STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR SON
249 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 days ago -...AND HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP! End all fighting with your son today: go to these episodes first: 54-58! After you reconnect with your boy you can listen to other episodes to help you be more confident, love yourself more and improve other relationships.
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"Why do I want a prestigious job?"
April 17, 2024 17:00 - 7 minutes - 5.24 MBReconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
How to be happy sooner
April 10, 2024 18:00 - 9 minutes - 6.58 MBReconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
"Anxious about leaving my daughter for the first time"
April 03, 2024 18:00 - 16 minutes - 11.4 MB1. It’s understandable . Take time to feel it, cry if you need to. 2. Whats h works case scenario? And is it likely to happen? Have you done everything to prevent it from happening? Yes then comforted. 3. Once we took time to process it and comfort our fears we can take a step back and remember that our feelings come from our thoughts. Our thoughts of worst case scenarios . NOT your action of leaving baby or baby staying with someone else. So if our thoughts are I can be making a Mis...
Plan your break FIRST, not last
March 27, 2024 21:00 - 8 minutes - 5.85 MBThis has made a huge difference for me and deserves a whole episode. When planning your week, day, to do list - YOUR BREAK should be the first to go in. Listen to my story of learning that over and over again. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Grown up rejection
March 20, 2024 18:00 - 12 minutes - 8.36 MBFeeling rejected as a grown up? listen to this to learn what it actually is, how to deal with it and how to fully process it. And of course my personal story of rejection. it's a good one. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Avoiding others' upsets
March 13, 2024 18:00 - 9 minutes - 6.66 MBI was avoiding my kids being upset and it fired back, taught me a lesson and now i am here to share it with you. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Drop it sooner
March 06, 2024 18:00 - 7 minutes - 4.95 MBHow long do you feel guilty and beat yourself up after a fight? in this episode I try to sell you on the idea that you should strive to drop the fight sooner in your head. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Welcome to being a mom - here is some anger
February 28, 2024 14:00 - 6 minutes - 4.61 MBYou get to be pissed off. You get to be angry. You are not alone. You are angry. Welcome too being a mom. Part of this job includes being angry. Every mom gets angry. There is NOTHING wrong with you . You GET to be angry. Be angry and get over it. Move on. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Fr...
Letting go
February 21, 2024 20:00 - 12 minutes - 8.86 MBLetting go is a skill and you can practice it in so many different ways, with your kids. I share my examples of where i let go with my kids in this episode. Letting go can also be applied with husbands, siblings, parents, friends. Listen and think of how this applies to you. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign...
Grey Thinking
February 14, 2024 21:00 - 10 minutes - 7.53 MBPerfectionism. Black and white thinking. Find the grey area. You always win! Being present in the moment - I simply won’t do it. Give up before begin. Don’t do it. Don’t notice all the grey area that is happening. Food with the kids - if is not the perfect combo of nutrition it is a fail. Frustrated, controlling, upset, not enjoying myself, fighting. My weight if it is not a perfect weight I feel like it’s a failure and miss the 99 % successes. Not giving any credit to all the times ...
"You are useless"
February 07, 2024 23:00 - 6 minutes - 4.28 MBHow you talk to yourself is how you talk to others. So start with yourself. Today. when you have a nasty thought, decide on your answerYou have to start talking back to yourself when you say these nasty things to yourself. "I am doing my best" is what i said back to myself and i am so very proud of that huge success. Sharing this example with you is a way I can encourage you too do the same. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free co...
If you want to start a podcast
January 31, 2024 17:00 - 14 minutes - 9.74 MBThen you should imminently. In this episode i share the biggest benefit i have received from creating a podcast and all the side benefits. You will learn what skill is required to create each episode. The beliefs that go into creating my podcast and why i do it. You will learn why I started creating this podcast. The Life Coach School Podcast is the podcast that changed my life forever, thanks to Brooke Castillo, i will forever be greateful too her. You should for sure check it out. ...
A**hole brain
January 24, 2024 13:00 - 9 minutes - 6.41 MBReconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Clothes audition for your body
January 17, 2024 23:00 - 5 minutes - 3.81 MBWhen you shop you are trying on clothes and if they don't fit you don't buy them. do the same at home - if they don't work for your body - good bye. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Add, don't restrict
January 10, 2024 20:00 - 6 minutes - 4.18 MBA great way to think about anything, especially about food. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Feelings Perfectionism
January 03, 2024 15:00 - 9 minutes - 6.61 MB"I have to feel like it to work out" "I should enjoy being with my kids to be a good mom" "I should always love my husband" "I should always want to go on a girls trip with my friends" etc. You get the point, expecting to feel a certain perfect way to do something or to be someone. Stop it. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with...
