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19 Year Old Shrink

121 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 months ago - ★★★★★ - 210 ratings

At first glance you’re probably thinking this show was made by that guy going up to people at parties asking about their self development and meditation experience; and so would I. After all, I'm a 19 year old dude hopping in front of a mic talking about feelings. Actually, this podcast was created during the struggles of Covid and is used as a vehicle to deliver on the areas where we have fallen short in our lives. I interview business leaders, sports figures, life coaches and many more influencers. I ask them the questions I think you would want answered. Join me every week for a new episode, new interview, and new insight!

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Episode 1 to 100: Map a Blueprint for Your Ideal Life with James Giangrande

July 11, 2023 17:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MB

This episode was definitely a bittersweet one to record. After interviewing my father for my first episode, I had the privilege of interviewing him for my last. Throughout this conversation, we talk about the insecurities that come with the adjustment of college to post grad. He discusses how there is the misconception that the fun ends after college, but mentions that our definitions of fun just change, it doesn't end altogether.    Later on, I had the chance to ask him more personal questi...

Which Personality Are You?

July 04, 2023 18:00 - 25 minutes - 17.6 MB

In this episode, I reference Merrick Rosenberg's book, "The Chameleon," regarding personality traits and team building. Through his work, he has developed a fun and unique way to have personality research resonate more with readers of his content! I mention the four different birds that he uses to describe the various types of people that exist. Parrot's, doves, owls, and eagles represent our unique society that struggles together as well as thrives together. I incorporate some of my own p...

College is Over. What's Next?

June 20, 2023 14:00 - 23 minutes - 16.4 MB

In this episode, I address the question that all college graduates have been asked recently, which is "What's Next?" It can definitely be an anxiety provoking question, and could be followed with an uncertain answer. Fortunately, for some people, they have a job lined up right after and can answer! But, there are others who might not have their next step sorted out, or might know exactly what they are doing but it's not the traditional path and are a bit worried about how their career choice...

The Triathlon: Building Physical and Mental Toughness with Max Brown

May 30, 2023 16:00 - 32 minutes - 22.1 MB

In this one I interview my friend Max about his experience training for a triathlon. He breaks down all of the aspects of preparation from mental to physical to emotional  prep. He brings up his initial experiences with meditation, having good nutrition, and the importance of having an accountability partner when trying to accomplish a goal. Through this talk you’ll be able to learn more about the different dimensions that bring success and how to balance your energy in those places. One ot...

The Five Second Rule: Acting Quickly and Boldly in Life

May 16, 2023 05:00 - 9 minutes - 6.6 MB

In this episode. I talk about a concept that I discovered through Mel Robbins. She mentions the five second rule as a helpful technique for when you experience anxiety in your life. Whenever an intrusive thought comes into your mind, count down from 5 and then find your way to your anchor thought. This thought can be anything that brings you ease; something funny, memorable, or a happy thought. An example I talked about was Happy Gilmore's "Happy Place" in the movie, when he was getting frus...

The Psychology Behind Acting with Peter Sullivan and Cole Lombardi

April 26, 2023 04:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MB

This episode is about all things acting! I interviewed my friend Peter and acquaintance Cole to understand the psychology behind acting and everything that goes into portraying a certain character. From stories of Chex mix urges gone wrong to understanding how to reveal a certain emotion through acting, one can begin to understand all of the intricacies behind the industry. Both Peter and Cole gave such valuable insight into their own experience and skills, which was a pleasure to hear about...

How Structure Opens Up the Door to Freedom

April 19, 2023 04:00 - 9 minutes - 6.21 MB

In this episode I talk about how more structure in life can lead to having more freedom. I use an example of waiting until the last minute to do your homework to hangout with friends and then worrying the entire time that you’re with your friends to finish that assignment.  The idea of anticipating instead of reacting is a topic brought up multiple times where someone takes the time out of their day to plan their schedule out so they can leave time for the things they enjoy. If you sometime...

