Aunty Anxiety | Casual Conversations Around Anxiety, Insecurity, & Self-Awareness
54 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 5 years ago - ★★★★★ - 22 ratingsAunty Anxiety features Kate Doran who specializes in personal growth and development and her nephew. Every week they have casual but candid conversations around anxiety, insecurity, stress, self-awareness, and self-discoveries. Not experts, just people speaking from personal experiences. Please send any questions to [email protected].
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Episodes
Space Between
October 15, 2018 17:58 - 39 minutes - 53.7 MBAunty K talks about her latest venture and the "if" factor. As in "if" it's even possible and all of the self-doubt that comes with pursuing something that seems insurmountable.
Is Ego The Enemy?
October 08, 2018 11:30 - 35 minutes - 49 MBJamal listens to the Ego is The Enemy audiobook by Ryan Holiday and has some feelings about it. Aunty K chimes in with what ego means to her and at one point refers to it as a "gift". Tags for this episode are something along the lines of: ego, comparing, self-awareness, entrepreneur, anxiety, stress, personal, development
I Can't See It
October 01, 2018 11:00 - 34 minutes - 46.8 MBIn this first episode of season 2, Jamal and Aunty K chat about different types of anxiety... one of which is not being able to "see it" as in seeing the finishing line of whatever you're working towards.
SEASON 2 COMING SOON
July 09, 2018 11:00 - 1 minute - 1.38 MBWe'll be taking a short break due to a busy summer. Visit us at auntyanxiety.com in the meantime if you have any questions, comments, feedback, or more importantly, ideas for episode topics. See you soon...
Too Much To Do
June 18, 2018 11:00 - 28 minutes - 39.6 MBThis episode is about having too much stuff to do and how taking some time off or stepping away for a little bit often ends up leading to getting more done. Tags for this episode are something like: anxiety, stress, productivity, entrepreneur, work, rest, time off, mental clutter
Clarity & Belief
June 11, 2018 11:00 - 48 minutes - 66.6 MBJamla brings up the idea of clarity to Aunty K. Clarity as in thinking and deciding what you want long-term... and how it can impact your day-to-day. Tags for this episode are something like: clarity, ambition, entrepreneur, entrepreneurship, goals, trust, process
Replaying Conversations
June 04, 2018 10:00 - 38 minutes - 52.5 MBA thread on Reddit leads to a conversation about replaying conversations and/or interactions in your head after the fact. The person on Reddit describes not wanting to leave their house or talk to anyone because they can't stop replaying things in their head and being critical of themselves. Tags for this episode are something like: anxiety, social settings, conversations, self-awareness, intuition, stress, reddit, friends
"I Feel Stuck At Work, What Should I Do?" | Listener Q
May 28, 2018 11:00 - 35 minutes - 48.1 MBA friend from back home feels stuck at work. J and K talk about it. It's borderline magical. Tags for this episode are something along the lines of: Career Business Entrepreneur Passion Desperation Change Anxiety Self-awareness Questions or comments? Catch us at AuntyAnxiety.com. Thanks for tuning in, really appreciate it.
Friends With Problems
May 21, 2018 12:00 - 41 minutes - 57.5 MBHow do you help your friend that's stuck in a rough patch? That was what we were planning on talking about in this episode. And we eventually got there after thoroughly discussing earthquakes for the first few minutes. -- Tags for this episode include: help, friends, friendships, relationships, anxiety, stress, personal development
The Role of Trust
May 14, 2018 07:32 - 34 minutes - 47.3 MBKnowing what you want. Why you want it. And trusting it'll happen. Is what we talk about on this ep! Tags for this ep, something along the lines of: intuition, trust, anxiety, stress, self-awareness, gut feel, purpose, direction, self-discovery
Anxiety System
May 07, 2018 11:00 - 37 minutes - 51.1 MBJamal reflects on the system he built by accident to help make his days better and less anxious. How it's not really ambition. But more because life sucks otherwise. And it's pretty much the only option. Tags for this episode, something like: anxiety, stress, nine to five, ambition, anxious, personal development, self-help, work
43. Childhood Judgements
April 30, 2018 11:00 - 39 minutes - 54.1 MBIn the 4th-grade, Jamal's teacher created a behavioral contract so he wouldn't act out in class. Jamal's mom recently sent him the old contract and this episode he reads it out loud while Aunty K tries to contain herself. The conversation starts there and ventures into talking about different types of teachers, students, teaching methods, etc.
