American Poly: The Podcast
40 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 5 ratingsJoin your hosts Julie and Matt for intimate conversations highlighting ethically non-monogamous lifestyles including swinging, polyamory, and open relationships.
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Episodes
Season 2 Episode 20 - Everything But The Kitchen Sink
June 05, 2022 19:12 - 55 minutes - 73 MBHELLO! Ohmigosh it's sooo good to be back! After an unplanned break in shows, Julie and Matt are back in action with an episode to catch you up on what's happening in their lives, some fun lifestyle experiences (and some not so fun) over the past few months and exciting events coming up! Also discussed are honing your listening skills inside your relationship, and how to help you partner through stress - be it lifestyle or vanilla life related. More great episodes are to come! And more s...
New Friends, New Encounters and 33 Days of Sex!
December 25, 2021 01:45 - 1 hour - 82.5 MBHello everyone and happy holidays! After a 5 week unplanned break, Matt and Julie are finally back in action with a fabulous new episode for you to enjoy! Listen in to the latest and greatest podcast when they interview new play friends, talk about first experiences and do's/do not's in the beginning, and of course, the bragging rights to 33 DAYS OF SEX! Lots of great topics are covered, from ghosting to fantasies, so listen in and as always, share your opinion or thoughts with us at juli...
Season 2 Episode 16: State of the Union - The Relationship 411
November 06, 2021 04:34 - 55 minutes - 113 MBHello AP Fans! Finally, a new episode is up and ready for your listening pleasure...and this one is a great talk for all of you who have been in the lifestyle a little while, and would like to take stock of how your relationship is going in regards to where you started and where you are now on your ENM journey. Matt and Julie talk about their relationship, and what they like/dislike about the journey they have been on, what they see in each other while participating in the lifestyle, and w...
Season 2 Episode 15: Lover‘s Leap - The Start of Individual Dating
October 17, 2021 22:29 - 1 hour - 57.9 MBHey AP Fans! Get ready for a great episode featuring the lovely Ashley and Sam as your hosts Julie and Matt interview them on their foray into individual ENM dating. Hear their story on how they got started, the pitfalls and triumphs, and get great advice on how to overcome jealousy and balance home life with dating. We love to hear from our listeners, so drop us a line with your thoughts or stories at [email protected] or on our website on the blog! Happy Listening!
Season 2 Episode 14: Newbie Questions
September 25, 2021 00:24 - 44 minutes - 67.2 MBHey everyone! Happy fall! This episode is geared toward the newbies out there, as Matt and Julie recently attended a swingers event and met two new couples who had lots of questions. From boundary talk to catching feelings to STD's, the conversation was varied and pretty in depth with both couples. Listen in to hear their thoughts and perceptions, plus tips and advice for other new couples. As always, your comments are appreciated and welcome at julie@american-poly or on the website at ...
Season 2 Episode 13: Hotel Takeover Party!
September 10, 2021 00:51 - 52 minutes - 49.6 MBEver wonder what it's like to attend a lifestyle hotel takeover party? Join Julie and Matt as they discuss their recent trip revisiting old friends and making new ones along the way! This segment included live audio from the hotel room in between events as your hosts talk about the fun they are having plus tips, tidbits, and pitfalls that can help you feel more comfortable at your first event! Also, don't forget the 1st birthday of American Poly is next week on 9/15! Hurry and follow us ...
Season 2 Episode 12: Confessions of a Unicorn
August 19, 2021 23:45 - 57 minutes - 49.2 MBEver wonder how single women in the lifestyle think? Or about the fun they have? Or how you can approach them or seek a threesome? Then this episode is for you! Matt interviews the lovely Gemma and Julie on their experiences in the ENM lifestyle as Unicorns. Give a listen to hear their stories and opinions on how the dynamic worked for them, and hear about the great aspects and the not so great! Do you have unicorn experiences to share? As always, find us on Instagram or email us at j...