How Self Reliance Builds Self Confidence

April 05, 2023 03:00 - 13 minutes - 9.49 MB

In this episode, I talk about learning how to become more self reliant and how this allows us to develop more confidence. After reading a valuable article from forbes, I began to learn more about why self reliance is so important. Some of the points it referenced were ones ability to think independently, know ones values, and to use our own references to help make decisions.  I added some of my own experiences in addition to the ones in the article. One of these is understanding our own val...

Being Helpful Without Giving Advice

March 28, 2023 20:00 - 11 minutes - 7.89 MB

In this episode I talk about being helpful without giving advice. This is something I still to this day am learning to do but it can sometimes be difficult. Our friends come to us looking for comfort or to vent, and we always feel like we need to offer answers. This allows us to feel like we are giving them something in return for what they expected, but sometimes they don’t necessarily need advice. Maybe they are looking to have an objective opinion, actual advice, or even a shoulder to c...

What are Defense Mechanisms?

March 22, 2023 00:00 - 12 minutes - 8.56 MB

In this episode I talk about how we use defense mechanisms in our lives. Didn’t really know what defense mechanisms were until I took one of my classes this semester and realized how much we sometimes use them. Basically, defense mechanisms are used as a way to protect our ego and to lessen anxiety that we might experience in life. Some of the defense mechanisms are rationalization, projection, denial, which are all done as a way to keep the negativity off of us. One of the ones I think we ...

Finding the Sweet Spot of Anxiety

March 08, 2023 04:00 - 7 minutes - 5.34 MB

We often have a negative bias towards anxiety. In this episode, I explain how we can view anxiety from a positive perspective. In my own life, I look at anxiety as having 3 tiers.  Tier 1: A place where we aren't really acting too much and would have too little anxiety. An example of this would be knowing a test is coming up but not paying attention to the material or the deadline.  Tier 2: This IS the sweet spot. This is where you have enough anxiety where you are alerted to act, but don'...

Being Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing

February 21, 2023 19:00 - 8 minutes - 6.06 MB

In this episode, I talk about the Wayne Dyer Quote, “Be open to everything and attached to nothing.” I think it is such a valuable mentality to have in our lives and embracing all new experiences that come our way. I talk about the movie, “Yes Man” with Jim Carey, which is a perfect example of this. He starts out having a very glass half empty personality, always blowing his friends off to sit home and sulk. But, after being approached by a man who called him out for his negativity, he atte...

Understanding the Different Influences on Our Personality

February 14, 2023 19:00 - 7 minutes - 5.02 MB

This episode breaks down how we develop our own unique personalities and what domains influence the different traits we develop. Topics of environment, upbringing, biology, and more help dive more deeply into this issue. Tune in for more!

Analysis Paralysis: Overanalyzing Everything and Hurting Your Own Feelings

February 01, 2023 04:00 - 6 minutes - 4.17 MB

In this episode I talk about overanalyzing situations and how it can lead to us hurting our own feelings. It can become easy to read too easily into other peoples actions and create a story around why they are acting a certain way. We begin reflecting back on every little detail that we said and start worrying whether we might have hurt their feelings. And this might not be everyone, maybe it’s just me. But after awhile, we find out that they were upset with something completely unrelated t...

Building the Starbucks Brand with Former President Howard Behar

January 24, 2023 22:00 - 29 minutes - 20.2 MB

In this episode, Howard Behar talks about how he helped build the Starbucks Empire with Howard Shultz and Orin Smith. Throughout this talk, he alludes to servant leadership as the key to success in this business venture. Recognizing relationships and people as the ultimate factor in creating a successful business, I learned so much about the human factor of life. Howard wrote 2500 letters every month to employees for birthdays and company anniversaries as a way to foster recognition and com...

With Structure Comes Freedom: Budgeting with Summer Lee

January 18, 2023 01:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MB

In this episode I talk with my friend Summer who is currently a marketing data analyst at Deloitte. She breaks down why she began to budget and how she organizes her budgeting in her own life. She talks about the greater amount of freedom she has had because of the structure in her spending habits. Through this talk, I was able to see how much taking the time out of your day to budget can allow you to say yes to opportunities. As the episode continues, Summer talks more about how she has l...