42. Toxic People & Diets
April 23, 2018 11:00 - 40 minutes - 55.7 MBIt's good to get rid of the toxic people in your life isn't it? But what if everybody around you is toxic, and you get rid of them, what happens then? Won't you still be lonely? Aunty K's friend inquired with the above ^^. We start talking about it and then get sidetracked talking about diets and a bunch of other stuff.
41. Too Much Credit?
April 16, 2018 11:00 - 35 minutes - 48.5 MBI wrote myself a note saying something about not giving myself enough credit and giving other people too much credit. Mostly in terms of entrepreneur type stuff. My aunt and I go back and forth. There's some random stuff about vision boards. Bunch of everything in this one!
40. Intuition
April 09, 2018 13:00 - 36 minutes - 49.7 MBAunty K starts off by talking about food, diet, and how eating properly starts with actually recognizing you have a body. Which ties back into intuition and how it's impossible to hone/sharpen if you don't first tune into it.
39. A Normal Conversation
April 02, 2018 13:00 - 39 minutes - 54.1 MBLots of everything in this one. We get off topic and start talking about purging and minimalism. Lots of talk about adderall, attention deficit, and the Take Your Pills documentary on Netflix. Some stuff about what to expect in your 30s and how kids help change your perspective on things. Pretty random but pretty awesome all at the same time.
38. Toxic Relationships
March 26, 2018 12:00 - 33 minutes - 45.5 MBA conversation about toxic relationships and our experiences chatting with friends that have been in them or are currently in them. Show notes: "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment" - https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139
37. Humiliation + Ego
March 19, 2018 13:00 - 27 minutes - 38.1 MBLed by Aunty K, this conversation is about how ego ties into humiliation and how humiliation can sometimes be mistaken as disappointment.
36. Self Conscious
March 12, 2018 13:00 - 38 minutes - 52.6 MBI start the conversation by asking Aunty K about how she deals with feeling self-conscious when speaking publicly. Then we go back and forth on it and share our own experiences. She shares some nuggets for better handling it! Show Notes: Brene Brown - Power of Vulnerability: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o& Brene Brown - Listening to Shame: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0
35. Anxiety + Dating + Dating Apps
March 05, 2018 14:00 - 37 minutes - 51.5 MBA conversation about dating, dating apps, anxiety, and a bunch of other things, following a listener question.
34. Tough Time Asking Questions
February 26, 2018 14:00 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBAunty K asks Jamal how come he's so comfortable asking people questions and being the 'student' in conversations.
33. Old Friends vs New Friends
February 19, 2018 14:00 - 33 minutes - 45.6 MBBeen on my mind after recently being home for Christmas and also meeting a bunch of new people in San Francisco. Got me thinking about how you're expected to act around old friends vs new friends. And how meeting new people / friends forces you into having new discussions and exploring new ideas. Lots of great insight by Aunty K as per usual.
32. Slow Down, You'll Be Miles Ahead
February 12, 2018 14:00 - 31 minutes - 43.2 MBFunny how much more you can get done when you actually slow down and take your time instead of rushing to complete everything as fast as possible. It's easier, less stressful, and ultimately, you're able to get more done.