Season 2 Episode 11: The One Penis Policy Debacle
August 06, 2021 12:59 - 43 minutes - 39.3 MBHey AP fans! Here's the latest and greatest from Julie and Matt, an open, perhaps slightly biased podcast covering the one penis policy and how they feel about it, and when they have encountered this boundary in the lifestyle; plus thoughts on how to talk about OPP if your partner is asking for that limitation. Also included is a roster of upcoming podcasts plus new social media contact info! You can now reach out on Instagram, Twitter, Reddit, and Facebook! Check out our website at www.a...
Season 2 Episode 10: Check Your Judgement At The Door
July 25, 2021 15:36 - 45 minutes - 41.3 MBHey AP fans! Here's the next episode in the life and minds of Julie and Matt. This podcast is all about stigmas, have you ever felt judged in your ENM journey? From our bodies to our boundaries, Julie and Matt talk about the times they've felt people were critical of them, and the times they were a little guilty of being too judgey of someone else. As always, we love to hear from our listeners, so please feel free to comment at [email protected] or on our website at www.american-po...
Season 2 Episode 9 - The Dual E in ENM - Showing Empathy
July 13, 2021 02:52 - 46 minutes - 67.8 MBHey everyone! Welcome to the newest episode of American Poly! This one is kind of a serious topic that we all can relate with; showing empathy in our relationships. Have you ever had a situation where your partner was upset about something and you struggled to understand? Julie and Matt talk about their struggles in ENM and how they use empathy to understand each other and to communicate more effectively. Listen in and let us know how you feel, and as always we encourage your thoughts o...
Season 2 Episode 8: Do You Suit Up? Pro Condom or No?
June 14, 2021 22:57 - 32 minutes - 31.3 MBWelcome everyone! Season 2 episode 8 cover a pretty controversial, hot topic in the lifestyle...do you suit up? Are condoms a must? Matt and Julie tackle the topic with their own personal opinions and practices, plus discuss comments from friends who are in STD advocacy and public health. They also mention their reasons for being pro-condom in the past, and how they plan to approach future situations. There's a little bit for everyone here, along with information about where to find tes...
Season 2 Episode 7: Breaking The Ice
May 30, 2021 00:33 - 42 minutes - 41.9 MBWelcome to summer to all our listeners! This episode is a great one for new beginnings, as Julie and Matt talk about how to start a discussion with your partner about opening your relationship to the lifestyle; be it swinging, or poly, or ENM. There are so many things to think about first, and they touch on a few of the pro's and con's; as well as some key topics they think are pretty important to consider. Join them for an in-depth conversation that includes a few examples of what NOT to...
Season 2 Episode 6: What Women Want - Lifestyle Version
May 13, 2021 22:37 - 1 hour - 66.9 MBCalling all guys (and gals!) who struggle to understand what women are looking for in ENM relationships and swinging situations....we have the podcast for you! Join hosts Julie and Matt as they ask a panel of lovely ladies: what do you look for in a partner, what turns you on or off, what are your green flags/red flags, and also tips and advice for guys on how they like to be approached or flirted with. This episode is full of laughs, teasing, and lots of flirting! Poor Matt had his work ...
Season 2 Episode 5: To Voyeur Or Not, That Is The Question?
May 02, 2021 05:00 - 57 minutes - 50.5 MBHappy Spring everyone, and welcome to S2E5, this podcast covers a few different types of voyeurism in the lifestyle along with Matt and Julie's own experiences and thoughts about the fetish. From cuckold to full swap, there is a range of situations and experiences that fit into this particular kink! Join them and hear about their stories, and the reasons they like to watch each other; plus listen to the discussion about the range of emotions they have felt from jealously to excitement. Ar...
Season 2 Episode 4: Go For The Green! Relationship Flags
April 17, 2021 03:07 - 46 minutes - 42.5 MBEver heard someone say that something was a red flag in a relationship? Or maybe a yellow? This episode talks about common red and yellow flags that Julie and Matt encounter in open ENM or swinging relationships, and also the green ones that they look for that make for the best partners and play. What defines a red, yellow, or green flag? That depends on your boundaries, your desires, and your unique situation. Join Julie and Matt as they talk about their flags and what they encounter ou...