The Obsession with Getting Ahead in Life And It's Negative Impacts

January 11, 2023 01:00 - 14 minutes - 9.83 MB

With graduation looming, I talk about a feeling that a lot of people have probably experienced at one point in time. You may not have found a job yet or might not even know what to do, and it can be scary. And what we do in those situations is begin measuring ourselves against others, “They figured out in October, they are better than me.” “Why don’t I have as many interviews as this person? All of these thoughts trigger negativity and we begin attributing it to our identity. And this does...

Choosing to Delay Gratification to Build Self Confidence

January 03, 2023 18:00 - 12 minutes - 8.29 MB

In this episode, I talk about using delayed gratification as a means to build self confidence. Many times, it's easy to watch that extra episode of The Office, or eat that extra slice of pizza, or scroll on Instagram for another hour. We choose to do this instead of the more beneficial and long lasting solution for happiness. And from my own struggles with this, I have realized that it's because we have a better idea of what that pleasure feels like with things in the present moment.  We ar...

The Underlying Message of Excuses

December 28, 2022 00:00 - 5 minutes - 4.08 MB

In this episode, I talk about why we use excuses in so many areas of life. Sometimes we attribute being busy as a legitimate excuse. But when doing this, we need to contemplate whether that thing we are trying to avoid is that important to us. And if it is, then why are we getting consumed with less important things in our life? Those things that we truly value in life should supersede any other tasks on our daily agenda.  As the episode continues, I talk about how our excuses can also give...

Learning Not to Keep Score in Your Friendships

December 21, 2022 04:00 - 4 minutes - 3.4 MB

In this episode I talk about our mindsets with our friendships at times. Sometimes we feel as though we are reaching out to some of our friends much more than they are to us. And we can get in our head about it and think we are bothering them when we are doing that. But, after a conversation with my dad, he taught me a very valuable lesson about never keeping score in friendships. When we feel discouraged and hesitant about reaching out to people that we have become really close with over t...

Trauma Bonding: Feeling Trapped in Relationships with Others

November 29, 2022 08:00 - 12 minutes - 8.68 MB

In this episode, I talk about the presence of trauma bonding in our relationships. This type of bonding involves the emotional attachment that we feel to a relationship despite the trauma that we have experienced from it. And this can be with friends, family, romantic partners, etc. We’ve all seen people and maybe even ourselves keep going back to people that aren’t benefiting us in any way, shape, or form. But we keep doing it. And you might be confused as to why people keep going back to ...

Handling the Uncertainty of the Future

November 16, 2022 03:00 - 5 minutes - 3.63 MB

In this episode I discuss why the future is such a consistent worry in society. Much of the time we spend worrying about the past and the future, which are uncontrollable as we are living in the present moment. We don't take the time out of our day to recognize and appreciate the here and now and use our present to create a desirable future.  Some of the things for me that make me worried about the future is excessive watching of the news. There is so much uncertainty in the news and this s...

The Power of Self Affirmations

November 09, 2022 04:00 - 5 minutes - 3.68 MB

In this episode, I talk about giving yourself credit through self affirmations. A lot of times, we prioritize the deadlines and assignments we have and put the self help things off to the side. But, these little things that we can do every day can pay huge dividends for our mental health down the road. Something as simple as putting post it notes with great qualities of yourself on the mirror to look at in the morning is one example.  Especially using different color post it notes to emphas...

Tips and Tricks to Pursuing Mentors

October 26, 2022 04:00 - 10 minutes - 7.28 MB

In this episode, I discuss the 5 different types of mentors that I learned about in my management class. These include: traditional, inspirational, step-ahead, peer, and family member mentor. Traditional recognizes one person who has more experience than another and is guiding them in their process of developing more skills in a specific area.  Inspirational is someone who you might not see every single day but has such a profound impact on you and your life. This might be someone who wrote...