Secret Santa for my boys
December 27, 2023 18:00 - 5 minutes - 3.7 MBTeaching my boys to think about one another and at the same time learning from them. Merry Christmas everyone! Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Nothing wrong with you for not wanting ___
December 21, 2023 02:00 - 8 minutes - 5.97 MBReconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
"He's disrespectful, ungrateful and entitled."
December 13, 2023 16:00 - 12 minutes - 8.67 MBFrom pissed off and fighting to focused, calm, certain and understanding, all in one sentence, one thought, one powerful shift that is all here for you. From fighting and being mean to connecting, loving, guiding and supportive. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Microwave on the front steps
December 06, 2023 16:00 - 13 minutes - 9.1 MBThis little episode is a reminder of how we always have a choice in how we react. I reacted well in my opinion in this situation but i don't always do that. Simply remembering that I CAN react this way is going to help you and feel GOOD. = Happiness. The two books by Ajahn Brahm i mentioned here are these: Who ordered a truckload of dung? and Don't Worry, Be Grumpy: Inspiring Stories for Making the Most of Each Moment Enjoy these books! great for bigger kids too. Reconnect with Your...
What I learned from Cesar Millan
November 29, 2023 13:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBWatch me here on youtube! What I learned from Cesar Millan. That my energy matters when I’m with the boys. If I am indicisive they will feel it and be anxious if I have not given them direction or expectations. I am their leader. Bad one, so so one, tired one, whatever one but I am still their leader so oi can step up to the task and just decide either way - It doesn’t matter what I decide, I just have to decide to lead. Exercise first then everything else. Cesar teaches: exercise disci...
'Having fun' as a skill
November 23, 2023 00:00 - 30 minutes - 21.3 MBI needed more 'fun' in my life and i made a list that i find fun in my life and it blew me away because the things that are fun are completetly independent of the things that i am doing. It is all about what lens i put on when i'm doing them: - giving - problem solving - being efficient - creative - social If I am focusing on one of the above i am feelinig these: - satisfaction - achievement - caring about myself - abundant - not rushed - free -fun -interested - excited -present Having th...
'Having fun' IS A SKILL
November 23, 2023 00:00 - 30 minutes - 21.3 MBSay hi to me to youtube! I needed more 'fun' in my life and i made a list that i find fun in my life and it blew me away because the things that are fun are completetly independent of the things that i am doing. It is all about what lens i put on when i'm doing them: - giving - problem solving - being efficient - creative - social If I am focusing on one of the above i am feelinig these: - satisfaction - achievement - caring about myself - abundant - not rushed - free -fun -interested - e...
Intentional Focusing
November 15, 2023 21:00 - 10 minutes - 7.45 MBFeeling shitty no matter how much you are doing. No matter how much I do it’s not enough To stop not noticing all the things you are doing. It’s never ending. I do one things and 10 more get added to my list. Focusing better. Feeling better. Instead of saying fav part of the day and worst part of the day, Say your 3 favourite things Focusing on all the things you have not done = feeling bad. Intentional focusing - intentionally zooming IN on the specific things Why to feel bet...
Fear behind anger
November 09, 2023 02:00 - 10 minutes - 7.09 MBUnderstanding why you are angry will help you and this is how you do it. You ask yourself this one question, approach it form this angle to understand why you are angry. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
"No one else gets this angry at their kids"
November 01, 2023 18:00 - 12 minutes - 8.77 MBIf you think you are the only one with this one big, bad problem, whatever it is then this episode is for you. When you are believing you are the only one who yells at kids, drinks too much, eats too much or shops too much then you are shaming yourself and that just blocks any access to that problem and to yourself. First you have to tell yourself the truth that you are not the only one and really believe it and then really understand that it is OKAY to do that or be that person. From th...
Here's what getting hacked taught me
October 25, 2023 15:00 - 7 minutes - 5.41 MBHear my example of how my experience was changed based on one new piece of information / thought/ sentence and changed my whole experience. Apply this to all your relationships and you will skip the fighting. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Best case/ Worst Case
October 18, 2023 17:00 - 9 minutes - 6.41 MBIf you are stuck worrying about a problem this is for you! listen up. You can also watch me here in my office recording this episode. Asking yourself these 2 questions and a bonus question that naturally appears after you answer the first 2 will help you tremendously! Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a...
