Episode 263: How To Overcome The Biggest Marriage Mistakes with Rebecca Greene

The Whinypaluza Podcast

English - July 28, 2023 04:00 - 38 minutes - ★★★★★ - 121 ratings
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Previous Episode: Episode 262: So Many Milestones

Next Episode: Episode 264: I See You

Enjoy this special presentation from the first ever Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage & Parenting Summit!
Rebecca dives deeper into the biggest marriage mistakes, and how you can overcome them.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Mistake: Having contempt for your partner. They deserve respect. Instead of personal attacks, express your needs and what you would like instead.

Mistake: Criticizing your partner. Learn to complain without blame. Remove “always” and “never” from your vocabulary. Express the need, don’t attack character. On the other end, do not go on the defense.

Mistake: Stonewalling- the 4th Horseman of Divorce. Shutting down and not communicating when you run into issues with your partner. Again, communicate your needs, even if that means needing a break before discussing an issue. Make time to have a conversation.

Mistake: Expecting your partner to read your mind. Instead of feeling disappointment and resentment when you partner does not act in the way you expected, make your needs and wants known.

Mistake: Not prioritizing your marriage. When you put everything in life before your marriage, it will be neglected and suffer. Make your relationship a priority, or it will wither.

Mistake: Loving your partner the way YOU want to be loved. Revisit the 5 Love Language. Learn what your partner wants to feel loved.

Mistake: Repeating negative marital patterns. Pay attention to your arguments. Is there a recurring theme? De-brief after a fight when tension has died down. How could you have done it better?

Mistake: Thinking that little things don’t matter. Little things build up and make a big impact in the end. A smile, a touch, a small moment together will build up your marriage over time.

Mistake: Always needing to be right. Does being right and winning the battle all the time really matter? How do you create a win for BOTH of you.

Mistake: Talking and not listening. Give your focus and attention to what your spouse is saying and LISTEN, instead of thinking about what you are going to say while they are talking. Don’t make assumptions before you know the whole story.

Mistake: Not protecting your marriage. Do not let things into your marriage- whether it is a person or a thing- that will hurt your marriage.

Mistake: Being secretive in your actions. Don’t do or say anything that you would NOT say in front of your partner.

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Enjoy this special presentation from the first ever Whinypaluza Ultimate Marriage & Parenting Summit!

Rebecca dives deeper into the biggest marriage mistakes, and how you can overcome them.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Mistake: Having contempt for your partner. They deserve respect. Instead of personal attacks, express your needs and what you would like instead.
Mistake: Criticizing your partner. Learn to complain without blame. Remove “always” and “never” from your vocabulary. Express the need, don’t attack character. On the other end, do not go on the defense.
Mistake: Stonewalling- the 4th Horseman of Divorce. Shutting down and not communicating when you run into issues with your partner. Again, communicate your needs, even if that means needing a break before discussing an issue. Make time to have a conversation.
Mistake: Expecting your partner to read your mind. Instead of feeling disappointment and resentment when you partner does not act in the way you expected, make your needs and wants known.
Mistake: Not prioritizing your marriage. When you put everything in life before your marriage, it will be neglected and suffer. Make your relationship a priority, or it will wither.
Mistake: Loving your partner the way YOU want to be loved. Revisit the 5 Love Language. Learn what your partner wants to feel loved.
Mistake: Repeating negative marital patterns. Pay attention to your arguments. Is there a recurring theme? De-brief after a fight when tension has died down. How could you have done it better?
Mistake: Thinking that little things don’t matter. Little things build up and make a big impact in the end. A smile, a touch, a small moment together will build up your marriage over time.
Mistake: Always needing to be right. Does being right and winning the battle all the time really matter? How do you create a win for BOTH of you.
Mistake: Talking and not listening. Give your focus and attention to what your spouse is saying and LISTEN, instead of thinking about what you are going to say while they are talking. Don’t make assumptions before you know the whole story.
Mistake: Not protecting your marriage. Do not let things into your marriage- whether it is a person or a thing- that will hurt your marriage.
Mistake: Being secretive in your actions. Don’t do or say anything that you would NOT say in front of your partner.