054 – Erin Khar – Writing and Living the Truth

Addiction, recovery, mental health, relationships, parenting, infertility, and self-care…

Erin Khar (Managing Editor at Ravishly and author of the popular weekly advice column Ask Erin) joins guest host Jessica Brodkin [Episode 11] in the MouthMedia Network studios powered by Sennheiser.In this episode:
Khar’s addiction to heroin for 15 years starting at 13 years old, and how she didn’t look like drug addic,t had straight As, lots of friends, no warning signs, etc.
How her love for child was stronger than her hatred of self
Learning how to take care of herself and walking through shame and depression that drove to use drugs
Healing is confronting the parts of ourself we don’t want others to see, we let go of shame and that’s where healing starts
How Khar lost her baby due to premature birth, and met Brodkin after having had four miscarriages prior to that,
Khar’s incredible emotional pain, and it wasn’t about her head, it was about her soul
A psychic medium suggested she needs to go to Reiki
Khar’s believe that a silver lining of pain was growing closer to a spiritual connection than before, and how her family bonded than before
Getting tested and being able to make her way through that, and people won’t able to confront things, so they will stay in toxic patterns,
Part of self-care is to tell people “I feel __________”
How Khar had a successful clothing line, and had challenges and stopped caring about it
A chance encounter with a writer that led to started a blog called Rarely Wrong Erin (and eventually Ask Erin), due to her ability to recall random information, and then she got a job at Ravishly, ad is now the managing editor
A lot of #METOO questions — of 60 questions per week 10-15 are about that topic
The tricky topic of conditioning around consent
Taking things people struggle with, so consent is frequently topical in her advice column
The need for conversations about consent
How fear is always worse than actually doing something
Khar was feeling unlovable and living like the room was on fire until a switch flipped
How she wants to bring hope because she was hopeless for a long time

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