Lying to your son
October 11, 2023 09:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBWatch this episode on youtube! I was people pleasing my son, wait, no, i was lying to my son and here is what happened. If you are people pleasing others and they are STILL not happy then listen to this. Stop pleasing them by telling then lies. Start telling yourself the truth and start telling them the truth and take the responsibility to make them happy off of your shoulders. We do this unconsciously sometimes but there is always a time when we wake up, stop and move on. Reconnect w...
Arbitrary rules that cause us suffering
October 04, 2023 18:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBWatch this episode here! If you are suffering because of what other people are doing or not doing then this episode is for you. You will learn what causes the suffering, you will listen to 3 examples of arbitrary rules that I had in my life that caused me some suffering and it will give you a chance to ask yourself about what arbitrary rules you are applying in your life. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation an...
"I'm bored, everything is the same"
September 27, 2023 19:00 - 9 minutes - 6.85 MBYay, come watch this episode on youtube! Boredom and nothingness is a perfect ground to want things from. What you want matters a lot and you need to stop Doubting it and starting paying attention to it. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
When you don't recognize yourself
September 20, 2023 17:00 - 8 minutes - 5.64 MBCome watch this episode here! If you are feeling sorry for yourself and forgot why you ever wanted kids or be married or this job - do this exercise and change your mind and your feeling deliberately. Remind yourself of all the reasons why you wanted it in the first place. This exercise was inspired by Abraham, from this book. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connect...
15 things that help me when I am struggling
September 13, 2023 20:00 - 34 minutes - 23.6 MBYay, exciting news - you can now watch this podcast on youtube! 1. Walk 2. Do my make up and hair, dress in something cute and you feel pretty in. 3. Get coached/Vent to a friend/ coach/ paper. Vent and it will help you process your feelings and gain new perspective. Write it all down, get it out of your head. 4. Clean your kitchen/living room 5. DO NOTHING FIRST. do that first and then do jobs. watch a show, read, sleep, do nothing productive. 6. Listen to Abraham and Louise Hay....
Sweatpants on a hot day, why?
September 06, 2023 15:00 - 26 minutes - 18.2 MBWhat must they be thinking wearing long pants and being fully covered on a hot day! Absurd I can’t understand what they must be thinking. Dirty floors. Tight clothing when obese. One sentence It’s fine. There’s always one phrase, one sentence behind the thing. What is it? And if it’s always a sentence behind anything then it’s easy to change. I don’t want to. >> I want to get my heart rate up. Now. It’s fine/ ugh, another mess. It’ll take too long. >> I like it tidy. It only take...
How not to miss your successes
August 30, 2023 09:00 - 10 minutes - 7.38 MBDo not let perfectionism blind you from seeing that it actually worked. You actually did the thing, you made the turn or you are succeeding with the kids with the food, whatever it is. It made me laugh so hard to realize that I would’ve written it off as a total fail and my son pointed it out as a success, I turned and gained speed. So funny how our mind can play tricks on us. Where do we do this in our life? My body seeing only the fat on the stomach and ignoring my beautiful face, hair, ...
How to release a person without guilt
August 23, 2023 09:00 - 11 minutes - 7.85 MBIf you are still friends with that person from 25 years ago and you ask yourself why everytime you see them and you dread seeing them this episode is for you. I share one way of approaching relationships and how having this perspective can release any guilt you have if you want to never see them again. This episode will have to ask questions about your relationships and whether you want to end the relationship or not. You will also learn a perspective on relationships that will help you ...
How to enjoy mundane tasks
August 16, 2023 09:00 - 12 minutes - 8.77 MBIf you are ready to blow your brains out if you have to do another mundane, boring tasks then this episode is for you. You can still do the task but with this change in mindset you will feel more focused, revived and may be even enjoy doing it. You will learn three different mindsets and different feelings they produce. You will learn that you always have a choice in what mindset you choose when it comes to the same mundane task Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultatio...
Socks in the mudroom
August 09, 2023 09:00 - 11 minutes - 7.62 MBAnticipating transitions, Anticipating what you will need Anticipating and taking great care of your future self as. JOB Socks in the mud room Order in night Allergy pills in the car Extra set of pants to avoid lack of clean clothes Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
When you mess up
August 02, 2023 10:00 - 7 minutes - 5.2 MBHere is an example of ONE way to generate compassion and understanding for yourself when you mess up. If you can do this for yourself you will stop causing fights and you will also have more compassion for your son when he messes up. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation
Trust by example
July 26, 2023 10:00 - 13 minutes - 9.15 MBHi I'm Natalia Schneidmiller and I help boy moms have a better relationship with their sons and themselves by teaching them the tools to manage their mind so they can handle anything that comes up in life. Trust by example. If I can trust myself to ___ then I can trust them to ___ . Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your ...