Factors That Affect Our Perceptions of Reality

October 12, 2022 03:00 - 8 minutes - 5.67 MB

In this episode, I talk about how perceptions influence our everyday life. It is amazing how two people can experience the same event and have two completely different emotional responses to that event! This is where perception comes into play. Through internal factors such as emotions, memories, and values as well as external factors involving media, societal norms, and culture, we see our perceptions influencing the lense at which we view life.  Throughout the episode, I also discuss the ...

How Our Values Change Over Time

October 04, 2022 20:00 - 4 minutes - 3.34 MB

In this episode, I discuss the evolution of our values in the different stages of our life. We have all heard the cliche phrase, "Enjoy being young, because as soon as you know it you'll be old like me!" And whenever I used to hear this saying, I would become discouraged because I assumed that we would just become victims of our circumstances of being old.  But, now I have realized that it's more about how our values will evolve as we become older. When we are young we are so adventurous, t...

Do's and Don'ts to a Productive Conversation

September 21, 2022 03:00 - 7 minutes - 5.16 MB

In this episode, I bring up some tips and tricks about what I learned in my managing yourself class at LMU. When trying to have a meaningful and productive conversation, ensuring that we are focusing our attention on the present moment is vital. Multitasking is one way where we become knocked out of the present moment and keeps us from getting close to others.  A couple other points brought up are not using our own experiences to try and make them feel more at ease. Sometimes, this is a suc...

The Value of Quiet Leadership

September 17, 2022 03:00 - 4 minutes - 3.22 MB

 In this episode I talk about quiet leadership. A lot of times, we associate the word “leader” with someone who is outspoken and the loudest voice in the room. But, what many people don’t realize is how many leaders there are that are quiet. They guide others through the actions more so than their words. Or they might not speak often, but when they do, it always has meaning attached to it. If you are someone who might not think of yourself as a leader because of that stereotype, this is de...

Why is Yawning Contagious?

September 06, 2022 19:00 - 4 minutes - 2.91 MB

In this episode, I talk about something we all do; yawn! According to pbs.org, adults yawn on average 20 times a day! Throughout this talk, I not only discuss why we yawn and why it is contagious. I also mention the idea of empathy in yawning and how it is related to mirroring for other people in our life.  For romantic interests or close friendships, often times we mirror what the other person is doing to establish rapport. And although yawning occurs on a more subconscious level, I can rel...

How Our Decisions Are Subconsciously Influenced

August 31, 2022 04:00 - 7 minutes - 5.22 MB

In this episode, I summarize Dan Ariely's Ted Talk about how our decisions are subconsciously influenced. He uses the table and rubik's cube example to paint the picture of how visually our mind plays tricks on us. Since visual representation is easier to pick up on than cognitive, he emphasizes that more mistakes are bound to be made when dealing with cognitive influences.  Some of the examples he used were the differing percentages of donors across countries and how the phrasing of the DM...

A New School Year: Starting Off On The Right Foot

August 24, 2022 02:00 - 6 minutes - 4.39 MB

In this episode I discuss ways to start off the new school year on the right foot. Much of the advice came from Ed Mylett and his new book, “The Power of One More.” In this one, he talks about the idea of how many people approach life: as a marathon. They only check in with themselves once or twice a year around New Years to see how they’ve done with their goals and what they want to accomplish the next year. But he mentions how more success comes from constantly having checkpoints to monit...

The Best Medicine: Exploring the Importance of Sleep

August 17, 2022 02:00 - 8 minutes - 5.56 MB

In this episode I talk about the importance of sleep and the different stages. We learn about how sleep slows down heart rate, breathing rate, lowers body temperature, etc. As we enter the fourth stage of REM sleep, our eye movement speeds up and heart rate increases. As the episode continues, I discuss why sleep is so important and different steps that we can take to make our sleeping our environment better for us. Tune in to learn more!  Sources:  sleepfoundation.org

Understanding Life as a Web of Connections

August 09, 2022 23:00 - 6 minutes - 4.25 MB

In this episode, I discuss the idea of connecting all of our experiences in our life back to our past circumstances. By doing this, we are able to have a better appreciation for the good and bad moments because a silver lining reveals itself later on. I use the example of this summer as well as a struggle from years back with a close person to me to help illustrate the purpose of this episode. Not only can we use this understanding of everything being connected as a hindsight 20/20 idea, bu...