Season 2 Episode 3: Quad+ Communication and Dynamics
April 07, 2021 00:27 - 46 minutes - 62.3 MBJoin your hosts Matt and Julie for a great discussion about how their quad dynamic with Sam and Ashley communicates to each other and how they have adapted to now add John and Caroline! This is a great episode about how they maintain the health of their quad+ relationships while managing time constraints and their own commitment to each other...which can get challenging! If only we could invent a time machine... As always, they welcome your thoughts and stories, please email at julie@amer...
S2E2 - Let's Get It On! Part 3 - The Best Lifestyle Play!
March 21, 2021 16:17 - 23 minutes - 23.2 MBIn the final episode of the three part series Julie and Matt posted a question to their Reddit followers...what makes for great play in the lifestyle? Is it group sex? Connections? Cohesiveness? Listen in and hear their opinions, and a few of the responses they got back! Wish you'd been able to comment too? Have a fabulous story to share? As always, reach out to them at [email protected], on Reddit at julie_matt, or the website at www.american-poly.com.
S2E2 - Let's Get It On! Part 2: When You Cockblock Yourself!
March 16, 2021 04:35 - 24 minutes - 23.9 MBThis episode could have been titled "lifestyle bloopers"! Julie and Matt share stories of missed opportunities and misread signals; which end with them not getting to play! Don't worry though, there are also a few good memories of when everything went right and the night was fireworks...:) Also, they share some insight about expectations, and tips for reading the signals with a new couple in the lifestyle. They love to hear comments, please feel free to email them at Julie@american-poly....
S2E2 - Let's Get It On - Part 2: When You Cockblock Yourself!
March 16, 2021 04:35 - 24 minutes - 23.9 MBThis episode could have been titled "lifestyle bloopers"! Julie and Matt share stories of missed opportunities and misread signals; which end with them not getting to play! Don't worry though, there are also a few good memories of when everything went right and the night was fireworks...:) Also, they share some insight about expectations, and tips for reading the signals with a new couple in the lifestyle. They love to hear comments, please feel free to email them at Julie@american-poly....
S2E2 - Let's Get It On! Part 1 of 3: Sensuality & Play Tips
March 04, 2021 20:11 - 29 minutes - 33.4 MBWelcome to Episode 2 of Season 2! This is the first ever three part series that Matt and Julie have put together; part one is all about sensuality and play tips for newbies. They share their "go bag" contents (everyone needs one!), tips for first time play to set the mood, and to bring a little sensuality into the game. Listen and laugh along with them as they discuss how to dial the heat up a notch or two with just a little bit of planning!
Season 2 E1: Every Square Inch of Julie and Matt
February 18, 2021 16:44 - 48 minutes - 69.5 MBHey Everyone! Season two opens with a more personal twist! All through season one you hear Julie and Matt talk about different topics within the ENM lifestyle from jealousy to how to say no thanks to a situation; now you get to learn more about who they are! They share their backstories, how they met, and the dynamic of their relationship. Ever wonder how they themselves started in the ENM lifestyle? Listen now and find out! Comments are always encouraged on the website blog or email a...
Anything goes? I don't think so!
February 05, 2021 17:10 - 32 minutes - 29 MBThe last episode of season one ends with an open discussion about boundaries. Julie and Matt discuss some of their own no-go’s and why they have them, plus situations and problems they have experienced in the lifestyle when boundaries do not sync up. Also, what can happen when a line gets crossed! This is a great episode for newbies and veterans alike, and always a good topic to refresh on. Do you have any boundary questions? Situations you wished you had handled differently? Reach out...
Love: A Valentines Day Short Episode
January 29, 2021 19:44 - 24 minutes - 36.5 MBHappy Valentines Day everyone! This episode will have you all aflutter and hopefully will give you some insight for thinking about how you give and receive love. Julie and Matt discuss how they show affection and love to each other and how understanding what your partners need emotionally can help you be a better spouse, partner, or lover in return. As always, your comments and thoughts are welcome on our blog and via email!