31. If I Feel F*cked Up I Leave
February 05, 2018 14:00 - 33 minutes - 46.4 MBDr. Dre in the Defiant Ones mini series, when asked how he chose who to work with and who not to work with, responded with "if I feel f*cked up I leave". That's how the conversations starts and then it gets into trusting your gut, sharpening your intuition, and a bunch of other stuff in between. Book Aunty K references = https://www.audible.com/pd/Science-Technology/Scattered-Minds-Audiobook/B06XWB5K83
30. Validation: External vs Internal
January 29, 2018 14:00 - 25 minutes - 35 MBTravis Kalanick of Uber is advised by another Silicon Valley entrepreneur to stop relying on external validation so that he'll start relying on internal validation. That's where the conversation starts and then it moves into talking about validation vs. approval and a bunch of other stuff in between.
29. Pros & Cons When Practicing Gratitude
January 22, 2018 16:00 - 30 minutes - 41.4 MBBeating yourself up about little things that don't matter, and then beating yourself up about beating yourself up...that same old song. We chat about defaulting to gratitude in those situations, and in general, and how it can work well, but not all the time. Casual convo as usual, hope you enjoy. This is the article we reference if you want to take a look: https://www.wired.com/story/how-mindful-meditation-can-save-us-from-the-tribal-abyss/
28. I Know I'm Not in the Right Place When... (Comparing)
January 15, 2018 15:00 - 34 minutes - 47.8 MB"I know I'm not in the right place when I feel like I'm playing catch up, when I’m thinking about how much work I COULD have gotten done instead of actually working, and when I'm comparing."
27. All About Anxiety
January 08, 2018 18:00 - 32 minutes - 44.8 MBLots of weird stigmas / negative connotations that come with 'anxiety'. There are really bad (chronic) cases of it that are much different than what we're talking about here. This conversation is all about regular, everyday anxiety and how we personally deal with it. No expert advice, just a couple people speaking on their own experiences!
26. Strong Opinions
January 01, 2018 16:00 - 32 minutes - 44.1 MBThis episode comes inspired by a thought from Derek Sivers that goes a little something like this: "Strong opinions are very useful to others. Those who were undecided or ambivalent can just adopt your stance. But those who disagree can solidify their stance by arguing against yours. Even if you invent an opinion for the sole sake of argument, boldly sharing a strong opinion is very useful to others." Derek Sivers website: https://sivers.org Link to page with quote: https://sivers.org/d1...
25. Deliberate Friendships: How Some People Are Picky When Choosing Friends
December 25, 2017 14:00 - 32 minutes - 45.1 MBThis episode comes inspired by a conversation between two wildly successful entrepreneurs and how they deliberately surround themselves with the 'right' friends. We pick that video/conversation apart and share our two cents. Also talk a bit about the Jay Z / New York Times interview from a few weeks ago, and how he says something similar about his friendships/relationships. Group Chat: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FI8Rt98lCPQ&list=PLggvbglvp_vUUybop9_nuohU5nuYf4cEj Jay Z Intervie...
24. Doing What You Love
December 18, 2017 14:00 - 28 minutes - 39.8 MBIn this episode, we chat about doing what you love and how that can positively affect the rest of your life. The ancillary benefits of pursuing your passion. And on the flipside, what can happen when you're working on something you don't love. Interesting back and forth, experiences from both sides are shared. Casual but candid per ushe'.
23. Quiet I'm Having A Feeling
December 11, 2017 10:54 - 31 minutes - 43.5 MBYou know when somebody is venting to you? And you feel obligated to provide solutions? There are other things you can do in those situations that might work, too. For example, sometimes it's better NOT to offer any help and just listen. Could be that whoever you're talking just wants a soundboard. Something to think about, interesting convo.
22. Free From Concern
December 04, 2017 11:00 - 29 minutes - 24.7 MBStemming from the Jim & Andy Netflix Special, Jamal and Aunty K talk about Jim Carrey's "free from concern" comment and how it applies to everyday life. Jamal is very intrigued by Jim Carrey's abstract ways, Aunty K not so much. Hilariousness ensues.