90 second emotions
July 19, 2023 07:00 - 12 minutes - 8.52 MBIt takes 90 seconds to process any emotion. Here is the link to the article. Listen to the episode to find out how you can you this information to your advantage. According to Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion and allow it to dissipate while you simply notice it. When you’re stressed, pausing ninety seconds and labeling what you’re feeling (eg., I’m getting angry), tamps down activity in the amygdala. Reconnect with Your...
"Hard to parent when I'm tired"
July 12, 2023 08:00 - 10 minutes - 7.51 MBI find it hard to parent when I’m tired I can’t do it. But I must. The truth is you can do it and you do do it. But telling yourself you can’t creates resentment and frustration. How about you tell yourself the truth. I don’t want to do it but I definitely CAN do it. Do I have to? Well that is debeatiiable I thin I have to but the truth is I don’t . When you tell yourself what’s actually true then you feel empowered by your choice. You are making a choice. Just like going to the gym. D...
"30 year old man" - creating peace for yourself as they grow
July 05, 2023 09:00 - 21 minutes - 14.6 MBPick a situation or 2 where you feel comfortable using this and ask yourself how would you say this to him if he was a grown up, who takes care of himself, whom you trust to make decisions for himself, who knows what’s best for him. Little baby - trust that fi they are hungry they will eat. If not they will not. Putting on a jacket for a 3,4, 5 year old. If they are cold they will put it on. The COLD will get them to do it, NOT YOU. Getting himself ready by a certain time and being will...
Consistency Prison
June 28, 2023 18:00 - 20 minutes - 14.3 MBConsistency prison. How to get joy back. Sure way to suck joy out of anything is to tell yourself you have to do it everyday. Dread, not enjoying what you are doing, wanting to do nothing. You know you are in a consistency prison if you are afraid of what will happen if you Stop. If you stop playing tennis - you won’t work out. You will stop learning. You don’t trust yourself too exercise without the routine, the plan, the appointment. SO you force yourself to do it consistently. Th...
"I'm just a mom"
June 21, 2023 10:00 - 11 minutes - 7.8 MBIf you have ever said these words this episode is for you. This sneaky, shame generating statement is not a true reflection of all the things you do and the value of them. Listen to upgrade your mom thoughts and feel the appreciation for ALL that you do. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to turn conflict into connection within your family. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consu...
Private, everyday comforting
June 14, 2023 12:00 - 13 minutes - 9.04 MBThis is what we all need to do every day and we need to learn how to do it privately. We don't only need comfort when someone dies or something tragic happens. We need comfort over small, insignificant things and we need it daily. But because it is not publicly acceptable to cry over every small thing, we can do it privately. And we don't necessarily need to cry every time but we do need the comfort. Listen to find out how. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation T...
Prevent 99% of your fights with this one technique
June 07, 2023 16:00 - 11 minutes - 7.8 MBWhen someone says : "You don’t do ____" You translate it to "I want ___". Instead of getting defensive, feeling critisized, attacked and lashing out, arguing, defending yourself - you can understand what the other person wants and connect with them, talk to them, give them what they want. You can think they are so cute because they actually love it and want it when you do ____. They are just upset when you don't do it and they haven't figured out how to ask for it. You don’t sing songs...
Pain is missing information
May 31, 2023 17:00 - 7 minutes - 4.96 MBStubbing your toe on the bed - information was missing - there is a bed right there and now you know it. You didn’t and now you do. Painful but information was delivered. I had expectations of how a person would behave in a situation and the person behaved differently. I felt painful, disappointing, upsetting, ,saddening. I was missing information about that person . I didn’t know the exact way they would react in this situation and NOW I do. But I didn’t . The only reason it hurts ...
Working mom of 2 struggling
May 24, 2023 19:00 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MBThis is for you if you are struggling managing family life and work life. - You already have a full time job before you go back to work. -Do you have to work to support yourself? -You are not only taking care of your 2 kids -you are taking care of 2 kids, yourself, your husband, your house, and any life circumstances like health concerns, renovations, birthday parties, future planning (always), relatives, etc. - you had an expectation of how it will go and it's totally different now t...
How to help your son when he can't stand feeling so bad
May 17, 2023 15:00 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBIf your son has ever any feeling that he is really uncomortable feeling then this episode is for you. I teach a technique that I use on myself and my son to help me in situations when some feelings feel unbearable. You will learn the technique "name all the things" and i will also list other tools I use in similar situations to help myself or my son. Reconnect with Your Son, Sign up for a Free Consultation Tired of fighting? Book your free coaching consultation and discover how to tu...