Understanding Life as a Web of Connections

August 09, 2022 23:00 - 6 minutes - 4.25 MB

In this episode, I discuss the idea of connecting all of our experiences in our life back to our past circumstances. By doing this, we are able to have a better appreciation for the good and bad moments because a silver lining reveals itself later on. I use the example of this summer as well as a struggle from years back with a close person to me to help illustrate the purpose of this episode. Not only can we use this understanding of everything being connected as a hindsight 20/20 idea, bu...

Diving Into Season Three

August 03, 2022 02:00 - 9 minutes - 6.38 MB

In this episode, I recap the interviews I had with the guests this season and what to take away from their talks. In addition, we look at season 3 and what to look forward to for this next year!

The Psychology Behind Why We Hurt Others

July 27, 2022 01:00 - 7 minutes - 5 MB

In this episode, I discuss what causes frustration that leads to aggression in our lives. The episode starts with understanding Tony Robbins 6 human needs and how having those differing needs can be a root of frustration if we can't learn to accept each others differences. As the talk continues, I discuss topics from the book by Elliot Aronson called "Social Psychology."  I explain the social impact of aggression on others through Bandura's Bobo doll experiment, and the presence of alcohol a...

The Psychology Behind Why We Hurt Others

July 27, 2022 01:00 - 7 minutes - 5 MB

In this episode, I discuss what causes frustration that leads to aggression in our lives. The episode starts with understanding Tony Robbins 6 human needs and how having those differing needs can be a root of frustration if we can't learn to accept each others differences. As the talk continues, I discuss topics from the book by Elliot Aronson called "Social Psychology."  I explain the social impact of aggression on others through Bandura's Bobo doll experiment, and the presence of alcohol a...

The Generational Gap that Exists Between Parents and Kids

July 20, 2022 04:00 - 6 minutes - 4.71 MB

In this episode, I discuss the generational gap present between parents and kids. Throughout this, you will hear real life examples of how parents sometimes use their experiences from when they were younger to help give advice to their kids now. In these scenarios, we can see how it can cause disconnect but also can provide useful advice towards helping future generations. Some of the examples include drinking culture, technology, dating, and more. If you are interested in learning more abou...

The Generational Gap that Exists Between Parents and Kids

July 20, 2022 04:00 - 6 minutes - 4.71 MB

In this episode, I discuss the generational gap present between parents and kids. Throughout this, you will hear real life examples of how parents sometimes use their experiences from when they were younger to help give advice to their kids now. In these scenarios, we can see how it can cause disconnect but also can provide useful advice towards helping future generations. Some of the examples include drinking culture, technology, dating, and more. If you are interested in learning more abou...

Creating a Captivating Future with Life Coach Hayden Lee

July 13, 2022 01:00 - 39 minutes - 27.4 MB

In this episode I interview executive life and leadership coach Hayden Lee. We discuss how he became passionate about life coaching while starting out with helping high schoolers with their schoolwork. As the interview progressed, Hayden breaks down the differences between being a life coach, therapist, consultant, and mentor. By doing this, we are able to understand how these different helping professions play out in a persons life. Later on, I ask him about the three levels of health whi...

The Relationship Between our Dreams and Reality

July 06, 2022 01:00 - 6 minutes - 4.46 MB

In this episode, I talk about how our dreams that we have when sleeping are related to our experiences when we are awake. Sometimes, it's hard to believe that the crazy, far fetched events while we sleep can have importance in our life. But, they have a great impact on the way we handle different events and also reflect the type of emotions we have at a certain moment. After doing some research from a couple articles, it gave more scientific context to why this happens. A study conducted by ...