Guilty Pleasures
January 16, 2021 22:17 - 43 minutes - 62 MBThe title might fool you a little, but this discussion is all about guilt in the lifestyle. From religious views to feeling guilty for having too good a time with a new partner to shame over asking for what you want, Julie and Matt discuss the spectrum of uncomfortable feelings in the lifestyle. Included are examples of what makes us feel guilty, and how we mitigate those emotions when they crop up. As always, please leave us your comments, or send us an email with your story, we love hea...
Confidence: Walking Tall to Feeling Small!
January 08, 2021 04:28 - 45 minutes - 104 MBMatt and Julie discuss the utter euphoria they feel when they meet a couple and everyone is so into each other and their confidence soars! Then the confusion and insecurity they feel when a couple ghosts or steps back. We all have moments when our confidence gets shaken and we doubt ourselves a little. Listen in and let us know your thoughts, we would love to hear what helps boost your confidence or what leaves saying WTF?
Our First Interview!
December 20, 2020 04:08 - 47 minutes - 109 MBWe did it, finally, after a little creative persuasion (you know what we mean!), we got our close friends Sam and Ashley to sit down with us and talk about their experiences in the lifestyle. We discuss getting started, bluefishing, the good, the bad, and even getting outed! Join us for some excellent laughs, one liners, and all the shenanigans four amazing friends come up with. We apologize for the crazy laughter; it always is part of our time together! Let us know on the blog what you ...
Six Hands, Three Tongues, And Amazing Sex: All About Threesomes!
November 26, 2020 17:11 - 51 minutes - 117 MBWho doesn’t love a good threesome? If you said me…well, first you might be crazy, and second, Julie and Matt have some advice that might change your mind! Join them in this podcast as they discuss their own search for a unicorn and a bluefish. Learn the fascination, the places they look, and the ideas they have about threesome play. Also, they discuss great tips and tidbits about relationship health and maintaining your primary core while adding new interests. As always, we value your fe...
Random Reddit Night
November 13, 2020 22:14 - 45 minutes - 105 MBOne of the fun pastimes Matt and Julie love to do together is scroll through Reddit and read the questions people in the swinging and poly lifestyles ask. We discuss them with each other, and sometimes comment back! We indulged ourselves with a podcast all about our little hobby, and hope that you enjoy the randomness of our conversation. Some of the topics covered are: performance anxiety, struggling to find like-minded partners, and a tiny bit of advice for the bluefish out there. We h...
Going Stag: Lifestyle Events Without Your Partner
November 03, 2020 00:53 - 55 minutes - 127 MBJoin us for an interesting conversation about what happened when Matt could not attend a lifestyle event but encouraged Julie to go without him. Listen along as we reflect back on that weekend, and talk about the issues that cropped up; how we each felt about “going stag” and the advice we both have for couples who may find themselves in a similar situation in the future. Matt joins us remotely for this podcast, as he was traveling, which got us thinking we should discuss this theme! As al...
The Things We Thought We Knew: Swinging Misconceptions
October 27, 2020 01:14 - 1 hour - 137 MBThis episode will have you laughing, and probably saying, (Oh!!), that happened to us too! It is interesting the ideas we get in our head about how we think the lifestyle should be, and the surprises we get when it is nothing like we expected. Julie and Matt have a few doozies to share along with some sage advice that has always helped them…and if you listen to the end, there is a surprise!! Shhhh, don’t give it away! Pop on the blog and let us know of any misconceptions you’ve had; we’d...
The E in ENM and The Importance of Being Honest
October 05, 2020 23:57 - 51 minutes - 119 MBThis is a potent episode that everyone should listen to…because honesty is one of the core values of ethical non-monogamy! Join Julie and Matt as they dive into this topic, and share personal experiences with lying, cheating, and why honesty is so important in their relationship. Even though their needs are different, they share how they communicate with each other to strengthen their relationship. Do any of our listeners have similar issues? How do you feel about honesty? Or the “don’t...
Losing Our Swinging Virginity: Our First Encounter!
September 30, 2020 19:35 - 48 minutes - 110 MBHere it is, the story of our first swing! We reminisce about the nerves and excitement we had that day with a fun, sexy new couple. This conversation took on a life of its own as we explore swinger etiquette for newbies, plus some of our do’s and don’ts. Join the camaraderie as Matt teases Julie about her “peel me off the ceiling” sex! Do you have a great story about your first encounters? Or a valuable tip to share with our listeners? Drop us a line; send an email, or post on our blog, ...