21. The Voice in Our Heads
November 27, 2017 13:00 - 28 minutes - 38.9 MBA conversation about the ongoing chatter in our heads, our personal experiences with managing them, thoughts on how it can be limiting especially if the chatter (and constant filtering) never stops, why it's important to be aware of, and intuition/gut feelings and how it actually feels different than chatter in your head. Show notes: Brene Brown - The Power of Vulnerability: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o Jim & Andy: The Great Beyond: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kB15UF...
20. Only Dead Fish Go With The Flow
November 20, 2017 18:08 - 32 minutes - 44.2 MBThe conversation today is around going with the flow... as in when you have definitive plans and something comes up or you just don't feeling like doing whatever you had planned to do anymore. Do you force yourself to stick to the game plan? Or go another direction? Jamal and Aunty K discuss there thoughts and experiences with these types of situations and how it can affect their days. Show Notes: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/do-only-dead-fish-go-flow-anuradha-kamath/
19. Selfish is Selfless
November 13, 2017 14:00 - 32 minutes - 44.8 MBA conversation about selfishness and how everybody is inherently selfish. There are plenty of times where being selfish is actually beneficial to you and the people around you. Both Jamal and Aunty K share examples from their lives and dissect the negatives stigmas around the word/meaning.
18. Ego Sneaks In
November 06, 2017 18:22 - 31 minutes - 43.9 MBJamal and Aunty K have a quick conversation around ego. They discuss their own experiences with ego and how it can affect their day-to-day and chat about some of the ways they work around it. They also touch on the relationship between ego and self-esteem. What are your thoughts on ego? Let us know at auntyanxiety.com.
17. 4 Types of Resistance
October 30, 2017 20:18 - 34 minutes - 47.1 MBResisting can make things a lot more difficult than they need to be. It could be resisting how you're feeling or resisting something that you don't want to do. Jamal and Aunty K talk about 4 types of resisting and share personal examples and solutions that work for them when resistance rears its ugly face. The books we reference at the end can be found on amazon, links below: The Surrender Experiment - https://www.amazon.com/Surrender-Experiment-Journey-Lifes-Perfection/dp/080414110X ...
16. Dishcloth Rules
October 23, 2017 16:11 - 27 minutes - 38.4 MBDishcloth rules meaning funny/weird things that you believe as a kid that are just plain old false. Jamal and Aunty K talk about their own dishcloth rules, share some examples of other ones, and go back and forth on how to identify and move past them because they can be limiting at times. What are some of your dishcloth rules? Let us know at auntyanxiety.com!
15. Mining For Nuggets
October 16, 2017 19:00 - 27 minutes - 37.7 MB"Nuggets" are things that trigger you, that set you off, that take you from 0-100 really quickly. So when you mine for nuggets you're looking for these things that set you off so you can dig a little bit deeper to figure out the reason and ultimately work to solve them. Everybody has things that bother them, things they're insecure about. This episode Jamal and Aunty Kathy share their own experiences with mining for nuggets and how it's positively impacted their lives. Links to resources tha...
14. My Devices Give Me Anxiety
October 09, 2017 04:52 - 36 minutes - 49.6 MBiMessage, WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Emails.. they're all annoying and tough to deal with sometimes. This episode Jamal and Aunty K talk about how they personally tackle this dilemma... More of a venting session than anything, this digital era can be obnoxious! Can you relate? How do YOU deal with message overload? Would love to hear from you at www.auntyanxiety.com!
13 Why Do I Get Defensive?
October 03, 2017 00:17 - 38 minutes - 52.5 MBAnother listener question! Here's what the lovely listener wrote "one of the things I have tried to deal with and be better at, is being defensive. I know I inherited it from my dad. Exacerbated big time by my first husband. But there are still, too frequently, many times when my first reaction (ie- not planned or thought out), that I get defensive. Usually with my current, and good, husband. I recognize the origins, and it is better but certainly not gone." Jamal and Aunty Kathy discuss thi...
