swiping right when we should have swiped left! Follow us @BehindtheBJPo...
1. No Birthday Sex for You
January 25, 2020 18:32 - 31 minutes - 30.9 MBDating these days can be a mess, and it tends to come with its fair share of crazy stories! Behind the BJ Podcast is here to unpack all of those tales. In their premier episode, Brandye and Jason introduce themselves, discuss how they met, and that one time that Jason thought he was getting laid, just to have Brandye shut him down! We find out who Brandye and Jason may or may not be dating these days, and talk about navigating the ups and downs of dating in Chicago. Follow us @Behi...
No Birthday Sex for You
January 25, 2020 18:32 - 31 minutes - 30.9 MBDating these days can be a mess, and it tends to come with its fair share of crazy stories! Behind the BJ Podcast is here to unpack all of those tales. In their premier episode, Brandye and Jason introduce themselves, discuss how they met, and that one time that Jason thought he was getting laid, just to have Brandye shut him down! We find out who Brandye and Jason may or may not be dating these days, and talk about navigating the ups and downs of dating in Chicago. Follow us @Behi...