The One About Shame And Guilt

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!
When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.
In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.
Listen on for:What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)
How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowers
Self-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!
What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) values
How to shift our feelings of shame and guilt
Society’s role in our feelings of shame and guilt
The distinction between guilt, procrastination and self-sabotage

Links & resources mentioned in this episode:https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame (Listening to shame) (with Brene Brown)
March Masterclass: https://ebonieallard.com/shame-masterclass/ (Understanding shame & guilt, and letting go of them for good) (with Gail Bainbridge)
https://www.gailbainbridge.co.uk/ (Gail Bainbridge)
https://ebonieallard.com/m2m365/ (Misfit to Maven 365: One Year, No Fear!) - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.
https://www.landmarkworldwide.com/ (Landmark forum)
https://ebonieallard.com/what-is-a-value-filter/ (The Value Filter Masterclass)
https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1910056324?pf_rd_p=f20e70b1-67f9-48d1-8c78-ba616030b420&pf_rd_r=1RX43VFATFB762M1EBNA (Misfit to Maven) (the book!)
April Masterclass: https://ebonieallard.com/masterclasses/ (Suspend self-sabotage, unleash your superpowers)
Additional goodies:https://ebonieallard.com/value-filter-masterclass/ (Join the Value Filtered Living Club (free)) - join our secret community for weekly chats, thoughts on adulting, and tips on living a value-filtered life! This is where we share all our best free content, so join us today!
https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-misfit-misconceptions/ (The one about misfit misconceptions)
https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-capacity/ (The one about capacity (with Lisa Fabrega))
https://adultingwithebonie.com/captivate-podcast/the-one-about-fear/ (The one about fear)

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!

When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.

In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.

Listen on for:What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowersSelf-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) valuesHow to shift our feelings of shame and guiltSociety’s role in our feelings of shame and guiltThe distinction between guilt, procrastination and self-sabotage



Links & resources mentioned in this episode:Listening to shame (with Brene Brown)March Masterclass: Understanding shame & guilt, and letting go of them for good (with Gail Bainbridge)Gail BainbridgeMisfit to Maven 365: One Year, No Fear! - Check out the only place to get 1:1 coaching with me PLUS be cheer-led and challenged by me and my team… so that you can show up, belong, make money, and get the freedom you desire.Landmark forumThe Value Filter MasterclassMisfit to Maven (the book!)April Masterclass: Suspend self-sabotage, unleash your superpowersAdditional goodies:Join the Value Filtered Living Club (free) - join our secret community for weekly chats, thoughts on adulting, and tips on living a value-filtered life! This is where we share all our best free content, so join us today!The one about misfit misconceptionsThe one about capacity (with Lisa Fabrega)The one about fear