12 Why Is Complimenting So Hard
September 25, 2017 20:10 - 20 minutes - 28.7 MBSaying nice things and complimenting people can be hard sometimes. Jamal chats with Aunty K about his struggles with it and some of the reasons he thinks it might be tough. There is no 'solution' in this episode, more just a venting session with some potential solutions and strategies. A good episode to have a follow-up chat about. Is this something you can relate to? Please send any questions/comments/feedback to [email protected] or visit us at www.auntyanxiety.com. Enjoy!
11 How do I get back to present? It's ruining my hike.
September 18, 2017 05:30 - 35 minutes - 49.3 MBJamal talks to Aunty K about living presently. The views/scenery in Banff weren't as good as they could have been due to a wandering mind. The lack of being in the current moment (present-minded) made things a bit tricky at times. Interesting conversation, they go back and forth on the reasons why and a variety of strategies/solutions, and talk self-awareness.
10 List of Ways to Deal With Anxiety
September 11, 2017 20:41 - 36 minutes - 49.6 MBJamal and Aunty Kathy talk through a list of ways to deal with everyday anxiety. Things like going to the gym, making sure to stay hydrated, stretching, foam rolling, etc. This list is not for chronic anxiety but just simple solutions that have worked for them in the past. How do you deal with your anxiety? What are some solutions that work for you? Let us know at auntyanxiety.com.
09 Accepting Your Attributes
August 28, 2017 22:32 - 33 minutes - 45.3 MBJamal chats with his aunt about something he came across in a self-help book a long time ago. The book is called 'How to Raise Your Self-Esteem: The Proven Action-Oriented Approach to Greater Self-Respect and Self-Confidence' by Nathaniel Branden and it talks about how it's hard enough to accept your flaws but the real challenge is accepting your attributes. So pretty much any advantages you have can be considered an attribute whether it be that you're good looking, funny, smart, charming, e...
08 Ever Considered Quitting?
August 21, 2017 18:48 - 27 minutes - 37.9 MBThis episode is all about quitting and is a follow-up conversation to Aunty Kathy's recent blog post: https://www.kathleendoran.com/blog/have-you-considered-quitting There are lots of ugly stigmas stuck to quitting that aren't necessarily valid. Things like "winners don't quit, quitters don't win" or "winners are not people who never fail, but people who never quit" and so on. It's especially frowned upon these days given that entrepreneurship is now mainstream and there's so much pressure...
07 ADD Diagnosis at 27
August 14, 2017 17:35 - 28 minutes - 39.5 MBThis episode Jamal talks about his experience with ADD. He got diagnosed a couple of years ago and catches his Aunty up to speed on everything. They discuss why he got checked out in the first place, his experience using the associated ADD drugs like Adderall, Vyvanse, and Ritalin, and a bunch of non-drug strategies around how to deal with it. The 'Driven to Distraction' book is referenced several times throughout and can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distraction-Revised-...
06 HAMSTER BRAIN
August 07, 2017 15:00 - 30 minutes - 41.6 MBWe get our first listener question! Full disclosure: it's from my friend. He's wondering what to do late at night when he's stressed/anxious and having trouble falling asleep. This is something I can definitely relate to and my aunt as well. We go back and forth sharing our own personal strategies/solutions and drill deeper into what's actually happening when our minds are racing and we cannot fall asleep. Finances are often a big stressor and can keep you up at night so we touch on that as ...
05 MANAGING BOTH SIDES OF THE CONVERSATION
July 31, 2017 15:02 - 28 minutes - 39.7 MBThis time around I chat with my aunty about playing out full conversations in your head before one word is even spoken. She calls it managing both sides of the conversation and turns out it's a pretty common thing we do. She makes the case that managing both sides of the conversation is never a good idea, I beg to differ. We also talk about invaluable honest feedback really is. Enjoy!