Thanks but....no thanks?!
September 28, 2020 01:37 - 37 minutes - 86.4 MBEpisode eight covers the awkwardness that we all feel when we just don’t have the right chemistry with a couple…and dealing with the rejected feelings we get when someone doesn’t like us. (Shocker, I know, because we are so AWESOME!). Swinging and poly relationship can sometimes be a revolving door of new people and it can be challenging to find the right mix of personalities and chemistry to make sparks fly. Matt and Julie share their experiences with rejection and being the rejectors; bu...
Jealousy: The Green-Eyed Monster
September 25, 2020 17:33 - 40 minutes - 92.9 MBEpisode seven is all about the dreaded jealousy topic. Does it have a place in a healthy ENM relationship? We all feel twinges of jealousy from time to time; Matt and Julie talk about their issues with the feeling, and the ways they help each other cope and diffuse the insecurity that goes along with it. Do any of you struggle with being jealous of your partners or vice versa? We’d love to hear your thoughts and comments!
They’re Going To See Me Naked!
September 15, 2020 19:02 - 50 minutes - 116 MBEpisode six is a more serious talk about something that Matt and Julie feel like so many of us struggle with; and that is body image. We touch on our own worries, and thoughts about our bodies, plus how we feel about past connections we had. Body sensitivity and acceptance are so important to self esteem and having a great experience in this lifestyle. We’d love to hear your comments or thoughts, please check out our blog at American-Poly.com and start a discussion!
Our First Private Swinging Event!
September 15, 2020 19:00 - 47 minutes - 109 MBWhew, get a drink and settle in for this one! Matt and Julie reminisce about their first ever hotel takeover swinging event, and the crazy escapades that happen! This was such an eye-opening event for both of us, who are typically more relationship driven. The idea of being spontaneous and experiencing a quick connection with a couple that we didn’t know super well was both thrilling and nerve wracking. What are your takes on this subject? Do you feel like being spur-of-the-moment and le...
Seeking New Friends Using The Power Of The Internet!
September 15, 2020 18:58 - 37 minutes - 84.8 MBEpisode four is all about our most favorite websites we use to find new couples and friends online. There are so many options out there for finding like minded people, and we thought we would share how we approach the “hunt” and the interesting topics that pop up. Tips on how to use the websites, personal safety, and setting up your profile are discussed along with creating good profile pictures. Please feel free to share your favorite websites on our blog at American-Poly.com, we are al...
Communication, Communication, Communication
September 15, 2020 18:57 - 35 minutes - 81.4 MBEpisode three is a biggie! For Julie and Matt, communication is critically important in the ENM lifestyle. Matt begins the podcast by asking Julie if it’s possible to over communicate? Her answer is a resounding NO! Matt points out how difficult it can be to share the things with each other that are uncomfortable; and how important is it to be open to each other and understanding. We discuss the need for “safe space” inside relationships so that each person can feel like they are being ...
Insecurity In Swinging: The Emotional Vulnerability
September 15, 2020 18:55 - 39 minutes - 91.3 MBEpisode two starts with Julie explaining how she can sometimes feel insecure with Matt when they swing with current and new partners. Matt often worries that someone new will cross Julie’s personal boundaries, and she worries that a new partner will not respect her relationship with Matt. Other topics include the insecure feelings we get if we think that a new partner is a better lover for each other than we are. We discuss the open communication and re-connection we have that helps us work...
An Introvert Walks Into A Meet And Greet
September 15, 2020 18:53 - 33 minutes - 76.7 MBWelcome to our first ever podcast! Since it is our first attempt, we thought it would only be fitting to talk about Matt’s first experience with a public swinging meet and greet. Being an introverted person, he struggles in a group to make conversation and connections. How many of our listeners have the same trouble? Do you guys have any ideas or tips for getting over the nerves that crop up? We’d love to hear your stories like ours or your comments about our first podcast; check our ou...