Prosocial Behavior: Why We Act for Others

June 28, 2022 20:00 - 5 minutes - 4.07 MB

In this episode, I discuss prosocial behavior and what influences us to act for other people. Social exchange  and empathy altruism theory are a couple of many factors that come into play with helping others. In this one, I use the example of the Zegota found in the book "Social Psychology by Elliot Aronson to help illustrate the reasons behind helping. Tune in to learn more about why we help others!

Attachment Theory's Impact on Our Relationships

June 22, 2022 04:00 - 7 minutes - 5 MB

In this episode, I talk about the different attachment styles and how they present themselves in infants as well as adults. Through doing this we are able to see the connections between the two stages of life, but also the capability for people to evolve and for their attachment styles to change. Later on, I discuss some research done by Mary Ainsworth that puts these attachment styles into the context of relationships and how different styles would interact with each other. Throughout this...

Ask Me Anything: Rapid Fire Reflection

June 14, 2022 22:00 - 19 minutes - 13.5 MB

This episode is a different format! In this one, I take questions that listeners sent in to help fuel the different topics of this episode. Questions ranging from a variety of different topics regarding mental health, self development, and life come up. This episode is unique because it covers such a range of topics, so there is something for everybody. If you didn't submit a question, don't you worry, more episodes like these will be coming soon. Tune in to hear more! @19yearoldshrinkpodca...

Overcoming the Bystander Effect

June 08, 2022 01:00 - 4 minutes - 3.34 MB

In this episode I talk about how the Bystander effect is present in our lives and how we might not even realize it. Through the study by Latane and Darley as well as the case of the murder of Kitty Genovese, we can understand the unfortunate reality of the bystander effect. Through Latanes discussion of the five steps towards helping in an emergency and increasing the likelihood of bystanders intervening, we can bring this further into our own lives. Tune in for more info! @19yearoldshrinkp...

Overcoming the Bystander Effect

June 08, 2022 01:00 - 4 minutes - 3.34 MB

In this episode I talk about how the Bystander effect is present in our lives and how we might not even realize it. Through the study by Latane and Darley as well as the case of the murder of Kitty Genovese, we can understand the unfortunate reality of the bystander effect. Through Latanes discussion of the five steps towards helping in an emergency and increasing the likelihood of bystanders intervening, we can bring this further into our own lives. Tune in for more info! @19yearoldshrinkp...

Learning to Appreciate Your Youth

June 01, 2022 01:00 - 6 minutes - 4.48 MB

In this episode, I talk about lessons that I have learned from mentors about how to control having big aspirations for the future while allowing myself to still be a kid and enjoy time with friends. These talks provide context into the idea of anticipating regret and learning to envision how your future self would respond to the decisions you have to make in this present moment. We are faced with these feelings constantly throughout our life, and this episode will allow you to gain more clar...

Taking Away the Lessons From Everything Everywhere All At Once with Andrea Younes

May 25, 2022 03:00 - 24 minutes - 17.1 MB

In this episode, I talk with my friend Andrea about the newly released movie, "Everything Everywhere All At Once." After watching it for the first time, I definitely felt confused considering the amount of tiny details that you needed to pay attention to. But, after watching a second time, we both agreed that the true lessons of the movie came out. From conversation about intergenerational trauma displayed through the dynamic between Evelyn and Joy, we can understand this in the context of o...

Music's Impact on Emotions

May 18, 2022 05:00 - 8 minutes - 5.99 MB

In this episode I talk about the impact of music on our emotions. After doing some research, I learned that our Default mode network is activated much more when we listen to music. And when listening to music we enjoy, there is more frontal activity in the brain. This activity is linked to greater analytical and reflective thoughts in our life. If you have ever really enjoyed a song, it might have brought out a deep emotional influence for you that made you reflect. This is where that activ...

Separation Season:Starting Summer Off On a Good Note

May 11, 2022 05:00 - 6 minutes - 4.36 MB

In this episode I talk about the concept by Ed Mylett, “Separation Season.” These are times where people normally are relaxing and taking it easy, which are opportunities for others to get ahead and gain momentum. Throughout this episode, I talk about different ways that I have learned to get ahead in the summer and how to build momentum! @19yearoldshrinkpodcast @wjg23

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